The Constantly Drained Brain

Miss Chanandler Bong

[brainless-moe-white-lotus]

An activate charcoal AND grapefruit smoothie called "what will your meds do ;)"

[the-killswitch-deactivated20200]

Actually its a juice

[queerforscience]

Wait no this was a joke

[kaijuno]

you're on antidepressants and you drink this you meet the devil

[goldenjedi]

Ok I just want to say activated charcoal is really good for you. Especially if you have an upset stomach. Take it, and it'll absorb all the toxins in your stomach and make you feel better.

Natural remedies are good. They do work. And we shouldn't make fun of them.

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

You know how they give activated charcoal to dogs and cats if they get into your meds or drink coolant or anything else toxic? That’s because it binds with meds and carries them out of your system without them interacting with your body.

If you’re on meds and drink this bullshit you’re not on your meds today, champ. You may as well have flushed them down the toilet. So kiss goodbye to your blood pressure meds/antidepressants/anything else you’re on and if you’re on the pill I hope you’re ready to be a mom.

Among its other charming traits, activated charcoal can prevent your body from digesting food and absorbing nutrients and oh yeah side effects can include “diarrhea, constipation, vomiting, and blockage of the digestive tract.” (Source)

But ya know, “really good for you.” 🙄

[genderfluidfish]

This is gonna be a very unpopular opinion but I don't care

Activated charcoal is a medication, not a food additive, and should not be taken if you're not sick. It absorbs toxins, as well as other chemicals in your stomach. And by toxins I mean actual toxic stuff when you accidentally poison yourself. Not the mysterious "toxins" you get rid of when you "detox". "Detox" is bullshit. You detox by having a working liver. If you're alive and not currently dying of liver failure, odds are you liver is working and therefore you don't need to detox and eat activated charcoal when you're not having food poisoning.

You wouldn't just make yourself an ibuprofen latte, so stop putting activated charcoal in everything.

[thechronicpainlife]

“You wouldn't just make yourself an ibuprofen latte, so stop putting activated charcoal in everything.”

Just in case someone missed it

[vforvictoriaregina]

Also incredibly important

[goosewithajob]

Also, on the off chance the activated charcoal doesn’t immediately suck everything out of your body, grapefruit is literally the (second) worst possible thing you can eat or drink when you’re on medication, as it interacts with a LOT of them, and you should always double check- https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/grapefruit-juice-and-some-drugs-dont-mix

[bao-yu-sarah-morningstar-wang-9]

O.o

[thetauruspixie]

As a health advisor, I can confirm. Do not take activated charcoal unless you need it and do not mixed grapefruit with most medication including antidepressants.

[therestlesswitch]

YES to all of this! This includes herbal/natural medicines as well as prescription meds! I'm so glad the charcoal food trend seems to have died down, but apparently its not because people know any better!

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Everybody up in here about anti depressants and mental meds and thats important but also...

ACTIVATED CHARCOAL CAN RENDER BIRTH CONTROL INEFFECTIVE

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Made with love = I licked the spoon before i was done

[snootyfoxfashion]

Bee Embossing Rolling Pin from PippaWoodCraft

[rainbow-smite]

Not to be a dick but it probably won’t look that good after it’s baked.

[snootyfoxfashion]

friend there’s literally a picture of it after it’s baked right there

[therestlesswitch]

The problem with designs like this losing definition happens if your dough isn’t cold enough. A room-temp dough will spread a lot more than one that’s been chilled properly :)

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I mean obviously this person chilled their dough well. 

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

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[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Me: i wonder why my stomach hurts and ive had to go to the bathroom 6 times in the last hour

Also me: *guzzles a pot of coffee on an empty stomach after four hours of sleep and chicken tacos the night before*

Me: oh well must a bug going around

[gahdamnpunk]

“The overlooked remain overlooked even in their fight to not be overlooked.”

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

When we protest, they fire shots. Ive seen protestors, journalists, and even a senator be shot with rubber bullets, tear gassed, tazed, and more just for being on the protestors side...

The United States under tRUMP is falling into a dictatorship, if it wasnt already...

Im at this point where im for the disolution of the american government system. Give the Native Nations their territories back, beg their forgiveness and ASSK if you can stay, if the say no get the fuck out

[vaspider]

Queer is the label we used when we weren’t sure. Queer is the label we used when we were sure no other label would do. Queer is a gender that is my own and only my own. Queer is a sexuality that defies definition. 

Queer is the label which became genderqueer, and from which non-binary and genderfluid sprung. Queer is the label which is the un-box, in which everyone who is not cishet (including ace people!!) fits. Queer is community.

Queer is activist. Queer is in the streets screaming ‘we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!’ Queer is not ashamed.

Queer was ours from the beginning. Queer was ours a century ago. Queer was used against us, and we said ‘fuck you,’ and we took it BACK. Queer is butches and bears with bats, protecting our community.

