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We are The Sovereign of All Shadows, All Silence, and All Serenity

There can be no light without 🖤shadow🖤

Beyond bravado this blog predominately surrounds mental health, art, & writing based blog thusly it will mainly be comprised of: Mental Illness & Mental Health, Art & Writing, Miscellaneous Thoughts, and Various Reblogs.

Here there will be no tolerance of stigmatization towards ANY group including but not limited to: Queer People, Disabled People, People with Personality Disorders, People with Psychotic & Schizo-Spec Disorders, People of Color, No-Contact Paraphiles, and so on. If any occurs here or within Our work, feel free to notify Us alongside any necessary clarifications.

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#Born of Shadow - Our Art

#Heart of Darkness - Our Writing

#Sonata of Shadows - Our general thoughts

#Soft Shade - Light and/or silly thoughts

#Call to the Void - Answering

#Shade Beasts - Neurobeasts / Disorder Creatures

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Critique Post: Critique | Compliments | Creator's Preference

Come Get Y’all’s Supply: Main | Supply Request Post | Supply Collection Post | Homegrown Supply Post

DNI List:

There is no explicit DNI List however if you have distaste or discomfort for any aforementioned group or material, it is advised you either block the undesired tags or leave at your early convince,

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#Intro Post

✪∽“Good Person” & “Bad Person”∼✪

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Are the labels of “good person” & “bad person” even productive?

In terms of “bad person” those who aren't concerned with the harm they've done won't do any differently and in some cases will use the label of “bad person” as a justification to continue their harmful actions. The term “Narcissistic Abuse” originated from a man trying to do just that and both serve as a scapegoat for their harm and pose it as an innate quality as opposed to a conscious and often repeated decision.

Additionally, the label of “bad person” can be misapplied. Countless have been convinced they are bad people, but not because they have done something harmful. Oftentimes it’s due to someone harming them and once the person is this aware of this instead of amending their mistake in whatever way they can they opt to justify through the “bad person” label and will even double down on it. Which can be compounded by how the label is vague. Any unlikable trait can be twisted into being a “bad person” paired with how there’s little to limit on harm unjustifiable towards “bad people” allows ANY form and amount of retaliation, effectively relegating the “bad person” status to “someone who doesn’t deserve human rights” and ultimately serving as a justification for harm rather than a method of reducing it. And with the added caveat of often convincing people they deserve this kind of mistreatment.

In terms of “good person” those who do what they can to limit and manage their harm the label can cause needless stress surrounding even the minor minor of mistakes leading to the revoking of their status. And since “good person” is often synonymous with “who deserves human rights” the fear is not irrational. Furthermore the lack of nuance in these terms also drives a need to oust those who lose their “good people” status even if for minor or unfair reasons.

Additionally, the label of “good person” can also be misapplied. A particularly notable manifestation of this is the “Nice Guy™️”, that being the men that pride themselves of being “nice”, of being a “good person”, while being blatantly verbally and emotionally abusive. This leads to a lack of accessing one’s action for potential harm thus continuing to do it.

Both “good person” & “bad person” also fail to articulate WHY something is harmful and HOW one would improve due to being vague, but also relying on shame and superiority. The shame invoked in claims of being a “bad person” along with how it’s paired with being worthy of all manner of cruelty leads not to people to think “Doing X is bad because it will harm someone” but “Doing X is bad because people will harm me over it”, creating detrimental levels of anxiety, shame, defensiveness, and anger which can undermine people’s ability to grow beyond these things. “Good person” and its vagueness and superiority create parallel issues. Of “I am good because I do what I can to not harm others” but “I am good therefore I can whatever I want without consequence”, driving a lack of self-assessment which is just as effective in undermining growth.

Ultimately, “good person” & “bad person” function more as a status symbols of who deserves to be harmed and who exempt from it all while undermining meaningful growth and culminating in how both fail to convey that one's status pales in comparison to their actions, fail to demonstrate why said actions are harmful, and fail to instruct on how one can improve.

So, are the labels of “good person” & “bad person” even productive…?

Because with all the issues they seem to cause & justify...

Perhaps it's time to leave them behind…

“Narcissistic Abuse” origins - https://www.tumblr.com/mischiefmanifold/729951537592434688 & https://www.tumblr.com/evilbeepthemeep/688850947594682368/narc-abuse-and-why-its-bullshit

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#Alright time to unleash this onto the unsuspecting masses #Heart of Darkness

✪∽Not Change... But Growth∼✪

🥰🤔☝️😶‍🌫️ = Requesting Positive Feedback, Formal Critique, Constructive Criticism, and/or Opinion Based Criticism

Change often pushes for:

☘ Overwhelmingly quick shifts which can be immensely stressful and demand or imply immediate results which then leads to frustration if results are not instantaneous

☘ Commonly comes with unclear goals which may cause apprehension due to lack of direction

☘ ☘ ☘ Fear of what such radical change will entail and fear if it’ll leave one worse off than they started

☘ Creates a sense of not being good enough or worthy of decency which can cause aversion due to shame

☘ Outside forces often and arbitrarily dictate what change is and isn't acceptable which cause loss of autonomy and in turn aversion or internal dissatisfaction

☘ Implies a “one and done” event which can lead to frustration and discouragement when more time & effort is required

