moondrop

21 — guys im actually not insane!! just extremely sick

[themoondropcollective]

Side Blogs:

@angrylittlefox - dc oc rp

@littlereqiuem - dc oc rp

@wrenwayne - batfam oc rp

@somewhereleda - ... dc oc

@thearkhamangel - dc oc

@tendencyforviolence - dc oc

@spectrebloom - dc oc

@onlyrepent - lmao guess what. dc oc

@fosteringsickness

@too-lottie-too-late

@mutemaggietodd

@cassandraacaiin

@starboyandsims - sims cc and mods

let's not talk abt my sheer amount of dc ocs

I also have a mystery other dc rp blog that's for a specific AU. no i won't be telling you what it is

[boycritter]

this sucks so bad i need to [remembers suicide jokes only worsen my mental health] put on the best talent show this towns ever seen

[boycritter]

guys this post is a big hit on the adolescent psych ward

[birdsagainsthumanity]

Fish in the great lake being like

[birdsagainsthumanity]

Wait shit wrong fucking post

[smoov-criminal]

happy disability pride month to people who were/are abused because of their disability. my ex abused the fuck out of me specifically because i was too disabled to contribute to our lives the way they wanted. their abuse might even be part of why im so disabled in the first place (got shingles which can kick start chronic illnesses and was triggered by the stress i was under......because of the abuse).

i know so many people who were/are at the mercy of very terrible people because they literally have no other options. it's harrowing especially since ive been there.

if you're in this situation i hope so so dearly that you can get out as soon as possible. you deserve to be taken care of without having to fear the people who help you.

[smoov-criminal]

adding to this, happy disability pride month to disabled people with cptsd, regardless of what caused it. experiencing ongoing trauma every single day for weeks, months, years, that takes a massive toll on your body, especially physically disabled ones (ask me how i know). wether it's from abuse, neglect, poverty, being disabled itself and all the trauma that comes from that, anything at all, i hope you can soon be able to leave the situation if ongoing and have the opportunity to heal during and after

[only-knives]

reminders to myself as a severely ill person

i am not watching TV and YT all day some days because i am selfish; i do this when i dont feel well enough to do anything else

passive or mental activities can be just as valuable as active or physical ones, and i am still learning & growing when i engage with them

what matters most is that i am kind to the people that i do interact with, not how many people i interact with, or how frequently i socialize

i still have a lot of knowledge i can share with others; even if i cant do something myself anymore, i can still help people with their goals or issues

i am still me. my abilities are just different today than they were in the past. and that's something to grieve, not something to beat myself up over.

[baraphalloplastyclinic-deactiva]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[ladyfoxfire]

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.

[i-miss-poptropica]

this is also why universal basic income is inherently a feminist issue. like i actually do think people should be able to choose to be a stay at home parent or whatever but until there are meaningful social safety nets so that leaving an abusive spouse after being a housewife for an extended period of time is financially feasible for the majority of women who make that choice, yeah we should be making sure that more people are fully aware of what they're getting into when they make that choice.

like my parents relationship was abusive and my mom was a stay at home for 20+ years and when she did want to leave it took her literally years of planning to be and to actually get out. because yeah, dad owned the car, he owned the house, his name was on the bank accounts, he was financially abusive.

but the fact that she was even in that situation in the first place is because of a whole lot of societal failings.

[p1xelpc]

psychotic people and people with personality disorders and physically disabled people and people with higher support needs and intellectually disabled people and visibly different / disabled people and addicts: am sending you so much love

[p1xelpc]

also low / no empathy people and nonverbal people and unreliably speaking people and semiverbal people and people that move " wrong " and people that tic and people with brain damage and people with " anger issues " and people that self harm ( on purpose or on accident ) and people that need constant / near constant care. sending you so much love too.

[bebsi-cola]

being muslim or brown or black with mental health issues is so grim rn bc you can be depressed and feeling like shit and if ppl ask why it's like well you see, it's the racism. sometimes it honestly feels like racism isn't an acceptable reason for feeling down, like it's never one of the reasons people think you can be depressed for. and they dunno what to do with it. we're just expected to get on with it or complain about a racist incident and then move on. and people only ever seem to engage with racism when it's an easy conversation with a racist person to mock, and never when it's more serious or threatening. like not sorry I'm not over how much they fucking hate us and I never will be

[bebsi-cola]

it genuinely feels like nobody really seems to engage with me when i talk about racism unless it's some kinda clownish micro aggression with a perpetrator to mock. like that's the only time other people seem to gaf and honestly it just seems like they wanna go "man can you believe this asshole" and don't actually care how it feels to have been in that interaction or any of the more serious racism going on. like you can't point to someone for not engaging with a particular message it genuinely feels so abysmal. like unless racist hate crimes can be used to support their point or prove how good they are or provide entertainment then it's just not worth paying attention to.

[artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet]

i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

[lesspopped]

please wear sunscreen!!! I've seen "fuck the beauty industrial complex" posts about complicated skincare regimens and am 100% with them except sometimes they mention sunscreen and no. no. absolutely not. sunscreen is a wonderful supportive friend who wants to keep you safe, and you should let her do it. throw out all your other cosmetics and skincare products if you want, but keep your sunscreen. and if you're not wearing sunscreen, start wearing it!!!! this is not about terror of aging, this is not about every tiny imperfection our fucked-up culture has made you feel insecure about, this is about protecting yourself from skin cancer. wear the damn sunscreen.

[this-is-lookism]

This.

Also, don't follow that pop science idea of black/brown people not needing sunscreen, please. Save yourselves. Because while melanin is [PT: is] a protection from UV rays, you can still very much get skin cancer. And the darker the skin, the less doctors are taught how to see skin cancer. So it's way more common for y'all to be left with it with no diagnosis. Making it easier to have it reach its latest stages with no treatment, and end up dead.

This is especially important with these heat waves we've been seeing. Heat strokes are at an all time high. Protect yourselves.

I was volunteering as a safe stop in a convention, with some prevention health equipment, and in 2 days in a very small venue we had 8 heat strokes that ended up in the ambulance.

Be safe. Use sunscreen.

[brandinotbroke]

I BEG YOUR PARDON?????????????

[unfriendlyamazon]

reading paralives patreon posts to feel joy and i like how important crying in the bathroom is to the developers

[j3llyflesh]

I'm sorry, run that by me again?

We're doing early access mods/cc for an INDIE game that has been out for no more than 3 DAYS?

If you're gonna be a bunch of greed driven motherfuckers, keep it in the sims 4 and leave that newly started community of players alone... holy FUCK, dude.

[jellypawss]

going to write down a little wishlist for paralives so I can come back in a few years and see what they've added!!

laundry

illnesses

injuries

customizable cars (cars in general)

teens getting their license

strollers

more accessibility content (wheelchairs, canes, vests when we get animals, etc.)

writing (i'd die for a complex writing skill, commissioning book covers or making your own, choosing themes/titles, making prequels and sequels)

babysitting

advanced gardening system

pets in general but like, vet visits, dog park visits, leash walking, pet training, service dog training, special diets, etc.

a gaming system (compete in tournaments, talk to friends and game with them online, develop your own games, etc.)

BANDS (please god this game is perfect for bands)

grocery shopping!!

sneaking out/rebelling

cheating/getting caught

more emotional events (the sims 4 is so bland with life changing events)

detention / after school activities

random car events (break downs, speeding ticket, etc.)

baking skill (customizable cookies/cakes/pies/etc.)

fish ponds + fishing/stocking

journaling

canning + pickling

weather + weather events

basements (would be fun if they went crazy and added tornadoes and you had to get to a basement idk i've always wanted extreme weather, optional obviously)

field trips, sick days, skipping school

lunar cycles

[doctor-ramen]

Paralives is good because representation and inclusivity isn't an afterthought.

[viscerast]

watching some ablebodied baby go "ugh i hate that paralives is releasing with prosthetic limbs. disability is too dark for a lighthearted life sim. i just hope they dont add wheelchairs. im not ableist tho i just want my lifesims to be light hearted" why dont i get to be represented in a life sim? do i not get to simulate my life? to make myself? fuck you.

[cowplant-snacks]

Lovelies,

Reminder that Paralives is a FRESH START, so let's make sure that paywallers and early access folks know they are not welcomed. This behavior is not accepted in the vast majority of other gaming communities, they don't tolerate this behavior and we don't have to either. JUST SAY NO.

We will shape the paralives community together, so let's make it a great place to be for everyone.

ps. Here's an avenue to submit your feedback and thoughts on the topic. Reminder to approach with respect. https://www.paralives.com/gamefeedback

xoxo,

Snacks.

[gets off soapbox]

[lorencethecat]

I wish more life sim games had disabled focused content in them. I want my character to be blind. I want my character in a wheelchair. I want my character to use a cane or crutch or walker. I want braces and hearing aids and oxygen tanks. I want sign language and AAC devices and the option to be completely nonverbal. I want disability representation in my life sim games