gonna make an asexual comfort fic because someone decided to spam sexual ass comments about tamsy under the tamsy fanart i did and posted on ig which was NOT nsfw
i think some ppl genuinely forget that theres ppl behind a screen reading the shit u say
honestly i think Sonar would actually be really happy with an ace reader. it would take some explaining of what asexuality even is, but he’d get it pretty quickly. at first he thought he needed sex, but that was because his few romantic relationships were more focused on sex rather than having an actual connection or compatibility. so once he feels that emotional connection for the first time in his life, just for you, he's all in. as long as he gets cuddles and other forms of physical affection, he’s happy.
but if his ace partner is okay with having sex, even if its like once or twice a year, he’s extremely grateful and happy to do it. even if it means they don’t like to do any touching and just receive, or even the exact opposite where they want to do all the touching. he’s just happy to be there with the person he loves.
he still wants to bury his head in your chest, sexually or nonsexually, even if you don't have boobs, you're not getting out of that one. he might pop a boner too, but he's telling you not to mind it. and he still makes a lot of sex jokes, but he's usually the butt of the joke and lifting you up or he's saying stupid stuff to make you laugh.
Twisted Wonderland Characters with an Asexual S/o! Part 6!
Thank you so much to everyone who has supported and followed this specific series of headcanons. I hope you enjoyed them all <3 This will be the final part in this series as I think I've covered the majority of the cast of characters that I'm willing to cover.
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Crewel
I think Crewel has like two or three requirements when it comes to dating people: Do you like his dogs, do his dogs like you, and can you cook (that way the two of you can take turns making dinner)
everything else isn’t that important to him. As In he is willing to talk about boundaries and make compromises on things. He's super understanding that way and will always respect boundries.
Man may love fashion weather it is old, new or historical. But that doesnt mean he holds traditional values. He would like to idealy always be moving towards a better and helpful future. he doesn't need the 'american dream' family. he just needs to be happy with his S/O.
He wants to be able to enjoy his time with his S/O and love them Unconditionally. he is totally comfortable with his family looking like him, S/O and their dogs at the end of the day. that would be more than enough for him.
He just wants to be happy, he wants his S/O to be happy so he wouldn’t force them to do anything they didn’t want to. Once again he is always respectful of boundries.
Though I imagine he goes out of his way to make his S/O feel special. anything from bringing them home flowers or their favorite drink to surprising them with their favorite dinner he took the time to learn how to cook.
Crowly
Todays unneeded and unpopular queer headcanon is that Crowley is a sex-repulsed Asexual. I say as a sex-repulsed Asexual myself. I refuse to explain any futher than that.
Even if he wasn’t, he would establish and respect boundaries from the start of any relationship he has. He wants to know that his quirky forms of affection wont get lots in translation.
Probably has many 'bird' like tendancies, definately gives them lots of shiny rocks or gemstones. maybe a specially designed pocket watch just for them. Gets you your favorite pen set whenever you lose your favorite pen or as a surprise.
If he isn’t sure if something is alright to do he'll always asks his S/O to make sure it's alright for him to do so. I imagine in private he is a very cuddly indvidual. if he could get away with cuddling and melting out of reality every night i'm sure he would.
Although unconventional and a little well- you know himself- I would like to imagine he’s a very loving and caring husband. He'd go above and beyond to make sure His spouse was happy and healthy.
While he may not be winning any awards he is trying his best at the very least and you can always expect thoughtful gifts. Things that remind him of you.
Sam
The most understanding out of all the staff, asks what is and isn’t okay to do. because heaven forbid he is ever the reason you're uncomfortable. he wouldn't be able to forgive himself.
Just wants to do anything to see his S/O smile, and he's willing to go above and beyond to see them happy. so he takes time to learn what they like and dislike, what their comfortable and what they hate more than death.
More than willing to take them on dates to cheer them up, They are never anything fancy, but they're always something meaningful and special for the two of you.
This includes anything from stargazing, going on picnics, dancing in the living room, and so on. anything that is easy to do but will be sure to bring a smile to their face.
Always giving them flowers he picks when he is out and about doing things. He loves tucking the flowers behind his S/O’s ear. Would make them flower crowns as well thinking they suit them so well.
