Being Trans and not transitioned is horrible

A blog dedicated to reblogs about being a transman unable to transition in today’s world Transmedicalist; He/him only please

[thattransguy1326]

A Thought that Occured to Me

No one in my life is ever going to help me transition. I’m going to have to learn how to rely on myself if I ever wait to be who I am. Because the people in my life would rather have a miserable daughter, sister, and friend than a happy son, brother, and friend. So, in 2019....f**k them. I have passed my threshold of giving a f**k about what they think of me, and I’m going to live authentically. I can’t keep my own fire weak by taking from my kindling to feed the flames of others who do not support me. Yea.... this is super ranting for me, but I just don’t care at the moment.

[thealexarlert]

THIS is why all of you transtrenders are hurting actual trans people !!!! PLEASE listen to this.

[thattransguy1326]

Thank you. Excellently Explained.

[thattransguy1326]

A thought on a certain transmed idea

Ok, I have been hearing this idea floating around a lot, and I wanted to address it. “If you have your chest out (not binding), you are not trans.” This is such a problematic idea. This really excludes and degrades trans men who 1. Can’t bind due to a medical condition like back problems or severe lung impairments (like me) or 2. People without the resources or support available to bind. This doesn’t make the person less of a man. I am no less of a man because wearing a binder could kill me, and I am choosing to preserve my already low breathing capacity by wearing tight sports bras and covering up instead. The man who can’t afford a binder or isn’t able to get one because of family reasons is still a man. Consider this before calling someone a fake trans person.

Edit: This isn’t including “transmen” who can bind, but choose not to, and display their chests. While I don’t have any right to judge anyone, that seems weird to me, personally, to want to be a boy but have an actively visible chest.

[thattransguy1326]

Dysphoria thought #4

Those days when you can’t even get out of bed because it is all just too much, so you sleep 24+ hours, but it doesn’t make you feel any less tired because the fatigue is not physical.

[empermoth]

Every breath a trans person takes is an act of revolution …So keep breathing

Short one page comic to help remind you to breathe even when you feel like you’re suffocating.

[thattransguy1326]

Beautiful art for those moments when you feel like you’re drowning in dysphoria and stress

[coderedcody]

Post top surgery bucket list:

-go swimming shirtless

-walk around the house with no top on

-donate my binder

-breathe easy

-fix my posture

-workout/ do chores shirtless

-wear whatever I like 

-get tan everywhere in the summer

-take douchey selfies

-change my shirt anywhere

-go to sleep with no shirt on

-walk out of the shower with just a towel on

etc. etc. etc.

[thattransguy1326]

Life goals...

[tiredfemininity]

before you leave your house. ftm checklist.

- Can you breathe in your binder?

- Do you have a sports bra with you for the emergency?

- Phone charger?

- Water?

- Lunch (school/work)

- Money?

- ID?

and now something special.

you look so handsome today. i am honored to walk the same earth with such an attractive young man. i hope you have a good day.

[thattransguy1326]

This. I need this.

[turgidscum]

fun dysphoria things:

- not showering for a week because you’d rather be filthy than see yourself naked

- sobbing in the bathroom at school after you bleed through your new boxers

- being completely unable to do anything because cramps and dysphoria are kicking the shit out of you

feel free to add on. today has sucked ass.

[thattransguy1326]

This is college life alright. Especially the first one during finals and shark week, when the stress is already high, added to dysphoria bomb.

[thattransguy1326]

Dysphoria thoughts #3

When dysphoria prevents you from getting a shower because you just can’t bare to see yourself.

[thattransguy1326]

Dysphoria thoughts #2

When your dysphoria isn’t too bad that day, then it hits you like a ton of bricks and you NEED to bind immediately even though it is super painful.

[thattransguy1326]

Dysphoria thoughts #1

That moment of dread when you know you have to get dressed to go somewhere, but you have to be surrounded by people who you are either closeted to, or don’t respect you at all, and you have to wear a bra instead of a binder, so you just stay home instead, despite having been home for 2 weeks straight.

[a-wild-transmed-has-appeared]

Honestly it would be so much easier to be cis and straight

[thattransguy1326]

Yep. It sure would be. Too bad that isn’t my reality.

[arguingtumbleruser]

Lovely reminder to trans guys

- Do not double bind!! It is so harmful for your body and aside from the immediate dangers it poses to your body, double binding can cause tissue damage in your chest that makes for bad top surgery results (in some cases, top surgery is difficult or impossible)

- Do not bind for more than *6 hours*. Most ppl say 8, I say 6 just to be sure. Try to take breaks in between if you can. Stretching, deep breathing, and taking off your binder for a moment are all good practices. I know dysphoria is hell and you never want to take it off, but the pain now is worth a life time with your flat chest later.

- Do not swim in your binder. Do not put on your binder while you (or the binder) are still wet. A wet binder is a bad binder.

- Summer is here and binding can be extra difficult and uncomfortable. Take even more breaks, drink tons of water and LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. If it feels tight or uncomfortable TAKE IT OFF!!!

- Wash your binder regularly, especially in these hot months. A clean binder is a good binder.

Stay safe.

[thattransguy1326]

Things to Remember

[tradgothwillbyers]

dysphoria: no one will ever love you cause you’re not cis ://

me:

[thattransguy1326]

Jokes on you, nice people. People in my life say the same thing....

Oh wait...

That’s just depressing...

[laminated-shamwows]

some days its real bad

[starlightandsunflowers]

I spent too long on this shitty meme

[thattransguy1326]

I’m certain that the people who have to be around me on a daily basis would agree.

[thisboyinabinder]

A PSA to people who interact with any Trans men.

DO NOT CALL  US CUTE, BEAUTIFUL, OR PRETTY

It isn’t because we don‘t want the compliments! Compliments can be one of the best dysphoria helpers!

BUT PLEASE DON’T USE FEMININE TERMS

This is a serious trigger a lot of the time, it makes us feel emasculated or girly and that can only hurt or make us feel fake.

We work a lot of the time just to look anything but pretty.

We want to feel handsome, or like a guy. And yeah! You might call a cis guy pretty or cute, but for us it’s a different story.  We’ve most likely spent most of our lives having to hear our parents say,  “You’re such a pretty girl!” or “Aw sweetie that looks absolutely adorable on you!” 

So please. Whenever you want to compliment a dysphoric trans guy, please don’t remind us of that.

[thattransguy1326]

AGREED. I hate being called “cute.” I’m not a flowery child. I am a grown ass man for goodness sake.