Queer is blue-collar. Queer is working-class. Queer is poor. Queer is people who can’t afford to sit out Stonewall quietly and then go fight for marriage equality when the tax bills come due. Queer is a distinct identity, and queer is the un-box.

Queer makes TERFs and exclusionists angry, because it doesn’t let them define people by gold stars and terms like ‘SGA’ that come from conversion therapy. Queer doesn’t give a shit about historical revision to exclude members of the community who have always been here, because queer has always been here and always will be.

Queer is the life raft onto which we climb. Queer is community. Queer is important, and people will have to pry it from my cold dead hands. I’ve been queer for thirty years. My community is queer, and it is opt-in.

If you tag my fucking posts ‘q slur’ or any variant thereof I will immediately fucking block you. Don’t fucking do it. If you feel obligated to tag my posts ‘q slur,’ don’t interact with them. My identity is not a bad word and does not require censoring.

[pkmbede]

“slur” isn’t the same as “bad word”. everything this says perfectly illustrates that you literally don’t know what a slur is.

queer is a slur and none of this changes that fact. is it so hard to have some respect for LGBT people who choose not to reclaim it?? it wasn’t “ours” to begin with. society took a word that means “weird” and used it against lgbt people (AND continue to do so!) some people have chosen to recclaim it and thats fine! what i do not understand is how you have no sympathy for people in the very community you claim to love so dearly that you willingly throw their pain at their face while also delegitimizating their pain.

like. at least others who recclaim that word can at least recognize that its a slur ??

[vaspider]

Cool, so everyone is gonna stop using “gay” all the time, because that’s the word that was used to attack me, and is still a widespread slur across the US? We’re all gonna have respect for that now?

No? Because that’s an okay reclaimed slur, but queer is so toxic that somehow in the last two years and only on Tumblr it’s become such a discourse point that y'all gonna ignore that the first uses of queer for our community are a century old, and come from within the community?

Literally everything you said is either incorrect or can be equally applied to gay. So, no, I’m not going to censor my identity out of sympathy, because I have to listen to people call themselves gay every day and do so with the knowledge that it’s their identity word and is important to them. I, you know, made my trauma my business and worked on it and didn’t insist that other people stop being gay (and calling themselves gay in my earshot) because that’s the word that got weaponized against me.

I have PTSD. I know how trauma and triggers work. I also know my trauma and my triggers are my business to manage, and not the business of another person to change a core part of their identity so I can manage my trauma. Insisting that other people change their identities for the trauma of others has nothing to do with “sympathy,” it is about control. This sudden upswell in “q***r” and “q slur” and “q*eer” - censoring an important identity word as if it is a swear word, making it a word so bad it can’t be spoken, as if it’s a community’s Voldemort - did not come from nowhere.

We literally sat here and watched it happen. We watched TERFs start this particular virulent bit of discourse, marrying “queer is a slur” - with the implication that “slur” means “irredeemable and unable to be redeemed” - and we watched exclusionists pick up the water of TERFs and carry it for them. This isn’t some bit of old contention that goes back decades - five years ago, the word we had PSAs about how it shouldn’t be weaponized was gay.

But queer is everything I said: it doesn’t let TERFs and exclusionists know for sure if they should be hateful because it’s the un-box. So that just can’t be tolerated.

The “queer is a slur (and slurs aren’t reclaimed and slurs should be censored and slurs should not be used for a group but gay is fine, gay is not a slur like that)” thing isn’t about individual trauma and it never was. This “queer is a slur” thing is about gatekeeping and control, so no, I’m not here for it, and I’m not for my identity being censored as if it’s a bad word when people interact with my posts.

[wingedkiare]

Lest you forget, the most famous mantra we had as a community coming together was… We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it. You can’t erase that. It’s the name for academic studies of our community (which btw, is always led by queer people themselves). You can’t remove the label for people who are still trying to find their place in the community. For the people who never mind a word who describes them as well. Most of our labels are words that have been hurled back at us in hate. So you have to ask, who in our community started to say it wasn’t acceptable? And do you want to stand for what they do? Piss off a TERF this Pride by reminding them that we’re here, we’re QUEER, and they can just shut the hell up.

[majere636]

God am I sick of this asinine fucking discourse. I see we’ve reached the point where not being comfortable with a word that is regularly used as a slur means these clowns are going to imply you’re a transphobe because guilt by association which is totally sane and reasonable. Like I identify as queer and don’t consider it a slur in most usages but I still have the capacity for empathy and thus can respect that my comfort zone is not the be all and end all of acceptable positions to have on the issue. It costs me nothing not to call people queer when they dont want to be.

[vaspider]

Saying “when you repeat ‘queer is a slur and should never be used’ you are repeating TERF talking points” isn’t calling you a transphobe, it’s saying that you are using the same talking points as transphobic people, talking points that were deliberately created to try to split the community.