Always offer to help whenever he can, always wanting to be there for them when they need him to be.
Pulls little pranks or tells bad jokes to cheer them up as well, or to just make them laugh in general.
Vargas
He's a very loud individual, but he's also very communicative and that leaves little room for misunderstandings. That's how his s/o learns he is a very loving individual with a lot of love to give and how non of it is sexual in nature.
Once again vargas also just wants to see his s/o happy, healthy and living their best life. He just wants to love his Significant Other and let them know he is willing to give them the world
He would treat them to some real classic dates, such as: Homemade candlelit dinners, picnics on a nice summer afternoon. He'd be sure to get their favorite flowers or a significant meaningful gift.
He is a sucker for quality time and would be more than happy to watch movies with his s/o and cuddle up together till its time to get some rest.
Practically his s/o's personal hype man, as he is always encouraging of their hobbies and passions. Telling them how proud he is of them, and how great they are.
Man just wants a soft domestic relationship, need I say more?
Honestly, his emotional openness and willingness to communicate with his Significant other is honestly what makes any relationship he has a good strong one
Trien
I'm Honestly at a loss of words for Trein. He's lived a full life, he's seen his kids grow up and is probably watching his grandkids grow up. He probably just wants someone to exchange life stories with, and enjoy the small moments of life with him.
With his days probably being limited in the sense of at some point he'll have to retire and who knows how his elderly years will treat him. So I think he would just be happy to have a meaningful human connection, it doesn't have to be sexual, and it might not even be romantic. but whatever you want to call it - it would be pleasant.
He just wants to enjoy life, It doesn't have to be grand or exciting. It just has to be pleasant. He'd be more than happy to enjoy the simpler finer moments of life with his S/O.
He wants to be able to appreciate mornings in bed without taking them for granted, to enjoy quality time in the evening. to be able to reminisce over the past with a nice cup of coffee. but most importantly he just wants to be there for his grandkids and be able to support and spoil them. so needless to say He and his S/o are rather domestic and making the most out of little moments.
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Neige
Although he has some questions at the start he is super understanding about the whole thing. He definitely makes sure to learn a thing or two just to make sure he understands and can make his S/O more comfortable.
Establishes boundaries and always asks for consent because he is a good boy and I refuse to believe otherwise. If he ever accidentally upsets them or makes them uncomfortable he'll apologize and always try to cheer them up and make it up to them.
Honestly, Neige is a complete angel and sweetheart in any kind of relationship he is in so the odds of him accidentally making them upset or uncomfortable are pretty low. considering his main goal is to make them happy and he tries his best to assure their happiness.
He just wants what's best for his S/O he wants to see them smile and be happy. He'd do whatever it takes to do so, sing them songs, tell them cheesy jokes, and cuddle while watching movies, the list is endless and full of cute and cheesy things.
He’d do whatever it takes to make them happy with no complaints
Definitely likes cheesy romantic gestures far more than anything else anyway.
Che’nya
Today's Unwanted and Unrequested headcanon is that Che'nya is Also Asexual. the specific kind of asexual that'll make dirty jokes, the kind of asexual that you probably didn't know was asexual because you didn't ask so they didn't tell you.
Absolutely a lovable bastard about the whole thing tho, because he completely understands and will listen to what their boundaries are, and he'll follow up by telling Them what his are.
He'll definitely tell Them what his clingy affectionate habits are to make sure that Their okay with him doing them or so he can make sure to cut them out for his S/O. Because Their happiness is more important than his habits.
Would prefer to cuddle over all else and take one good catnap. It is definitely that he'd like to spend the whole day cuddling and them basically have to throw him off because they have to use the restroom/bathroom.
Partners in crime vibes, you guys were too busy mastering the art of pranks to be horny /joke
I don’t have much to say for him other than he’s understanding and sees this as a win-win situation
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There I go again slapping asexual headcanons on people again as an asexual person. This was both Fun and Difficult to do as a post this time around. But I think I can safely say I'm happy with it.