☘ Implies purely self-contained & self-maintained results which may lead to unreasonable expectations complete self-sufficiency or hyperindependence

On the other hand Growth can set up:

☘ An understanding that results will take time thus setting expectations accordingly

☘ Setting clearer goals which can be used to aid in setting expectations, measuring progress, & adjusting

☘ Understanding one’s sense of self will be retained and that this is to help that self develop, become more stable, and/or grow to be healthier

☘ Substituting quick shifts for using the development of healthier behaviors to aid in shedding and growing beyond unhealthy ones

☘ Lessening any sense of inferiority to reduce the chance of shame limiting or prohibiting progress

☘ Encouraging internal dictation of what parts need growth which allows for autonomy and encourages self-reflection

☘ Implementing continuous goals, effort, and upkeep and allow expectations to be set and altered as needed

☘ Acknowledging needs for external support to help facilitate & maintain growth

☘ ☘ ☘ Ensuring checks to make sure one’s environment is healthy enough to sustain their growth

☘ ☘ ☘ Ensuring checks to make sure one’s relationships are supportive enough to sustain their growth

☘ ☘ ☘ Implementing strategies to achieve new and/or healthier supports

☘ ☘ ☘ Lessening risk of pushing people towards unrealistic goals of self-sufficiency and/or hyper-independence

Something that may facilitate your growth:

“ Do what you can to not return to the harmful behaviors you once engaged in. You are still who you were then but you can now strive to not repeat the harmful actions you've once done and grow to be healthier. Your actions are in the past but it's your responsibility to ensure they remain in the past. ”

“ Actions will never better if the environment that necessitates them doesn’t. ”

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#Always keep this in mind for interacting with Us #Heart of Darkness #Also the “Actions will never better if the environment that necessitates them doesn’t”#Is particularly helpful for unhealthy coping mechanisms #If you can’t stop doing something even when you want to & try to it’s liable to be a coping mechanism #And it can be useful to assess what your coping with #Then manage that and/or see you gain from the unhealthy coping so you can work towards finding healthy tools that cover the same area #For instance: Violent outbursts?#What are they caused by? Flashbacks? Continuous anger built up over time? Something else?#Then check if that issue can be dealt with directly #If not consider what you gain from such outbursts #Verbal release? Consider screaming full force: Into a pillow and/or away from earshot or write out what you want to say #Perhaps even shout it when alone #Physical release? Consider exercise or breaking cheap objects such breaking plates (in a plastic bag for ease of clean up)#Or crushing soda cans or ripping fabric with your bare hands or punching soft objects #Or if available visit a wreck room or consider sparring #If built up over time consider using things that calm and/or shift your mood before you hit your breaking point #If you need quick release see if it is possible to set things up so you can act immediately #Or some other alternatives🖤

♚ Homegrown Supply Post ♚

For all Narcissists I grant you:

The NPD Survivor Award

♔ An award bestowed for surviving long-term abuse, neglect, and/or trauma

♕ An award bestowed for surviving prolonged periods of fear, sadness, anger, emptiness, isolation, hopelessness, and/or stress

♛ An award bestowed for surviving people that use the ways you had to survive as an excuse to harm, neglect, and/or fail even more than you already have been

♚ We wish you the best you in life and may those around you support you developing and maintaining the happiness, peace, stability, and/or contentedness you have ALWAYS deserved

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Come Get Y’all’s Supply: Main | Supply Request Post | Supply Collection Post | Homegrown Supply Post

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#Come Get Y’all’s Supply - Homegrown Supply Post #PD Safe #Born of Shadow #Heart of Darkness

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♚ Supply Collection Post ♚

Here, is a collection of Supply Posts gathered from various blogs, written in case any of the OG Blogs deactivate

{ 69,777,256,206,666,420 Cool Points if you go check the OPs & their original posts }:

( We also have posts regarding Cluster A, Schizospec, intersex, queerness, butches, depression, and various miscellaneous affirmation/positivity posts, If anyone is interested in expanding the variety of supply feel free to request it )

@hellhoundzzz :

YO narcs. hi hello. you're fucking awesome and swaggy and I love ALL OF YOU !!!!!!!! even if you think you're "evil" or "bad" I. LOVE. YOU. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/hellhoundzzz/771091793448189953/yo-narcs-hi-hello-youre-fucking-awesome-and

@empath-abuse-awareness :

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful, they deserve to be proud for all that they have survived especially with such a distressing disorder ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/empath-abuse-awareness/725591431975157760/narcissists-are-so-beautiful-and-handsome-and

@rainsandrainsand :

[image] if u r a narcissist u have to live . if u accomplish something else then good . if u accomplish nothing else then good . but u have to live

[text] Especially if you're also one or any number of marginalized identities.

