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How did you get that online/offline thing in your description?

i just change it manually on my description. wish there was a code for that...

right so my boyfriend and I got back together after a month and half break, however the first day of this break he kissed another girl. I thought I would be okay with it, but he told me they slept in the same bed but he promised me nothing happened. I want to believe him but I don't know if I can. It will kill me if we break up again but I dont know what to believe

i'm sorry sweetheart, but it appears that this guy didn't really care about you at the time. the thing is, did this change or not? you have to figure this out. as you say you don't want to break up with him again, give him this last chance. time will tell if he changed or is the same. but be carefull. if you see that you can't trust him anymore, even though you gave him this second change and everything, i'm sorry, but i would say that you will have to break up with him. remember to keep your eyes open and don't forget that you are supposed to feel happy by his side.

#Anonymous

There is this boy and I've known him for about five years. He moved away, and we sometimes text, and have really long conversations. He told me that he liked me, but I wasn't sure if I like him at the time. I really like him now, but he won't reply to my texts anymore. what should I do?

keep on trying to talk to him. and then tell him everything you feel for him, he may feel it for you too as he already did once. don't give up on him. good luck!

#Anonymous

I'm going to see a therapist next week for my social anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder. I'm nervous.

i'm so happy for you! don't feel nervous, just be true to her and he/she will surely understand you. you will get better.

Hey, i need some serious help. Sports day is coming up soon as i'm worried. My legs are quite heavy and very white because i have scars all over where i cut. I could wear joggers but i'd get so hot:( I don't know what to do, i'm good at running but i'm scared of how i may look and if people take the piss. :( help?

you will have to choose between feeling hot or being judged by people. how bad are your scars? if you think people won't notice them while you're running than just go on and wear shorts. if they are big scars than i would personally prefer to feel hot. i'm sorry, but there are mean people out there. if these people don't know what you are suffering they will just go on and judge you. and those other people who care about you will feel really scared and want to know about it (if they don't know already). of course you have to talk to your close friends about it, but don't just appear somewhere showing your scars, it will make them way too worried. explain them first. at least this is what i would do if i was on your shoes. and please, tell me you are trying your best to stop cutting, to get a better life.

i seriously love you

thank you! i love you for loving me <3

#Anonymous

So my boyfriend and I finished after a 9 month relationship, that night he went off and kissed another girl serveral times however he was drunk and stonned. They slept in the same bed but he swore nothing happened. He says he still loves me but doesn't want to get back together. He isn't a one for showing emotion so I don't know what he feels. I still love him, and I want him back. What should I do? Should I continue trying to make him take me back?

okay, so, he says he loves you and doesn't want you back? he went out in the first night and got drunk and slept with this girl. forget him, please. i don't know the hole story of you guys but if he really loved you why would he want to be with you again? and if he really loved you why did he got drunk and kissed this girl on the first night? i'm sorry to tell you but he doesn't truely love you. he's just saying this to make you feel better, but he doesn't want to get back with you. stop trying, move on sweetheart. he doesn't deserve you. i'm sorry if i understood this all wrong but from what you are telling me you should stop trying to make him take you back. you will find someone better <3

#Anonymous

This sounds weird but, I'm a 'dope' blog, i want to be dope, stand out but i'm average weight, i'm in the high single degits stones and i feel like because i think i'm 'Fat' I can't wear cool clothes and be 'A boss' help? i lose weight, and end up putting it back on:(

you can be whatever you want to. you just said you were an average weight, so you don't have to feel fat. if you really want to lose weight go on a diet and keep it. but keep in mind that you can buy cool clothes that fit you well being fat or not.

#Anonymous

how do u ask some one out

let's call the person x.

get to x and tell x what you were planning and wait for x's answer. try not to sound nervous but if you do it's not a big deal, i bet x will understand. if x can go for some reason, suggest another day in which you can go. if, again, x can't go, tell x it is ok an you can try another day. at least this is what i would personally do.

good luck with x!

#Anonymous

I'm bulimic. My mom got me started doing it. She said it was okay as long as I don't do it EVERYDAY. But its gotten to the point where it is everyday. I have lost 35 pounds since January. But I still hate how I look. Any advice...

oh dear, you have to tell your mom how you are feeling now, how you lost control. you have to visit a doctor, this is serious.

i won't tell you that everyone is beautiful because everybody knows this is a lie, and i'm not here to lie. i don't even know if you are pretty or not, but if you really feel this you have to change somehow. but throwing up and stop eating aren't solutions, they will only lead you to death. your body has to receive food to stay alive. the food you process is used to regenerate all your body's cells. if you don't process any food, you will die. to get thin you can go on a diet and exercise. you will look healthy, and that's pretty.

you shouldn't even have started doing this, or do this once a week. i just can't believe your mom told you that, it's so sad. good luck, i'm sure you will soon be healthy again :)

#Anonymous

Tips on talking to girls?

be yourself, try talking about things you two have in common, try not to sound nervous, keep the conversation flowing. normal stuff, you don't have to put too much thought on it, just try to sound natural and talk about things she will be interested in. tell her something that happened to you in the past days, about your life, and ask her about hers.

#faze1district

Can you give advice on eating disorders?

sure! feel free to ask, i'll try to help you the best way i can :)

#Anonymous

i'm having issues with my friend steven. I like him, but i dont really know him that well. he's really flirty (always calling me pretty and sending a ton of winky faces, talking about kissing and stuff), and i feel like i can really tell him anything personal, like i've known him for a while. but whenever i try and talk to him about relationship stuff between us, he tells me he only likes me as a friend. hes even talked about a friends with benefits type thing, as he says "hookup buddies"..help?

well, there are two options: 1- he likes you and doesn't want to tell. if you come to like him you should try to figure out if this is what's really happening. 2- he doesn't really feel anything special about you but he still thinks about hooking up with you. in this case, if you think you like him you should try to hook up once, to see if this makes him have feelings for you. it's really up to you in this case: you have to decide if you want to try it or not. but if you don't like him or anything and you just want to be friends with him make him stop to say these stuff by demonstrating that you don't like it when he does it. i know this must've got confused but i'm just saying what i would do from what i understand that is happening to you. good luck with steven!

#my-perfect-little-imperfections

how do i get a guy to notice me ?

be around him. don't follow him, but just keep around. if you really want him to notice you, you'd better talk to him. do you guys already know each other? if you do try talking more with him, but if you don't than first introduce yourself. it's the best way to be noticed

#Anonymous

I keep having dreams of a guy I have never met in my life. I don't have a boyfriend could this be a sign that I'll find someone soon?

maybe. i mean, i don't believe dreams do mean anything but since if you are enjoying to have these dreams you can be motivated to find someone. these dreams are probably making you keep your eyes more open and you'll have bigger chances of finding someone :)

#Anonymous

I like this girl... But she's a year old than me and lives several states away.

i don't believe ages make any difference at all, especially if she is only one year older than you. but distance can make things harder. how often do you see her? do you talk to her while she is away? if you don't, doing this should help a lot. but are you guys friends? If you keep contact with her and see her in person sometimes I can't see why this won't work :) good luck with her <3

#Anonymous

You are important and you are strong. I may not know you, but I know it's true.

thank you so much! and you are really nice :) i may not know you, but i wish i did <3 xx

#averagevivian

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