Incredibly long post incoming, here's my full two cents on the Maddy/Pyro situation:
Pyroscythe and Millkberry do not have any right to control what people make and produce for themselves and others on the internet. The content is not for them. What they have a right to, as the ccs behind their characters, is controlling what content gets shown to them. In their streams, in their servers, in their dms, and in tags relavent to their cc titles. That is where they should have control. Pyro should not "have his little birds everywhere". His mods and community should not come after others for their fan content. It is simply not their business.
It is understandable, when you have put so much of yourself into a character, and your partner has done the same, that you may feel uncomfortable when people choose to pair up those characters with people who are not your partner. The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can choose not to see or acknowledge it. You can ban it in your personal spaces. You can block relevant tags and keywords. You can have a trusted person filter out the fan content they think you'll enjoy and send it to you. There are ways to reach an equilibrium where fans can have fun playing with digital barbie dolls, and creators can comfortably appreciate the sides of their fandom that put out creations they enjoy. It isn't as hard as ccs like to make it seem.
I think a lot of people are being harsher than they need or intend to be. Whether it is because of all of the mcyt situations happening recently, or because fear leads people to slam face-first into the worst possible assumptions, people are being incredibly unforgiving of either the ccs or other fans depending on the "side" they're taking. Please take this moment to remember that everyone involved in and witnessing this situation is human. Humans make mistakes. Humans can learn from those mistakes if they are given the chance. Please give the other people in this space a chance.
The reason why most people, like myself, are upset, is not because of the loss of a favorite ship or two. That is obviously still saddening for some, but there is a bigger issue. Trying to ban any specific thing is a pipeline into censorship. The moment you start censoring something, people will begin asking the question of "what else deserves to be censored?" First it's just the shipping of a couple characters, but it spreads from there.
This is especially a problem when the content that is being censored is predominantly queer. Most of the ships involving Pyro and Maddy's characters are queer in nature. Most of the people shipping them with other characters are queer themselves. It is outright dangerous to ban marginalized content in any regard and expect the censorship to end there.
Before someone refutes that by saying that that isn't Pyroscythe and Millkberry's intentions, you cannot claim to be banning something to one effect and therefore all other effects don't exist. If you ban all foods with sugar, natural or otherwise, then you thereby ban all fruits. You cannot claim that you did not ban fruits, because banning sugar had that additional affect, whether you intended it to or not.
Fan spaces are not made for the content creators. They can browse as a guest, but the things we make are not meant to be for them unless the creators are directly tagged. Creators are not and never have been entitled to the fanworks based on their characters or content.
Some additional things that I want to note but don't have the energy to work into the rest of this post properly:
1: I actually am really glad that Pyro and Maddy were reasonable enough to mention not deleting old fan content. That is a very basic thing, but I've seen many times in this fandom and others where fans immediately moved to get rid of everything they've ever made in hopes of not upsetting creators. I am a firm believer in archival, and I'm happy that everything that's already been made isn't gone.
2: I know in this post, I didn't mention a whole lot about the difference between boundaries and rules/control which Maddy and Pyro have seemed to mistake. This specific issue has been covered a bajillion times by others who have made amazing points which I would just be plagiarizing at that point.
3: I really dislike how most of the people talking about this situation are addressing Pyro but not Maddy. I have a lot of thoughts about how it's misogynistic and completely ignoring half of the problem, but that isn't what this post is about and I don't have the words to go in depth on that right now.
If anyone has anything to add to this, please do add!! I think community discussion is one of the most important things right now and I know there's probably things I've forgotten or things that others have the words for which I don't.
This comic was made to explain why Martyn isn’t there for the award night and a clip in Martyn’s final where he talk about and etching on top of the Eiffel Tower (Timestamp— 33:52-34:14). This also has to do with his datastream defender lore.
reminder that you cannot call people or things "retarded" around me. we will have a conversation where I explain that I can still tell you the names of 62 people for which I was legally responsible. I will tell you that I loved them
and you will feel like you were being an asshole and wonder why you don't just stop saying it altogether. me too.
if we're friends, you can call me a faggot. there can be a lot of tenderness in that. I got beat up and bullied and just generally treated like a detestable freak by people who called me that word while they did it. hearing it spoken by a loved voice, with clear affection, can be beautiful. it can feel like understanding, forgiveness, absolution, permission, and a thousand other wonderful things. it can be beautiful.
I got called retarded too, but we don't share any special insight into that. it's just a word to us. pick a different one.
a lady with a developmental disability once explained to me that she'd overheard some kids calling each other retarded in the mall we'd visited earlier that day. searching for something to say that might comfort her, I explained that they don't know anything about people like her and so they weren't really talking about her, just being ignorant.
she got angry and said "then they need to pick a different word". and so you need to pick a different word.
don't think this is exclusive to public spaces like the mall or the park or whatever either. she has a tablet and access to the internet, just the same as you do. she can read, write, and make her own decisions. she has a husband.
you don't know anything about her, you need to stop talking about her. pick a different word.
What the fuck are the things called? The thingies. The like clippies that are sorta like on necklaces but bigger. So I can crafts with them. Custom belt chains and whatnot.
Not wanting to have sex is NOT a problem. It doesn’t matter if you are asexual or allo, there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex. It’s just an activity. That’d be like saying that if you don’t like soccer, you need to go to soccer therapy to figure out why you dislike it and figure out how to like it because it’s for your own good. See how ridiculous that sounds? IT IS OK TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED!!!!!!
A lot of companies that make things have two separate lines: consumer and enterprise. Consumer is for us poors that the company doesn't need to respect. You can buy more expensive, higher tier consumer items but it's just as fragile. You're paying for more bells and whistles. Enterprise grade is stuff that will actually last because it is often sold in a lot as part of a contract and the contract won't be renewed if the items suck. These things are often just not sold to consumers because why would you ever buy consumer-grade garbage if you could buy this?
For something like computers, this looks like how pricey "gAmiNG" laptops look all fancy but fall apart in about the same timeframe as the lower end laptops for students. But if you've ever handled the sort of laptops for banks or businesses, you'd wonder why laptops can't all be like this. People swear by Lenovo Thinkpads for a reason. Dell's Latitude (general productivity) and Precision (has the power of a gaming laptop but far less bs) lines, HP's probooks, all feel really nice and last for-fucking-ever. But you can't buy them in a store even if you wanted one.
So the trick is to buy what big organizations are buying, but you likely gotta get 'em secondhand when the orgs are done with them. For basic clothes, mil surplus might be a good port of call, for technology see an e-waste recycler or sometimes government auction (you just gotta know what to ask for; ThinkPads, Dell Latitude/Precision, HP Probook/Zbook). Otherwise try to thrift old, pre-enshitification items. The blanket I had as a kid is still going strong and has lived to bury multiple sets of newer bedding (which have worn thin and torn). Kitchen items, see if you can shop at a restaurant supplier.
TL;DR: if you need an item, think "which business needs these to function" and see where they 1) buy theirs (suppliers) or 2) sell their old ones (surplus) and buy that. If you can't do that, look at older, pre-enshitification things.