I understand it’s much easier to say “wah how dare you say I’m a transphobe by association” than to acknowledge that you’ve been taken in by people who are working very hard to split the community, so if you don’t want to do the work of examining where you got your talking points and who your talking points benefit, I guess I understand, but that doesn’t mean that’s what I said.

Just because the truth that TERFs are behind the “queer is a slur” discourse makes you uncomfy to acknowledge doesn’t mean you get to change what I said so it makes you comfy in your unchallenged assumptions, and reassure yourself that you’re not saying the same things as TERFs!

You are. If you don’t like that?

CHANGE WHAT YOU’RE SAYING SO YOU’RE NOT AGREEING WITH TERFS, YOU CABBAGE.

No one is under the obligation to pretend you’re not agreeing with TERFs just to make you comfy.

[queenofthecommunistcannibals]

This is something that drives me insane about the “Queer is a Slur” crowd. We point out they are quoting TERFs and they get mad at US! They say it can’t be true because they are trans and/or hate TERFs.

You know what I would do if someone told me a belief of mine was a TERF talking point? I would LISTEN! I would look into it. I would reexamine my beliefs. I would be horrified at my own ignorance. And I would grow.

Saying that you are quoting TERFs is not calling you TERFs, you fucking walnuts! I means reexamine your stances! It means look at where you are coming from! Take a step back and look at the big picture!

Literally gay has a much more troubling use history than queer. It is still used as an insult more often at least in my experience. But queer is inclusive so queer is out. That’s the truth.

Don’t hate us for telling you the truth, hate the assholes who lied to you!

That is not to say there aren’t people who are offput by the term, the difference is they do not police other people for using it.

[calourist]

I mean, I’m personally against the word ‘queer’ purely because it literally explains nothing about your gender/sexuality. Saying that someone is ‘Genderqueer’ means the equivalent of nothing. What are you supposed to garner from that?

Personally, I’ve never seen the point in using ‘queer’, which is a term that tends to have negative connotations, doesn’t explain anything, when you can use a word that is pretty self explanatory: Questioning.

I’ve never really seen a good explaination on what ‘Queer’ means besides ‘Weird/Deviates from the norm’. Which, is a bit counterproductive imho. Afterall, isn’t a big part of the LGBT movement just bringing awareness to the fact that not everyone is, well, straight, or born the right gender, and to push for that stuff to be accepted?

Afterall, claiming that you’re entire gender identity is ‘queer’, and by saying ‘I’m not normal’, seems to be more so to say ‘lol I’m just weird’. Well, why use a word that means ‘weird’ when we want to reach a point where that isn’t considered weird? And that it is, in fact, considered to be a normal fact of life.

Idk, that’s why I’ve always just preferred ‘Questioning’ for ‘Q’ instead of ‘Queer’ because it explains a lot more, and feels much more open-ended and accepting. Saying that you’re questioning your sexuality or gender is something that we’ve heard a lot for people in the community, who weren’t sure who they where- be it gay, bi, trans, whatever.

Questioning includes anyone who might be unsure if they are LGBT or not, and I’ve always seen it as a big part of the community in terms of how open and accepting it’s pushed itself to be for so long.

(Also, quick side note: I had never even heard the whole ‘I’m here and I’m queer’ mantra until, like, two or three years ago. And this thread is cool and all for saying that it’s TERFs who started this anti-queer campaign, if it is true, but some links and evidence would be hella dank.)

^Despite that little bit, I do still think ‘Questioning’ is just better then ‘queer’. Easier to grasp and understand, while still being just as inclusive as ‘Queer’ is claiming to be and without all the baggage.

[vaspider]

1. And exactly what do you think you’re entitled to know about my identity other than that I’m not Straight™️? Queer tells you everything you need to know: not straight. Genderqueer? Not cis. You’re not entitled to any more information. Hell, you’re not even entitled to that. This idea that we must provide exact, specific, unchanging information about our affection, attraction and gender in order to be considered legitimate is coercive, invasive, and gross. If someone wants you to have more specifics, they’ll tell you. This “it doesn’t tell me enough” is the “but what’s in your pants” of orientation.

None of your fucking business, random internet stranger.

2. That you’re not aware of a 30yo slogan isn’t the fault of the slogan or the people old enough to have shouted it in the streets. It’s existed. Learn your history.

3. My Tumblr is plastered with sources and tons of posts on where the TERF-sponsored bullshit came from. People aren’t required to give sources on what was, by the fucking way, a positivity post that people keep hijacking for fucking discourse.

My existence is not an invitation to discourse.

4. I’m not Questioning. I know who and what I am.

I’m very, very Queer.

Not Questioning. Queer. A whole and complete and self-realized queer with 29y of living Out. 29y of screaming “I’m here, I’m queer, get used to it.” There’s no question: I’m Queer.

I really don’t give a fuck if you think Questioning “works better,” because … it doesn’t. You don’t get to turn people who know what they are, which is Queer, into Questioning just because you think it works better. Because it makes you more comfortable. Because you don’t like it when you don’t get to know more about people than they want to explain. Because you want people in easily understood boxes. Because you can’t accept other people’s ability and right to determine and define their identity, both orientation and gender. Because other people have to be something that makes sense to you, define themselves by your preferred terms.

