[tinyghostsuggestion]

Why won't this sadness go away? I'm tired of feeling nothing else but this endless despair.

[blaruto]

I still think Moana deserved an Oscar for this part

[i-want-cheese]

To me, the moral of Moana is that only women can help other women heal from male violence. 

The movie starts with the idea that the male god who wronged Te Fiti must be the one to heal her. This seems to make a certain sort of intuitive sense in that I think we all believe that if you do something wrong you should try to make it right. But how does he try to right it? Through more violence. Of course that failed. 

It was only when another woman, Moana, saw past the “demon of earth and fire” that the traumatized Te Fiti had become (what a good metaphor for trauma, right?) and met her with love instead of violence that she was able to heal. Note that they do the forehead press before Moana restores the heart, while Te Fiti is still Te Kā. Moana doesn’t wait for her beautiful island goddess to appear in all her green splendor before greeting and treating her as someone deserving of love.

Moana is only able to restore the heart because Te Kā reveals her vulnerability and allows Moana to touch her there. Maui and his male violence could only ever have resulted in more ruin.

[arohk]

Literally one of my favorite moments in any movie ever. This movie means a lot to me.

[dontnuketheducks-blog]

Small addition that I think a lot of people don’t get and it’s my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE - that’s not just a “forehead press”, it’s a hongi, an expression of welcome in Māori tradition. (I’m a white American, not even pakeha, so if I get anything wrong and you know better, please please jump in and correct me - I just think this detail is really lovely and I want them to know about it.) Formally it’s part of a ceremony that welcomes outsiders to a marae, proving they trust and accept each other. Moana and her family also do this multiple times throughout the movie, but it’s never showcased like this.

So. It’s not just an expression of comfort when Moana touches her forehead and nose to Te Kā’s - it’s a HUGE implication. She’s outright saying “I accept you, we are not enemies or strangers, you are welcome here with me.” Which honestly is the most powerful detail of all, to me, because what better thing could you possibly say to woman in her exact situation? “I know you’re not the villain, I trust you, I see who you really are, you’re safe here, you can let down your guard.” I strongly advise you to look up the hongi so you can learn about it for yourself because DAMN. 

They really did some good research making this movie and non-Pasifika audiences seem to be missing a lot of it and it’s just so, so much more sweet and beautiful when you know.

(But again, if you want to add or if I’ve gotten anything wrong, please feel free to correct me.)

[tinyghostsuggestion]

sails, storm, siren

Ocean Asks

sails: describe your perfect partner.

My perfect partner would be someone patient, kind, open-minded, and communicates with me about just about everything. Having common interests is a plus and someone who would cuddle and just be there for me would be the best. But someone patient, kind, and has a good heart would be all I could ask for.

storm: do you like piercings and tattoos? Why or why not?

I don’t really have any thoughts other than if it was a significant other I would not want piercings like in the mouth area. Ultimately it depends cause sometimes it’s intimidating but other times I just don’t mind.

siren: in a fantasy setting, would you be a warrior, rogue or mage?

So like I play a lot of fantasy games and most of the time I’m either a rogue or a mage so I think I’ll have to go with rogue but a mage would be my second choice.

[tinyghostsuggestion]

tidal: what is a colour that best describes your personality?

Ocean Asks

tidal: what is a colour that best describes your personality?

I feel like the color that best describes my personality is a pale blue or a soft blue of any kind. I feel like it reflects the calmness and softness that is me.

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Don't criticize me, I'm trying. I'm trying so hard to make you proud yet I'm still so pathetic in your eyes

[tinyghostsuggestion]

I try and try to be what you want me to be, yet all you do is knock me down and say I'm not good enough

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Even when I feel as though things cannot get worse, you somehow always find a way

[walden-west-deactivated20170623]

