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showering is basically a magical girl transformation for the mentally ill
"You can't be a lurker on tumblr." Yes, you absolutely can. I've been quietly reblogging things since 2014 and I haven't interacted with anyone in years.
you do know that when jewish and romani people say ânever forgetâ we mean âlearn about the holocaust so you can recognize the warning signs of facism and genocideâ not ârepeatedly bring up the holocaust whenever anything bad happens and exploit our pain and trauma to make people care about your causeâ and when we say ânever againâ we mean âtake action to prevent any stage of genocide on any scale by any means, hold collaborators responsible and donât be complicitâ not âonly care about genocide when itâs too lateâ, right? or did you think it was just a fun catchphrase?
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Please fucking lie to your employer. Like they donât need to know your mental health issues or what drugs you do. Ffs
its not lying if its to employers or cops
and look up ur rights on what they can and cannot ask u many places ban asking about ur record and transportation status and things like that resources will also tell u how they reword sketchy questions so ur prepared
Hey. Take it from a former HR person⌠this goes double right now. I just spent some time putting in some job applications myself (not for HR, lol) and got about 15 interviews. And idk if itâs because of COVID uncertainty or if places just donât fucking care anymore because they know people are desperate for work, but the amount of straight up illegal shit my interviewers asked me was appalling. (Thatâs not even counting the questions that were technically legal but clearly fishing for information theyâre not legally allowed to ask.)
A tame example? Two questions into a phone interview, the guy on the other end of the line asked: âHow old are you?â I said âExcuse me?â - giving him a chance to rethink that. He didnât. âHow old are you?â âSir, you are not allowed to ask me that question.â âWell, I want to know. Iâm asking.â âAnd youâre legally not allowed to ask me that. Iâm not required to tell you my age.â At that point, I guess he managed to remember an old HR bulletin or something (I hope to god he wasnât actually HR himself), and he said, âWell, I need to know if youâre over the age of 18.â (Which is what he should have asked in the first place⌠or not, since that was in the application that he could have read.) âYes. Iâm over the age of 18.â And we moved on. Two questions later, he tried another illegal question. I called him on it again and ended the interview, citing that a workplace with such a clear disregard for the law, especially upon first contact with a potential employee, was not going to be a good fit. (They offered me the job anyway, lol. I didnât send a thank-you or a response.)
At a different interview, the majority of questions were âfishingâ questions - just looking for that info theyâre not actually allowed to ask. (This person was also either not really HR or an HR person who was exceptionally bad at their job.)
I could tell they were getting frustrated when I dodged answering the personal stuff, and they actually got extremely upset when I mentioned later in the interview (re: less relevant work experience) I had worked in HR. They were super flustered for the remainder of our time, and I watched them skip over questions on their sheet they had clearly planned on asking. They KNEW they were being sketchy and were counting on me not knowing anything about HR - or my rights - and so they got upset when I did. These were super tame examples. Iâm begging you, if youâre job searching right now, PLEASE know your rights. Please know what interviewers are allowed to ask. Please donât volunteer information or elaborate more than youâre required to about personal things. Save your words (and everyoneâs time) by elaborating why youâre good for the position/what you can do. I may create a resource list on this shit later but PLEASE PLEASE KNOW THIS STUFF BEFORE YOU TALK TO AN EMPLOYER. This goes for anywhere youâre interviewing as well as your current employer. This also goes for HR. HR may be the person you go to when shitty stuff happens, but that doesnât mean theyâre your friend (or competent). They donât need to know your age (beyond 16+, 18+, or 21+, depending on the job). They donât need to know your medical history. (For the love of god, do NOT answer the âhave you been diagnosed with depression?â question.) They donât need to know if you have kids or whatever. They donât need to know a LOT of those things that may appear on an application, including your veteran status, whether youâre on/have been on unemployment, etc. Theyâre not entitled to know specifics about your transportation (unless youâre using that transportation for the job, like Uber/delivery drivers). Look this up for your state/the jobâs state. Beware questions like âWhat year did you graduate?â if youâre like me and donât put dates on your resume (I just put amount of time spent at employers, not dates of employment). Theyâre fishing for your age. Itâs âOh, you know, 100 years ago,â if you feel comfortable making a joke, or âAbout [generic number, like 5 or 10] years agoâ if not. Also beware things like the âWhat do you do in your free time?â question, even if you already work there. This is not a friendly getting-to-know-you question. This is a basis for judgement. Not up to an invisible standard? Theyâre going to be biased against you for pay raises, promotions, etc. Mention kids/lots of family/social engagements? Thatâs a tick against you for not being the kind of person who lives to work (yes, itâs gross and stupid). Mention lots of solitary things? Cool, thatâs their mental note to ask more from you because youâre ânot doing anything anyway.â By all means, be friendly with your coworkers/talk about shared interests if you want, but it is none of your bossâs business, and be aware what could get back to them. Donât. Tell. Employers. Shit.
