There isn’t a dom shortage btw, you make people feel evil for actually reciprocating the things you want and then treat them like vending machines when you have them
applying papier mache to the homie who fell asleep on the floor during the party and then using it as a mold to make a 1-to-1 perfect silicone sculpture of him which we place on the floor and gently interlace with him so it looks like he is sleeping restfully with the yin yang of his own somnolent form lol
not to tell on myself, but before ilya gets woobified into oblivion: some dominance is about actual subjugation; many doms aren't guard dogs, they're fucking adults with a begging adult at their feet; sometimes a sub being satisfied is not the top priority of all time; sometimes an adult agrees to be a passive yielding receiver of someone else's psychosexual and kinetic urges, and it's not about letting a doberman mix off-leash for enrichment time, it's about active and threatening and thorough mastery; sometimes the point is get your legs over your head and shut the fuck up
in short: what if he weren't your dog. what if he were a person with desire you couldn't condescend to? hmmmmmmm
it's just really apparent that people think it's okay to want pain but morally abhorrent to want to give it. sorry but the sadist gets to have fun too. it's actually pretty crucial to the process.
thoughts on the whole “shane hollander walks ilya rozanov like a dog” phenomenon
i like it because he does. and ilya knows it + enables it somewhat. ilya would crawl through broken glass for shane. ilya pursued shane sexually for two years when he could’ve had literally anyone else. ilya was shane’s first in pretty much everything. ilya changes his whole entire life & career for shane. he’s obsessed. this dynamic exists partly due to the fact shane is canonically domineering & very much In Charge of his day-to-day life. he’s not manipulating ilya or anything, ilya’s exactly where he wants to be. he just loves shane. i don’t think this dynamic exists solely because of shane’s tendencies to seek control—i think it exists mostly because of ilya. ilya is characterized by the fact that he spends his whole entire life taking care of his family, becoming de facto patriarch & primary breadwinner when his father’s health gets worse. he emphasizes that this is frustrating for him because they’re ungrateful. ilya is canonically caring and nurturing and wants to take care of somebody. he also really just wants to be loved and prioritized and taken care of in his own way. and shane does all of that for him. every time ilya does something for him he’s surprised, but always grateful. i think ilya taking care of people is how he shows them he loves them. so when shane (and later shane’s family) start to take care of ilya, and never take advantage of ilya, he recognizes that for what it is. i don’t think ilya is submissive to shane in their day-to-day dynamic—i think they’re pretty well balanced and i think this is crucial to the health & success of their relationship—but i think ilya is really happy to give shane whatever he wants/needs + lavish him with attention because shane is cute and ilya adores him. & shane just happens to be super bossy by nature so ilya goes along with that as part of the fun. shane sees a little bit of it (he’s trying to be loyal to me, you want to make me a tuna melt, really? x300) but he doesn’t think of it as a weakness in ilya (the way ilya’s family did), he sees it as kindness. again they are well matched as equals so i wish shane luck trying to get ilya to do anything he doesn’t want to do lol but yes i do think ilya is pretty whipped and i think that can only happen cus shane is 1) deserving of it and 2) doesn’t demand it or expect it (this is the most crucial part imo) and 3) is just as good and giving to ilya in return
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When Tadej was a kid of about four, he reached up and pressed his hand flat to the electric burner of their stove. When it was done blistering and he was done crying, he immediately reached for it again. Full of something kissing cousins with ambivalence. He had forgotten how deep the ache shot; he’ll never be able to refresh the memory because this time, the burner was turned off.
been chewing on a tag I saw @gayferrari type... "wags are the new grid girls"
so what was the point of grid girls - to associate glamour and sex to an otherwise all male sport. too much penis, even the cars are shaped like phalluses they needed that yonic energy. it was a marketing tactic, a ploy to associate F1 with their playboy, drive cars get money bitches pussy aspiration. It was being marketed to men -- hence grid girls, not even women, dressed in the driver's insignia but more scantily clad, to be beside him for the unspoken implication that the driver can have her after winning the race.
