#winking-widow

[justpickupthatpen]

winking-widow replied to your photo “i was looking at my art.  i know i gotten better. but i think it’s...”

I dont use photoshop so I'm not as familiar with the layer effects it has. But one thing that is fun to do with line work that helps it pop more is to use clipping layers to color over the line layer without having to redraw the lines, and also turning the line layer onto multiply. Try experimenting with layer effects on your lines, its fun

let’s what my other friend @fluffymuffkinz​ said she edit the drawing to this.

i guess i work on different lines works

oh photoshop pretty much as anything sai as but more.

that’s why i don’t think peolpe use much it but i do like using better than sai. in the few week i been using it

[scriptlgbt]

I recently made my protag's (a straight/cis man) love interest a trans woman. It adds some new layers to their bonding and puts a trans character in a prominent role. But I’m a little worried people will think she’s a stereotype because she isn’t super feminine, even when I wrote her as a cis woman. She’s a wrestler, and she is not conventionally pretty. I have cis girls who are similar; two of her wrestling friends are lesbians. Am I being paranoid, or should I make her more feminine?

I bounced this one off my partner (who is transmisogyny affected).

Paraphrased (and proofread by her):

“A woman after my own heart! Yeah this is fine, but it’s all in the delicacy you should handle it with. I’d say the worst thing you can do is shy away from it. Have her stand up for herself if anyone says sh-t. There are trans women like this in real life. Those of us who do fit some of the more harmless stereotypes about us, often find power in embracing them. This is not universal of course. If your character is more on the insecure side though, that requires a lot more investment from someone non-affected to represent in a way that does right.”

- mod nat’s partner 

[snazzystarlight]

Are there any songs you love but don’t feel like you can paint yet? Like, as an example, I would really love to draw the way I see Pictures at an Exhibition, but it’s 33 minutes long and like 12 different sections. It’s not something I can do just yet. That’s a pretty extreme example haha, but are there any songs like that for you? Where it’s too long or super complex, so you have to put more effort into preparing to paint it?

I don’t really have anything quite like that, but I do have a lot of songs that I want to paint for myself but really just don’t have the time to do, you know?

[mormonmonastery]

gingergonnaginge replied to your post “there are several things about mormon dating that are awful, but one I…”

I don’t know how helpful this is, but I use “going out for ice cream” for this. You know, it’s not a meal or anything serious

I mean this is the best most closest approach and it also allows you to have ice cream which is always good; it’s what I would use if I went on dates for sure. but it doesn’t satisfy my central gripe here, which is that there is no widely-recognized shorthand for “let’s do something that’s low-pressure for both of us and where I don’t expect you to go out of your way to try and impress me because obviously I already like you, so let’s just chat.” it’s a cultural lacuna brought on in the weirdest way and I never realized until just now that we haven’t ever truly filled it?  

honestmormonblog replied to your post “there are several things about mormon dating that are awful, but one I…”

Ooooh I second ginger’s comment Also I hear “go and NCMO” is fun BYU slang that everyone loves

winking-widow replied to your post “there are several things about mormon dating that are awful, but one I…”

Not that I get asked out much either way, but I just make myself very vocal about my personal dating policy to do only casual dating until I feel like I could go steady. I’m lucky that I’ve managed to meet dudes who also prefer casual dating.

I guess I didn’t touch on it in this text post but I actually love commitment and am not myself particularly fond of the concept of casual dating? I don’t want to attach lips with another human being and have it mean nothing much and likewise don’t get all the hullabaloo about hanging out with a person for a good little while and then just finding an entirely different person to do that with some other night (and, as a straight dude and in utah, likely paying for all these different dates out of my pocket, which I can’t say exactly thrills me). I just want to be able to explore the romantic kind of emotional connection without worrying about being misconstrued as inhabiting either extreme of “dating around” or “ready to get married after three weeks.” the mormon dating scene, from the limited and strictly secondary contact I’ve allowed myself to have with it for my own sake, is like every math class I’ve ever sat in: it moves excruciatingly slow during the obvious stuff, then accelerates and zips along with reckless speed the second things get more than a little complicated. I want something a lot more even-keeled and there’s no great way to express that while avoiding the sort of self-psycho-analysis I just subjected you all to (which, idk, I’d prefer to avoid on a first date? again, a personal preference.)         