200 things you can put in my ask

200: My crush’s name is: 199: I was born in: 198: I am really: 197: My cellphone company is: 196: My eye color is: 195: My shoe size is: 194: My ring size is: 193: My height is: 192: I am allergic to: 191: My 1st car was: 190: My 1st job was: 189: Last book you read: 188: My bed is: 187: My pet: 186: My best friend: 185: My favorite shampoo is: 184: Xbox or ps3: 183: Piggy banks are: 182: In my pockets: 181: On my calendar: 180: Marriage is: 179: Spongebob can: 178: My mom: 177: The last three songs I bought were? 176: Last YouTube video watched: 175: How many cousins do you have? 174: Do you have any siblings? 173: Are your parents divorced? 172: Are you taller than your mom? 171: Do you play an instrument? 170: What did you do yesterday? [ I Believe In ] 169: Love at first sight: 168: Luck: 167: Fate: 166: Yourself: 165: Aliens: 164: Heaven: 163: Hell: 162: God: 161: Horoscopes: 160: Soul mates: 159: Ghosts: 158: Gay Marriage: 157: War: 156: Orbs: 155: Magic: [ This or That ] 154: Hugs or Kisses: 153: Drunk or High: 152: Phone or Online: 151: Red heads or Black haired: 150: Blondes or Brunettes: 149: Hot or cold: 148: Summer or winter: 147: Autumn or Spring: 146: Chocolate or vanilla: 145: Night or Day: 144: Oranges or Apples: 143: Curly or Straight hair: 142: McDonalds or Burger King: 141: White Chocolate or Milk Chocolate: 140: Mac or PC: 139: Flip flops or high heals: 138: Ugly and rich OR sweet and poor: 137: Coke or Pepsi: 136: Hillary or Obama: 135: Burried or cremated: 134: Singing or Dancing: 133: Coach or Chanel: 132: Kat McPhee or Taylor Hicks: 131: Small town or Big city: 130: Wal-Mart or Target: 129: Ben Stiller or Adam Sandler: 128: Manicure or Pedicure: 127: East Coast or West Coast: 126: Your Birthday or Christmas: 125: Chocolate or Flowers: 124: Disney or Six Flags: 123: Yankees or Red Sox: [ Here’s What I Think About ] 122: War: 121: George Bush: 120: Gay Marriage: 119: The presidential election: 118: Abortion: 117: MySpace: 116: Reality TV: 115: Parents: 114: Back stabbers: 113: Ebay: 112: Facebook: 111: Work: 110: My Neighbors: 109: Gas Prices: 108: Designer Clothes: 107: College: 106: Sports: 105: My family: 104: The future: [ Last time I ] 103: Hugged someone: 102: Last time you ate: 101: Saw someone I haven’t seen in awhile: 100: Cried in front of someone: 99: Went to a movie theater: 98: Took a vacation: 97: Swam in a pool: 96: Changed a diaper: 95: Got my nails done: 94: Went to a wedding: 93: Broke a bone: 92: Got a peircing: 91: Broke the law: 90: Texted: hour ago [ MISC ] 89: Who makes you laugh the most: 88: Something I will really miss when I leave home is: 87: The last movie I saw: 86: The thing that I’m looking forward to the most: 85: The thing im not looking forward to: 84: People call me: 83: The most difficult thing to do is: 82: I have gotten a speeding ticket: 81: My zodiac sign is: 80: The first person i talked to today was: 79: First time you had a crush: 78: The one person who i can’t hide things from: 77: Last time someone said something you were thinking: 76: Right now I am talking to: 75: What are you going to do when you grow up: 74: I have/will get a job: 73: Tomorrow: 72: Today: 71: Next Summer: 70: Next Weekend: 69: I have these pets: 68: The worst sound in the world: 67: The person that makes me cry the most is: 66: People that make you happy: 65: Last time I cried: 64: My friends are: 63: My computer is: 62: My School: 61: My Car: 60: I lose all respect for people who: 59: The movie I cried at was: 58: Your hair color is: 57: TV shows you watch: 56: Favorite web site: 55: Your dream vacation: 54: The worst pain I was ever in was: 53: How do you like your steak cooked: 52: My room is: 51: My favorite celebrity is: 50: Where would you like to be: 49: Do you want children: 48: Ever been in love: 47: Who’s your best friend: 46: More guy friends or girl friends: 45: One thing that makes you feel great is: 44: One person that you wish you could see right now: 43: Do you have a 5 year plan: 42: Have you made a list of things to do before you die: 41: Have you pre-named your children: 40: Last person I got mad at: 39: I would like to move to: 38: I wish I was a professional: [ My Favorites ] 37: Candy: 36: Vehicle: 35: President: 34: State visited: 33: Cellphone provider: 32: Athlete: 31: Actor: 30: Actress: 29: Singer: 28: Band: 27: Clothing store: 26: Grocery store: 25: TV show: 24: Movie: 23: Website: 22: Animal: 21: Theme park: 20: Holiday: 19: Sport to watch: 18: Sport to play: 17: Magazine: 16: Book: 15: Day of the week: 14: Beach: 13: Concert attended: 12: Thing to cook: 11: Food: 10: Restaurant: 9: Radio station: 8: Yankee candle scent: 7: Perfume: 6: Flower: 5: Color: 4: Talk show host: 3: Comedian: 2: Dog breed: 1: Did you answer all these truthfully?

[outerspacekat-deactivated201801]

ADVICE FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY:

wait until it gets dark and make tea or coffee or hot chocolate, or if it’s too hot outside make yourself a healthy smoothie with your favorite things in it at any point during the day

put on your favorite underwear, it helps, trust me, it’s an old family secret (i’m not kidding)

if you have a pet, play the “how many things can i stick on you until you move or get mad” game (bonus points if they fall asleep, extra bonus points if a family member sees you and tells you to quit it, extra double ultra points if they join in)

rip a peice of paper into as many little pieces as you can

go to animeseason.com and click “random anime” until you see one that looks completely ridiculous (or actually good) and watch the first episode. repeat if it sucked or if you get bored halfway through

spend at least an hour making a music playlist for how you feel right now and save it for now or when you feel a bad mood rise again

curl up in bed and cover yourself with blankets and pillows and put in music and just lay there for a while (sleeping is also good)

eat everything

drink lots of water

it’s okay bad moods don’t last forever!!!!!! i promise!!! you will be yourself soon and there are people who love you very much, don’t be afraid to reach out to them

you are lovely

eat lots of bananas

[asoftgoblin]

here are some more friends

i bet there is still a box of crayons in your house somewhere (if not you can get them cheap during back-to-school sales); find them and use them (maybe while watching ridiculous anime)

sunshine if you can manage it or just a sun lamp trust me it matters more than you think especially in winter

hugs even if they are stuffed animals or your pet or your pillow whatever is on hand

if you’ve got a favorite lotion/soap/thing that is scented use it liberally

cry if you need, if it doesn’t start by itself or if you don’t want to attract attention put on a sad movie so you have an excuse

write this down to pull out on future bad days:

it is okay to have a day where you don’t get things done

it is okay not to have a reason for feeling bad

taking care of yourself is a worthwhile use of time

if you still don’t feel better it is not your fault (and it is okay to ask for help)

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Can someone please teach me how to believe again?

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Please don't leave me behind when your life starts getting better.

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Tell me how to feel, tell me what do think for my heart and mind are silent

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Dreams burn, dreams drown, dreams fall, and dreams die, but dreams will always find a way to live on.

[tinyghostsuggestion]

Even a ghost can fight death

[tinyghostsuggestion]

My fall and dive yet I wish to fly.

[tinyghostsuggestion]

I feel like the world is against me