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lesbianproblems

When you see a really attractive girl in public and you don't know if you want to fuck her or be her

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Any kinky nicknames for lesbians? I know that for a guy it might be daddy or whatever but what about a girl on girl?

It can be daddy even if its two girls. What ever floats your boat. I’m thinking I should do a post asking followers for some kinky names.

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Plz help!I've been in a relationship w/ my gf for 10 months & recently I met one of her best friend who's a lesbian too & a teammate.I'm good friends w/ her too & we'll sumtimes text here & there but all of a sudden she starts ignoring my texts? when we all went to a party a few days ago she told me that she feels"we shouldn't talk?"& I just said were friends.I just wanna know why! Is there a code I'm missing?shes thinks I'm beautiful & I think the same w/ her but nothing would ever happen!

Maybe your girl spoke to her. Maybe she’s into you, but knows it would be wrong and doesn’t want to hurt either of you and is just trying to be safe. Either way, you should just ask her why she said that and where she is coming from.

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I have this slight crush on one of my classmates which is a girl. I told her she is beautiful but in a sincere way. As time passes by, I lost interest on her. Whenever I see her there's no more 'butterflies'. Then now she gives me mixed signals. What to do?

Sounds like she enjoyed the attention you gave her, but once you lost interest she tried to get your attention again because it makes her feel good. #straightgirlgames 

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I fell in love with a girl who identified as straight and things happened and we ended up dating for close to two years but she kept me a secret and couldn't have sex with me because she was always worried about not being good at not matter what I did. Is this normal??

She’s straight, and even though you make her feel good (emotionally), being with another girl is not normal for her. It’s going to be difficult. Straight girls are a slippery slope. 

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Okay so I'm really scared to come out to everybody because I'm worried that it'll turn out that I'm not actually gay? I always doubt myself. I also have a teacher who I've always really connected with who's gay and I'm scared I'm just subconsciously trying to be like her? But that seems really dumb? Like I'm 99% sure I'm gay but I'm so scared of what people will think if I figure out I'm not gay? What if they think I was faking it or something? Sorry for the rambling - any advice??

Take some time to explore your own feelings. If you don’t have to come out, or aren’t ready to, then wait until it feels right. 

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I have a serious problem- a girl messaged me, because she supposedly wants to meet other gays, but she is not a USWNT supporter. Heck she rooted for Japan in the final! Is it acceptable that I am dismissing her for this reason - how can any self respecting female gay American not support the USWNT? Isn't that one of our fundamental principles - flannel, beanies, Ellen, woso- USWNT ?

Not everyone is perfect... even some soccer loving lesbians. However, when someone likes a different team than you do I find it makes things more interesting. There is that whole competitive aspect thats added, which can be fun. So, although she isn’t a fan of our amazing women’s team, at least she still likes soccer... even if it is the Japanese she’s cheering on. 

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What do you do when you cheated on your girlfriend with a guy?

Tell them.

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Ok so I have no interest in dating a guy and I'm out to several close friends as gay yet am willing to openly admit that guys are still attractive. My problem is that although I dress kinda like a dyke I have a few guy friends (that think I'm bi) who like me. I don't want them to waste their time on me but it's never come up in a conversation where I can tell them I'm gay and I don't want to tell them I know they like me and that I'm gay in case it's awkward. Help?

The best thing is to just tell them. Some guys are persistent as fuck and are still going to like you, but most will be cool with it. The ones that aren’t, well they couldn’t have been that great of a friend to let something like sexuality ruin a friendship. 

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How could I steal a girls heart who likes someone else?

Look at her, now look me, now back to her, and then back to me. RUN AWAY.

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Me and my girlfriend are trying to do something very kinky before or during sex but have no idea what to do.. Any ideas?

Watch porn together and see if it sparks your interest in anything. 

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My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now, and we're to the point where one of us is on top in our bra and shorts but just making out. We've felt each other up, but only over our bras. I want to take it further with her. Any advice?! Both of us are new to this.

Firstly, talk to her about taking it further. It’s important y’all are the same page. Then, just go for it. 

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Gay Code #141

There are only two categories of lesbians that matter. 1) Wine drinking cat lovers        Or 2) Beer drinking dog lovers

Those that fall into the grey area are still loved. 

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Until a year ago I was married for years and totally straight. A lesbian woman came into my life and totally changed me, and now I am totally gone over her but she won't have a relationship with me. I think about her all the time, I am attracted to women now, and I do not live in a world where this is acceptable, so now I'm all alone with these feelings. What is wrong with that to lesbians- what's wrong with "newbies"? I don't understand what code I'm violating. I know this hurts like hell tho.

Nothing is wrong with “newbies”, I think some lesbians (that have been out and stuff for a long time) just worry that someone who has recently realized they are gay may just be temporary. It really sucks that some of us think this way. My advice to you, if you even want it, give yourself some time. I promise it will get easier. And if possible get into a “world” where you can be who you want to be, and be with who ever you want to be with. 

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Your blog is basically "Being a Lesbian, For Dummies" handbook and for that I thank you (:

So glad you find it useful! 

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Hey! So here's the deal: I've been bi (with a HUGE preference for women) since high school. I've been with a few girls but really only dated guys since I'm not out to my family yet (out to everyone else though). The relationships never last and I see them more as friends. I see guys and I'm like hey, they're attractive but I don't really want to date them. And straight sex is awful. It doesn't do anything for me. But I love to have sex with girls. I know sexuality is fluid, but am I lesbian?

I can’t tell you whether you’re a lesbian or not. Maybe you’re relationships with women aren’t working because of the whole family not knowing thing. I’m not saying if you come out to your family it’ll make your relationships work, it’s just something I personally dealt with. My family is really important to me and I want my girlfriend to be part of my family. It is definitely easier now that I came out to my parents, some of the things that strained my relationship before are non-existent now. 

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This might come off as stupid...I'm currently trying to figure out whether or not I'm a lesbian and I feel like I can't relate to some of the things on this blog or idk other lesbian "stereotypes " I know they're just stereotypes but I'm so insecure rn

I post about stereotypes and similar things because I personally relate to them, or just find it funny and hope my followers will too. If you don’t fit into a stereotype thats not a bad thing, so don’t go trying to fit inside lines that might not be meant for you to fit in. Live your life, do what makes you happy, and be what ever makes you happy.