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awwww-cute

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shaniae

Reblog in 10 seconds and $1700 will come your way

trainhardrunfast

I have nothing to lose and 1700$ to gain

nocontextpsych

[both whispering angrily]

abysmallylost23

[both whispering angrily]

onlyblackgirl

I love psych

thoodleoo

me whenever a woman in greek myth gets fed up and destroys the men who've caused her trauma

ilovecharts

A Tea Chart I made to remember how to make a cup of tea for everyone who comes by the house.

-navyvice

partiendolapana-blog

This is so absolutely adorable oh my gods.

gahdamnpunk

ALL 👏🏾 OF 👏🏾 THEM 👏🏾

knitmeapony

This post goes harder than any post has ever gone before.

sanetwin

declaring “this is the bad place” every time you are even slightly inconvenienced is peak humor

formorrow-sur

It’s what Eleanor Shellstrop would have wanted

great-tweets

“This is a teachable moment for you.”

mbaku-babygirl

She did that!!!!

toastbutteregg

just-shower-thoughts

An electric toothbrush and an escalator are two things that can stop working and still accomplish their original goal.

randomslasher

Ah, wonderful! This post can help me illustrate something I’ve been trying to articulate for awhile: the concept of benign or unintentional abelism.

Escalators and electric toothbrushes are perfect examples of things that many able-bodied people assume exist for their own convenience, and this post is a perfect example of that unconscious assumption.

An escalator that has broken down is still perfectly functional, right?

Well, sure–if you could have used the stairs to begin with.

But for people like me, for whom the escalator was not a convenience but a mobility device, a broken down escalator is not functional.

An electric toothbrush might seem like something that could be just as easily used turned off as turned on, but for someone with Parkinson’s, or any other number of nerve, coordination, or grip issues, the function of the electric toothbrush is a necessary feature, and without it, the task at hand becomes far more arduous (or even impossible).

I’m not angry or trying to point out why this post is “bad” or “wrong”–I’m simply trying to point out that people who assume every time or energy-saving invention was created as a means to help able-bodied people be lazier should consider re-examining those assumptions. It might help you become more compassionate toward your disabled friends and family, or at least more aware of the struggles we face daily.

I’ve had plenty of folks ask for examples of abelism and I am terrible at coming up with them on the spot, so here you go. This is a great one: assuming every modern convenience is only a convenience for everyone, when for some, it is, in fact, a necessity.

morthilswrites

cop: can you describe the woman who stabbed you

male author: lithe, spirited, outgoing, and not afraid to speak her mind. she was a raw sexual force and she knew it. she was dandelion fluff on a summer day, gone in an instant, leaving you with nothing but the memory of her touch and the faint taste of strawberries on your lips

threesideddream

that’s why he got stabbed

stevienick

‪john krasinski breaking character in the office for two minutes straight ‬

catchymemes

George-Washington.zip

moved-strabius-strawberry

Why is this so funny to me? I think it’s the quick little jumpcuts, and then the reveal feels like a punchline to a joke.

wenchyfloozymoo

revolutionarykoolaid

seriesofnonsequiturs

Lin Manuel Miranda; Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson; Terry Crews; Fred Rogers

Taika Waititi: Powerfully creative, Knows himself, Good humored, Takes his work and his relationships with other people seriously, Intentional as a creator

John Mulaney: Publicly supportive of his wife and other women in his life, Crafts humor without taking cheap shots at people, Supportive friend, Willing to laugh at himself yet confident

Andy Samberg: Uses platform and humor to publicly call out toxic masculinity and white privilege, Self-aware, Willing to cede the floor to others, Good friend

Will Smith: Very intentional about what type of actions he takes as a husband and father (if you haven’t watched him on The Red Table, you should), Good humored and professional, Dedicated to his craft putting in the hours and energy, Generous with his emotions and vulnerability, Responsive to others emotions and vulnerability

I read somewhere that one aspect of Toxic Masculinity is believing that being part of a “We” will erase the “I”; that selfhood is threatened by relationships with other people. It reads then that Healthy Masculinity (indeed, healthy people in general) create a “We” that enhances the “I”; that we can become more powerfully ourselves through relationships with other people.

All these men listed (and many more unlisted) live this type of energy, the one that builds connections without fear of losing the self - and in fact builds the self more with the building of connections.