There And Nap Again- A Fibro Tale.

Fibro. Psoriatic Arthritis. Tattoos. A fair whack of nonsense. Procrastinator, supporter of the oxford comma, and all-round good guy☀️

[alwaysbewoke]

these motherfuckers don’t deserve any pussy. fuck their dumb asses. ladies, when a guy asks you out and suggests a place to go, ALWAYS suggest another place to see if his ass is some lame pua wannabe. fellas, stop being a bunch of insecure pussies. this ISN’T how you prove yourselves to be alphas. smfh. real men know when to flex and when to chill, this was a fucking “chill” moment and he blew trying to be “alpha.” dumbass.

“do not tolerate disagreement” wtf?!?! some of you motherfuckers want a fucking dog NOT a woman. 

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Don’t give men a pass. These are real men. This is a man problem. This guy’s honest about wanting a doormat because he’s too stupid and undeservedly confident to realize how laughable and pathetic he is and comes off as. But plenty of men who are much smoother, who show you a good time, turn out to want exactly what this guy says: submission, sex, and undeserved gratitude for his existence.

[gcdk]

I’ve read some of this stuff and it’s like NLP for incels basically. It’s easy to find.

A few examples:

Constantly move her around, each time she follows you build compliance

Ask for little things, which again builds compliance

Get lots of little yeses in a row to make it harder for her to say no

Location - make it easier for her to come back to yours than get home (eg drive her somewhere)

Talk her into selling herself, once she is in the mindset of demonstrating her value she will retrospectively believe she must have done it because you are high value

Deep dive - basically show interest in her as a person, but in a laid back way so she thinks you’re both interested but not amazed

As soon as she fails to comply, ruin the moment completely and “snap out of it” then try again to escalate to sex (so she will comply so as not to ruin things again)

Use female friends to look popular and well-adjusted so she doesn’t see you as a threat, then basically act as a threat now she has talked herself out of being scared of you

Don’t have conversations by text or phone, just use it to get her to meet you alone

I suggest straight women read as much of this stuff as they can, it’s obviously effective because it’s psychological manipulation. Some men are naturally good at this stuff, some pay for “courses” in it… Some become Elliott Rodger.

[whoopsiedaizies]

No. Just no. If he feels emasculated by change in venue then he is not the man for you. If he uses any of these PUA tactics on you, just walk away. Treat each other like people. Why is that so fuckin hard?!?

[artifactseeker-myr99]

PUA = “Pick-Up Artistry”

NLP = Neuro-Linguistic Programming

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

This is horrible and gross to read. But as a survivor of emotional manipulation, emotional and sexual abuse myself, I feel this needs to be spread.

Please stay save.

[flowisaconstruct-deactivated202]

The most confusing advice I see is “use female friends to seem popular and well adjusted”. Where is someone who behaves like this going to find female friends?

[weavemama]

daily reminder that there is absolutely nothing normal about being expected to waste a majority of your life at a corporation to survive instead of indulging in better life experiences ✨

[ralfmaximus]

In the 1960s it was a common speculation that by 1980 the typical work week would consist of 4 days. And by the year 2000 we’d be working no more than 3 days a week.

Because of computerization, automation, and better efficiencies in workflow.

Guess what happened instead?

[yeahiwasintheshit]

[alexbam]

[french-verbz]

Well now I can correctly moonwalk away from uncomfortable situations

[timecouldnever]

Because everyone deserves to know how to do a mean moonwalk.

[whosfuckingbad]

guYS THIS IS IMPORTANT

[bisexuanal]

I definitely reblogged this sitting down not getting up to do the moonwalk at all

[musical-theatre-shitposts]

I spent a full 30 minutes teaching myself how to do this

[lovelybutnot-ablankcanvas]

i agree completely with @biwitched 

[piplore]

It’s that time of year again when I make this hill and die on it. 

[incorrectgreekgods]

the horse really is in the hospital now

[pollysarcastic]

[ohifonlyx33]

absolute mad lads

[ginger-ale-official]

Throckmorten is that you?

[doebunnybooks]

Boys will be boys

[wiselwisel]

Las leyes de la física son inquebrantables.

[katchwreck]

[volcaniclastic]

oh my goodness will you look at the time

[in3ffable-husbands-deactivated2]

[the-real-mystic-melody]

my name is Appa

to lern to bend

a man has com

to teech my frend

hes traveld far

and needs a rinse

to cleen him up

i lik the prince.

