Sometimes fandom can be incredibly alienating as someone who is aspec and doesn't participate in shipping. I go into the tags of a media I like and I find 99.9% of posts are about either shipping the character or how attractive people find them. I post anything about a character I like and I'm met with sexualizing comments or shipping tags on my posts. I talk about aspec headcanons for a character and get met with anger and told I'm homophobic. I talk about a character being canonically aspec and get met with arguments about how wrong I am. I cannot relate to 99.9% of fandom. And whenever I express this, I am met with hostility. I am told to go find a space that will accept me because I'm not welcomed in the wider fandom. They never even stop to think if a space like that even exists. They never stop to realize that spaces like that often get taken over by the rest of fandom eventually, forcing the ones who made it once more. They never tell you how to find that space because if they thought about it they too would realize how near impossible it is to find such a space in any fandom.
But they don't actually care about that. they just want me to shut up. They expect me to conform to the hyper amatonormativity and allonormativity of fandom spaces. They expect me to put up with blatant and rampant aphobia within fandom spaces. They expect me to be a "good aspec" who is a hopeless romantic shipper and loves smut. When I fail or refuse to meet those expectations, then I'm the problem. and I'm left alienated and isolated in a space that is supposed to be social and supposedly for everyone.
"Fandom is for everyone" except people like me.
