It's me!

Every bit as unique as everybody else.

[pdlcomics]

ghost

[pdlcomics]

i’m tired

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“That’s the thing about introverts; we wear our chaos in the inside where no-one can see it.”

— Michaela Chung

[kintatsujo]

Me: I don’t know if I ever want to be pregnant, I’d rather adopt a kid or two that are a bit older

Someone: Are you SURE? Older adoptees present UNIQUE CHALLENGES

Me: We are discussing human beings not digital pets

[plenoptic07]

Literally every child every born and/or parented presents unique challenges. It’s like people are unique individuals…..or something………….

[kintatsujo]

An amazing and revolutionary concept

[indigo-night-wisp]

When people ask me, “Why do you want to adopt teenagers?” I always answer, “Because you asked like that.”

I’m real over it. If I become a foster mom to a 17 year old kid and I get the privilege of the option to adopt them? You better believe I am legally making that kid mine.

“They’ll be a legal adult in no time, why spend the money to adopt? They’ll be aged out of the system.”

There’s no aging out of family, Marvin.

“They might be rebellious or smoke or do drugs or steal things! What if they won’t listen to you?”

Then I guess I’ll have to step up and do some fruxking parenting, Stanley.

“You want to adopt problem children then?”

All. Children. Are. Problem. Children. If you’re not prepared to deal with the fact that at some point, any child ever, whether you birthed them yourself or adopted them at any age, could become a problem? Then you are NOT ready to have children, and should really just step off and let the people who actually want to be parents live in peace with their kids.

[tearyourcurtainsdown]

Hey I’m so glad this post is picking up

[may-the-euph-be-with-you]

“Older children are so difficult why would adopt them??” ALL CHILDREN ARE DIFFICULT GUESS WE SHOULDN’T HAVE ANY GODDAMN

[lettingthewaterholdmedown-deact]

I love this post so, so much.

[theworldneedsmoreoliviabenson]

OK ladies and gents and nonbinary friends. Here are some facts from a social worker who works with teens.

1. Parenting will be harder. You are adding in the trauma of rejection from other caregivers, and it takes more time and more love to heal that. It isn't a bad thing, but for months maybe years you have to say daily "this is where you belong. You belong with me and I am not going anywhere"

2. They will try and test that statement constantly. You need to have someone to debrief with due to this.

3. Adopting a 17 year old is a great idea. Nothing says "I will always love you" quite like legally making a child part of your family forever.

4. PLEASE adopt teens when you can. Having them sit in paid care is damaging to their self esteem, but when there is no alternative, it has to happen.

[alexander]

[dankmemeuniversity]

[duhnizza]

omg

[clichesandmorals]

I’m working on this b/c it’s not cute 😂

[berberebae-deactivated20201003]

That’s my hallmark. If I’m feelin some type of way chances are it’s written all over my face. Either that or I’ve got my bitch face on.

[theunitofcaring]

load-bearing

Sometimes people hit a place in their life where things are going really well. They like their job and are able to be productive at it; they have energy after work to pursue the relationships and activities they enjoy; they’re taking good care of themselves and rarely get sick or have flareups of their chronic health problems; stuff is basically working out. Then a small thing about their routine changes and suddenly they’re barely keeping their head above water.

(This happens to me all the time; it’s approximately my dominant experience of working full-time.)

I think one thing that’s going on here is that there are a bunch of small parts of our daily routine which are doing really important work for our wellbeing. Our commute involves a ten-minute walk along the waterfront and the walking and fresh air are great for our wellbeing (or, alternately, our commute involves no walking and this makes it way more frictionless because walking sucks for us). Our water heater is really good and so we can take half-hour hot showers, which are a critical part of our decompression/recovery time. We sit with our back to the wall so we don’t have to worry about looking productive at work as long as the work all gets done. The store down the street is open really late so late runs for groceries are possible. Our roommate is a chef and so the kitchen is always clean and well-stocked.

It’s useful to think of these things as load-bearing. They’re not just nice - they’re part of your mental architecture, they’re part of what you’re using to thrive. And when they change, life can abruptly get much harder or sometimes just collapse on you entirely. And this is usually unexpected, because it’s hard to notice which parts of your environment and routine are load bearing. I often only notice in hindsight. “Oh,” I say to myself after months of fatigue, “having my own private space was load-bearing.” “Oh,” after a scary drop in weight, “being able to keep nutrition shakes next to my bed and drink them in bed was load-bearing.” “Oh,” after a sudden struggle to maintain my work productivity, “a quiet corner with my back to the wall was load-bearing.”