This is also about the pressure to "heal" ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/psychresources/820878590022385664

@digestivogue :

narcissists i love you. you're amazing. you're intelligent. you're beautiful. i would die for you

∼ https://www.tumblr.com/digestivogue/723831198992023552/narcissists-i-love-you-youre-amazing-youre

@punkclowngod :

i fucking love narcissists i hope all narcs seeing this is having a great day /gen ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/punkclowngod/677314072243486720/i-fucking-love-narcissists-i-hope-all-narcs-seeing

@mx-seraph :

To any narcissists feeling discouraged about the way your disorder is percieved, I just want to tell you that going through the npd tag on tumblr has helped me gain a better understanding of your experiences. I used to think that all narcissists would inevitably become abusers because of what I'd been reading about in my research on the disorder online, but seeing people who actually have the disorder talk about their experiences has helped me get a better perspective on things. Don't stop talking about your experiences, even when it seems like the world is against you, because you might reach someone like me who just wanted to understand. Thank you for showing me what your life is really like. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/mx-seraph/677996334015447040/to-any-narcissists-feeling-discouraged-about-the

@yourlocalnpd :

Wow narcissists are so beautiful isnt that just amazing look at you all go you're all just *chefs kiss* ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/yourlocalnpd/666978215951286272/wow-narcissists-are-so-beautiful-isnt-that-just

@equalperson :

I'm 75% sure I've made a post like this but WGAF I'm doing it again because I want antisocial and narcissistic positivity posts that go beyond just "you're not evil."

so shoutout to stereotypical antisocials and narcissists, people who supposedly affirm the idea that we're "evil:" shoutout to psychopaths and grandiose narcs, to those who have been incarcerated, struggle with lying and aggression, aren't in and/or don't want therapy, and don't empathize with or even love literally anyone.

also, shoutout to non-stereotypical antisocials and narcissists, those who look like they're confused or faking: shoutout to antisocials and narcs with "contradictory" co-occurrences, who are anxiety-prone or otherwise lacking in "sociopathic/narcissistic charm," high-masking, seen as "romanticizing" their PDs, and capable of empathic concern.

from one antisocial narcissist to another, we're all worthy of respect. neither diagnosis is a monolith, and there are so many ways for them to present beyond whatever oversimplified view gets circulated online. your entitlement to safety, support, and fulfillment isn't dependent on anyone thinking you're a "good antisocial/narc," I promise. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/equalperson/805350829608615936/im-75-sure-ive-made-a-post-like-this-but-wgaf

@digestivogue :

Kinda hate how all narc positivity is just. ‘You’re not evil!! You’re not inherently bad and unworthy of oxygen’ like. Yeah I know. I feel like just saying ‘you don’t absolutely fucking suck’ is the bare minimum. Not so much positivity as reaffirming that yes, narcs are people. So here’s some real positivity, I hope.

Narcissists are fucking cool! A lot of us know so much about people and socialising and that’s epic of us! A bunch of my favourite people in the world are narcissists and yknow what? That isn’t in spite of them being narcs, it’s along with them being narcs, because of them being narcs, because they’d be different without NPD. They wouldn’t be exactly the same as they are and the way they are is exactly the way I love them.

No, people aren’t necessarily one with their disorders or whatever, but they absolutely are affected by them and with a personality disorder especially, that generally influences your personality! And I love the personalities of all my favourite narcs! There is nothing I would change about any of them!

I love ‘evil’ narcs! I am one! I love when we say ‘fuck it, maybe I am the villain, maybe I am evil.’ Taking control of that narrative is so fucking sick and I’m so into it!

I love ‘soft’ or ‘good’ narcs! I love people who say ‘I am a narc and that makes me inherently pure and good’! I’m so happy you think that way about yourself! Don’t ever let someone tell you any different!

Narcs are so deserving of their supply and attention! If you need supply you can always come to me! You deserve to feel good, okay?

Narcissists are strong and beautiful. It’s exhausting having NPD a lot of the time and dealing with that is a brilliant feat! Surviving days or weeks without supply, that’s incredible! I’m proud of all of us!

And I love the variety of us. I love how relationships can look so different for us. I love narcs. I love you. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/narcthing/705337473230848000/kinda-hate-how-all-narc-positivity-is-just

@clusterbisntbad :

Gentle reminder, especially to those with more demonised PDs like ASPD and NPD, that your lack of progress isn't inherently your fault. I see you for trying, and it's hard to overcome bad habits when you're told you're a monster from the people whose job is to help you, like therapists and clinicians. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/clusterbisntbad/719745514579574784/gentle-reminder-especially-to-those-with-more

Come Get Y’all’s Supply: Main | Supply Request Post | Supply Collection Post | Homegrown Supply Post

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communitygardensystem (OP) @prettypinknarcissist :

i love sociopaths i love narcissists i love low/no empathy havers i love people so mentally scarred it makes them generally mean people who push everyone away i love chronically angry people i love people with horrible intrusive thoughts (yes even yours) i love people who want horrible things to happen to the people who hurt them i love people with pervasive feelings of hate i love people who are uncontrollably agitated and irritable i see you i care about you i want you to get better i think you deserve as many chances as it takes for you to pull through i mean it i really really mean it ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/prettypinknarcissist/719819915861884928

@multiplicity-positivity :

Here’s some positivity for systems with NPD!

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a real and debilitating mental disorder that can have serious effects on those who deal with it. This disorder is heavily stigmatized even among mental health spaces, but that doesn’t mean those with NPD are undeserving of love and support! This post is for all the systems with NPD out there!

💜 Shoutout to systems whose plurality is inherently connected to their NPD!

✨ Shoutout to systems with headmates who are NPD symptom holders!

