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[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Hey, so idk anyone around that can give better advice, but I’m a single mom who likes the thought of fictional men but can literally not see myself being with a man long term, disturbing my peace and whatnot, just luck I get to have a baby before realizing. But, I think about being with a wonderful woman and I could even get married. I feel so old (26) asking for help, hell, even my first puberty experience was stealing my dads sports illustrated and reading lesbian fanfics. Man, I just don’t know how to meet potential partners without being judged for never being able to explore myself. I guess, any sort of advice is more than welcome 💖

Hello my dear! First of all its NEVER too late to change your mind! If you're looking to enter the dating scene and are unsure, be transparent about that! If someone doesn't like that you're exploring than they might not the right person for you right now.Take your time and ease your way into meeting new people if you're nervous. Look for lgbt+ spaces in your community and introduce yourself (it's not all bars and clubs I promise). Be fearless with a healthy dose of caution and remember to have fun! Labels can be secondary to feeling. So maybe figure out how you feel through self discovery and experience THEN worry about labels ❤️ Thank you my dear anon and I hope this helped!

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

gold star lesbian is a very stupid term rooted in biphobia and honestly transphobia. i also feel like it’s just a weird thing to ask someone, isn’t it? like weirdly up in someone’s personal business…

anyway i’m giving you a gold star, not for who you have or havent slept with, but because being a lesbian is just awesome 🥰

Thank you so much 🌟 YOU deserve a gold star too my dear.

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

And hope are you on this beautiful day you amazing soul. I love your mind and how you present your responses to questions. Keep up the good work. Sexyness!!!! 💋anon

I'm going to cry and then cry some more 🥲 Thank you beloved 💖

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

Hi my dear! To be honest I didn't know what this meant thank you for the definition. To be a bit vulnerable I've never had any strong intimate feelings towards a man before and have never had sex with one! But I don't feel that if you have had sex with a man that that makes you any less of a lesbian. ❤️

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Don't you think it's time to get cultured?

I think I'm getting there... but then I'd have to change my name o.o

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Wait this blog is dead????

I shouldn't have sent anything…

Oh dear...I'm so sorry for making you wait! I sincerely apologize and I hope that as I go through this huge backlog of asks, I get to yours! But please ask again if you can

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

AFTER BEING GONE FOR SO LONG. I'm finally ready to return. I've done so much research and reading and the world has changed so greatly, I felt like I needed to change along with it! I'm happy to be back tumblr. That is, if youll have me!

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

*Awakens from my thousand year slumber*

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

*takes a look at my overflowing ask/submission box*

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

*Awakens from my thousand year slumber*

[stargazing-enby]

And that's that on that.

[stargazing-enby]

Apparently I wasn't done 🤔

[lymmea]

These are FABULOUS, OP, but can I suggest one to the riff of "QUEERNESS IS NOT DEFINED BY THE AMOUNT PEOPLE HAVE SUFFERED"?

[stargazing-enby]

Thanks! Here you go 🥰

Some other additions:

Inspired by @unicorn-in-the-library:

And because @surfs-up-roxy wanted an ace one:

I didn't want to make the message ace-specific because I wanted to make a point of how all of the above include aspec people, but I tried to use an ace colour palette for the background :) I also think the message applies especially (even if not exclusively) to the ace community!

Hope you like these 🥰

[prismatic-bell]

@rockmarina possibly “all labels were made up at one point, stop being an ass”?

[stargazing-enby]

I played around with the concept a bit, I hope you like it anyway!

I feel like this also needs to be said:

[oddler14]

[ID:

Image 1: (in white text, on a background of rainbow watercolors) Gatekeeping hurts queer people who are questioning.

Image 2: (in white text, on a background of rainbow paint strokes) Gatekeeping hurts more queer people than it protects.

Image 3: (in white text, on a background of pastel watercolors) How about you let people question their gender and sexuality in peace.

Image 4: (in white text, on a photo of the rainbow pride flag flying in a blue sky) People don’t owe you a chronicle of their life experiences and feelings for you to decide whether they belong in their own community.

Image 5: (in white text, on a marbled pink background) I don’t know how to tell you this, but you are not the queer police.

Image 6: (in white text, on a background of multicolored textile) Stop siding with our oppressors.

Image 7: (in white text, on a photo of pieces of chalk arranged in a rainbow on asphalt) Not every queer person’s experiences need to be like yours.

Image 8: (in white text, on a background of shiny, rainbow chunks of metal (?)) Mind your own damn business.

Image 9: (in white text, on a mottled black & rainbow background) Let people change labels.

Image 10: (in white text, on a photo of a full moon in a dark sky) There’s no such thing as not being queer enough.

Image 11: (in white text, on a background of paint strokes in pink, white, magenta, purple and dark blue, the colors of the genderfluid pride flag) Vocabulary is designed to be constantly reinvented as human societies evolve, and labels aren’t the exception.

Image 12: (in white text, on a background of pink, purple, and turquoise) Gatekeeping is a product of privilege.

End ID]

[stargazing-enby]

Thanks so much for the image descriptions!

Here's one more addition per @secretlycrazyhummingbird's suggestion:

[Image description: (in white text, over a black background with trees decorated with multi-colored lights) Queer people don't have to make themselves palatable to deserve respect. End ID]

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

After a year of great loss, some self care, I'd like to thank all of you that have stuck with me for so long. I'd like to return to tumblr, and being your one and only uncultured lesbian, that is, if you'll have me.

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

hi! i have a question i really hope you don’t mind! i’m a hardcore ally of all and some of my friends recently came out! i’m so so proud of them and they asked me if i wanted to go to a pride parade with them. i’m honored but i’m not sure if it’s acceptable for me to go being straight and cisgender. i want to go to support them and everyone there but i don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable or overstep my boundaries! is it ok for me to go as an ally to be supportive? thank you so much!

Hey, hon! Thank you so much for your support as an ally! I believe that allies are a valued member of our community and alot of our achievements could not have been reached without them! They are welcome in our spaces because they are supportive and carry the message of the lgbt community to predominantly straight-cisgender spaces. I totally understand you being on the fence about going to pride, but your friends invited you! I believe in your heart you have the kindest of intentions. Dont worry, dear. Thank you for your allyship, and have fun at pride!

P.S I love your question and I will include it in episode one of the podcast ♡

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Okay, this is so cool.

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

I am a proud snesbian

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

It's that time of year again! Happy Pride Month!

[the-uncultured-lesbian]

Felt this toooo many times

[the-uncultured-lesbian]