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Hi, my name's Laura. 35. British. Married to the most wonderful woman. I'm a shy introvert who's incredibly quiet and awkward in person. This blog is often nsfw with other random posts that interest me, make me laugh, or nourish my shipper heart.

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[pintmother]

and for the lady.. perhaps some cunnilingus?

[achillesinhighheels]

'Not What You Saw' [2024-ongoing] by Keerthana Kunnath

Shot across beaches, fields, and village edges in Kerala, India,

'Not What You Saw' documents the lives and presence of India's female bodybuilders.

[femsolid]

When I was in domestic abuse support groups over on Facebook I quickly noticed that there were a lot of abusive men in it. They claimed to be victims of course. In fact they were convinced to be. They had read up on "narcissistic abuse" and truly believed that their partner or ex was one. In the group I'd see a daily flood of women describing the most horrid shit and the trauma inflicted on them. But men's most common complaint was that their wives had been "withholding sex" which really is a form of abuse they said. Another way these men suffered from domestic abuse was through being dumped. They described a woman leaving them as a form of abuse. So two of the most common ways men are abused are... by women exercising their own free will. Obviously when men describe abuse in such a way you know they are abusive. For example, the complaints about "withholding sex" as abusive are admissions of attempted rapes through coercion and guilt tripping.

Another way women abuse men is by letting them do chores of course. One kept spamming about it, taking before and after pictures of the dishes he did while his obviously mentally unstable cruel bitch of a wife was playing with the kids. I screenshoted everything and sent it to her. And yet another fascinating post was this man, obviously another victim, who saw his ex's new boyfriend while driving and decided to follow him, as victims do. He followed him for a long while, as victims do, before the new boyfriend supposedly parked near a motel where he met a woman. Our victim parked too and watched with glee as his ex was being cheated on. When I pointed out that, no, this is not what victims do and that he was telling on himself by describing how he follows people like a creep he cried that I wasn't allowed to question him because it's a safe space for victims and it's against the rules call a moderator please help etc. That's the thing with these groups: men go in there to feel vindicated and they are. Women immediately approve and help men pathologise women based on nothing and certainly not actual descriptions of abuse. The women don't realise that they are helping a man abuse a woman. Hundreds of comments calling a woman a narcissist and the man feeling justified in taking revenge on that woman. And me being told I'm too mean.

But you know what men write the most about in those groups? How we talk too much about women being abused and not enough about men. It upsets them to see women being listened to. And again, women approve by the hundreds, "yes poor men, women can be just as evil" and on and on, ironically disproving what men are claiming: men are not ignored, they are taken way too seriously as a matter of fact.

This guy posted about being abused again, how he "fell for it" once more, how he "should have known better". He had met a woman and she had "used" him you see. Cue to the choral of women offering him support without questions. So I asked one: how did she use you? He responded that, well, she didn't really use him per say, she asked him for help, he helped, she thanked him and that was it. They weren't dating. He had met a random woman and helped her and she hadn't offered him anything in return (like her vagina, you know) she had just thanked him and that's abuse. Imagine that. Traumatised women describing really disturbing and upsetting events and men whining about women not being on their hands and knees. And both sides cohabiting in one group under the pretense that one is not oppressing the other because "domestic abuse has no gender".

[coochiequeens]

This post reminded me of this quote

[quinntheestallion]

I hate the way women are eager to validate the" abuse" of men. This is the real function of constantly being told that feminism or anything empowering for women is only valid if men get equal benefits, space, and attention. It's to create this culture where abusive men can infiltrate a victim's group and get endless validation. Where creeps in wigs can get endless validation for their plight of "being a woman". I hate how willing women are to be undermined.

[sichorean]

A guy I went to school with back in the 90s was sentenced last week for downloading CSAM and I'm so fucking angry

The whole group chat is blowing up about how he's got to do 11 months home detention and register as a sex offender but "I hope he gets the help he needs 🥺" and "it's so unfair he lost his job because he can't have an internet connection 🥺"

Fucking spare me

I said he should have gotten the help he needs IN PRISON and I got a moderator warning and "Everyone makes mistakes"

Yeah, everyone makes mistakes. I once clipped a wing mirror off during a particularly bad parallel park. That was a mistake.

You know what isn't a mistake? Deliberately going to your computer, deliberately turning it on, and deliberately searching for Child sexual assault videos.

The maximum penalty for a criminal who did exactly what he did is 10 years imprisonment and his mates are complaining that he got 11 pissing months of home detention. He should be fucking shot.

