SUPER vulnerable post (tickles in relationship)
My ex was super ticklish, and to be honest it was the best experience. Only problem? He absolutely hated it :c it started early in our relationship where we were cuddling and he tweaked my sides. I squealed and pulled away, then he mentioned that maybe he could win in a tickle fight against me. I asked how so? He said because he was super ticklish.
Imagine the meme of an image zooming into the tiniest detail ever. That was me. Tunnel vision. I said that was so cute, tickled his upper body, and his laugh was adorable of courseeee. He said that his feet were his worst and like a brat I tried it. He was not lying, he screamed, not able to stand 3 seconds.
I thought, I hit the jackpot. Shortly after, I told him about my kink and he would tickle me as foreplay, while cuddling, and I would tickle him. He could stand the upper body, the neck, the thighs..yes he hated it, he would laugh super hard and wrestle me off, but it was okay. It was when I did his feet that he really got upset :cc
Of course that made me sad, that something I loved so much would upset him. So I would restrict myself which was hard.
(Vulnerable scale = intensify)
My hands for some reason would always reach to tickle him, and he expected it, because he knew it was “my thing” but it never made it more pleasant. It was so hard for me to stop especially because I loved touching him and rubbing him, that tickling, even so softy, came naturally.
Mind you, this man was so sweet to me, we’re still friends, life just separated us. But one day (I’ll never forget) he snapped and said I wasn’t allowed to touch his feet again. This was after I was tickling him.
And in that moment I had a huge wake-up moment. Again, this is not the reason we broke up, but even as a hopeless romantic I know this would have inevitably been our downfall. I love tickling so much and sneaking away to watch videos or just fantasize is not enough *for me.
Well could he just tickle you?
Like many posts on here, the way a vanilla person will tickle me will never be enough for how much I crave it. That’s not to say they can’t learn out of love, out of curiosity- but this man hated it so much he couldn’t understand doing it to me for so long. Nonetheless with bondage or safeword? Never.
To make a long story longer, is tickling really that serious? Is it really a make or break for me? I can confidently say it is after personal experience and is that scary to navigate? Maybe, but I’m not afraid to share what I like, I just can’t wait for the day I meet someone willing to learn or appreciate it for me.
***need to add, that I played heavily into the brat behavior and would continue to play and tease and tickle even when he did not want to. I do regret these occasions. I was learning, he was my first boyfriend and older, and I was trying to show affection in my own way. (So much more to this relationship but that’s private) I always felt safe and became more child-like, for lack of a better word. But I would be remised if I did not say consent is so important and no means no 🖤
