Rasie It Up Raise It Up

She/her, 22, aro and ace, ABBA, Florence + the Machine

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Intro:

She/her AroAce 💜

Adult

If you wanna be friends and are above 18, I love chatting with new people!!

(creepy men and minors dni) ❌

Fandoms: FATM, Neko Case, ABBA, hunger games, The Last Dinner Party, Mother Mother 💖

I make art and write things 🤫

Pagan 🌳 Witch 🔮

Sagittarius Sun cancer Moon ♐️♋️

I’m the scary leftist your republican uncle warned you about

ABOLISH ICE ~ FREE PALESTINE ~ EAT THE RICH

I support all queer identities, ya’ll are safe here and I love you! Protect the dolls!

[theloverislost]

as we are rapidly approaching pride month, here’s an obligatory reminder!

AROMANTIC PEOPLE

ASEXUAL PEOPLE

AND AROACE PEOPLE

ALL BELONG IN THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

I WILL REMOVE EVERY BONE IN YOUR BODY IF YOU SAY OTHERWISE

[starsandscars81]

“Love is love” okay but can we talk about people whose identities don’t focus on feelings for another person? Pretty please???

[shingekinomyfeelings]

Shoutout to the asexuals who:

do NOT like sex, even with someone you love

will NEVER have sex, not even 'to find out if you enjoy it,' because you don't want to

have NO curiosity about sex and do not write, read, or enjoy smut

are SEX-REPULSED and have to beg your friends to stop talking about their sex lives in graphic detail when you're together

You are not broken, weird, or alien

Your boundaries are real, and valid, and you deserve for them to be respected

You deserve to be both treated and regarded as an Adult by your sex-having peers

If any of your sex-having or sex-wanting peers cannot or will not regard you as an Adult and as a complete person because of your asexuality, your indifference to sex, your revulsion for sex, or your virginity, I need you to know something:

They are in fact the living, breathing proof that having sex does not grant either maturity or a fuller understanding of human nature.

You're okay. I promise.

[papercranesandpride]

I think if you want to understand bigotry against aromantics, I have a good case study. Let me talk a little about my dad's family.

My dad has 4 half siblings and two step siblings. They're all a decent bit younger than him. When I was a teenager, we went to a family reunion, and I realized something—my dad did not respect his siblings. He looked down on all of them. He saw them as fuck-ups and overgrown children. My dad had the American dream: well paying management job, suburban house, wife, and three kids. My aunt and uncles did not. Excluding my aunt, none of them were married or in serious relationships. They hadn't really settled into long term careers. Several of them were working the kind of jobs that get called "Unskilled labor." So he looked down on them because the youngest one was in his thirties (and several were much older), and yet none of them had "settled down" into what he saw as lifelong, permanent careers and relationships and lives. He was polite to their faces, sure, but I heard how he talked about them behind their backs, to my mother.

And then a few years ago, we visited his brothers again for Thanksgiving. And I realized something again--he respected them now. He saw them as equals. Why? Well. All of a sudden, every single one of them had serious, committed romantic partners. They didn't even need to still be with those partners—one of my uncle's fiance passed away from cancer before they could marry—just having had one showed that they matured into a real adult participating in society. In fact, at one point, my aunt was telling my mom about how one of my uncles was no longer living in an apartment she owned, but instead, after having a steady girlfriend for about a year, he moved in with her. And my mom literally said to my aunt, "wow. Look at that. He finally grew up."

One of the lines that frequently gets repeated about anti-aspec sentiment is "why would anyone hate asexuals/aromantics/etc? They aren't even doing anything." And that's exactly it. In the eyes of amatonormative culture, we aren't doing anything. Adults are supposed to do things. That's how you become a member of society.

I know that my father will never see me as a successful adult. He will never approve of my life. And I think most people would assume that that's because I'm trans. And don't get me wrong, he sure as shit doesn't like or respect that, but I do think if given enough time, he would get used to it. He would eventually realize that it isn't going away. And if I settled down with a spouse and a respectful job and a few kids, he could see me as a successful adult that he could be proud of anyway. But of course, that's not going to happen. Because I'm aromantic. So I'm never going to do that one thing that signifies that his job is complete, and I'm officially a full-fledged adult. I will perpetually be that fuck-up kid who won't settle down. In my personal case, that's okay. My dad is a conservative piece of shit, and if he doesn't approve of you, that just means you're doing something right. But on a societal level? This kind of attitude is a massive problem. Aromantics deserve to be treated like adults, and to feel like the accomplished adults that they are. We should feel like we belong in society.