[real-did]

I need to clarify something for my story; how aware is a system of alters? I know the host will be pretty unaware of their alters at first, but how aware are alters, usually? Also how might a severe concussion affect someone with DID? Originally, I was going to give the character speech and motor issues after the concussion, but now I've given him DID and I'm not sure how it would affect his alters

it really depends on the alter. typically most/all of them are more aware than the host but that’s not always the case. it’s not easy to explain... as far as I know, alters are usually pretty aware. Trauma alters aren’t always, and can feel stuck in the past. (I might update this later with more perspective but rn this is all I’ve got, sorry)

I’ve had concussions before and they typically make me more dissociated for a while afterwards. I’ll lose time more frequently, but rather than another alter fronting, I might go to a dissociative “blank” state. Zoning out and memory issues get more frequent. I’m not sure speech and motor issues would be common unless your character had a really bad concussion- memory issues, zoning out, concentration issues are all much more common. You have to figure, the brain is a very adaptable organ but concussions are brain bruising and brain damage. Speech and motor skills aren’t necessarily the first to be affected- balance, yeah. Planning/forethought, yeah. What part of the brain gets hit? What are some common concussion symptoms? How does it affect the character right away, and how does it continue affecting them for years to come? (brains do heal, but it’s complex). One concussion will only do so much- repeated concussions? 

People with DID are affected just like everyone else. For me at least, minor concussions increase disorientation pretty substantially for a couple days/weeks, and then everything goes back to normal. Major concussions will do more damage and I would suggest you just apply your research to someone with DID, bearing in mind that we tend to dissociate away from everything. Headaches, dizziness/balance issues, concentration issues, irritability/some emotion regulation issues, not feeling like oneself, etc- these are more likely. If it’s a really bad concussion, maybe looking more into information about brain damage can help you figure out specifically what kind of injury would have the effects you want to write. 

Good luck, let me know if you have more questions!

[sylphee]

YES!!!!!!! I WAS IMMEDIATELY LIKE "IS THIS ZELDA?????? IT'S ZELDA!!!!!!!!" AND THEN "IT'S BOTW DLC????? NO!!!!!!!! A WHOLE DANG SEQUEL!!!!!!!!!" I AM STILL AAAAAAAAAAAAA

[scriptlgbt]

I need a list of good familial gender neutral terms. Ones that don't sound ridiculously uptight like "my parent" or "his younger sibling" or "your father's older sibling" what are the more causal gender neutral family terms?

Also @ the anon who asked a similar question.                                                                                                                                                                        Anonymous said:“Hello! I have a nonbinary character (they/them) who has a child, a niece, and siblings. I’ve been wondering if there are any endearing names to refer to them? Like how a child would greet them as mommy/daddy, auntie/uncle, brother/sister. Thank You!”

So, here is a good link to set you on your way. From what I have found, there are not many informal gender neutral terms. Sibling can be shortened to sib, and parents can be shortened to par, but the rest are invented/uncommon and your readers may be unfamiliar with them.

Link:

http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Gender_neutral_language_in_English#Family_and_relationship_words

-Al

[real-did]

Hello! I've been doing research on DID for the main character of a story I'm writing, and for the most part I think I understand how to write him. But I am having a little more difficulty figuring out how to write his earlier years. What does the beginning of DID look like? Hwo do i write him during the time he develops it? I have plenty of info on DID in teen and adult years, but I'm struggling to find good info on DID in the early stages

Hi! That’s pretty cool, best of luck with your story. 

I’d be really careful with writing the beginnings of DID, you’ll be writing a lot of child abuse/trauma. It’s important to note that repeated trauma is what creates DID, and in general, different types of trauma create different alters. You could have one created to take the trauma memories or “sub-in” for the child, another formed to comfort later, one formed to manage the others... etc, etc. Different types of trauma can create different trauma-holding alters (sexual trauma forming one, physical abuse forming another, etc) and sometimes multiple incidents can form different alters. Otherwise, the child is /dissociated/ from their trauma memories and most of the time, will not be aware of the presence of alters (if at any point they are aware, they tend to describe them like imaginary friends). 

Again, I’d be careful. Give readers some warning if you can. Maybe you could read through some case studies of children with DID? 

I’m available to answer more questions privately if you’d like. Good luck!