[amor-ascetico]

[tremblingadored]

Corsican vendetta knife with floral detail

“may all your wounds be mortal”

[riotnsurf]

@slavicafire

[thedailyshow]

[analogicisms]

Yeah. Exactly.

Wow. Just wow. They all walked right into that… shoved their foot’s so far into their mouths they’re gagging on them.

[bisexualsforprompto]

I normally don’t reblog politics but this? This is ridiculous

[lassoway]

community, episode one: an ex-lawyer is forced to return to community college to get a degree

community, episode thirty one: it’s halloween and there’s a zombie apocalypse on campus set to the soundtrack of abba’s greatest hits

[turningvioletviolet]

As a certified fan of 2000s pop punk, I can most definitely vouch for the accuracy of this review.

[chronicillnessmemes]

Dependency does not equal addiction.

My mom has to take thyroid medication and will have to take it for the rest of her life.  Because her body will not function without it.

That is not addiction, that is dependency.

I am on Lyrica for my Fibro.  If I stop taking it for even 24 hours, I will experience massive withdrawals that could cause seizures and even death.  (And I’ve had to go off it suddenly 3 different times.  Thanks USA HEALTHCARE!)

That is not addiction, that is dependency.

If you take your pills as prescribed, you are not an addict.  Most medications cause withdrawals when you stop taking them because your body has become dependent on them to function normally.  That also doesn’t make you an addict.

If you can’t understand the distinction, refrain from speaking about it until you do.  Or at least don’t do it around me.

[mankillercalledbunny]

I know this is aimed at people who pull the “all drugs are bad drugs” etc bullshit but this is also a really reassuring distinction for someone who might be on/going on regular medication for functioning and, like many of us, had the shit scared out of us about drug use as kids

[chronicillnessmemes]

Nope this post is actually aimed at all of us who are on medications and have to fight tooth and nail to stay on them because even our doctors don’t understand the difference between dependence and addiction!

It was specifically geared toward me about my anxiety meds.  I needed to remind myself that I am taking them as directed and therefore not abusing them.

So I am glad that you do feel relieved.  Don’t get me wrong I detest those “all drugs are bad” people.  But we’re never going to sway them.  Hopefully though I can help reassure those of us who never stop hearing this same rhetoric about what is and is not addictive.

(It may also have been to help educate those who still have to fight their doctors so they can understand and explain the difference as well, if I’m being honest.)

[tropicallove-forever]

the best way i can really put it is that addiction is when you’re dependent on something, but the dependency leads to detriment and an overall worse quality of life, particularly when it comes to emotional and psychological health.

[chronicillnessmemes]

I’m sorry I am going to have to respectfully disagree.  The whole point of this post is a callout to stop conflating dependency with addiction. 

So when you even use the word dependent in your definition of addiction you are still touting the line that all people who take meds must be wary lest they become addicted and that’s simply not true.

In this case, with prescription meds, it is not the meds themselves that are the issue.  It is the behaviors of the people taking the medications. And we need to stop demonizing FDA approved medications.  It’s just wrong.

I appreciate what you are trying to say.  But my goal is to totally and completely divorce the terms dependency and addiction.  I believe that neither should be used in relation to the other as it adds to the stigma of taking prescription medications that have high rates of dependency.

(Not to mention that even medical professionals are now confused as to the difference and it adds to the false panic of some sort of new addiction epidemic.)

I hope you understand what I am trying to say.

[jaidskywalker]

Just a quick (and hopefully helpful) note - for a prescribed medication that is needed for health, you should avoid the term “withdrawal” to describe what happens when you are off your meds. Withdrawal specifically has to do with addiction symptoms and the ideal outcome is that you get through it and are no longer dependent on what caused it. 

The appropriate term is “discontinuation symptoms” because the ideal is that you get back onto your medication so that your health improves. 

It’s weird the difference a few words can make and it was a big adjustment for me personally but it has helped define the difference between addiction and dependency for the people around me. 

[chronicillnessmemes]

Well the Mayo Clinic says you’re wrong.  So no.  In fact one of the first articles on their website is about withdrawals from anti-depressents. (https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/expert-answers/antidepressant-withdrawal/faq-20058133)

I’m not even going to search further than that because those are recognized medical experts speaking about medications that they do not consider addictions.  