I hope you all enjoyed this series <3 Hope to hear from you all soon
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Part One / Part Two / Part Three / Part Four / Part Five / Part Six
€Male Hashira React to Their MALE S/O Coming Out As Asexual€
••Part 1 ||→ Giyu, Rengoku, Obanai
••Part 2||→Sanemi, Gyomei, Tengen
→+*:;;:*Demon Slayer Headcanon*:;;:*+←
I have decided not to do Muichiro because of the context that he is 14 years old. Due to this, I will not be adding him to the fic. Though this is about asexuality, and therefore the lack of sex, it is still considered wrong to me.
←Sanemi Shinazugawa→
Really, you were kinda shitting your pants at the idea of coming out to Sanemi. You know he's only abrasive and stubborn because of his past, but sometimes reading him is like asking Gyomei what color shirt you should wear.
Aka, pretty much impossible.
But you both were in a committed relationship, and you didn't want to feel like you were leading him on. There is also the possibility of him feeling like you had higher expectations. Knowing how that feels, you never wanted your boyfriend to feel like that.
So, deciding to get this over with and be blunt, which really is the only way you can approach this like this with Sanemi, you sat him down after his afternoon training. When he heard your voice and how serious you were, he made no move to object beside the occasional grumble.
His normally scowly face turned inquisitive as you sat at the chabudai. He sat across from you and asked what you needed him for. Steeling yourself, you tell him you're asexual, and have no or little desire to have any sexual activity. Making sure Sanemi didn't blame himself was key. Otherwise, he'd blame himself.
His face blanks for a second, then he asks if he made you uncomfortable in anyway. You tell him no, that you trust him to control himself, but some touches just can't happen. Sanemi starts to get a little irritated and asks then what is comfortable to you then? You try to calmly explain that cuddles are fine, soft touches on the shoulders, arms and head are fine, kisses too, as long as it doesn't get too heated.
Sanemi takes a few breaths, but explains to you that he has needs too; sexual needs he wanted to carry out with you since you're special to him. You can't help the tears that start to fall, but Sanemi is quick to sit by your side and wipe them away. He's cursing himself out and telling you he's sorry while you're trying to say you understand and feel sorry you're limiting the his show of love.
It gets so hectic, Sanemi leans forward and head butts you. Nothing like that brat did to him, but it was enough to catch your attention. He firmly apologizes for any misstep he took, and shushes you when you trying interrupting him. He carries on saying his love for you can be expressed in more ways than sex ever could, so he'll just have to get creative. Sanemi loves you dearly, and he doesn't want his lack of self control to be the end what the beautiful thing you both had.
So, he does. Whenever he gets that urge he'll leave and deal with it, then come back and pamper you till you both fall asleep or take a nap. He's still weary about how he touches you, but confident hands on your part will ease his hesitancy. Sanemi also becomes super over protective. He'd glare and growl at anyone that gets too close.
He can't grope you like he would have done originally. So, to combat those people that can't seem to think through their brains, he uses his wind breathing style to quite literally blow them away.
←Himejima Gyomei→
Trust and commitment was always an issue of Gyomei. But once he opens himself up, he is unwavering in his care. He loves you dearly, and he takes this relationship seriously. So why have you been avoiding him?
Gyomei sighed heavily and settled down near the water stream. Thinking over the day within his memories, he recounted how you seemed to have been anxious. Himejima may not be able to see, but he can hear your emotions clear as day, your anxious heart and breathing.
The water rushing through the stream eased him slightly, but the memory of your fear put him on edge. He never liked when you felt anything negative. Himejima always wanted to hear that smile on your face and laugh in your speech.
Standing up, Gyomei listened for your heart beat and followed it towards your shared home. Ever since this relationship became serious, you both decided living in Gyomei's home was the best idea since it had more medical supplies and felt more lived in. So it was an easy walk he figured out leads to the training area in the back of the house.
Opening a sliding door that leads to the Zen garden you helped him plant, he found you setting next to the water fountain you both had chosen as an added on feature. Sitting down next to you, he heard you sigh and felt you lean into his side. Gyomei wrapped a careful hand around your waist and let you get whatever was bothering you out your self.
Mustering up your confidence, you suddenly blurt out that you believe you are asexual. He pauses and let's the thought wash over him, trying to remember where he had heard that term before. Now that he recalled, one of the many older children he had helped before becoming a demon slayer had confided with him about the exact same thing.