Questioning is not just as inclusive. It belongs in the acronym because many of us are, but it is NOT a substitute for Queer, and insisting that it is? That is infantilizing, diminishing the fully-realized and fully-decided identities of huge swaths of this community. Turning our “I know who I am” into “but do you, really? Might it not just be a phase on your way to one of these other categories that makes me more comfortable?”

tl;dr, I give you @calourist:

[soprie]

No one is immune to repeating terf bigotry simply by their identity. Trans folk, lgbt folk, straight folk, anyone. You need to understand WHY terf talking points are bad do that you dont repeat them, and dont fall prey to exclusionist and gatekeeping ideology.

[vicks-vaporwave]

About two years ago I was very against use of the word queer because I felt it was othering, calling oneself strange. But I learned more about the phrase and about myself and use it because it’s not (necessarily) those things. It’s a nice umbrella term. It’s good for people who aren’t sure, sure, but it’s also good for people who are certain. Whether it’s due to an aversion to specific labels or a lack of feeling included by any, queer is able to cover who you are. I understand if you don’t like the word, though I’m baffled by someone not knowing the very famous protest chant, but it’s simply a matter of (and I don’t mean this in a mean way, just a literal one) ignorance. I understand that people probably shouldn’t have to do research to know what they are but at the moment that’s how it is, so it’s very important to do so, and not echo TERF ideology. Yes questioning is valid btw, it’s just not the same as queer.

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

In the indigenous community queer people are refered to as Two-spirits. I like them both. IM HERE, IM QUEER!

[therestlesswitch]

I was under the impression that Two-Spirit isn’t an umbrella term the way queer is? Can you talk more about (or refer me somewhere to learn about) the Native Lgbtqia+ community and the best terms to use when referring to it?

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

That may be true. I am new to learning about it and all the proper titles allude me. My tribes histories amd culture were virtually lost and until my enrollment is finished (the rest of my family is already in) i cant access certain information

[normal-horoscopes]

The Signs and Love III:

Aries: You love like a rollercoaster, full of change and energy, vibrating at high velocity and responsible for a not small amount of deaths every year.

Taurus: You love like a mother, but not in a creepy way. You love like a spider mom. Constantly bursting with sacs of love.

Gemini: You love calmly. Perhaps too calmly. Your heart hasnt beat in years. Your blood moves slowly as the world rockets by.

Cancer: You love like a warship. You are a steady, nigh-unsinkable thing, but explosive if hit in the stern.

Leo: You love like a flock of wild parrots that learned to crave human flesh. Just good enough at talking to trick someone into letting you eat them alive.

Virgo: Your love is a D&D game turned fistfight. Catharsis. 

Libra: You had an unrequited crush and so you became the unrequited crush. All of them. You forgot what you look like under so many layers of tanned skin.

Scorpio: Your love is like a new set of art pens, the potential to paint with every color of the wind or more specifically these 16 colors of the wind. You get the job done.

Ophiuchus: You love like the small child in the supermarket concealing a firecracker under her raincoat. You are quite clever, but in a property damage kidna way.

Sagittarius: You are two power bottoms duct taped together at the spine to generate the worlds first perpetual motion machine. Infinite power.

Capricorn: You love like an escaped panther. This aint your comfort zone, not by a long shot, but when has that ever stopped you?

Aquarius: The Lesbian Antlers. 

Pisces: You love like an asexual samurai. You’re just here for the swords and if it become a problem, you have a sword.

[therestlesswitch]

Precise as usual, CT.

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Lmao my sister is an Aquarius and ive suspected that she is a at least bi if not lesbian but is supressing it heavily. Leo is spot on for my othet sister, and im a cancer dating a scorpio with a gemini son..... its all just so .... specificlly correct

[vaspider]

Queer is the label we used when we weren’t sure. Queer is the label we used when we were sure no other label would do. Queer is a gender that is my own and only my own. Queer is a sexuality that defies definition. 

Queer is the label which became genderqueer, and from which non-binary and genderfluid sprung. Queer is the label which is the un-box, in which everyone who is not cishet (including ace people!!) fits. Queer is community.

Queer is activist. Queer is in the streets screaming ‘we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!’ Queer is not ashamed.

Queer was ours from the beginning. Queer was ours a century ago. Queer was used against us, and we said ‘fuck you,’ and we took it BACK. Queer is butches and bears with bats, protecting our community.

Queer is blue-collar. Queer is working-class. Queer is poor. Queer is people who can’t afford to sit out Stonewall quietly and then go fight for marriage equality when the tax bills come due. Queer is a distinct identity, and queer is the un-box.

Queer makes TERFs and exclusionists angry, because it doesn’t let them define people by gold stars and terms like ‘SGA’ that come from conversion therapy. Queer doesn’t give a shit about historical revision to exclude members of the community who have always been here, because queer has always been here and always will be.

