The film and the book are purely promoting rape culture. This is not BDSM, it is abuse and glorified rape. Do not for a second believe that this is what a healthy BDSM relationship looks like. Do not mold into or seek damaged partners, who seek power for the purpose of abuse. If you choose to see this film tomorrow or any day, please unfollow me, because I do not support rape culture, I do support the lack of responsibility shown by EL James in regards to the content of the book, and I do not support ignorant people who claim the film is, "not a problem," especially in a time where celebrities, athletes, and everyday people are getting away with rape even in the public eye. Here are some resources about why this movie and this book are complete shit.
I have a dom here in Paris at the moment and here are some examples of how he is NOT abusive and is a respectful and healthy dom.
Prior to meeting, he asked me my opinion on BDSM.
He gave me the choice and time to consider the dynamic with him.
He provided me with his personal website, and other information to ensure that he was who he'd initially introduced himself as.
He asked me to come up with a safe word a few days before our meeting, and requested that it be a meaningful word. He verbalized that he would always respect my safe word.
He sent a list of requirements, which is NOT the same as Christian's contract with Anna. The requirements included mainly a dress code, and etiquette for his apartment.
He gave me another list of requirements upon arrival, mostly regarding permission to orgasm.
Once we began he would check in regularly to make sure I was not in too much pain or uncomfortable.
He offered me water (though I had to drink it like a dog, haha)
When it came to bondage, he checked in and asked if anything was too tight.
He put a gag on me, and explained that the new safeword could be expressed by tapping my hand twice loudly or my feet 3 times, since I couldn't speak.
He asked if I was ready before penetration.
He changed condoms between vaginal and anal sex.
After the sex, he asked me what I thought about beginning a BDSM relationship with a 17 year old who had expressed interest. (age of consent is 15 in France).I told him that since he is a respectful dom, it might be good for her to see what a BDSM/dom/sub relationship should look like. We discussed 50 Shades and agreed that it was damaging to younger girls like her. I told him, he might actually be a good influence since we don't have the right to deny her sexual freedom, we can at least provide her with a safe place to explore.
He walked me to the Metro and requested that I let him know when I arrived home.
Domestic Abuse Protestors Protest the Film in London
Abuse Is Not Romance: Ads for ‘50 Shades’ With Actual Insane Quotes from the Book
Not Into 'Fifty Shades'? Grassroots Campaign Says Donate $50 To Women's Shelter Instead
Domestic Violence Activists : "You Should Boycott Fifty Shades"
Consent Isn’t Enough: The Troubling Sex of Fifty Shades
50 Shades for Dummies, by Emma
50 Shades and Abusive Relationships
Christian Grey V Signs of a Domestic Abusive Relationship
I also purchased the shirt shown above, because I despise the series that much. Once I convene my finances, I will be making a donation. You can purchase this shirt here, and follow the hashtag #50dollarsnot50shades to find a shelter to donate to.
Rape culture is not open for discussion here on my page. But if you have any questions or don't understand some aspects of the articles, then feel free to ask, or search blogs such as this one