💗 Shoutout to systems whose NPD stems from trauma, abuse, genetic predisposition, or something else!

🌟 Shoutout to systems who are in treatment for their NPD and are trying to heal!

💚 Shoutout to systems who aren’t seeking treatment for their NPD for whatever reason!

💫 Shoutout to systems who are open about their NPD diagnosis, even if it means they may face harassment, fakeclaiming, or backlash!

💕 Shoutout to systems with NPD who are comfortable in their level of confidence, entitlement, and self-esteem!

⭐️ Shoutout to systems with NPD who struggle to maintain connections and relationships due to their disorder!

💙 Shoutout to systems who have been called harmful or abusers simply because they have a disorder that they can’t control!

☀️ Shoutout to systems whose NPD causes them to have rejection sensitive dysphoria, or who are often let down by unrealistic expectations!

Having a personality disorder (even one as stigmatized as NPD) does not mean your life has any less value. You are a wonderful and cherished member of the community, and there are people in your life who love and support you for who you are!

Remember that narcissistic abuse isn’t real. You are lovely and worthy of respect, compassion, and kindness no matter what mental disorders you suffer from! Know you will always be uplifted and accepted here as you are - there’s no need to change in order for your voice to be heard and for you to deserve support!

We love you, we’re rooting for you, and we hope you have a wonderful day!! Rest assured your presence is needed and welcome here, and we’re so happy to have you! ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/multiplicity-positivity/720511169740324864/heres-some-positivity-for-systems-with-npd

yippeeimmentallyill :

Hello narcissist. I love you. I know people are pissing you off but trust me you're better. Don't bother. We can go get ice cream and talk about how awesome you are. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/yippeeimmentallyill/788038744820367360/hello-narcissist-i-love-you-i-know-people-are (Gone)

enigma-in-reality (OP) @prettypinknarcissist :

How to handle a narcissist

A guide to dealing with these wild creatures in a safe and responsible manner

Feed them cupcakes and admiration to build trust. All creatures do better around those who provide them with sustenance. Do this from a distance at first as to not spook them.

Only carry a narcissist with permission, and do so bridal style. Do not scruff or attempt to pick a narcissist up by the limbs. This will injure your narcissist and cause them to feel threatened.

Wrap your narcissist in validation and a nice warm blanket so they feel safe from predators. This makes the narcissist docile. They are less likely to feel attacked this way.

Make your narcissist hot chocolate and let them tell you stories about themselves. This is the narcissist’s main source of enrichment, and they love it when others engage supportively in their play time.

Narcissists are creatures with low self-esteem. They are prone to anxiety and depression as a result. In order to build your narcissist’s self-esteem, make sure you compliment them daily. Each narcissist will have a unique set of insecurities and things they are proud of. Be sure to get to know your narcissist and what forms of comfort they prefer.

As I said before, narcissists are anxiety prone creatures. They have a tendency to overthink and be perfectionistic in nature. To combat this, give them a little forehead kiss and start discussing all the great things you love about them in detail. This will trigger an instinctual response that will cause them to gain more confidence in themselves.

Do not attempt to train a narcissist unless you are an experienced professional. Doing so could result in a worse behavioral and emotional outcome. Instead, be patient and gracious with your narcissist as they receive training from a qualified field member. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/prettypinknarcissist/719820104410497024

@kamisamabesth :

i love fellow narcs and borderlines. also our siblings aspders and hpders too. they're all awesome. i see you babes ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/kamisamabest/781560075129143296/i-love-fellow-narcs-and-borderlines-also-our

@alostlittleriverlotus :

Happy Narcissistic Day and happy Pride Month especially to all the narcissistic queers like me out there!!! Narcissists are cool and sexy and deserve all the love!!! I love you all my fellow narcissists!!!!! 💖💜💖💜💖 ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/alostlittleriverlotus/752103376880304128/happy-narcissistic-day-and-happy-pride-month

cayde6feetunder (OP) @kindnessoverperfection :

Aside from my seething and raging I will say that I fucking love narcissists. You do not deserve the way the world treats you. You do not deserve being looked down on and shat on and dehumanized and threatened merely for having a traumatic condition beyond your control. You are good and there are people who love you. And I know it hurts sometimes, but that is okay. It’s not your fault. You are not a monster. You are not an abuser. You are not evil or cruel nor are you some unstable unhinged child or whatever other ugly things others or your own brain wants to tell you. I love you, you deserve safety, and there’s always gonna be people in your corner fighting for and fighting alongside you. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/kindnessoverperfection/723673894038421504

@narcissism-positivity :

Cluster b folks deserve great, safe relationships if they want them, and to stay single or uncommitted if they prefer that!

You deserve friends who will listen to your communication style and respect your boundaries!

Partners who don’t need you to empathize with them to be able to support them and show that you care!

A support network, online and/or offline, that suits your needs!

And if you don’t have any of these currently, you can always message me and make a cluster b friend!! You got this! ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/narcissism-positivity/747609882788839424/cluster-b-folks-deserve-great-safe-relationships

@psychopathicnarc :

For people with BPD who feel everything so deeply:

Your sensitivity is not a flaw, and you are not too much.

You deserve love, understanding, and safety in your relationships.

