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(filler post-pls ignore)

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Coping 101 - a masterpost of down to earth resources

This post doesn’t contain links to many professional resources - it’s a list of coping tips from people who are mentally ill/disabled themselves and who all decided to share what has worked for them here on tumblr. In the last 7 months I have been sharing content created for and by mentally ill/disabled people on this blog - and to celebrate reaching 5000 followers, I have decided to collect all the best coping tips I’ve come across in one easily accessible place. Enjoy!

Managing emotions:

Letting go of emotional suffering via mindfulness.

DBT strengthening statements

Handling negative emotions

The “emotions are signals” method

The “mindfully recognizing emotions” method

Healthy perspectives on emotions

The “emotions are like hiccups” method

The “healthy outlets” method

Managing anxiety:

Coping statements for anxiety.

Breathing exercise gif

Breathing exercise gif 2

Things to remember when having an anxiety attack

The “just show up” method

The “panicky friend” method

Grounding techniques 

The “I can survive the next 10 seconds” method

The “distract your brain” method

The “you will be able to cope” method

Managing depression:

7 depression tips and why they work

Depression tips

21 tips to keeping your shit together when you’re depressed

Managing executive dysfunction:

The “might as well” method.

The “one step access” method.

Why self-discipline isn’t always the answer. 

The “use whatever works” method.

The “taking care of someone else” method.

The “june-bugging” method.

Tricks for pushing through executive dysfunction

The “do several things at once” method

The “accept your limits” methods

The “turn it into a game” method

The “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method

The “tricking your brain” method

The “untangling the spaghetti” method.

The “smaller steps” method

The “emergency cleaning” method

The “letting go of should” method.

The “my body is an animal I need to care about” method

The “fork theory” method

The “remove the barriers” method

The “half-ass things” method

Managing negative thinking:

Challenging cognitive distortions.

Finding alternative thoughts.

Challenging negative thoughts

How to get over past mistakes

Toxic positivity vs hope and validation

How to improve your self-esteem

Negative and positive cognitions

The “self neutrality” method

The “separate your negative qualities from your identity” method

Self talk to help end obsessions

Ten forms of twisted thinking + ten ways to untwist your thinking

Managing self care:

How to practice balanced self care.

Why hands-on hobbies are important

Ways to self-soothe

A list of mental illness workbooks 

Ways to start feeling again

How to get back on track after a breakdown

How to self-soothe and treat yourself

Types of healthy coping skills

The “parenting yourself” method

An interactive self care guide

The “don’t ignore your needs” method

Online self care

Making the most of therapy

Free worksheets for people who can’t access therapy

The “add good things to your life” method

Showering for spoonies

The “do what you can” method

The “it isn’t a waste of time just because it won’t cure you” method.

Self care cheat sheet

The “create something” method

Managing school:

Studying with anxiety and depression

Studying with mental illness

Coping with dissociation in school

Managing exam periods when you’re mentally ill

The “done is better than none” method

How to survive college

Managing urges to harm yourself:

What to do to when you’re suicidal

Questions to ask before giving up

Alternatives to self harm

Coping with suicidal thoughts

[brightwanderer]

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

[castledock]

If you get mad that people add image descriptions for your posts then just write them on your post to begin with. Don’t put image descriptions in reblogs (like saying “image description in next reblog”) and don’t put them under a cut / readmore, since that makes them harder to find and access. Please double-check your image descriptions for typos.

when making an image description, please be as clear and unbiased as possible, and don’t use jokey phrases or memes in your description unless it’s included in what’s being described. Don’t say something is “yeeted” across a room, say “thrown” or “chucked” or “flung”.

For example, if there’s a cat with a pink ribbon on its collar, don’t say it’s an image of “an adorable kitten with a pretty pink bow”. That’s making a judgement on others’ behalf— you decide what’s cute based on what you see, and people who need image descriptions should be able to decide on their own what is cute or not. It’s simply a cat with a pink bow.

This extends to artwork too— on top of being fair to people who need image descriptions, it can also be insulting to the artist if you give a description that’s biased in any way, especially negatively. Describe the colors, body language, what the characters are wearing, what the scenery is, but don’t pass judgement on the art. Describe warm tones that give a piece a certain atmosphere, or a character’s horrified reaction to something they see, or the way the composition flows to draw attention to an aspect of the drawing. You can say a drawing is cartoony or realistic or abstract. You can say things are “intricately detailed” or “the colors go outside of the lines”. Do not describe things as “poorly drawn” or “beautiful”, don’t point out flaws in the work, just be objective.

You can put your opinion of the image in the tags, away from the description, or you can make a separate post on your own blog about it.