But this is what I’m talking about.  We need to stop taking everything associated with prescription medication usage and applying it immediately to addictions.

We need to take back the proper terminology and demand that our doctors do too, instead of capitulating to alarmist trends.

So again I say, stop conflating the terms dependency and addiction.  Stop stealing our vocabulary and making us afraid of our own meds.

Please and Thank you.

[clockworkcrow]

Yeah no, I’m in a clinical psychology PhD program, literally just had a lecture on withdrawal. Withdrawal is the term for the negative symptoms (usually the inverse of whatever you were taking the drug for) that occur after you are dependent on a drug and discontinue it, regardless of whether or not you’re addicted. It applies to prescribed meds and recreational drugs equally.  Like, a basic Wikipedia search would have told you that.

I’m tired and it’s complicated, but here’s a quick (well actually kind of long despite simplifying a ton, bold for most important points) rundown:

When you take a drug repeatedly, your body may adapt to it in various ways. It may change your metabolic response (become more efficient at flushing it out of your system), or your sensitivity to the drug might change. For example, if you take a drug that increases the dopamine in your system, your brain may go, “Wow, look at all this dopamine, we’re set for life!” Then, it reduces the number of receptors in the brain that will react to dopamine. Just having the dopamine in there isn’t enough: it needs to have receptors to bind to if you want to see any effect. So fewer receptors = less effect from the dopamine.

This is okay when there’s all that extra dopamine in the system–even though there’s fewer receptors, there’s a constant enough flow of dopamine that it doesn’t cause a problem (though sometimes it does–that’s when we start getting into drug tolerance, but I’m just talking about withdrawal here). But if you stop taking the drug, suddenly you have less dopamine AND fewer receptors. So now you’re even worse off than you were when you started the drug. Your body will adapt to the new “normal” eventually, but for a while you’re screwed. This can happen whether the drug is helpful or harmful to you, and whether you’re addicted or not. I’ve had withdrawal symptoms on meds that were not helpful to me, for which the goal was not to get back on them. 

We used to think withdrawal was the central component in addiction, but modern theories really don’t think that’s the case. Cocaine, for example, generally has much milder physical withdrawal symptoms than heroin, but it’s considered equally addictive. Currently, the most prominent model of addiction focuses on the ways in which drug use interferes with your reward pathway. Addiction reduces your pleasure and interest in other things in your life, while simultaneously increasing your motivation to seek drugs or drug-related stimuli. Crucially, this can occur with more than just drugs. Gambling addictions exist, and there are no physical withdrawal symptoms associated with quitting gambling cold turkey. Further, addiction can persist even after physical dependence is completely gone. People can relapse years after becoming sober, because the changes to their reward pathways remain even though they aren’t dependent on the drug.

So no, addiction isn’t about dependence. Many people struggling with addiction may be dependent on their drugs, but that’s not why they’re addicted. Dependency doesn’t lead to addiction. Alterations in the reward pathway do. Drugs can cause both, but that doesn’t mean that one leads to the other. The vast majority of people taking “addictive” substances do not become addicted, even if they’re dependent. Being dependent on your drug does not mean you need to worry about becoming addicted. Now, if you’re starting to lose interest in other things in your life in favor of your drug, or if your behavior on the drug is causing significant problems in your personal or professional life? It might be good to stop in and see a mental health professional about that. But if your drugs are improving your life, then by definition you aren’t addicted to them. The problem isn’t dependence, it’s destroying your life in order to get the drug, because nothing else matters. Chronically ill people take drugs because our lives matter, and we want to be better so that we can actually enjoy them. It’s pretty much the opposite of addiction.

[rob-walks-deactivated20210614]

[catsuggest]

Cat help! Things are really going downhill lately, and I'm scared. Share some of your happiness with me pls

pls donot worry as your message have awoken somebody ...

[catsuggest]

" a whot ? a scared ? " asks cousin bartók. " unacceptabule ! im will devour it immediotely ! "

[catsuggest]

cousin bartók croushe the fear with a mighté blep to end all bad feelinge ! youm will be ok forever now .

[hatefuckingunconditional]

am i the only one who feels like i don’t even have my own personality? I just pick up traits and behaviors from people i admire and idolize and smash it all into one huge ass mess. And that shit changes weekly at this point.