Hello

A queer futch and bigender fuckwad. She/him. College student. 21. I often repost art from fandoms i am not in and know nothing of. And many other things. Feel free to infodump to me whenevr about whatevrr btw

[toasterthreaddaddy]

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Warning: I rarely tag stuff. This is my shitposting blog. This is not a curated in any way blog. You have been warned.

I like to reblog art a lot. I am not in any fandoms and often don't know anything about the characters featured.

I enjoy it when people interact with my posts and account btw.

Pronouns: Feel free to mix up, rotate, randomly pick which pronouns to refer to me as. She/him/ae/xe/ve/it/whatever lol. EXCEPT for they. Don't refer to me as they. If you have referred to me as they because you didn't know what pronouns i preferred, that is more than okay.

I might add alt text to images every now and then but i cannot promise any consistency with this because it requires energy that i don't always have. Feel free to give me feedback and advice on the alt text that i do add. I want to practice alt text so I can add it to art that i create.

I love the art of puppetry. Please send me puppetry stuff.

[toasterthreaddaddy]

me to myself: I’m not gonna be a cynical bitch this pride month

me, four days into pride month: >:( *fugging hate this month fuck everything*

[avenarts]

charlotte

[faun-grove]

fine. ogle if you must 🙄

[polari]

it’s not my business what people joke about in private but if you are going to joke about lobotomy i think you owe yourself the 22 minutes it takes to listen to howard dully’s 2005 npr report on the transorbital lobotomy he was subjected to at the age of twelve. it’s a hard listen, but it’s a hard subject. like i said, it’s not my business, but it’s always good to know what exactly you’re joking about.

[harpsicalbiobug]

There's a transcript at this link. So you can read instead of listening.

But if you do listen a bit and it grabs you. Let those people keep talking to you. If you have time

[helsinore]

Okay as much as I dunk on academia one thing I really need you all to take from me right now is this: you can read The Problematic Theory Book. you should, fundamentally, always, read the fucking source. You do not have to approach the source context-less, but you should be prepared to read it and make a genuine attempt to comprehend what the argument is without resorting to performatively dunking on it (yes, I get a bit silly with it when I liveblog, but I do actually do my best to understand what's being said. I don't like it when queer theory is bad? I thought it was supposed to help people). If you can't make a genuine effort to comprehend the text, then if the text truly has bad takes, you won't be able to adequately argue against why Thing Bad besides "well thing bad!!" you need to be able to construct a fucking argument. You need to be able to create a framework your worldview is built on. You need clarity of mind. Another thing ALSO alongside this is sometimes you will read The Problematic Theory Book and you will see things that you agree with. You will see analysis in there that has potential. This is actually super normal and something people do in academia is that they identify these nuggets of Actually Good / Potential Filled Takes and they try to expand upon them. Salvaging the potential of Problematic Theory Book does not mean that you implicitly agree with Problematic Theory Book in its original entirety. It means you saw someone going somewhere, saw them swerve into a fucking tree, and went to yourself, "okay, well, they were on the highway before this, so let me try and see if I can steer the car in the right direction. Let me see if I can try and use the work they laid the foundations for and build something actually revolutionary upon it, or otherwise use it for my own, better, more intentionally progressive and inclusive theory." Like, that's actually one thing that academia does that is good. you have to be in conversation with past work and you have to be able to see when an author was saying some shit that had potential, and identify where they fucked up and where they might've had something, and then build on it. you can't reinvent Ur-Theory from base principles in a vacuum and expect it to be good. you can't create theory that is Morally Pure Only Based On Works You've Deemed Morally Pure because that too is a vacuum, and at that point you're treating theory and like, science, as a fucking religion. It's not a religion. You are not going to go to hell if Judith Butler or Andrea Dworkin or bell hooks or Kimberlé Crenshaw, like, breathe on you the wrong way. You can read people who you fully disagree with, understand that at some points they may have been cooking, understand that at other points they were Absolutely Not Fucking Cooking, and try to see what you can take from their work and how you can create something that is NOT a recreation of the original fucking thing but, like, your own new thing that attempts to address real world issues. stop being afraid of The Big Evil Bad Book or suggesting that people shouldn't fucking read books. read the fucking book. engage. be an academic about it, goddamnit.

also conversely stop treating some books like the bible,

[toasterthreaddaddy]

the idea that there exists somewhere out there, the perfect theory book by the perfect author, is rather silly. And if you believe that any source is infallible then you are doing yourself a disfavor.