For example, I’ll make up a fake image description here, as a general guide for how I personally would format it. There is no actual image in this post, this is just an example.

[Image description: a full-body drawing of Blorbo from My Shows. Blorbo is a pink alien with heart-shaped antennae, an elephant trunk, a fat round body, and stubby limbs. Blorbo’s eyes are closed and he has a happy expression on his face. There is no background, and the artist’s signature says “@castledock 2022” near Blorbo’s left arm. End description.]

A bad description would be if you describe Blorbo as an ugly alien that is a beautiful pink color with silly antennae, drawn in crude lines.

This is just a post I’m making on my free time and isn’t intended to be a complete guide to image descriptions. Please don’t comment on this post with questions for me or reblog with additions, and please don’t dm me or go into my askbox for advice.

[salvadorbonaparte]

Hey did you know I keep a google drive folder with linguistics and language books  that I try to update regularly 

UPDATE because apparently not everyone has seen this yet the new and improved version of this is a MEGA folder

I know there’s so many more urgent things but if you like this resource you may consider buying me a ko-fi to keep this project alive

[djklmnx]

[rawrda]

This is your daily reminder to not be ashamed of making your life easy for yourself.

Cut your food into small pieces, make the font size 30 on your e book, use straws to drink, get a pen that’s comfortable to hold, take more naps, walk slowly, eat another cookie, buy velcro shoes, re-watch the part you couldn’t understand the first time, write things on your hands so you don’t forget it… whatever you want and/or need

Don’t let anyone tell you how you should be doing things. We don’t need to prove each other anything

[mimik-u]

A family can be two lesbian moms, a horse, a bird, and a boy who eats raw flour.

[ra-shu-mon]

God dammit India, this is how furries are made. And of course Disney had a hand in this. 

And if you didn’t think this was enough, have India’s official music release where they had people in fursuits of the main characters come out and dance. Enjoy your sexy canines belly dancing in real life.

[eo-of-lykos-blog]

Was Roadside Romeo ridiculous? You bet. We’re the songs good? Fuck yes they were omg.

[saundering-deactivated20180828]

life protip: there’s no reason to pay for Microsoft Word when you can use OpenOffice or LibreOffice and save the document as a .doc or a .pdf instead

another life protip: some universities will provide you with Microsoft Word for free, as long as you have a student email account

[feliville]

constant mood recently

[obesitycore2-deactivated2018120]

id like to personally thank whoever it was who first decided to mash the potato 

[56blogsstillcrazy]

This is fucking beautiful

[destinationgreatness]

Hollup she at jcpenny fucking up the violin to kanye

[squided]

Æšthëtīç

[ufoend]

help two gay students and their dog avoid being homeless!

i really hate having to turn to anyone for help after everything, but we honestly desperately need the money!! i’ll try to keep this as short as possible, feel free to message me with any questions.

my name is micah, my girlfriend bella and our baby puppy biscuit really need your help! 

i left a shitty, abusive environment at home in california to live with her in washington. we only have until oct. 29th to find a new apartment, or will be kicked out and end up on the street. i’ve been looking for a new job, and i even have an interview, but they usually don’t pay you at all until four weeks, and i don’t have that long.

i just spent all the money i have on an application for an apartment that cost over $150. now we have no money for food, or anything else really. it’s not guaranteed that we’ll get this apartment, and we don’t get the application fee refunded. 

i was supposed to get my financial aid today, which we were counting on because it was supposed to be over 1000 dollars. i registered for a class four days after the drop deadline, so they are refusing to pay the financial aid even though i paid for my books

i really need money to help cover some of the costs of moving into a new apartment. i also desperately need to have funds so i can go pick up my two cats that are still stuck at my old house. 

right now we have no foreseeable way of getting food or even moving in to the new apartment if we are accepted. it’s really hard not to give up right now but we’re so close to being able to live in a safe environment where we can heal from our trauma and move on with our lives.

please please reblog or donate, anything even a dollar or 50 cents you can spare would go so far for us. i am so embarrassed to have to make this post, but i really need the help and id hate to see my partner or puppy in such a terrible situation. https://www.paypal.me/micahsage

[ufoend]

we were actually accepted for the apartment!!!! but they told us we have a 200 holding fee which i can mostly cover because they refunded the application cost. we still need a lot of money to get in, around 800 dollars if not more because of other costs. it was supposed to be covered by my school money that im not actually getting, i only applied because i thought we would have enough by now

please please reblog this for us and please consider donating if you can spare even change, all the money would go to housing for us, we have to pay first and a deposit on top of the fee.

[shubbabang]

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