Figuring it out.......in your 30s
November 13th, 1999, I threw one hell of a party. It was my 18th birthday bash and everyone was invited. At the time I worked at a steak house part time as a line cook. For weeks I spent time sneaking into the freezers taking out steaks, chicken and other necessary items a broke ass kid needed for a party. Let me say before I continue; NO I am not proud of my illegal activities nor am I condoning theft to throw a party. It's just part of the story and I'm sure none of you reading this are Saints. So I'm preparing for this party, in any means necessary to make sure that it is Off The Chain (please excuse the 90's cool talk)
Everyone in my high school knew about this party. From the freshman and upper class-men, to the young hip teachers who wished they could join. Hell, even other schools got the memo. My friends and I loved to party and knew how to have a good time. This had the making to be the party of a lifetime and believe me, it was! My buddy had a big ass basement and parents that were out of town that weekend. If I had to guess there were over 100 kids at the party. Cars lined up along the street, tons of 15-18 year old kids drunk and stoned out of their minds. It was fantastic, and best part of all.....Cops didn't hear about it and the party never got busted. Again, let me just say; Kids don't drink or do drugs....Until your 18.
So, what does this have to do with figuring life out in your 30's? I asked myself the same question this week as I looked back at my adult life. A life full of accomplishments, disappointments, struggles, victories, and occasional sadness. What was my motivation in life? I've had pretty successful moments as an adult man. My wife and I ran a successful gym for almost 7 years together. I've been Rookie of the Year in the corporate sales world and was rewarded with free trips and other incentives. My wife and I just celebrated 10 years of marriage and have two beautiful kids. My family is STRONG, loving and always looking out for each other. So whats the big deal? Average person would think I got it all together, but the reality is that I think I am just now figuring it all out.
Last Friday I was fired. It was the first time in my life that I have been fired from a job. Being told you are not good enough, or a good fit and that your personality doesn't fit the company is a tough swallow. No warning, no 2 week severance, no nothing. Just a termination letter and a box to pack my office. It's funny because I actually felt relieved. For 18 months I had been questioning the way they did business. There were flaws, but they were not being addressed. I found myself learning more about events and how to produce at a greater level, even though I was frustrated with company management. I had built a great clientele who loved my attention to detail, willingness to over deliver and ability to execute their events.
For these reasons I was happy to have been let go. Now, I can run things the way I knew they had to be run and take care of clients expectations and manage their events. Yet, I spent the last week wondering if I should just take the next available job, continue with another company doing the same thing, etc. My wife and I decided that I'm not a "company" person and that my strengths would be in Freelancing and doing what I've always done. I'm an idea guy, a creator and someone who likes to have fun. I've been putting together fun events since that eventful night in 1999. It wasn't until I was fired and had to look deep that I was able to answer the following question:
What am I good at? I'm a people person. I love talking to strangers, meeting new individuals and having fun. I'm really good at creating a big picture and getting people to buy into it. Not just buy into it, but also creating and executing that idea into a reality. Most people can't see the big picture or visualize how things will look, or end. That is something I'm amazing at, and look forward to continue doing.
It's been a frustrating week, yet at the same time a week that has given me clarification and direction. I'm an Event Producer and a damn good one at that. I'm a man who will provide for his family and a man that has his ultimate faith in a God who is never changing and always faithful. At 31 years old, I've got it figured out...maybe.....finally. There are still many challenges ahead, but I'm ready to move on and create for other people a vision that they can not yet see. Watch out for the growth of The Tim and Secret Sauce Holdings.
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