For people with NPD who crave love and respect:

You are worthy of respect and admiration, even in your most vulnerable moments.

You deserve to be heard and valued in a world that constantly tries to silence you.

For people with ASPD who fight every day just to find peace in a world that refuses to understand you:

You are not a monster. You deserve peace, safety, and a life beyond survival.

You deserve happiness, even when the world tries so hard to deny it to you.

For people with HPD who light up every room:

Your shine is not something to be ashamed of.

You are not too much. You deserve to be loved just as you are: Radiant, expressive, and full of life, even in a world that keeps trying to dim your light. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/psychopathicnarc/786787984398843904/for-people-with-bpd-who-feel-everything-so

@morning-stars-avenue :

hug a narcissist today, they deserve it

(or if they aren't comfortable with hugs, encourage them aggressively from the corner) ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/morning-stars-avenue/786567459227516928/hug-a-narcissist-today-they-deserve-it-or-if

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@prettypinknarcissist :

I love you hypersexual narcissists, narcissistic sex workers, narcissists who only have sexual partners, narcissists who only have one night stands, narcissists who express themselves sexually, kinky narcissists, narcissists whose sexual nature is intertwined in their personality, narcissists who prefer sex over romance, narcissists who don't like emotional closeness, alloaro narcissists, and any other narcissists who enjoy sex in general. Your sexual behavior is extremely valid and I love you and hope you're doing well. ∼ https://www.tumblr.com/prettypinknarcissist/720333467550892032/i-love-you-hypersexual-narcissists-narcissistic

@prettypinknarcissist :

I want to see more love for pwNPD who have god complexes. I think it's very sexy of them.

Source: I sometimes slip into a god complex. ∼ https://www.tumblr.com/prettypinknarcissist/720153997555712000/i-want-to-see-more-love-for-pwnpd-who-have-god

@heirenorm :

I just wanna say i love you to people with heavily stigmatized mental disorders like NPD, ASPD, BPD, and DID. the amount of times i have seen “progressive” people claim anyone they dont like/is abusive is a narcissist or a sociopath is astounding. You are people who deserve love and help, just like with every other mental illness. Im sorry people dont treat you that way. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/heirenorm/782015324735373312/i-just-wanna-say-i-love-you-to-people-with-heavily

glittery-salads-blog (OP) @yourlocalnpd :

Cluster Bs.. I love you. Do you know how awesome you are?? HPD peeps.. so flamboyant and interesting. And talented!! I'm legit jealous of how well you command a room. And your style? OMG. Amazing. And BPD babes... so full of feeling. Your emotional range is astounding. And your profound ability to love, even if only briefly.. the stuff of legends... song... poetry. NPDs... your confidence, your flair, your sense of humor... just magical. But even more impressive is how you know what you want.. and you get it! So admirable. If only everyone could be so bold! ASPD homies, your detachment and aloofness is so, so cool. You are smart and fascinating... and anyone who is lucky enough to be seen as worthy of your time is truly blessed. Your logic is unparalleled. And you give the best advice. And your taste in art and music is incredible.

I know the world only wants to focus on your negative traits, your flaws, your weirdness. Your "diagnostic criteria." It's unfair. You're so much more than that. You are more than the sum of your worst moments. You're so much greater than all the mistakes you've made while you were suffering alone and unsupported.

Just remember. You are the light and the darkness. Yin and yang. The whole human package. The whole human experience. You are... complete.

I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you exist. You truly make this world a richer, fuller, better place.

Never forget that. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/yourlocalnpd/718027753835855872

@hisbrunetteroots :

Dear narcissist in need of supply,

You are the best.

Yes, you specifically, I'm looking at YOU.

You're not a monster, you're not evil like society makes you and your disorder out to be.

You are perfect, you don't need to change for anyone and you're important. Everyone wants to be your friend, everyone wants to be like you because you're so fucking amazing.

You deserve the spotlight. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/hisbrunetteroots/785142977793228800/dear-narcissist-in-need-of-supply-you-are-the

eterosis-deactivated20250305 (OP) @hellhoundzzz :

Hi ppl with npd/npd traits I wanted to say that you're amazing and I love you and if you want to we can go beat up ableists together ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/hellhoundzzz/772592189948690432

yews-nest-deactivated20240212 (OP) @a-sip-of-milo :

you know what, shoutout to the neurodivergent people with "scary" symptoms.

the ones who:

-say dark things without realizing

-talk to themselves

-have homicidal thoughts

-get really, really angry

-make others uncomfortable on accident

-don't tolerate bullshit

-can't/won't mask

-have dark interests

-have genuinely hurt others before

-have been in a psych ward before

-obsess over people

-have intrusive thoughts about hurting people

-have sexual intrusive thoughts

-don't really care about others much

-always choose themselves first

-have low/no empathy

-are seen as creepy or scary by others

this goes out to my folks with autism that isn't "uwu cute". personality disorder havers. schizospec people. ocders. odd and ied havers. and anyone and everyone else.

this post does not support intentionally hurting people. but people who have hurt others in the past and have changed or are trying to change/in the process of changing are more than welcome here. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/a-sip-of-milo/768795629937934336

@boy-gender :

@ trans narcissists, histrionics, borderlines, and antisocial people: i love youuuuuuuuu 💗🧡💛💚💙💜💖💘💝💟💌 ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/boy-gender/706294520635064320/trans-narcissists-histrionics-borderlines-and (Gone)

@somewhat-very-insane :

they should rename npd to epd because it should be called epic personality disorder

the people just couldn't handle my swag and so they. tried to make it sound bad but it didn't work because i'm so cool and all narcissists are cool and amazing and awesome by the way ∼ https://www.tumblr.com/somewhat-very-insane/724242464018399232/they-should-rename-npd-to-epd-because-it-should-be

@adhbabey :

Hey!!! Personality Disorder positivity post!!