[the-aro-agenda]

terfs aren't welcome here. btw

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

I want to be out to EVERYONE

I want to be a hassle

I want to be annoying and yell at people when they say stupid shit about my identity

But I won’t of corse!

I will continue to hide and bite my tongue!

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Straight people really be like “oh I accept you” until you say “I don’t support x company/media/celebrity because it’s queerphobic” then they call you dramatic and how you have to separate art form the artist. Yeah sure. You’ve never had the media you love slap you in the face and tell you your existence isn’t valid. But go on. Tell me how I’m dramatic 😀

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

It sucks coming out and then wishing you could go back in the closet because the person you thought accepted you, really doesn’t, and only accepts a version of you where they can just pretend you’re straight and never have to take into consideration your feelings as a queer person

[aroaceenjolras]

"sex positivity includes asexuals" does it? does it include asexuals? because from my point of view it's more like some little mermaid shit where we're nominally "included" as long as we give up our ability to speak about issues that affect us. sex positivity does not include asexuals, it expropriates us.

[repulsed-confessions]

Sexual liberation isn't liberation if it shoves sex into everyone's faces and forces everyone to participate whether they want to or not.

It's oppression.

.

[lenasai]

people love to intentionally read anything said by an aspec person in bad faith

a sex repulsed ace person can raise an issue with a statement that, on its face, reads like someone saying you, the person reading this, have a moral obligation to be horny on main (a statement i have unironically seen!) and here come 500 aphobes and aspecs with internalized aphobia to tell them they're a horrible person who wants "real" queer people thrown in jail and probably also kicks puppies

some people are more open about their aphobia ("omg why do aces have to make everything about them, look at this cringe loser") and others are much more subtle about it. but it happens nonetheless, over and over again.

oh, but they can't possibly be aphobic. after all, as they're so quick to point out, they have an ace friend who passes out water bottles at the orgy.

what a fucking joke.

[chaoticschizo]

can we normalize consent in platonic relationships

[lil-gingerbread-queen]

Kind of tired of how other queer and asexual folks keep pushing compulsive sexuality, and moralizing having sex or sexual thoughts.

Like, I'm tired of the "better be a pervert than a prude", the "we all are a little freaky", the "asexuals write the best smut", the "we don't want prudes to be writing hcs"... Like, we have to participate in sexual topics and behaviors to be normal, or we are prudes (can y'all stop judging and insulting people based on their personal experience with sex? Y'all learn that "virgin" was a bad insult and turn to use "prude" instead but you are still doing the same bs)

The fucking "Well, if people call you a puritan, maybe it's because you sound like one" posts being frequently posted in the asexual and sex-repulsed tags, because asexuals need to watch how they talk and complain about sex being forced unto them again, and again, and again, or they will be linked to purity culture (even tho purity culture STILL WANTS PEOPLE TO HAVE SEX, BUT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE AND IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP. PURITY CULTURE IS NOT SEXLESS), while queer folks continue again and again to paint it as morally superior to be a pervert (it's morally neutral. You being horny 24/7 doesn't make you morally superior to anyone).

Y'all love to reblog posts that say the basic "asexuals are valids!" but also reblog and post a ton of posts saying that being a "prude" is bad, not being a pervert is bad, every human is a pervert deep inside and people that denies it are bad, not being into kinky sex is bad, not being comfortable with some kinks is bad, not wanting to participate in some sexual acts is bad... So no, I do not feel valid and I do not feel supported, I feel exactly the same as before I discovered asexuality: broken and inhuman.

[lenasai]

people love to intentionally read anything said by an aspec person in bad faith

a sex repulsed ace person can raise an issue with a statement that, on its face, reads like someone saying you, the person reading this, have a moral obligation to be horny on main (a statement i have unironically seen!) and here come 500 aphobes and aspecs with internalized aphobia to tell them they're a horrible person who wants "real" queer people thrown in jail and probably also kicks puppies

some people are more open about their aphobia ("omg why do aces have to make everything about them, look at this cringe loser") and others are much more subtle about it. but it happens nonetheless, over and over again.

oh, but they can't possibly be aphobic. after all, as they're so quick to point out, they have an ace friend who passes out water bottles at the orgy.

what a fucking joke.

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

I don’t really have anything meaningful to add to the conversation of racism in the asexual community that Black and POC aces haven’t already said so I just wanted to say that I support you all and racism has no place in our community.

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Sex repulsed asexuals are not prudes, puritans, or slut shamers for simply being grossed out by sex. No one’s saying you shouldn’t be allowed to have sex. We’re just saying we would like to be allowed to be uncomfortable with it and not participate in it or anything related to it. We’re asking for the same sexual revolution you get to have. We’re asking to be liberated from the chains of being told we have to do something that isn’t what we want.