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#i know people have started criticizing the#‘men are afraid of getting laughed at women are afraid of getting killed’#but this is real?

Oh, yes.

A few years ago I went to pick up a woman I met on OKCupid for a date, and a friend of hers was there. They kind of over-explained “Oh, she just showed up to say hi” and there was a vague nervousness in the air that even my autistic ass was picking up on. Her friend was playing conspicuously with her phone. I went “Ah, the safety. Need to get a picture?”

Dead silence for about a second and a half, then the friend took a picture, looked at my date, and said “Have fun” and walked out the door.

(I would ordinarily have been clueless, but I’d just been asked to be the safety the previous night.)

My advice to male-presenting folks: recognize that this not your problem. By which I mean, this sort of security check isn’t a problem for you. It doesn’t hurt you. You aren’t being insulted or disrespected. And if you treat it like what it is– a reasonable adaptation to an unreasonable situation– and just roll with it, your dates will be more comfortable, and you will have a better time as a result.

The same applies to phone calls mid-date. Let them answer the damn phone without drama.

They aren’t accusing you of being a dangerous person. The very fact that they are willing to go on a goddamn date with you means that they have extended a certain level of trust. But the fact remains that there isn’t really a way to distinguish between “a man who isn’t dangerous” and “a man who knows how to behave like he’s not dangerous.”

kawuli

there isn’t really a way to distinguish between “a man who isn’t dangerous” and “a man who knows how to behave like he’s not dangerous.”

sourstiless

i miss gilbert blythe

officialstarscream

the CDC recommends to carry Madame Zeroni up the mountain

anthropologist-on-the-loose

The point of officially naming a pet is not to actually use that name but to have a baseline from which to come up with every conceivable nickname to call them instead.

abysswarlock

You bury a seed not because it looks nice in the dirt, but because the limbs that branch out will look nice in the sky

anthropologist-on-the-loose

Congrats on contributing to the ancient tumblr tradition of turning shitposts into profound poetry

daphrona

Slow burn but it's written by an impatient person

cheeseanonioncrisps

This doesn't affect the speed of the developing relationship at all, but does make for a very passive aggressive narrator.

empresstress13

Slow burn but the writer is angry about it

dreamyfilms

bless

lvrq-deactivated20220311

" [s]he respects my space and never makes me wait, and [s]he calls exactly when [s]he says [s]he will. (...) [s]he's charming and endearing and I'm comfortable...

but I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain, and it's two a.m. and I'm cursing your name... so in love that I act insane, and that's the way I loved you. "