Queer is the life raft onto which we climb. Queer is community. Queer is important, and people will have to pry it from my cold dead hands. I’ve been queer for thirty years. My community is queer, and it is opt-in.

If you tag my fucking posts ‘q slur’ or any variant thereof I will immediately fucking block you. Don’t fucking do it. If you feel obligated to tag my posts ‘q slur,’ don’t interact with them. My identity is not a bad word and does not require censoring.

[pkmbede]

“slur” isn’t the same as “bad word”. everything this says perfectly illustrates that you literally don’t know what a slur is.

queer is a slur and none of this changes that fact. is it so hard to have some respect for LGBT people who choose not to reclaim it?? it wasn’t “ours” to begin with. society took a word that means “weird” and used it against lgbt people (AND continue to do so!) some people have chosen to recclaim it and thats fine! what i do not understand is how you have no sympathy for people in the very community you claim to love so dearly that you willingly throw their pain at their face while also delegitimizating their pain.

like. at least others who recclaim that word can at least recognize that its a slur ??

[vaspider]

Cool, so everyone is gonna stop using “gay” all the time, because that’s the word that was used to attack me, and is still a widespread slur across the US? We’re all gonna have respect for that now?

No? Because that’s an okay reclaimed slur, but queer is so toxic that somehow in the last two years and only on Tumblr it’s become such a discourse point that y'all gonna ignore that the first uses of queer for our community are a century old, and come from within the community?

Literally everything you said is either incorrect or can be equally applied to gay. So, no, I’m not going to censor my identity out of sympathy, because I have to listen to people call themselves gay every day and do so with the knowledge that it’s their identity word and is important to them. I, you know, made my trauma my business and worked on it and didn’t insist that other people stop being gay (and calling themselves gay in my earshot) because that’s the word that got weaponized against me.

I have PTSD. I know how trauma and triggers work. I also know my trauma and my triggers are my business to manage, and not the business of another person to change a core part of their identity so I can manage my trauma. Insisting that other people change their identities for the trauma of others has nothing to do with “sympathy,” it is about control. This sudden upswell in “q***r” and “q slur” and “q*eer” - censoring an important identity word as if it is a swear word, making it a word so bad it can’t be spoken, as if it’s a community’s Voldemort - did not come from nowhere.

We literally sat here and watched it happen. We watched TERFs start this particular virulent bit of discourse, marrying “queer is a slur” - with the implication that “slur” means “irredeemable and unable to be redeemed” - and we watched exclusionists pick up the water of TERFs and carry it for them. This isn’t some bit of old contention that goes back decades - five years ago, the word we had PSAs about how it shouldn’t be weaponized was gay.

But queer is everything I said: it doesn’t let TERFs and exclusionists know for sure if they should be hateful because it’s the un-box. So that just can’t be tolerated.

The “queer is a slur (and slurs aren’t reclaimed and slurs should be censored and slurs should not be used for a group but gay is fine, gay is not a slur like that)” thing isn’t about individual trauma and it never was. This “queer is a slur” thing is about gatekeeping and control, so no, I’m not here for it, and I’m not for my identity being censored as if it’s a bad word when people interact with my posts.

[wingedkiare]

Lest you forget, the most famous mantra we had as a community coming together was… We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it. You can’t erase that. It’s the name for academic studies of our community (which btw, is always led by queer people themselves). You can’t remove the label for people who are still trying to find their place in the community. For the people who never mind a word who describes them as well. Most of our labels are words that have been hurled back at us in hate. So you have to ask, who in our community started to say it wasn’t acceptable? And do you want to stand for what they do? Piss off a TERF this Pride by reminding them that we’re here, we’re QUEER, and they can just shut the hell up.

[majere636]

God am I sick of this asinine fucking discourse. I see we’ve reached the point where not being comfortable with a word that is regularly used as a slur means these clowns are going to imply you’re a transphobe because guilt by association which is totally sane and reasonable. Like I identify as queer and don’t consider it a slur in most usages but I still have the capacity for empathy and thus can respect that my comfort zone is not the be all and end all of acceptable positions to have on the issue. It costs me nothing not to call people queer when they dont want to be.

[vaspider]

Saying “when you repeat ‘queer is a slur and should never be used’ you are repeating TERF talking points” isn’t calling you a transphobe, it’s saying that you are using the same talking points as transphobic people, talking points that were deliberately created to try to split the community.

I understand it’s much easier to say “wah how dare you say I’m a transphobe by association” than to acknowledge that you’ve been taken in by people who are working very hard to split the community, so if you don’t want to do the work of examining where you got your talking points and who your talking points benefit, I guess I understand, but that doesn’t mean that’s what I said.

Just because the truth that TERFs are behind the “queer is a slur” discourse makes you uncomfy to acknowledge doesn’t mean you get to change what I said so it makes you comfy in your unchallenged assumptions, and reassure yourself that you’re not saying the same things as TERFs!

