#voluntary celibacy

[fuckablewizard]

How do I lure incels into my sex dungeon so that I can teach them how to fuck and how to be a man?

If you're reading this and are an incel you are a now volcel, like a monk. Which is way cooler actually, why didn't you just do that?

[angrylesbianatwork]

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To all the other wonderful gold star lesbians here: you are the ones keeping this crumbling society from falling apart. I for one, appreciate all of you immensely and your unique takes to the non-gold star "lesbians", bisexuals and heterosexuals.

I came here so angry and unreconcilable over the fact that no one seemed to understand my experience in the bihet world and would always seem to find excuses for others, rather than believing me. Forgiveness is not a fix-all. That is not something that I ever subscribed to.

You (I don't won't to @ anyone because I don't want others to target any of you) showed me that I was not the only one who was wronged by bisexuals in such a personal, specific way and the continuous dragging down of an entire movement meant to liberate women by heterosexual/het partnered women; that I am right to feel what I feel towards them and that I am not alone.

There was was an intrinsic curiosity to go deeper and analyse their patterns even closer, so I see that it is not a one time thing, that this has happened generation after generations and that they live in a loop. Ground-hog day style.

I don't want to be stuck with them.

I have more reasons than ever to avoid them, I've cleaned up my slate and started fresh. It helped me a lot to write here, so I can let out all the frustration.

I was finally heard, I can move on, I can move forward. Thank you for listening.

........................................................................

(...Don't worry, I'll still lurk around from time to time. I have a limit of being around heterosexuals and bisexuals at work.

Your voices and opinions are much more important than their existance)

[sidebaxolotl]

Hi! What is your opinion on vocations for side b people? (I mean the specifics of celibacy - i.e. priesthood, spiritual motherhood, singleness without loneliness) I've been asked this question by both catholic friends and lgbt+ friends and I don't feel I have ever been able to give a good answer (I'm straight, so the "you have no clue how this feels like" (which is true) attitude does not help)

You'll have to be a bit more specific...

If you mean like do i think those things can be fulfilling? Yes!! I love being single sm. It can be hard, esp at first to decide to be a lifelong celibate but its honestly really awesome. I'm glad I didnt force myself to marry a man OR give up God and marry a woman.

I can't be a pastor or a priest but I've enjoyed discipling other women and being sort of a spiritual big sis! Thats kinda what I miss the most about my old church and I'd love to help out with that again in the future😩

It's definitely possible to lead a happy and fulfilled life without an s/o!

These things do require community and support so the best thing u and other straight/married ppl can do is be a good friend/found family to ur lgbt frens!!

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Pandemicel Flag

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Pandemicel: experiencing celibacy because of a pandemic. It could be either involuntarily or voluntarily.

Combining the pan flag colors with volcel flag, because I believe this is more like voluntary in practice, but it has overlap with incel in theory. - AP

[celflags]

Pickycel Flag

Pickycel: when you’re voluntarily celibate (volcel) because you’re too picky.

[fluffyrainbowbutterfly]

you're not aro/ace you're just afraid of commitment

idk I just really like the emotional freedom of being single and sexual tension makes me uncomfortable for personal reasons and that is all never said that having aro/ace sentiment means I’m part of the community or whatever, I just kinda like being alone right now and don’t have the capacity to have a romantic relationship and that should be okay with you whether or not you represent the aro/ace community because it’s really none of your business, thank you.

[arbolapis]

queer celibacy

i can’t find the resources i want regarding queerness and celibacy so i’m going to document my experience & thoughts and make the resource myself

behind a cut for sexual/personal content

1. in march of this year, two months ago, i decided to take a period of celibacy. i decided that i would refrain from seeking out sexual encounters with other people until july (a total of about four months)

2. i was tired of being treated badly on grindr and tired of having to do a big trans 101 talk with every rando who sent me a dick pic. i removed grindr from my phone. it had become an exercise in pretending that i would ever get laid; it was a masturbatory aid and it was fun to swap pictures. it was exceedingly rare for someone to be interested in actually fucking me, which got me down after a while

3. it quickly became apparent that this celibate period would also entail not using/looking at any sexually explicit material. i wasn’t planning on this particularly but what can you do

4. the bounds of this celibacy: i will not have sex. i will not engage in sex-seeking interactions with other people (grindr, tinder, etc.). i will not look at or use pornography. i have read some fics that have explicit sex scenes but i mostly skipped them, which is what i usually do anyway

5. i guess “abstinence” is a more technically correct term for what i’m doing. i don’t care

6. as a queer trans man it also seems important to reconnect with the body that i actually have. this winter i found myself looking at a lot of straight porn because i wanted to see cocks and pussies interacting and the ftm porn selection is lacking to say the least

7. i’m not represented in porn; i can’t find representations of the kind of sex i want to have. what kind of sex do i want to have? i don’t know. i’ve also been thinking about asexuality. danni talks about “having sex with myself” and this is a concept that has been useful to me. for these months i will have sex only with myself, and i won’t pretend that i’m likely to have sex with anyone else

8. what kind of sex do i want to have?

[evilnicegirl]