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I love you Bob’s Burgers I love you The Great North I love you animated comedy that is funny without ever being cruel

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Listen to me. That dreamy scene in Men where Harper is befuddled by all those dandelion puffs and the Green Man is reaching his hand into the mail slot and she DECIDES to reach out and take his hand in hers, offering him a chance to be equals only for him to grab her arm in some show of dominance or control and her waiting until he shows that violence to really stab him through? Amazing. God so fucking beautiful and important to me.

Her showing a willingness to embrace him and him FUCKING IT UP and then being mad that she retaliated??? Fuck! The way that scene AND his wounds paralleled James’s behavior/death wounds? God dammit I love this movie so much.

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If I see one more fucking tiktok about how Men was a “surface level, reductive film” I’m gonna flip my fucking lid.

Media literacy is in HELL and y’all are acting fucking silly. Every negative “critique” I’ve seen is giving fake-woke, white liberal bullshit. “It doesn’t even pass the Bechdel test” 🙄 are y’all kidding me? I keep seeing people say the movie is trying to say that men are inherently evil. I wholeheartedly disagree. I would argue that this movie is an exploration of how toxic masculinity begets more toxic masculinity, and how damaging it is for men to seek validation and hinge their worth so heavily on the love and attention they receive from women. It shows how this behavior is damaging to everyone, not just women and non-men, but to men themselves, too. It’s a film with heavy themes of trauma and healing throughout. However, for as horrific and freaky as this movie is, to me it’s a hopeful one. To see Harper this entire film reclaiming her autonomy despite the most horrific shit happening to her is empowering to me. It’s almost laughable to me the fact that we’ve been given this film that is about a woman reclaiming and reestablishing her autonomy and all anyone can seem to do is talk about the men in this flick. I’m really about to go in so, spoilers ahead for the A24 movie Men.

Harper is such a strong lead character. Harper says “No” repeatedly throughout the film and is continually ignored but she NEVER relents. Harper says she wants a divorce and she means that shit. He tries to manipulate her into staying, she shuts that shit down. Her husband gets violent with her, she immediately makes him leave and his dumb, unable to take “no” as an answer ass, literally died as a result of trying violate Harper’s boundaries further. Harper does everything right in this flick and y’all still dont like it?

Harper said she was going to have this vacation for herself and she DID it! The scenes of her simply existing among nature are so beautiful and joyful and TRUE to what it feels like to finally escape a shit relationship. This movie is so beautiful and unsettling all at the same time. We get these gorgeous shots of Harper in nature truly reconnecting and just feeling and enjoying her surroundings. This movie so expertly balances these moments of peaceful serenity with unsettling tension. Watching this film, you as the audience are experiencing these emotional ups and downs along with Harper. There is a scene where she gets caught in a rain shower while out on a walk and she finds shelter under an ancient tree. We see shots of the wind blowing her hair about and rustling the leaves above her. Harper is smiling, I mean absolutely cheesing it, laughter bubbling up out of her as she’s watching the leaves shimmy and shake against the blue-gray sky, and all the while there’s this beautiful musical score building underneath in such a way that it appears as though the leaves and nature itself are making music for her. It’s one of the first truly light and joyful moments of the film. Throughout the entire scene there is an almost tangible feeling of a weight lifted off of Harper’s and the audience’s collective shoulders. We’re given a moment of relief from the tension that had been winding so tightly since the moment she arrived at Cotson that carries on into the next scene.

When Harper gets to a point where she just wants to give up and come home because of all the horrible shit that had happened her whole trip, her friend puts her foot down and really shows up for Harper. Her friend is the only person this entire film that we see honor Harper’s wishes, full stop. She does not come to the house in Cotson until AFTER Harper says “yes,” once again reinforcing Harper’s autonomy. Yes, Harper wanted to come home but as her friend said to her, “this is the only thing you’ve wanted for yourself.” I think that moment of defiance, of righteous anger we see from her friend in that scene at all the shit Harper had experienced is so beautiful. If your best friends don’t support you in the things you want to do and encourage you when you feel like giving up, then are they really your best friends?

The ending sequences are so fucking wild and amazing to me. Once Harper agrees to stay and wait for her friend to show up, the escalation of the horror and the monsters? Whew it’s intense. But throughout, Harper maintains her autonomy. She stays a badass. She thinks someone’s broken in? She grabs a weapon. Geoff shows up and wants to have a look around? She urges him not to leave but is ignored because of his chivalrous posturing, which he ties directly to a shitty thing his father used to say to him. She accidentally hits him with her car as a result. That shitty fucking piece of shit kid shows up and is taunting her and harassing her? She nearly stabs the little fucker again. The sexually repressed vicar? She means no so intensely that SHE RUNS THAT BITCH THROUGH! I think it is so interesting that in all of these instances that Harper responds to violence with violence, it never seems to actually stick. But when she finally stops fighting back physically, when she sits down and asks “what do you want from me?” And his reply is just “your love.”

Harper is having none of these motherfuckers bullshit and I LOVE that for her. So for her final scene to be sitting in the bright courtyard and looking up to see that her friend is there and realizing that she is safe and she isn’t alone is so delightful.

I just think this movie is so good and so beautiful and so powerful.

I have a lot of other thoughts about the folk horror aspect of this movie that I think a lot of people are missing. I will not share them here right now because I just wanted to gush a bit about Harper and how amazing she is.

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Thinking about smooching.

Thinking about the push and pull of lips. The lazy mapping of another’s mouth. Tongues grazing, dancing, caressing one another between smooches where you’re sucking on, nibbling on the lower lip of the other and the way they moan into your mouth from the stimulation.

Thinking about the shaky moan they exhale as you smooth the nibbled sore spot with a gentle brush of your tongue. Pulling their lower lip in gently after. The sweet soft pecks to the sensitive spot in apology for getting a little too rough.

Thinking about the way their breath hitches and is expelled into your mouth as a warm groan mid-tongue tangle because it feels so good and you’re grinding on them for a bit of friction but they still crave more.

Thinking about hands in hair, gripped at the base of the skull to pull you in deeper, keep you locked to their mouth in that intoxicating push and pull. They’re tugging on the locks in an attempt to keep grounded but then you moan into their mouth and expose your throat at a particularly rough tug and they’re drawn down to the exposed skin of your neck.

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“Well, cool story Tina but I think now, if you find treasure you should just return it to the country it came from.”

THAT’S MY FAVE LIL BITCH I LOVE YOU LOUISE BELCHER

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i’m sorry… you’re telling me there’s no cyril figgis/reader fics? tumblr sexyman contender #603 and there’s NOTHING?!

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i fucking knew beef tobin would be cool w polyamory I’m on cloud mf nine rn

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y’all my bf and i went to see Men today and wow holy shit.

i loved it. The tension of it was perfect. The anticipation, the discomfort, such a great horror flick with a really eerie atmosphere. But even more than that, the sound design and the imagery of the movie was amazing to me omg. There were these moments of absolute beauty and peace interspersed with these really unsettling sequences.

The ending sequence was fucking wild and terrifying and so so weird but I loved it. I want to watch it again already because there’s a lot to think about there and wow it just really blew me away.