With a careful voice, he addressed your rising nervousness, " Sex was never my end goal with you, my Rock. My only goal that I ever had was to make you happy. If you believe that sex would only ever make you uncomfortable, or that being sexually active on a regular basis is unnecessary, then I will do whatever it takes to love you thoroughly another way. "
He embraced you that night, feeling the coolness of the sun slowly setting behind the hills. Gyomei held you close to his chest as he rocked you back and forth, setting a firm, callused, yet somehow soft hand on the back of your neck to keep you still and comfort you.
Himejima no longer tolerated you being around people that he could tell made you uncomfortable. He knew all too well how dangerous and capable you could be when you wanted to, but he also wanted to get that feeling of accomplishment when he successfully guarded you away from those he knew where only trying to get with you for something other than your opinion. Besides, it was rather easy to just walk up behind them and set a hand on their shoulder to scare them off.
← Tengen Uzui→
To say that you were nervous with your most recent, yet blatantly obvious, discovery was an understatement. Being with Uzui was a whole other thing in on its own, and you had to overcome hurdles like any couple to be together. For one, it was rather odd to you that he already had three wives, beautiful women that could give him anything he wanted, yet he still chose to date you.
It unnerved you, a little. Though it was common in your home country that having multiple married partners was common, you always felt like you were encroaching on their daily lives.
But, they always made a show of accepting you. Even going as far as to invite you to their gatherings and trips to the city for shopping and sight seeing. You had an amazing time with them, but you can never get away from their....steamy stories. They always got blushy when recalling their first times with Tengen. It never ceased to make you uncomfortable, and they would always tease you about having to excuse your self when the topic of their sex lives came up.
Now that you thought back on it, it was glaringly obvious how you came up with your discovery in sexuality. Though it was already said, you were nervous. Nervous about what Uzui would think, about how his wives would think, and your standing in the relationship would turn. If you even had a relationship after this to begin with.
But, this needed to come out, and you don't think you'd be able to continue to live in a relationship where you couldn't be yourself. So, you had called them all in. It was a lot more intimidating than you would have imagined it to be. All four of them sat around the table with you, each had a different expression on their face.
Tengen set a firm hand on your thigh, trying to give you a supporting hold, but it only made your nerves stand on end. Taking a deep breath, you took his hand into your own and lifted it to sit firmly on the table. Tengen blinked in surprise, as did Suma, Hinatsuru, and Makio.
Deciding to not beat around the bush this time, you tell your recent discovery about being asexual. The silence given afterwards was very...tense. They looked in between each other for quite sometime, likely having a silent convention you weren't privy to even try and understand. It started to get suffocating, and it felt like you couldn't breathe.
You quickly made your way out of their. Standing up quickly and getting out of the room despite your name being called out by four other voices. Getting to your room within Uzui's home, you close the door and lock the door. Going to your futon, you breathe deeply in and out while tears stream down your face.
Footsteps made you freeze. And a soft whisper of your name made you look up towards your door. Hearing a slight thump, you can only imagine as Tengen sits against the locked door and calls out your name again. Sighing, you get up and sit on the other side of the door, giving him a chance to hear you.
Uzui makes sure you're okay before telling you that he was sorry. He explained that he didn't mean for allowing your anxieties to eat away at you like they did, and expressed his wish to be able to help you with them like a good partner should. He tells you that he loves you no matter what, and Makio, Suma, and Hinatsuru agree. He didn't mean to make you uncomfortable with his touch either, and his wives apologize for not seeing how uncomfortable you were listening to them talk about their past experiences.
Listening to them, you could hear that they were genuine. So, you stood up and unlocked the door, immediately getting engulfed in a hug by the man himself. Sighing, you felt so much better for being accepted. Leaning into his embrace, you were swept off your feet with a yell and layed down on your futon where he and his partners cuddled up around you.
Are you planning to write headcanons with asexual s/o with the rest of the characters from twisted? Thanks for your wonderful work!
I can say honestly that when I started that wasn't the plan. But I'm always happy to do more characters with an asexual S/o so it would be really easy to just make it a series where I periodically post another part! I can't say how often it would be because I don't really have a scheduled routine of doing things. So if you'd like to see more in the future I'd be more than happy to do so, your always welcome to request certain characters as well!
Also I'm glad to hear you've liked the other posts thus far, it means a lot to hear!
