incoming: a really long post.
i left this blog for good, but i see the same stuff is still happening and i had to speak up. this seriously needs to stop. i was going to brush it off and just move on with my life, to keep my āpeaceā but peace right now is nothing but an imaginary concept when it comes to tumblr. especially when this place is filled with people that still keep acting like this is okay.Ā
tumblr is a platform where we all share the content we create, or the content we want to see. you want to make gifs? go ahead. you want to make fanarts? go ahead. you want to write stories? go ahead. you want to read? go ahead. the site offers all this for you, it works quite simple. if you like something, you express it. if you like doing something, you keep doing it. weāre all here to have fun, perhaps hone our skills in our own respective fields and to share content. fangirl over our idols. be updated of the latest news.
sounds good, right? and it is.
but the community is toxic.
i came here to tumblr to have fun, until one day it just isnāt that anymore. suddenly creating the content you want doesnāt feel the same anymore, or you no longer have freedom in your own blog. one way or another, people are gonna start sizing up one another, regarding content creator to another content creator and labeling them as either āmore successful than meā or āless successful than me.ā what you once did out of your passion, soon turns into competition.
notes start to become addicting. follower count starts to matter. things change, friends become threats, and things fall apart. it sounds childish, it sounds immature, however the painful truth is that these types of issues are prevalent and this type of mindset is spreading like a disease. i was gonna drop it, i really was. i never did like conflict, although i personally donāt mind when someone āhatesā me because thats how you see me, i cant control that. im not gonna start pointing fingers and start labeling people as good guy bad guy. but i had to speak up because the result of all this envy and greed and mindless competition with one another has started to hurt people. thatās right, people are hurting others and saying these unnecessary words all because of what? notes? followers? blocking/unblocking? just sharing content, in general?
notes dont mean you suddenly become better than anyone. followers dont mean you get to have more power or influence, those people just want to see more from you. stop using āmutualsā to establish the connections you need to get where you want. the block button exists for peopleās safety, comfort, and privacy. people share content because they want to. thats just it. this isnt a paradoxical epiphany.Ā
im not gonna try and make myself look like a saint when i know im not. iāve had my fair share of becoming the toxic person in the community, such as shaming other writers and nitpicking everything they do. i thought that it was fine, because my environment told me it was fine. i was new, i was young, i was gullible. i thought itās okay to be indirectly mean, this is what writers really do. and i hated myself for that. i hate how i had started to become like the rest of the people, but then i realized: why do i have to be friends with someone in order to treat them decently? why was this mindset engraved to me by this place, where all malicious acts have started to become acceptable because āits a dark world out thereā?Ā
when you know the world is bad, the answer isnt to just go with the flow because this type of treatment have become so common that we have fooled ourselves into thinking we have to hurt one another just to āsurvive.ā this aint the hunger games.Ā
the truth is, a lot of people here think kindness has to be earned. that treating someone respectfully has to be earned. that somehow people have to work hard in order to be deserving of being treated as an equal. why do we think this way? why must we disassociate ourselves from one another, creating roadblocks and ridges? why is there so much hate, drama, and conflict?
thats not how it should be.
people really need to mind their own business. im not saying to push people away and live in solitary. it means that you have enough common sense and basic human morality in which you let people do whatever they want on their blog. let them create the gifs they want. let them write whatever they want. let them move blogs if they want to. let them take hours to respond or unfollow you or block you, because at the end of the day, itās their blog. why do someoneās actions bother you so much? especially when that someone isnt even trying to do anything remotely harmful to anyone? theyre just doing what they want on their own blog. thats their blog.Ā
and its really not that hard to unfollow or block someone. dont like what im posting? click the button, barely takes a second, and itāll save the both of us some despair. im not gonna mind, we can still be friends and im not gonna go around bawling my eyes out because a mutual decided they didnt wanna see my stuff anymore. its simple, its easy, its not rocket science.Ā
so then why do people have to make it so hard?Ā
tumblr was supposed to be a happy content sharing platform, but the people have turned it into some warzone where its either kill or be killed. in simpler words, its just a race on whoever gets the more notes or followers or whatever. i never even saw it that way. writing to me was not a race, it was a passion. this isnt some sort of marathon. i have my journey, you have yours. in the end weāre all just doing what we love. its as simple as that. theres nothing more to it.Ā
understand that youre not better than anyone, and neither am i. in the end, weāre all just content creators. its really not that hard to mind your own business.
