delightfully disagreeable

[whitepeopletwitter]

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

don’t push away good things and people thinking you don’t deserve them.

[betterhoesandgardens-deactivate]

Sushis and Sashimis

I don’t know why this is stupid funny to me

[smouldered]

self care is creating a life you don’t routinely have to escape from

[mentalhealthscribbles]

Hey, you, no matter what your intrusive thoughts are saying, you are a good person. You are not bad, or wrong. Nothing bad is going to happen because of you. Everything is okay.

[britp0p-deactivated20210628]

if you can’t control it, it’s okay to put it down. it’s okay to say, “hey, i’ve done all i can do,” and take a break

[hungwy]

bucket list:

[x] fuck

[ ] build castle in minecraft

after this list is completed my trachea will collapse and ill die

[terrapincentury-deactivated2018]

I WANNA DO BOTH AT THE SAME TIME WAHOO!! I LOVE MINECRAFT SOSOSSOO MUCH WAHOO!!! and to be held is to be treasured …

[hungwy]

you’re right

[pastelparrotlet]

Sometimes you have to just treat yourself like an overtired toddler.

“Okay, as soon as you finish this assignment you can take a little nap.”

“You just cleaned your room, good job!”

“Hmm..maybe eating a snack will stop you from wanting to cry.”

[cutlerydeficient]

Sometimes? I think you mean all of the time.

[friendraichu]

Being an adult is just parenting yourself.

[rynnay]

It’s true and highly effective self care. Speak to and treat yourself with the same love and care you would want your child self to be given.

That means: no insults or name calling. No judgement. Patience. Gentle firmness. Health, safety and happiness first. Encouragement. Rewards and validation for a job well done. Self soothing. And above all else, love. 

[thepersonalquotes]

[self-healing]

forgive yourself for the stagnancy that was produced from your depression

[sensitivesuggestion]

types of healthy coping skills

1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense 

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 

*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor. 

[exceptionalcelestial]

oftentimes when you look back on media you enjoyed as a child it's like hello why did they let a 14 year old fight a dragon? but star wars holds up. luke is 19. his reaction to losing his whole family is to say "alright, let's do this. I'm gonna learn to meditate and hire a sexy drug dealer and his friend who's a furry to be my uber across the galaxy so I can blow up a fascist government" that's something only a 19 y/o would do

[harmony-is-happiness]

[systlin]

If you want a laugh, incidentally, go read 16th century sources of straight cis dudes describing the clitoris, and it being incredibly evident that they have no fucking clue what it is or what it’s for.

I feel so bad for all their wives.

[symphonyofmars]

@systlin please share the link. I wouldn’t even begin to know where to find that

[systlin]

1545, Charles Estienne, De dissectione partium corporis humani libri tres, a work compiled by dissecting cadavers, where he ID’s the clit as part of the urinary system. 

(After this came out, Realdo Columo, a surgeon and professor in Italy who ABSOLUTELY went down on his wife now and then, ridiculed Estienne. Credit where credit is due; he published De re anatomica, in which he calls the clit “The secret of women’s delights” and “Since no one has discerned these projections and their workings, if it is permissible to give names to things discovered by me, it should be called the love or sweetness of Venus.“ 

This was generally ridiculed by other dudes of the time, and Andreas Vesalius wrote “It is unreasonable to blame others for incompetence on the basis of some sport of nature you have observed in some women and you can hardly ascribe this new and useless part, as if it were an organ, to healthy women. I think that such a structure appears in hermaphrodites who otherwise have well formed genitals, as Paul of Aegina describes, but I have never once seen in any woman a penis (which Avicenna called albaratha and the Greeks called an enlarged nympha and classed as an illness) or even the rudiments of a tiny phallus.”

I’m taking this to mean that he never ever gave his wife oral.

There’s records of it being found by witch-hunters when examining people, and them taking this “clearly unnatural protuberance” to indicate that the person they were about to hang was absolutely a witch, and makes me weep for Protestant clit-havers of the 16th century.

Not pictured; People with clits since forever going “Oh my god you useless sacks of fuck.”

[darlingghoul]

“some sport of nature” just 16th century gal pal things

[systlin]

I was just gonna say, meanwhile, wlw throughout history were like “Y’all are fucking pathetic.”

Sappho damn well what was up with the clit, while her straight male contemporaries were like “What is this? A sad penis? I have never seen this before in my life” is all I’m fuckin saying

I figure any dudes who could find the clit were too busy sexually satisfying their wives or girlfriends or both to write medical works on ‘what could this strange thing be’

[theirrationalfan]

Sixteenth century medical shitheads: What is this….sad penis?

Realdo Columo, hair disheveled and fresh from eating his wife out: makes Respect Women Juice

[systlin]

The face of a man who can find the clit

[mjalti]

[mydevilishdisgrace]

[valtsv]

im reading about cowboy phrases and sayings and like 95% of them are just solid life advice

[valtsv]

like idk how accurate these are but somehow they manage to be both peak shitposting humor and genuinely helpful suggestions

[valtsv]

fuck self-help books and therapy, all i need to make it in life is my trusty Cowboy Tips™