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[ao3org]

A couple of our servers have gotten a bit overwhelmed, so we're taking some down time to give them a chance to catch up. We'll be back as soon as possible!

2024-09-02 11:30 UTC

[tea-and-freckles]

me when I’m the manager of a restaurant

[mobius-m-mobius]

Blanc and his Watsons 🔎💕

[pealeii]

[armydreamerr]

this is my favourite post ever

[serotnin]

how come you only become aware of how tipsy you are in bathrooms

[serotnin]

[civvic]

Fuck. Those fuckers at the store sold me No Purpose Flour again. What the fuck do I do with this

[civvic]

you laugh. my flour is bereft of purpose and you mock me. hell upon you, fool

[godsarecrazy]

Need head from a broad with acid reflux. Make it sizzle princess

[tigerator]

how does tumblr think they can possibly police the content on this website

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[bumblebeerror]

RSD is a common symptom of ADHD, and one I’ve struggled with my entire life. This does still make it your responsibility to learn to recognize when you are having that reaction and make sure it is not effecting your relationships.

It is your job to spend the time to learn ways to regulate your own emotions, both because it’s incredibly unfair to others and because you deserve the peace of not having to be in tears or angry or annoyed or depressed or devastated all the time.

It sucks to have to gentle-parent your way through your life but it will suck so much worse if you never learn how to realize hey, the world is not ending and I need to take a deep breath and pack this away to deal with later (and then ACTUALLY deal with it later).

[ryebreadgf]

[bluegiragi]

posting this take on my tumblr too bc i stand by it

[endlessly-ranting-antheia]

Ilya: I could marry Svetlana to get American citizenship

Shane: and I could commit a murder suicide right now. See how we’re both saying shit

[livingasaghost]

genuinely i do think it's crazy how this show hit every single mark for no reason other than pure love of the game. like this wasn't a money grab and it didn't think it would be a big success, jacob just read a book he enjoyed and thought huh i think that would be a cool thing to make into a tv show. and then he brought on hudson and connor and they're fresh and passionate and not bogged down by the industry yet and they instantly became best friends and wanted to just have fun bringing these characters to life. and they didn't have a huge budget but they did the most with what they had and everybody took the show seriously and everybody took the book seriously. the cinematographer worked his magic. the music supervisor managed to snag a well-known queer hit and an up and coming new release and old school gems that have been around since the 2000s. it's canadian to the core, built from the ground up. it takes russians and the russian language seriously. it uses sex in such a specific, meaningful way that almost no other show has done thus far, and especially not in a queer context like this. they interlaced every episode with callbacks and parallelism and self-references. they didn't take themselves too seriously. they took everything so seriously. there is love and care baked into the core of this show and it's deeply queer and it doesn't shy away from the horrors of toxic masculinity and hockey culture but it is also, always, a story of joy and love and happiness. and on top of everything, it's almost word for word, the original source material from the book.

like damn it's no wonder this thing has made us all insufferable and become a huge fucking success! so few productions in hollywood are doing it like this!!!

[stealingpotatoes]

started watching heated rivalry and omg that gay hockey show sure can gay

[hrgifs]

shane's hands in ilya's hair (for @madevampselle)

[alltoowille]

Yuna and David having watched their autistic son be so isolated all of his adult life and never having a happy relationship or close friends who understand his anxiety and then finding out that the man they’ve spent a decade hating on his behalf can casually talk him down from a panic attack in less than a minute

[vityamins]

The face of a man who thinks he's about to hear his boyfriend explain the word fuckbuddy to his mom

[aavec]

I understand that people have issues with ep 3, but I’m grateful for it bc it gave us the Scott/Shane fight and therefore all of these great posts on Tumblr.com

[heymacy]

HEATED RIVALRY SEASON ONE + hall of fame text posts