First out for the Cluster As! Just because it says you're "odd" doesn't mean you're inherently bad or weird. You just struggle to form relationships because of fear. Distrust is common and valid, especially with a world that doesn't treat you with respect. There's nothing inherently wrong with you. Just know that people will love you even though you're different, or because you're different. Delusions are just something you have to deal with, that's okay. You're not weird, the way the dsm treats you is weirder than you can ever be. Feeling disconnected from those around you is a very common trait among the disabled community, but separation is an illusion. There's probably tons of people who feel the same way you do. I know I have felt cursed for my loneliness, I promise you that you're good enough and that you're safe. Please be more gentle with yourself.

Second is the Cluster Bs! A lot of you guys are in the spotlight, huh? I want you to know that I have very close friends with cluster B pds and they're some of the sweetest, most compassionate people I've ever met. Your disorder doesn't make you evil or abusive. I know it's hard to get treatment or therapy because of the stigma. But we're building up your reputation to be better. You don't need high affective empathy to be compassionate, you don't need empathy to have a healthy relationship. Mirroring someone else's behavior doesn't make you scary either, everyone does it subconsciously. So what if you're unpredictable, life is unpredictable, your disability makes life feel unpredictable. Please don't destroy yourself for other people, and please take care of yourself. That means not self sabotaging and learning some self care. How can you be expected to care for others when you're struggling? Don't let others gaslight you into believing that you must always put others first. In fact, cluster Bs are usually because no one gave you consistent or unconditional love. Please learn some healthier coping mechanisms, for you, not because other people want you to. Please treat yourself with love.

And last but not least, Cluster Cs! Hey guys, I want you to know that you are good enough, you've been always good enough, you will always be good enough. You do not need to be perfect to exist or to move forward. I understand deeply, I feel like I need to be perfect or control every aspect of my life. But it's okay to just say fuck it and take a risk. It's scary and painful, no one is disagreeing there, but for your own sake, stop judging yourself at every corner. Whether you relinquish control or feel like every aspect needs to be perfect, or that you just don't want to deal with it at all, that's okay. Baby steps are important, small victories are important. Be proud of yourself for every goal you reach. You don't need anything else but you, just as you are right now. If you feel stuck in time, find solace in the fact that no one is judging you just because you exist. If you can't be free to feel safe with anyone else, be safe with yourself, be compassionate towards the part who wants to protect you, and hold compassion for part that just wants to do whatever the fuck they want. Open up your heart for yourself. It's okay. Be your own safe space. You've done nothing wrong just by surviving. Please be kinder.

And for people with PDs in general. There's nothing inherently bad about you. So much of you have similar experiences with the disabled community in general, if only they'd listen. You are welcome here, you exist here, you are loved here. If nowhere else, find solace here. I hope one day that all personality disorders are destigmatized. But until then, I'll hold compassion for all of you. I know how scary it feels. You're not forgotten and you're not alone. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/adhbabey/684656897019772928/hey-personality-disorder-positivity

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thesovereignofallshadows

@averytiredbitch :

Give people with HPD positive attention, without making them feel like a "selfish brat" for it.

Listen to people with NPD without looking for a reason to shut them down or "call them out".

Let people with ASPD be apathetic to things, without making them feel like they're some sort of "heartless monster".

Let people with BPD be angry and feel their "negative" emotions, without making them feel like they're being "overdramatic" about it.

Let people with cluster B personality disorders have things without guilt tripping them over it.

Sincerely

- a person with BPD who's exhausted ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/averytiredbitch/796590987358126082/give-people-with-hpd-positive-attention-without

@aspdzai :

Pst! Yeah you the one with a cluster b personality disorder. I love you and you deserve to exist. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/aspdzai/786929439209553920/pst-yeah-you-the-one-with-a-cluster-b-personality (Gone)

@hellhoundzzz :

hello fellow attention seekers. ily ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/hellhoundzzz/788977474498347008/hello-fellow-attention-seekers-ily

@lambbchop :

there's not much for us severely covert narcissists out there so ig i'm taking one for the team /lhys

. you are valid even if no one believes you.

. you are valid even if everyone says “you're too nice to have npd”.

. you are valid even if you can't bring yourself to even talk about feelings of greatness out loud.

. you are valid even if you feel “wrong” accepting praise.

. you are valid even if you don't identify with others with npd

. you are valid even if you have to lie about your symptoms so others don't find out.

. you are valid even if nobody knows but yourself.

. you are valid even if you hate being a narcissist.