it took until 2018 to phase out grid girls and was replaced by grid kids (and many of our presently woke feminist drivers then wanted grid girls to stay), with a growing cultural backlash and feminist criticism to the sexualisation of women as props in sports in an era where f1 was rapidly losing viewership and relevancy.
after the drive to survive netflix blow-up, FOM, Liberty Media started explicitly marketing to a lesser tapped market which is the female demographic. anything that wants to be relevant in the social media age needs stans, and nothing encourages that like parasocial relationships. now we have social media admins engaging specifically in fan spaces, using their language, referencing ships, doing fanservice and moving away from the solely male centric marketing.
now wags have always existed as long as drivers have been heterosexual but it wasn't until victoria beckham peak spice girls fame sitting courtside for david beckham made being a wife and girlfriend look glamorous, the outfits she wore and the face she served. the princess story for the new age, where the prince is a handsome famous athlete and you're the prize, the one he's blowing a kiss before shooting the hoop. it's why we still have nicole from pussy cat dolls and lewis hamilton winning world title edits in the year of 2025. it's that camera panning on her, with her gorgeous brown waves and teary eyes as she did the sign of the cross and ran to lewis, kissing him over his helmet -- the fireworks of yas marina in the background.
if grid girls tapped into a purely male heterosexual fantasy, wags tapped into a heterosexual female fantasy.
we can see this with the meteoric rise in social media following of the new age wags. f1 drivers have always dated models and beautiful women, but now those women become famous and build a following off the men they're seen with. what used to be limited to paparazzi and the daily mail, now has hundreds and thousands of independent gossip pages who follow their every move, meticulously detail every outfit and brand they've worn, track their social media activity, even their personal relationships. f1 wags are now bigger than ever, they're parasocially obsessed over and hated on more than ever, every move watched and criticised or smothered in affection just for existing. I'm not here to moralize on celebrity worship culture idgaf, but all this online attention is currency and it is profitable. hence wags build their own careers off the curated, aspirational image of being a wag. of travelling all over the world to beautiful places, wearing beautiful outfits, having a (up to debate) beautiful man by your side -- and brands have certainly taken notice. hence the sponsorships, beauty and fashion brands and self care sponsors all vying to work with them from your rhode lipgloss to your alo matching set
now Liberty Media has seen the shift -- no longer reliant on their official female mascots of grid girls, it's the meticulously dressed, savvy, skinny, gorgeous wives and girlfriends who are the aspirational women on the grid. it's important to note hundreds of women have always worked at f1 races, on the grid as marshals, in hospitality, as team personnel, as engineers and strategists. but YAWN 🥱 bo-ring! everyone knows the most important people on the grid are the drivers and therefore the most important women are the ones at his side. and so Liberty Media pans the cameras on these women and their doe eyed worry/elation as their guy crosses the finish line. it's more frequent, more lingering, and voyeuristic in a way that invites you to inhabit their place in your mind -- what would that be like? after all, you viewer at home are similarly biting your nails watching your guy cross the finish line. in that moment she represents you.
it's ofc misogynistic to imply the aspiration of wags is just for women — the idea of the Hero taking his helmet off and kissing the swooning damsel is literally in bond movies and appeals to the conqueror/winner male fantasy.
but from a purely marketing standpoint, FOM benefits from putting these women in official unofficial spaces as part of the drivers' (and thus F1's new more sanitized, "inclusive" brand image). When the wags are invited to F1 Academy events to promote them, when they're invited to the official F1 movie that's just for the drivers' viewing as the plus one, when they're shown on DTS beside the drivers in their private lives, or a whole segment that's about Ginger Spice riding horses with her sex pest team principal husband, when they're in hospitality and the camera cuts to them every so often signalling to the you, the audience, are supposed to care about this story they're selling you. it's no longer the scantily clad 'girls' by the drivers' side to be ogled, it's the official dowager titled Wives and Girlfriends selling you the aspirational, western, heterosexual, wealthy, conventionally attractive family unit.
not here to cast any moral judgments on wag culture -- I enjoy looking at beautiful women who live such fundamentally different lives too, but rather looking critically at why the larger media complex behind f1 wants to sell you their personal relationships in the era where your attention is currency~
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