You are. If you don’t like that?

CHANGE WHAT YOU’RE SAYING SO YOU’RE NOT AGREEING WITH TERFS, YOU CABBAGE.

No one is under the obligation to pretend you’re not agreeing with TERFs just to make you comfy.

[queenofthecommunistcannibals]

This is something that drives me insane about the “Queer is a Slur” crowd. We point out they are quoting TERFs and they get mad at US! They say it can’t be true because they are trans and/or hate TERFs.

You know what I would do if someone told me a belief of mine was a TERF talking point? I would LISTEN! I would look into it. I would reexamine my beliefs. I would be horrified at my own ignorance. And I would grow.

Saying that you are quoting TERFs is not calling you TERFs, you fucking walnuts! I means reexamine your stances! It means look at where you are coming from! Take a step back and look at the big picture!

Literally gay has a much more troubling use history than queer. It is still used as an insult more often at least in my experience. But queer is inclusive so queer is out. That’s the truth.

Don’t hate us for telling you the truth, hate the assholes who lied to you!

That is not to say there aren’t people who are offput by the term, the difference is they do not police other people for using it.

[calourist]

I mean, I’m personally against the word ‘queer’ purely because it literally explains nothing about your gender/sexuality. Saying that someone is ‘Genderqueer’ means the equivalent of nothing. What are you supposed to garner from that?

Personally, I’ve never seen the point in using ‘queer’, which is a term that tends to have negative connotations, doesn’t explain anything, when you can use a word that is pretty self explanatory: Questioning.

I’ve never really seen a good explaination on what ‘Queer’ means besides ‘Weird/Deviates from the norm’. Which, is a bit counterproductive imho. Afterall, isn’t a big part of the LGBT movement just bringing awareness to the fact that not everyone is, well, straight, or born the right gender, and to push for that stuff to be accepted?

Afterall, claiming that you’re entire gender identity is ‘queer’, and by saying ‘I’m not normal’, seems to be more so to say ‘lol I’m just weird’. Well, why use a word that means ‘weird’ when we want to reach a point where that isn’t considered weird? And that it is, in fact, considered to be a normal fact of life.

Idk, that’s why I’ve always just preferred ‘Questioning’ for ‘Q’ instead of ‘Queer’ because it explains a lot more, and feels much more open-ended and accepting. Saying that you’re questioning your sexuality or gender is something that we’ve heard a lot for people in the community, who weren’t sure who they where- be it gay, bi, trans, whatever.

Questioning includes anyone who might be unsure if they are LGBT or not, and I’ve always seen it as a big part of the community in terms of how open and accepting it’s pushed itself to be for so long.

(Also, quick side note: I had never even heard the whole ‘I’m here and I’m queer’ mantra until, like, two or three years ago. And this thread is cool and all for saying that it’s TERFs who started this anti-queer campaign, if it is true, but some links and evidence would be hella dank.)

^Despite that little bit, I do still think ‘Questioning’ is just better then ‘queer’. Easier to grasp and understand, while still being just as inclusive as ‘Queer’ is claiming to be and without all the baggage.

[vaspider]

1. And exactly what do you think you’re entitled to know about my identity other than that I’m not Straight™️? Queer tells you everything you need to know: not straight. Genderqueer? Not cis. You’re not entitled to any more information. Hell, you’re not even entitled to that. This idea that we must provide exact, specific, unchanging information about our affection, attraction and gender in order to be considered legitimate is coercive, invasive, and gross. If someone wants you to have more specifics, they’ll tell you. This “it doesn’t tell me enough” is the “but what’s in your pants” of orientation.

None of your fucking business, random internet stranger.

2. That you’re not aware of a 30yo slogan isn’t the fault of the slogan or the people old enough to have shouted it in the streets. It’s existed. Learn your history.

3. My Tumblr is plastered with sources and tons of posts on where the TERF-sponsored bullshit came from. People aren’t required to give sources on what was, by the fucking way, a positivity post that people keep hijacking for fucking discourse.

My existence is not an invitation to discourse.

4. I’m not Questioning. I know who and what I am.

I’m very, very Queer.

Not Questioning. Queer. A whole and complete and self-realized queer with 29y of living Out. 29y of screaming “I’m here, I’m queer, get used to it.” There’s no question: I’m Queer.

I really don’t give a fuck if you think Questioning “works better,” because … it doesn’t. You don’t get to turn people who know what they are, which is Queer, into Questioning just because you think it works better. Because it makes you more comfortable. Because you don’t like it when you don’t get to know more about people than they want to explain. Because you want people in easily understood boxes. Because you can’t accept other people’s ability and right to determine and define their identity, both orientation and gender. Because other people have to be something that makes sense to you, define themselves by your preferred terms.