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
Iâve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you canât pay your bills
see if youâre paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when youâre sick
things to bring to a doctorâs appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctorâs appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Canât Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies Youâre Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When Iâm Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together⢠(mintypineapple  and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks Iâll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if youâre eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
iâm pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before youâre 30
whatâs the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once youâve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties â for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
Itâs common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didnât anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness â you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries â bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems â issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldnât leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Donât make a rash decision â consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget â donât forget to include âhiddenâ expenses such as the propertyâs security deposit or bond (usually four weeksâ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate â avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure youâre open to their point of view too â getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch â talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour â if your parents donât like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help â if things are becoming difficult, donât be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you canât call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Donât leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes âhiddenâ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.Â
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reblogging for those that follow me that may be starting to move out
some of these links donât seem to work properly (might be an issue with mobile tumblr though) but still worth rbing!!
Some tips on eating as a poor person that arenât âlive on dry beans and rice that take time and effort to makeâ
Food Banks Exist For YOU!! I donât need one anymore but am so thankful for them. You may hesitate to go to them bc you donât think you need it as badly as others⌠but from someone who spent years with their dad going to several, the food is there and they want to help. It isnât embarrassing; the people who volunteer are doing it for a reason, and ime treat you as a shopper, not a charity case. There are sites to find food banks. If you go to one, they usually have pamphlets for all the ones in the area. We never had to prove income or anything like that. They want to help, I promise.
If thereâs a local farmerâs market, check to see if they have a subsidy program for people on food stamps. Another thing my dad and I used. At two separate markets 5 hrs apart, both had a program where you could DOUBLE your food stamp money in farmerâs market coupons. Healthy, fresh, local, ethically raised food for less than the grocery store
If you go to a store more than once in a blue moon get the discount/membership/whatever card. Itâs usually super easy and almost always saves you a LOT of money
When in a supermarket, look at price per ounce if comparing items. Do not look at total price vs visual package size. Companies are experts at packing less and less food into larger packages. Grocery stores with a price per oz on the tags are so so helpful, but if they donât, sometimes it honestly makes a difference to use your phone calculator
CHECK IF YOU HAVE AN ALDI IN YOUR AREA. They sell actual seriously good, usually healthy food way cheaper than crappy stuff at other stores. This is for a lot of reasons I wonât get into. But, itâs also just a more ethical system for their workers, who make well above minimum wage. Aldi is Life. Tip: if you donât have reusable bags, keep an eye out for empty boxes as you shop. They donât bag anything for you.
BIG LOTS or other similar clearance/discount stores. They get an ever-changing stock of things at deep discounts. Lots of nice luxury and/or healthy groceries at half price as well as your normal staples. Also my go-to for home items and pet supplies
Shop Sales. This one is obvious to some but others just arenât in the habit. I almost exclusively buy things on sales where I save at least 1/3, usually ½. You can have a fully stocked pantry and freezer and spend half as much as if you only buy things when you want to eat that particular thing. It does mean less fresh food, but y'know. Just develop a laser eye for a sale tag and know where the clearance section is. Second nature to people who grew up poor but I was amazed shopping with college friends who bought full price name brand food and had trouble paying rent
I havenât done this but my brother swears by it. He went in with a few friends on a communal Costco membership. Could also do this with Samâs Club. They shop together, and then split bulk items if thereâs a great deal on something one person couldnât eat on their own. Bulk is the way to go if you can find a way to have the up-front cash. Impossible for many which is why the communal thing is so genius!
If this helps even one person it was worth writing out! Iâve realized last year, I learned a Lot growing up under the poverty line. It doesnât just appear in your brain when youâre 22 and canât pay your bills for the first time.
Please feel free to add other tips if you have them. Just donât shame people for eating what they choose to eat like those âvegan dollar cookbooksâ or whatever.
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