Well fuck.

31. From New Zealand. Living with chronic pain, PTSD, & ADHD. Queer & married. Tattooed and pierced. NSFL. Feel free to yarn to me about anything :)

[mournfulroses]

Anne Sexton, from a poem titled "Loving The Killer," featured in The Complete Poems of Anne Sexton

[solarprominence]

I maintain that the best summation of my feminist beliefs are that men and women are not fundamentally different. There are a few quantifiable differences if you average out every woman and every man, but they are not qualitative. And most of them are socially constructed, and would be fixed if we started treating men and women the same. Neither is inherently smarter, neither is inherently kinder, neither is inherently more stoic or stronger or angrier or softer. Everyone is obsessed with the differences between women and men, with finding them and creating them and distancing themselves from the "other half". It's fucked up

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Who wants to hear a DIY tiling pro tip that the experts won't tell you

[hazelriver74]

Yes!

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Do not drop your phone into the bucket of tile adhesive. This step is actually completely unnecessary and massively complicates the tiling process.

[fueles]

You say this but my uncle is a tiler and he swears by the “drop phone in putty bucket” technique. I think you’re just posting this for clout

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Your uncle is caught up in a tradition that he was taught as an apprentice that he never questioned. Modern putty doesn't require phone, the formula has changed.

[perfectly-disfigured]

MY uncle says some customers still demand the phone putty technique because it "doesn't look right otherwise"

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Drop an empty phone case in and those customers can't tell the fucking difference because there is no fucking difference.

[lithiumdoll]

My mum renovated houses for thirty years, she says “you’re half right, but in some cases - particularly in houses built before 1930 - the phone does add some benefit. Could be a tablet too if you’ve an old one in the garage. And anyone who says it’s got to be a particular model is just being precious about it, whatever the forums say.”

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Who wants to hear a DIY tiling pro tip that the experts won't tell you

[hazelriver74]

Yes!

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Do not drop your phone into the bucket of tile adhesive. This step is actually completely unnecessary and massively complicates the tiling process.

[fueles]

You say this but my uncle is a tiler and he swears by the “drop phone in putty bucket” technique. I think you’re just posting this for clout

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Your uncle is caught up in a tradition that he was taught as an apprentice that he never questioned. Modern putty doesn't require phone, the formula has changed.

[perfectly-disfigured]

MY uncle says some customers still demand the phone putty technique because it "doesn't look right otherwise"

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Drop an empty phone case in and those customers can't tell the fucking difference because there is no fucking difference.

[lithiumdoll]

My mum renovated houses for thirty years, she says “you’re half right, but in some cases - particularly in houses built before 1930 - the phone does add some benefit. Could be a tablet too if you’ve an old one in the garage. And anyone who says it’s got to be a particular model is just being precious about it, whatever the forums say.”

[bumblebeebats]

so i hauve covid rn and i must say, American cold medicine is the absolute bees knees. You go to a UK pharmacy and they tenderly press like eight (8) paracetamol into the palm of your hand... God FORBID you're sick in France, i had to scour every pharmacy in Paris for something that wasn't HOMEOPATHIC PASTILLES. meanwhile last night i took the last of my stash of Nyquil that expired in 2019 and it was like getting hit by a fucking baseball bat (affectionate). press X to timeskip. LOVE me a cheeky little medically induced coma. you can really feel that it's a precursor to meth. i know that everything is fucking awful over there my friedns and my heart goes out to every one of you but if you need one small bright light of national pride in this time of strife please know that i envy you your cold medicine every day

[slowspinningredemption]

i once took an american antihistamine pill just a basic one for seasonal allergies and i had to immediately lay down and while doing so i vividly hallucinated that i was a steerage passenger on the titanic resigned to my death as my cabin filled up rapidly with water. then i blacked out and when i woke up again my allergies were gone for the entire season.

[acakewalkofcrocodiles]

The Hat Man is our greatest export

[hateusandseeifwemind]

[pinene]

Can anyone explain wtf is going on here especially a Korean speaker

[tadeadshihamurder]

someone on reddit explained 😭

[no-one-offical]

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[desmolbean404]

That is one of the most astronomical fuck up translations I have ever seen.

[depsidase]

[gendercensus]

The 2026 Gender Census is now open!

[ survey.gendercensus.com ]

The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

PS: You can see some regularly-updated statistics about incoming data here, with lots of demography and graphs to peruse!

[gendercensus]

Day 3, Wednesday 15th July 2026

We just hit 12,000 responses! 😁🎉

This is a few thousand fewer than usual by this stage, and I'm not sad about it because 12,000 is SO MANY. I do have some theories.