Questioning is not just as inclusive. It belongs in the acronym because many of us are, but it is NOT a substitute for Queer, and insisting that it is? That is infantilizing, diminishing the fully-realized and fully-decided identities of huge swaths of this community. Turning our “I know who I am” into “but do you, really? Might it not just be a phase on your way to one of these other categories that makes me more comfortable?”

tl;dr, I give you @calourist:

[soprie]

No one is immune to repeating terf bigotry simply by their identity. Trans folk, lgbt folk, straight folk, anyone. You need to understand WHY terf talking points are bad do that you dont repeat them, and dont fall prey to exclusionist and gatekeeping ideology.

[vicks-vaporwave]

About two years ago I was very against use of the word queer because I felt it was othering, calling oneself strange. But I learned more about the phrase and about myself and use it because it’s not (necessarily) those things. It’s a nice umbrella term. It’s good for people who aren’t sure, sure, but it’s also good for people who are certain. Whether it’s due to an aversion to specific labels or a lack of feeling included by any, queer is able to cover who you are. I understand if you don’t like the word, though I’m baffled by someone not knowing the very famous protest chant, but it’s simply a matter of (and I don’t mean this in a mean way, just a literal one) ignorance. I understand that people probably shouldn’t have to do research to know what they are but at the moment that’s how it is, so it’s very important to do so, and not echo TERF ideology. Yes questioning is valid btw, it’s just not the same as queer.

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

In the indigenous community queer people are refered to as Two-spirits. I like them both. IM HERE, IM QUEER!

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Guys...

Guys, i almost poured a pitcher of water into the full trashcan just now...

I was making tea and while filling the pitcher i saw my avacado pits had failed to sprout and needed to be thrown out. So instead of finishing the tea and then taking care of it, my brain directed me to just walked over to the trash and pour the water for tea into it.

Luckily i caught myself but oh my gods that was almost a huge mess.

TLDR: Its only noon and im already so stressed i mistook my trash for my tea pot

[heatherwitch]

Mabon Resource Masterpost

A collection of categorized links for your Mabon needs! What is Mabon? [X] Mabon is celebrated between September 21st to September 29th (March 21st to March 29th in the S. Hemisphere) and is also called: the Autumn Equinox or the Second Harvest Festival.

The Basics:

Ways to celebrate Mabon

What is Mabon?

Mabon: A small guide

The Autumnal Equinox: Finding balance as the cycle ends

Solitary Autumn Equinox

Low spoon Mabon ideas

Mabon ideas for celebration

Mabon ideas!

Mabon Crafts:

Floating acorn cap candle

Mabon burlap wreath

Mabon wreath

Apple bowls

Mabon Recipes:

Mabon stew

Mabon pomegranate chicken

Grandma’s pumpkin bread

Easy pumpkin muffins

Mabon apple twist bread

Fresh apple autumn cake w/ honey cinnamon glaze

Stuffed apples for mabon

Mabon magic hot apple cider / Mabon cider

Mabon Spells:

Mabon spell

Mabon charm sachet

New fall ritual

An autumn ritual

Autumn blessings

Mabon bath

Mabon Tarot Spreads:

Mabon spread (3 card)

Mabon spread (3 card)

The balance (5 card)

Balancing autumn tarot spread (6 card)

Mabon delicate balance spread (9 card)

Autumn equinox spread (12 card)

Other:

Mabon altar tips

Mabon sigil

Mabon/Autumn Equinox playlist

Crystals for the Autumn Equinox

Mabon masterpost

Last udated September of 2020, please inform me of broken links via askbox!

Imbolc / Ostara / Beltane / Litha / Lammas / Mabon / Samhain / Yule / Bedridden ideas

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Gonna use this for this year!!! No trick or treating this year so its all home traditions with family. I am the only practitioner in our family so its up to me to share these with my son and his family

[therestlesswitch]

I just gotta say... $0-10 tarot/divination readings aren’t a thing anywhere but on tumblr. Don’t go expecting experienced or professional readers to be charging less than $40/hour.

All the free and hella cheap readings available on here give a completely false sense of how much energy and experience actually goes into a reading.

[adapembroke]

^ This.

Tarot readers, please, stop underselling yourselves. Free readings for marketing purposes is cool. We all do it. Scholarships and sliding scales are generous. 

But your time and your gifts are worth more than a couple dollars an hour. 

We need to create a culture that values people and their work, and we can’t do that as long as you’re pricing your readings at a level that says, “I’m worthless.” 

Also, you might be able to survive making $3/hour on readings, but readings are the livelihood of some of the people on here. You charging so little for readings is putting pressure on everyone else to either underprice their work or leave tumblr. 

Readers, raise your rates. 

[therestlesswitch]

Nope this super isn’t aimed toward tarot readers. All tarot readers should charge exactly what they like. If you think a low fee says ‘I’m worthless,’ that’s on you. Lots of readers do cheap and free readings as community service, just like a lawyer who takes pro bono cases. Just because a reader can afford to help out those that may not be in the financial position to pay a full regular fee, doesn’t mean they are communicating they they are worthless. Yes I’m a little blunt when talking about this because I care a lot about it. Please read the other additions I’ve made to this.