When you know what’s important to you, you can fight for it, or at least be equipped to notice right away if it goes and some of your ability to thrive goes with it. When you don’t, or when you’re thinking of all these things as ‘nice things about my life’ rather than ‘load-bearing bits of my flourishing as a person’, you’re not likely to notice the strain created when they vanish until you’re really, really hurting. 

[everything-is-optional]

Almost two weeks after reading this, and I’m still kind of blown away at what a ridiculously fruitful definition this is.  Like I had no idea that load bearing things were a thing that needed to have a word for them, but now I’m like holy shit I’m so glad that there’s now a word I can use to refer to this really important class of Thing.

[brightlotusmoon]

This is astounding. Load-bearing. Forget spoons, this concept is wonderful. I’m going to update my Spear Theory with this.

[thantos1991]

@thebibliosphere @sister-forget-me-not

[yikescaninot]

i just got to work and already i’m counting down until i can go home and take off my bra and makeup. 

[theworldneedsmoreoliviabenson]

Every goddamn fucking day.

[morbidfantasy21]

Chicken by Boris Groh

[fwizard]

me @ 3am grabbin a snack

[lanadelreyquasa]

WHAT IS THE FUCKING POINT

[kaibas-paragraphical-mind]

YOU COULD BE A FUCKING BADASS DRAGON THAT’S THE POINT

[who-the-f-ck]

“I AM A CREATURE OF DARKNESS” “oh hey sabrina.”

[shitsuren-chama]

I guess the point is that you could shapeshift into the body you always thought you’d grow into when you were a kid

taller, shorter, slimmer, more muscular, purple hair, tattoos everywhere, tattoos nowhere, 

every single shoe would fit you every single time you tried it on, every single article of clothing would fit your perfectly, all you have to do is transform slightly, you’d never run out of ‘your size’ again

and you wouldn’t have to work for it at all, and you’d never be limitted by your bone structure or something. You could just transform at will.

[elvenrainbow]

[bogleech]

I don’t see how this is much of a downside

When you turn into a sixty story tentacle demon and terrorize a city you want to get the credit you deserve

[revereche-deactivated20140508]

Oh man that would be so sweet. I could be an annoying fuck as an insect or something but you couldn’t kill me because everyone would know

[perpetualcombustioninstruct-blog]

That’s great but have you considered

~cosplay

~Halloween costumes

~acting

~cosplay

~stretching to reach stuff and shrinking to fit through spaces

~cosplay

~cosplay

~COSPLAY

[symmetrical-twin]

[real-life-pine-tree]

You had me at “cosplay”. I can stop spending money on wigs!

[greenekangaroo]

Dude I wouldn’t have to PAY for any more tattoos I could just manifest them yes.

[latenights]

no offense to me or anything but what the fuck am i actually doing

[semueren]

[astoralexander]

I call this set… “Noir Princesses”.

PRINTS HERE… https://bit.ly/2NqqOX7

[thehappysorceress]

OH. MY GOSH.

I love them so much! And probably need each and every one.

[starline]

!!!!!!!!!!

[greenekangaroo]

I’d read em

[theworldneedsmoreoliviabenson]

Omg these are beautiful

[1010ll]

[iguanamouth]

i havent shaved my legs in a really long time and while i was babysitting my skirt edged up a bit and the seven year old i was watching said “ew you should shave that hairs not supposed to be there” and i said “well if its not supposed to be there then why does it grow there?” and he was really silent for a long time and then finally said “lets watch sonic the hedgehog”

[level27rogue-deactivated2020112]

tumors grow, are they supposed to be there?

its called “evolution”, just because its there doesnt mean its useful or wanted.

[geekandmisandry]

Local Man Compares Leg Hair To Cancer, Genuinely Thought It Was A Smart Argument. More At Six.

[dadhopper-deactivated20171203]

She’s so broke

[charlixcxfan420]

im not even gonna ask who bc i already know its me

[thesadghostclub]

A selection of postcards we have available from our store  here

But feel free to save these and print them out if you need them <3