[vigilantsycamore]

The r slur is bad, by the way.

Yes, even when the person you use it on is being an asshole.

[you-sir-box]

Comments: It’s not reclamation if xou’re using it to mean something negative.

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[neolagomorph]

why does this sound like it came from a repressed gay war poem

[mysterious-percentage]

[baaulp]

Me: snack time.

Puck the fairy dragon hiding in my fridge, about to throw magic dust that turns my eyeballs into brussel sprouts at me:

[gaphic]

watching the leftism leaving peoples bodies when you point out the sex offender registry is a grotesque violation of human rights

[gaphic]

the only reason the registry exists is because we culturally view sexual crimes as inherently more evil and unforgivable than any other kind of violence. people are more willing to believe that a murder can grow and change than a flasher. if you’re woke enough to believe that ‘innocence’ is a fascist concept and sex is just another thing the body can do, then you should believe the corollary: hurting someone with your genitals is no different from hurting them with your fists

and yet, murderers and other violent offenders do not have their full names, faces, and addresses put on a public database for the rest of their lives. there is no such thing. they are not legally barred from watching movies containing violence, or owning imagery containing violence

in my state, sex offender probation means you can be searched, at any time, without a warrant, and owning a copy of playboy is a violation. it means you’ll be arrested if a family member comes to stay with you and you don’t register their vehicle with the sheriff. the dehumanization is beyond the pale

[gaphic]

Multiple people have brought up the point that the sex offender registry disproportionately targets marginalized people and is used to criminalize the existence of queers, etc. That is true, and it's important to know, but, I cannot stress enough:

This post is about rapists.

The sex offender registry is not bad because innocent people are on it. It is bad because it is a gross abuse of human rights. Rapists are human beings. They deserve human rights. They deserve privacy. They deserve free access to media. They deserve the opportunity to grow and change.

Too many of you are only interested in protecting Unperson's rights as a means to protect Good People's rights, and it shows.

[tiktoksgay]

[kinggryptid]

This brings me so much fucking joy :)

[tboyoceanus]

Begging the trans community to stop doing the transmasc vs transfem discourse shit. We both have it bad. We both face oppression and fetishization. We both have discriminatory and harmful legislation being pushed and passed against us. We both have puberties that we personally consider harmful. We both have expensive hormones and surgeries. We both have unique struggles in our transitions and in life before and after transition. To act as if one has it worse than the other just causes community infighting and nothing ever gets done.

[catnippackets]

I extremely don't understand whenever someone who's mentally ill and unmedicated is like "I'm afraid to go on medication because what if I can't feel good without the meds?" YOU ALREADY DON'T FEEL GOOD WITHOUT THEM. THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT OF TAKING THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE

[catnippackets]

"I know I can't see properly, but I'm afraid to get glasses because what if I can't see properly without them?" <-- how those people sound to me

[toasterthreaddaddy]

Yeah the whole social bullshit around medication is exactly that. Bullshit.

So to anybody with this fear Ima tell you this. Chances are, you are not going to feel good without them. It's not the only option. Many people like those with depression and anxiety will go on meds and then start therapy so they have the ability to be successful in therapy and then they can be weaned off of them. In which case you can. You also might not. And that's stressful having your wellbeing be dependent on another thing that costs money and may not be regularly available. But that's okay. Drugs are morally neutral. It's just different arrangements of atoms. And if you can find a medication that works for you it will be worth it. Because right now you're metaphorically lacking wheels. And once you get those wheels you'll be able to drive.

[wolfertinger666]

sometimes I wonder if my traumatic childhood as an autistic child who needed a lot of support is linked to my endless fatigue/tiredness and flare ups in my back and joints. I say this because I was always told I was lazy, messy, and could barely take care of myself. even to some point I was neglected. idk if what I'm saying is correct or not, but I feel like the added stress contributed to it. I still have a hard time acknowledging I'm possibly physically disabled/fatigued alot because of the dismissal i receive. but I know I shouldn't beat myself up.