This post is specifically speaking to prospective clients. It’s specifically about expectations management.

[therestlesswitch]

This goes for anyone providing any product or service out there,

Someone charging less than you is Not Hurting Your Business. Going after people charging less than you is a really crappy thing to do. If you can’t attract clients at a rate you feel is fair, my suggestion is market yourself better.

Designer handbags dont sell less because Walmart handbags exist. (Bad analogy here, but the principal is the same.)

Therapists who work on a sliding scale aren’t making problems for those that cater toward high-paying clientele.

Someone charging $3 for a crocheted blanket isn’t hurting me, another crochet artist, who charges $60 minimum for an altar cloth.

This isn’t a thing. Again, clients need to manage expectations, and client education is important. This post is for clients, not readers.

[therestlesswitch]

And! When you attack people who are ‘undercharging’ you’re also attacking the people who can’t afford to pay more. And we are Not about going after vulnerable populations here.

Just because people should know to expect to pay more than $3 outside of tumblr, doesn’t mean that it’s Wrong to pay someone that much if that’s what is agreed upon between reader and client.

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I’ll be the fuck stick of a witch who gives free readings when im being legit and overcharge the yuppies who want it done for kicks and giggles. Just to upset the rest of you... I always let people pay me via tips... let them decide how much it is worth. In my experience only the fakers charge high prices. 

[twitblr]

Controlled bathroom breaks are dumb, if I gotta go I gotta go! (x)

[mercygrim96]

As a teacher using Zoom I have to argue that eating food is very disruptive to the virtual learning environment. It’s already hard enough for us to teach, and its unfair to the kids in the Zoom call who cannot eat. You’re not the teacher, you’re just watching your kid. Also we don’t do controlled bathroom breaks in schools….

[percyjacksonwriter]

You must work at a good school. Most schools do control bathroom breaks.

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

Yea I mean I had to ask to use the bathroom from kindergarten to highschool. No snacks, not even gum was allowed, and even after being presented with studies proving the acceleration of learning music we weren’t allowed to listen to earbuds during free reading and work. 

[twitblr]

Controlled bathroom breaks are dumb, if I gotta go I gotta go! (x)

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I swear if they try the dress code of no shoulders showing on video, I would just through that screen and bitch slap that teach or admin.

If I think it is an appropriate piece of clothing my child can wear it, regardless of what you think. If your students can’t focus on school because “my child distracts them” your students should learn to self-regulate like any other 5yr old child

[grumpysunlight]

Oh boy do I have a story you’d enjoy! My second high school had no dress code. It was pretty much unwritten that as long as you had your nipples covered and didn’t have any vulgar language you were fine. I actually wore a sports bra and a pair of sweatpants to school once and didn’t get in trouble. So my senior year here comes this millennial “I’m such a cool guy look at my earrings” asshat math teacher. I lived in the state of California at the time. California never gets rain. I went to the bathroom (with his permission) wearing a white shirt. While in the loo it started pouring down rain. By the time I got back to class my shirt was soaked through and you could see the very VERY light pink of my bra showing through this shirt. The chick sitting next to me in class had a deep v-neck on and the girl on my other side was wearing a tube top. The douche teacher called me out infront of the entire class saying that I was dressed inappropriately and if I did not go BUY a school shirt then I had to put on his jacket to cover myself up. I regret not telling him to go fuck himself. Do not call your students out infront of an entire class for a clothing mishap that is not their fault

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

man if your MALE teacher is looking at their girl students in a sexual manner, ie telling them that their clothing is too sexual or inappropriate, that teacher should be fired, his licence removed, and an imediate investigation into his relationship with past students or children in his family should be conducted... just my opinoni.

[diaryofandnwoman]

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I only wish my family was still so connected to their cultural roots

[twitblr]

Controlled bathroom breaks are dumb, if I gotta go I gotta go! (x)

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I swear if they try the dress code of no shoulders showing on video, I would just through that screen and bitch slap that teach or admin.

If I think it is an appropriate piece of clothing my child can wear it, regardless of what you think. If your students can’t focus on school because “my child distracts them” your students should learn to self-regulate like any other 5yr old child

[wlw]

some white writers & animators from Nickelodeon are really trying to steal the entirety of hair love by Matthew A Cherry a BLACK animator who was already working on a series for his short film with another company. Matthew has confirmed this isn’t his series and it’s making my BLOOD boil. The lack of respect for black creators is insane. It’s due to air on September 13th on nick jr. please don’t support it!

[theconstantlydrainedbrain]

I got a book for my son from the Dolly Parton Imagination Library thing that is this!! The father looks the same, but in the book the mother wheres a covering on her head. The book is about embracing her hair and all the things that can be done with it cause it is beautiful, and her father’s attempt to put it in a do. A lovely story about bonding between a father and daughter.