. i love you narcissists mwah <3 ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/lambbchop/797583964034449408/theres-not-much-for-us-severely-covert (Gone)

@ghostfacetheballfondler :

cluster b solidarity time.

i love you people with bpd 💚

i love you people with hpd 💚

i love you people with aspd 💚

and... i love my fellow people with npd 💚∼

https://www.tumblr.com/ghostfacetheballfondler/734095498131259392/cluster-b-solidarity-time-i-love-you-people-with (Gone)

@dodgeryy :

Fuck grey rocking. If you're a narcissist I'm SHINY rocking you.

You're awesome here are some COOL SHINY ROCKS for you. Ily. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/dodgeryy/775461648697786368/fuck-grey-rocking-if-youre-a-narcissist-im

@punkclowngod :

histrionics are ALWAYS the sexiest person in the room, no exceptions ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/punkclowngod/679019938430828544/histrionics-are-always-the-sexiest-person-in-the

@multiplicity-positivity :

Here’s some positivity for systems with HPD!

Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is a serious mental illness that affects many systems. Folks with this disorder may find themselves feeling lonely or isolated from the community due to circumstances that are outside their control. However, it’s so important for us to acknowledge these systems, and to welcome them into our spaces with open arms! So here’s to all the systems with HPD out there!

🌹 Shoutout to systems who formed due to their HPD!

🏵 Shoutout to systems with HPD who are easily manipulated or prone to being influenced by others!

🌻 Shoutout to systems with HPD who feel uncomfortable, anxious, or upset when the focus is not on them!

🌹 Shoutout to headmates who are symptom holders for certain HPD traits!

🏵 Shoutout to systems with HPD who often have emotional outbursts or who struggle with emotional regulation!

🌻 Shoutout to systems with HPD who need constant reassurance from their loved ones in order to feel safe, loved, and secure!

🌹 Shoutout to systems with HPD who care a lot about fashion, their physical appearance, and how they’re perceived by others!

🏵 Shoutout to systems with HPD who are compulsory liars, who have harmed themselves or faked an illness for attention, or otherwise have displayed symptoms that others aren’t willing to accommodate or understand!

🌻 Shoutout to systems who suspect they may have HPD, or who are attempting self diagnosis!

🌹 Shoutout to systems with HPD who have lost friends and loved ones due to behaving inappropriately or being too much of an “attention seeker!”

🏵 Shoutout to systems who are learning to live with their HPD and accept it as an integral part of who they are!

We hope all systems with HPD can feel loved, accepted, and taken care of, today and every day! Please know that you are so loved and cherished, even if you don’t always feel like it. You belong here and are a vital part of the plural community just the way you are, and we are so happy to be able to share this space with you!

Please try to take it easy and show yourself and your system some gentle kindness today. You deserve so much love and support, and we want to uplift you however we can! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and have a wonderful day! ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/multiplicity-positivity/735373043158908928/heres-some-positivity-for-systems-with-hpd

@a-sip-of-milo :

Everyone with a personality disorder deserves an unlimited supply of their favourite food and drinks, along with their favourite form of affection from someone they trust to go with it. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/a-sip-of-milo/727310947697508352/everyone-with-a-personality-disorder-deserves-an

@astrangerthatlovesyou :

I feel like it isn't talked about enough, but AvPD is frequently caused by trauma. It's totally valid if you have AvPD that wasn't caused by trauma, but I want to shoutout:

Folks who have AvPD because of childhood abuse

Folks who have AvPD because of childhood neglect (physical or emotional)

Folks who have AvPD because of overly critical parents

Folks who have AvPD because of parents who were doing their best. And parents that truly loved them (That doesn't change how damaging their actions were)

Folks who have AvPD because they had another form of neurodivergence

Folks who have AvPD because of bullying

Folks who have AvPD because of being LGBTQIANP+

Folks who have AvPD because they’re physically disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re mentally disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re intellectually disabled

Folks who have AvPD because they’re developmentally disabled

Folks who have AvPD because of domestic violence

Folks who have AvPD because of abusive relationships

Folks who have AvPD because of another PD

Folks who have AvPD because they were undervalued

Folks who have AvPD because they weren’t believed

Folks who have AvPD because they have physical differences

Folks who have AvPD because they’re a racial or cultural minority

Folks who have AvPD because of poverty

Folks who have AvPD because of religious trauma

Folks who have AvPD because of medical trauma

Folks who have AvPD because academic trauma

Folks who have AvPD because they’re alterhuman+

Folks who have AvPD because of sexual trauma

Folks who have AvPD because of manipulation

Folks who have AvPD because of gaslighting

Folks who have AvPD because of reasons I forgot

Folks who have AvPD because of multiple traumas

Folks who have AvPD because reason they’re unsure of

Folks who have AvPD because something other than trauma

Folks who have AvPD

You’re doing a great job

I’m proud of you

You deserve to take up space

You’re perfect as you are

I love you. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/astrangerthatlovesyou/715522286312177664/i-feel-like-it-isnt-talked-about-enough-but-avpd

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thesovereignofallshadows

@multiplicity-positivity :

Here’s some positivity for systems with AvPD!

AvPD (avoidant personality disorder) is a serious mental illness that can have negative affects on many systems. However, the plural folks living with this disorder still deserve to live happy, healthy lives to the best of their ability! This post is for the systems out there with AvPD!