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@viviandbecky

[swingsetindecember]

i feel like men got too comfortable directing 3 hr movies. like that's manspreading on a cultural level. go back to 90 min movies. i have other things to do this evening. wrap it up charles dickens, you aren't being paid by the word

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[oddlyevil]

Deliciously evil 😈

OF

[sweetfoolfemme]

forehead kisses and palm kisses and neck kisses and tummy kisses and cheek kisses and

[futurelawyerstories]

and shoulder kisses and wrist kisses and just complete, unhinged devotion. women deserve to be praised like goddesses and loved with a level of obsession that borders on worship. every detail of their existence celebrated.

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[antiporn-activist]

There’s much better ways to process through sexual trauma, and none of them happen on a bed.

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[crimson-femme]

k.d. lang and girlfriend Leisha Hailey attend the Sixth Annual Boathouse Rock Dance Party on June 9, 1997

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The Kids just aren't being taught how to write a cv or cover letter huh

I've seen ones today including photos, dates of birth, place of birth even!

And also several formatted like they were writing a message to a friend! Full of exclamation marks! This is a formal document!

[invisible-goats]

this one is formatted like a powerpoint presentation. to be clear I'm not in charge of any descision making I'm just going through redacting identifying/potentially biasing info but like...some of these formatting decisions are also potentially biasing

[becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys]

Yeah, I remember getting some wild ones when I was hiring manager

So many women feel the need to mention their young children in their cover letters and CVs. Some young people slip in that they can't drive, a sort of pre-emptive "but it's okay I have a bus pass". So many people go and shove their mental health issues with anxiety and depression in there.

I remember one girl had clearly been told that she needed to explain any gaps in employment in the cover letter (terrible blanket advice), and so had described how she had developed depression after a traumatic miscarriage and spent a year in a terrible spiral getting worse and worse before getting on a new medication that, and I quote, "seemed to be finally starting to work." There are ways she could have written that information if she was desperately wanting to include it (I cannot stress enough that she should not have included a word of it), but the way it was written was almost literally a description of how she would be a horrendously unreliable employee who could dip out at a moment's notice and would never be seen again, while also demonstrating that she cannot determine appropriate professional communication.

(And for the record, the latter is the actual issue. I have no problems at all hiring employees with mental health issues, and did several times hire people in recovery to help them get back on their feet. Only once did that not work out; all others were amazing, and two became some of our best employees - one is now a manager there, in fact. But if an employee can't be trusted not to over share personal information with customers or colleagues, particularly triggering topics... That's a different issue. She did herself no favours at all there, and nor did whoever told her employers will always need employment gaps explaining in a cover letter).

Another guy once wrote in his cover letter "I want this job because after years of messing about I now have a little girl, so I need to sort my life out for her, and if I can't do it even for her then more fool me." Which, like, I admire the drive and passion. But again. Why are you telling an employer that you're a flight risk. Why are you telling us this.

One 18 year old volunteered, unforced, that he was gay. Just right in the cover letter. That he sent to a future employer.

And then, of course, the thousands that send in CVs and cover letters that are horrendously mis-spelled. Again, as an employer, I care dick-all if you're dyslexic or what have you; but I do care that you didn't think it was important to get someone to proofread a professional document for you before submission. That tells me quite a big thing about the level of professionalism I can expect from you in the role. It wasn't massively relevant for the job I was hiring for (escape room game master), but if we'd had slightly different job duties (e.g. writing official soc med posts), that would be the difference between getting an interview or not.

Honestly, half of my role as a hiring manager was just... having to explain to the other hiring manager that she was being biased based on information neither of us should have had in the first place. And she wasn't a bad person, but bias gets you even if you don't want it to. Give yourself the best chance. Don't fuck it by sending in a dumbass cover letter.

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Linking @bitchesgetriches great advice on cover letter writing here...

How To Write a Cover Letter Like You Actually Want the Job • Bitches Get Riches

Welcome back to another episode of The Bitches Teach You How to Get Your Ass Hired! Last time we reviewed some cardinal rules of resume writ

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Once you start seeing how often women are used as shock absorbers in our society, you'll never stop seeing it. It happens in every way, emotionally, physically and sexually.

Just think, how many men come home and take shit out on their wife? How many men with violent tendencies take it out on prostituted women? how girls are put in classes with rowdy boys at the expense of their own studies, how many women are in the service industry, at call centers, how high the domestic violence rates of police officers is, how many women bend over backwards to take on the emotional needs of men, the list goes on and on

[anomalysbane]

Another thing to add, women in times of war are raped by men, both on their side and on the other, domestic violence increases as well. Even in natural disasters where there is no enemy, again, violence against women increases. Men living under horrible oppression? Still have a punching bag at home. Its fucking inescapable