I have been busy! I have had some important life admin, and also I've been trying to give more time to social stuff during the Gender Census just to avoid the hyperfocus downsides.

The new survey provider (Tally) is an LLM-filled façade of work displacement that I've had to pour my scarce time and energy into mitigating after the point-of-no-return and I'm a bit worried about the fallout regarding data quality and also quantity.

Bit stressed about that second one!!!!

BUT the survey is going, and as always the responses are epic and fascinating, and the more the merrier. I am hoping that I've run into all the problems I'm going to run into and done everything I can about them, and now I will be free to concentrate on promotion again.

All of your help with promotion is very much appreciated! Here is the end-of-survey page with all the social sharing links and whatnot. Remember that person last year who put a QR code in a queer venue's unisex toilet? Let's bring that energy, folks. Surprise me!!!

[ Take part in the 2026 Gender Census before 13th August 2026 ]

[depsidase]

[maidslime]

Ok like. Imagine life without ads. You wake up, check your messages across a variety of apps, no ads. You get up and put on the tv while you prep your breakfast, no ads. Maybe you drive somewhere and switch on the radio, no ads. Maybe you drive a long distance, yet somehow, not a single billboard on your path. You pick up a newspaper or magazine to pass the time, no advertisements only articles. You turn on your game console, the home screen is just about your games, no ads to buy more. You open a streaming app, you don't pay extra for no ads, there's just no ads ever.

Think about how much of your time is spent looking at ads. "Download ublock" yeah I know, I have. But that doesn't change that the world is covered with endless advertising. Imagine never seeing that again. How much better our lives would be.

[infertilityidol]

[paverics]

“my father is a boy and my mother is a girl so i’m mixed” is the funniest possible response to someone asking your gender and it came from 6’5 Viking footballer and notable weird little guy Erling Haaland on a Snapchat

[paverics]

comedians can only dream of writing something this funny

[expressions-of-nature]

by Zhou Hong

[petmotel]

luv

[depsidase]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

First humans ever to leave the solar system suddenly drop out of communications and the ship can't be found with any equipment. After one month of no contact their home countries start reluctantly holding funerals for the space heroes only for them all to turn up, healthy, well fed and extremely disoriented, in the middle of Tokyo, talking about alien abduction. Turns out that aliens found the poor humans straying out of their solar system, presumably lost, and took them to Alien Wildlife Rehabilitation before dumping them back in the middle of their native habitat.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

#bonus points if none if the crew are Japanese#aliens just dropped where they thought was best

I literally just googled "city with the highest population"

[marlynnofmany]

I’ll bet they have cool new tattoos that turn out to be tracking devices too. Just in case these spirited individuals try to make another break for it.

[teal-deer]

... do the tats make them stupid popular, like that time scientists gave birds tracker anklets and it accidentally made them ultra fuckable

[marlynnofmany]

Let’s say yes. Those alien scientists are learning so much, and none of it is accurate.

[im-not-trash-im-compost]

important to note that wildlife rehabbers dont just go around grabbing animals they think need to be somewhere else. If they did that then that would interfere with how a local popupation might be moving or expanding its habitat.

Wildlife rehabbers only grab animals that are hurt in some way or are in danger of being hurt because they are living where a human does not want them (such as removing a racoon from an attic), or might even be a health hazard for the human...

So... what this implies is that the original spaceship either suffered a malfuncrion and the aliens - noticing how the little ship with the migrating apes on it was suddenly breaking down - swooped in to take care of them and restore them to full health before returning them to their home planet and a popluar human colony.......

OR

The ship was encroaching on the territory of something far more dangerous

[hidesinthedark]

I think it would be funny if the "something far more dangerous" was just, like, giant space ships.

It turns out, the milky way is like some kind of protected reserve or park, and as soon as people left it they wandered on to the space version of a busy highway, and their space ship was so small and slow that they had to be picked up and moved like a turtle that decided to cross the road.

The sympathetic aliens rescuing them originally wanted to send them in the direction they were headed and let them keep going (like you should with turtles), but discovered they were very, very, far away from any habitat they could survive in, and so took them to the Alien Wildlife Rehab, who just gave them all a short checkup and returned them to the nearest place where humans could be found.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

[the-punforgiven]

Strip poker at the knights order sucks ass this shit takes forever and we're running out of space on the table

Guy next to me took off one bessagew and you can't even see their face but you can feel their smug-ass grin beneath it

[loth-caatgirl]