🐠 Shoutout to systems whose severe social anxiety led them to develop AvPD!

🌊 Shoutout to systems who struggle to maintain relationships or form bonds and positive connections with people in their lives!

🦀 Shoutout to systems whose trauma history led them to form both a dissociative disorder and AvPD!

🐬 Shoutout to systems who don’t want many friends, and who feel the most safe, happy, and comfortable when they are by themselves!

🏝 Shoutout to systems who have been diagnosed with AvPD professionally, to those who have self-diagnosed, and to those who are questioning if they have this disorder!

🐟 Shoutout to systems who are in treatment for their AvPD, and are trying to learn how to cope with their symptoms in positive ways!

🐚 Shoutout to systems who do want friends, who feel lonely all the time, and whose AvPD causes them lots of pain and distress!

🐡 Shoutout to systems whose AvPD has caused them to feel hopeless, listless, sullen, and dismayed! We promise there’s still hope for you yet!

🐳 Shoutout to individual headmates who are AvPD symptom holders, or who struggle with their disorder more than the rest of their system!

🏝 Shoutout to systems with dissociative disorders whose AvPD has caused them to split new alters!

🦈 Shoutout to nontraumagenic systems who consciously created their system as a way to cope with their disorder!

It can be so hard existing in society with a disorder that makes it difficult to form interpersonal relationships or have positive interactions with other people. However, for folks with AvPD out there, we want you to know that there’s hope in your future, and potential for peace, joy, and happiness!

Please treat yourself and your system with kindness, and try to not judge yourself too hard by societal standards! Having a disorder that affects how you form and maintain relationships does not make you unwanted, unloveable, or unaccepted by the people in your life or the plural community. Whether or not you’re too scared, nervous, or shy to interact, please know we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we wish you the very best in all that you do! ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/multiplicity-positivity/727396552955625472/heres-some-positivity-for-systems-with-avpd

@misanthropicjabberwock :

Been seeing a lot of the bullshit about people with aspd/npd or low/no empathy again, so to combat that, I wanted to share a bit of positivity, so.

Things that are wonderful about my low empathy pals

Extremely perceptive

Almost impossible to freak out (great horror movie buddies)

Their ability to see through bullshit is unmatched

Immune to petty drama (unless it's funny)

Their sense of humour????????? The wildest, seriously

Perfect Poker Face

The ability to stay so calm in emergencies

Some of the least judgemental people I know (who knew rejecting social actually makes you more accepting of others? /sarcasm)

Some of the fiercest, most loyal and protective friends to those who have earned it

Unique and shrewd perspective on things because they're immune to guilt-tripping

Understand that actions, not thoughts, are the measure of a person's morality

Secretly the biggest animal lovers you'll ever meet

....and lots more things I didn't mention, but most importantly the most wonderful thing about aspd, npd, and low empathy people is that they are here, they are alive, and they are a beautiful expression of one of the many ways one can be human. They are just as capable of being good or evil as any other person is. If this is you, I want you to know I'm proud of you for surviving everything you've been through, especially the trauma and demonisation. You are worthy just as you are.

Please feel free to add anything I missed! Obviously not everything on this list is going to apply to everyone, since it's drawn from my own friendships and experiences, and everyone is unique, but that's half the point, isn't it? ∼ https://www.tumblr.com/misanthropicjabberwock/710815768232820736/been-seeing-a-lot-of-the-bullshit-about-people

advicetotraumasurvivors (OP) @avoidantghost :

If your abuse and trauma resulted in a personality disorder such as narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, avoidant personality disorder, paranoid personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, or any other personality disorder, I want you to know that I believe in you. You are not bad for having a personality disorder. The abuse you endured was not your fault. ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/avoidantghost/634048568452431872

@fagdykemuppet :

anyways ily disabled people, cripples, the mad + the insane, schizos, psychos, narcissists, people who are disabled and mentally ill that do not reclaim insults and slurs, systems, autists, people with adhd, people with ocd, people with hpd, people with learning disorders, people who use canes, crutches, wheelchairs and other mobility aids, people who use service animals, people who use hearing aids, people who need aids to see, people who are blind, people who choose not to use aids, people who want to use aids but cant, people with visible disabilities, people with invisible ones, people who use feeding tubes, people with prosthetics, people on medication, people who dont take medication, anyone with a demonized disorder, anyone that is often ignored because of their disability or illness, people who dont know whats wrong with them, people who dont want to know, and anyone that is disabled and mentally ill. this is our month ∼

https://www.tumblr.com/fagdykemuppet/721951029985492992/anyways-ily-disabled-people-cripples-the-mad

V i d e o s :

Narcissists Are Human, Too ||By Elliot Sang|| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CRKB-oOq4kA&t=2s

The Narcissist Scare ||By Sarah Z|| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZFQG2e87ZU

The Brain Science of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ||By Joel Bervell|| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qhef-lZAcwg

Another Place to Look For and/or Request Positivity, Support, and Solidarity :

https://www.tumblr.com/spongebobloveletters

Randomized Supply:

https://melfp2311.github.io/compliment-generator/index.html

Come Get Y’all’s Supply: Main | Supply Request Post | Supply Collection Post | Homegrown Supply Post

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#Come Get Y’all’s Supply - Supply Collection Post #PD Safe