[wolfertinger666]

I just, feel tired all the damn time, even when I take my vitamins and go outside. I just get exhausted easily so I'm mostly in bed drawing. I do stretches and get up to do things because it's good for me but that lingering tiredness doesn't go away. especially the pain in my joints and lower back. I even get moments of dizziness.

I feel lazy and it makes me sad but I shouldn't be hard on myself. I deserved better

[toasterthreaddaddy]

do you want me to start giving you the spiel i do when people struggle to come to terms with disability/realizing they might be disabled? I've got my sources ready to go and im always ready to explain to people that they meet the definition of disabled and what that means for them. (figured id ask since i dont know you at all so it would be weird af of me to start going off)

[wolfertinger666]

man, I'm thinking, we gotta show more compassion to disabled people. not just disabled people who can function but along with them disabled people that society just dumps because they aren't contributing to capitalism. which is ok. the disabled people that need support, who can't function, who sleep all day and rely on pain killers and meds. the ones that don't have jobs. the people who are never thought Abt in inspiration porn. I love them dearly... especially disabled people of color.

[toasterthreaddaddy]

YES. THIS.

Fuck Thomas Jefferson but the declaration of independence really popped off when it said "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all [people] are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." Now if only it felt like people actually believed it. One of the hardest parts of trying to give community aid to disabled people that I've encountered is convincing them they have worth irregardless of circumstances. Needing help isn't a necessary evil. The unlimited capacity of humankind and all life to care and be cared for is a cause for celebration. What a great blessing it is to be born a social creature and to not have to walk this world alone. How amazing to not be born a creature that has to cast off it's disabled and elderly. What is the point of having hands if not to feed my friends. Peoples existence is payment enough. One doesn't have to do anything to bring joy to others. And one doesn't even need to, because the price of living is but a drop of water in the ocean and in the grand scheme of things is a negligible deficit. Even if you can't control your body even if you are liable to injure others and wont live to outgrow it you deserve the world.

Even if they can't express or even feel gratitude people deserve love and happiness goddamnit.

[quietwingsinthesky]

did i tell you guys i failed at being sexually harassed at work today?

[quietwingsinthesky]

okay so, guy at work, who i find out afterwards is famous at this place for being a sex pest, comes up and starts with what i also learn is his favorite opener to conversations where he’s going to be a sex pest, namely: “Do you know where the term ‘blow job’ comes from?”

and here he made his first fatal error. his moment of hubristic sex pesting. because of course i know where the term blow job comes from, i love learning about sex and the history of sexual terms! i know so much about oral sex that i could write a book on it!

his second error: approaching a little autistic freak with what he intended to be an uncomfortable sex question that would make me feel weird and gross. Friends, Romans, Countrymen, I Have Never Misjudged A Man’s Intentions So Incredibly In My Life. because i did not realize he was trying to harass me. because i love talking about sex facts, albeit not usually at work. unless. someone prompts me. my coworkers are the kind of people who are generally online enough to know terms, but not exactly what they mean, and they realized they could ask me a while back and get good answers without the resulting awkwardness because i do not experience shame. i am primed to answer questions like the one he has proposed.

So I Answered It.

and well, really, what happened is that I began answering it, then realized the answer required a bit more context. I mean, you can’t just say “oh, well, the term first appears in writing in the 1940s” without first explaining that ‘blow’ by itself already had sexual connotations for centuries, and then, really, are we talking about the origin of the term or the origin of the act. and well we have a ton of literature and art depicting fellatio throughout human history, did you know a lot of it was men performing it on other men? oh, that reminds me, there are a multitude of latin words for oral sex performed on penises, and hold on let me quote you the entirety of catullus 16 from memory and explain it’s fascinating insights into the roman world of homosexuality-

i do not know how to turn any of this ^ off, by the way. i’m sure some people out there have a switch that disables their infodumping mid-speech. i do not. and i also didn’t realize he wasn’t looking for a real answer until my other coworker explained so hours later. he could not excuse himself from the conversation he started, and i made a conservative man at least 30 years older than me to listen to my catullus recitation. i will sodomize and facefuck you, indeed.

anyway, i think i got a bad grade in being sexually harassed. my pro tip is maybe don’t start with what a very autistic individual will misconstrue as you earnestly asking them to explain sex to you. the special interest shield will cause splashback damage.