so its downright unacceptable that several others have experienced online harassment all for this stupid thing. yall need to get yourselves checked. tumblr isnt a race, its not a competition, its a platform where weāre all supposed to express ourselves freely and enjoy the fandom. dont become someone who kills someones passion, thats not any less worse than killing the person themself. this is a real, tyrant issue that never stops. whats the point of becoming a great content creator when your personality says otherwise?Ā
this is why i left my blog. i wanted a better environment for not only myself, but my readers, and friends as well. is it a crime to want that? no, so i dont owe anyone an explanation, i couldnāt care less if people start blocking me or sending me hate. is that what you wanna do? alright then, thats your blog, thats your thing.
but im tired of this tumblr drama. i dont have the energy to waste my time on this. so many good things are out there in the world waiting to be loved and appreciated. i came here for content, thats all there is. i dont care about anything else because this was supposed to be a harmless website and also because i have an actual life i focus more on. do yourself a favor and free yourself from your own negativity and all this childish nonsense.Ā
so just stop this madness, okay? stop hurting others for your own greed. stop harassing anyone because youre envious. stop sending rude anons. stop pretending to be friends with anyone because you know they can give you this popularity you oh so crave like a starved man. stop messing with others and looking down on people who were just minding their own business. stop playing the victim role when you have no idea of the damage youve done. stop saying you want to be treated the way you treat others because you think youre so perfect. if i treated you the way you treated others, you would beg me to stop considering the lack of respect people have here. but i wont do any of that, because im not wasting my time on it. i still have a long way ahead of myself, so many things i still have to learn and experience. i still have an actual life to tend my matters to.
im just gonna move on and have fun with my friends, because thats how it should be. we have fun, we share love, not drag each other down out of hate. i mind my own stuff, you mind yours. im not gonna do anything else because this is nature. nature has a natural state of equilibrium where all things fall into place. with every action, there is either a consequence or a reaction. theres no need for me to make this worse than it already is or make anyone pay for hurting and using my friends because everything youāve done will find its way back to you. hence the not so conundrum of causality.
many of you will immediately label me as an enemy, but thats not my point. im not fighting anyone. im not trying to hurt anyone. im sharing a conjectural statement in hopes people finally gain back their devoid sense of humanity. so again, mind your own business, get a life, and start being nicer. whether its someone you label as inferior or superior, kindness knows no limits.
and i would rather be a kind person than a popular content creator.
leave my friends alone. leave my readers alone. leave other content creators alone to their own lives. and again, leave my friends alone, irregardless of their status here. they are good people whom i care about, good people who deserve their happiness and freedom. had it just been me that went through this, i wouldnt have minded. but involve my friends into your own toxicity, and i wont hesitate to speak up.
i know i had also fallen into bad habits, which is why im no longer letting anyone influence me to brush away my morals because i need to be āstronger.ā that being nice will only hurt me. whatever people do, thats not my business anymore. theres no need to shame other people for their own success.Ā
i am repeating for the last time: dont take tumblr too seriously. im saying all this because its not only my line to cross. iāve seen the shit people have done and experienced, and its quite sickening that people do all this just because of envy and greed. tumblr should be a place where we all share our content happily and freely. dont drag someone down just because you got issues. come here for fun, read and write for fun, create content for fun, interact politely and respectfully, support one another. this isnt a warzone, and other content creators are not your enemy or a threat to your imaginary throne. i genuinely wish that this post has somehow snapped people into reality that there are more things in life that actually matters.Ā
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