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24 | current obsession: dhurandhar

[cannibalchicken]

[toastyglow-rb]

1920s gangster voice: when you stare into the boid the boid stares back

[robotslenderman]

I’m sorry my lovelies but the reason you hate yourself is because you treat you like shit. If you came up to me and then told me I was a fuck up who could never do anything right I'd fucking hate you too.

[robotslenderman]

if you didn't let me go to bed until after midnight because you'd rather watch Netflix than let me rest, and then got mad at me for not being productive the next day I'd be PISSED

[robotslenderman]

You keep calling me a fatass but you tell other overweight people they’re beautiful? Why do you keep shitting on MY weight, then?

Oh? It’s different if it’s me? Wow fuck you too

[robotslenderman]

Love is a verb! Self love isn’t a warm fuzzy feeling, it is compassion and action in support of yourself!

And yes, this includes having compassion for the bully in your head. Unfortunately that part is also you and deserves as much of your understanding as the rest of you.

[xxverygoodcowsxx]

I don’t want to critisize what makes other people happier, because it’s great that it’s supposedly made them happier. But I don’t like this anti-realism, anti-self improvement, pro-narcissism ideology that seems to be popular now. What’s marketed as “self love” seems like refusing to agknoledge that you have problems, and I want to acknowledge I have problems, which often doesn’t mean being nice to myself. And I hate that people consider that a “bad” thing.

[robotslenderman]

You don't have to be nice to yourself, but you do have to be good to yourself. Nice here means prioritising good feelings, and being good means prioritising your well-being. Often it doesn't feel great to put well-being first.

You will never beat a problem out of yourself. Lots of people who hate themselves have tried, and all of them are equally convinced that they're the first human being who will finally make it work. They treat themselves the same way that people they despise treat others, and then they're surprised they don't have any self respect. Why would they? I've never respected anyone who treats people like shit. But swinging to the opposite extreme of pretending you're the bees knees and sucking your own dick doesn't do shit either.

If you go to bed early instead of staying up to watch Netflix, that's not pretending your problem of staying up doesn't exist. It's the opposite. It's not nice to tell yourself to go the fuck to bed instead of watching your favourite show but it is good for you, and if you do fuck up and can barely function the next day it is the good thing to understand that you can't make a miracle happen when you're sleep deprived, so you go easy on yourself and resolve to go to bed early the next night. There is zero reason to treat people who have problems like shit, so there's no reason to do it to yourself either.

But doing the nice thing, chanting affirmations in the mirror, trying to cultivate warm and fuzzy feelings - I don't think that actually works. That method of self love has always seemed a bit self obsessed to me. I've never had warm fuzzy feelings towards myself and I don't think I ever will, but I much prefer being someone I can rely on and trust to support myself, and that's done a lot to combat the self loathing I used to have. It's done more to actually fix my problems than hatred ever did.

[robotslenderman]

I’m sorry my lovelies but the reason you hate yourself is because you treat you like shit. If you came up to me and then told me I was a fuck up who could never do anything right I'd fucking hate you too.

[robotslenderman]

if you didn't let me go to bed until after midnight because you'd rather watch Netflix than let me rest, and then got mad at me for not being productive the next day I'd be PISSED

[robotslenderman]

You keep calling me a fatass but you tell other overweight people they’re beautiful? Why do you keep shitting on MY weight, then?

Oh? It’s different if it’s me? Wow fuck you too

[robotslenderman]

Love is a verb! Self love isn’t a warm fuzzy feeling, it is compassion and action in support of yourself!

And yes, this includes having compassion for the bully in your head. Unfortunately that part is also you and deserves as much of your understanding as the rest of you.

[erikb2]

[erikb2]

俩大哥太基佬了，然后呢，我就被气哭了，，，，感觉加尔温已经有点像我oc了对不起

[gl00mt0mb]

MCU Peter Parker should be an absolutely respectfully kind and caring person with manners, he should also be the biggest little shit ever because he’s 15 and saving the entire city while balancing the horrors of highschool.

Do you know how pissed I would be if I had to deal with finals week while simultaneously being a vigilante? I’d lose my fucking shit, I act like a psychiatric ward escapee after my second all nighter, okay I start having sleep deprived hallucinations of Paul Reaver when studying for my History midterms can you imagine trying to rehearse for a thesis project and then the fuckass rhino wants to start with his bullshit?

I’d be insufferable, if I had to stitch my own laser wounds in the bathtub using my phone flashlight and then it cuts out because I got added to some fuck ass group chat named ‘we have to talk’ with 20 members id actually crash out so hard.

Peters gotta have a patience of steel because no wonder he blew up on Tony and made stupid decisions during the Homecoming movie? Like bitch you can’t even be bothered to respond to my calls, get the actual fuck out of my face, I’ve got an alien weapons ring to bust at seven and and an annotated Case Study due at 11:59 I’m not doing this shit rn?

Peter walks into his chemistry class drenched in blood sweat and dirt with a vaguely haunted look and other very sleep deprived AP student who are using their lunch period to make up the lab nod in solidarity as if this is a relatable experience.

He submits his preparation worksheet to the teacher and there’s just an entire bloody handprint thats definitely not his being dragged down the border of the paper. However he also greeted the teacher when he entered and knocked before walking in so they might ignore that.

Peter should be the mix of deranged and polite that makes him trusted by both lost grandmothers and subway crackheads.

[baelcrtargaryen]

Freddie Fox as Gwayne Hightower HOUSE OF THE DRAGON | 3.05

[gotheyjoy]

[treibholz-des-universums]

You're not in love with me, are you? - Not at the moment, no.

[tobitoooo]

wh- huh- i- JOFFREY AND GWAYNE??????? JESUS

[treibholz-des-universums]

You're not in love with me, are you? - Not at the moment, no.

[tobitoooo]

Antinous & Odysseus, in The Odyssey (2026)

[json-derulo]

having the Aviation Accident Investigations Autism™️ has actually done wonders for the way I process and respond to my own fuck-ups

[json-derulo]

And I don't just mean "oh, my little work mistake is actually nothing compared to a fiery crash that kills people," either. The reason commercial flight is so many orders of magnitude safer than any other form of transportation is because after every accident and incident, an independent regulatory body investigated it with the express goal of figuring out exactly what happened, why, and how to prevent the same thing from ever happening again—not to root out which person deserved the blame or the liability.

It's a simple, shockingly effective idea. It's also worlds away from how most people approach their own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

[json-derulo]

Because it’s never just one person’s fault. And even when it is, it still isn’t. 

The sharpest, best-trained pilots make worse decisions when they're tired or sick or stressed out, so there's two of them. The most dedicated and experienced air traffic controllers garble an instruction over the radio sometimes, so pilots are trained to always repeat clearances back to catch misunderstandings quickly. The best and brightest maintenance mechanic still overlooks a screw or misconnects a wire once or twice in her career, so aircraft systems are built with two or three or four layers of redundancy, and pilots are exhaustively trained to deal with failures safely. 

Everyone eventually has a bad day. Every component breaks down. Every computer gets a bad a Windows update and spirals into a reboot doom loop. If it’s possible for one person’s mistake to domino into a mushroom cloud of a fuckup, then that task is too critical to be one person's sole responsibility. The accident sequence starts with the design of the system—so how do you improve the system to keep it from happening again?

[json-derulo]

oh yeah. The “modern commercial aviation is the safest form of transport” thing only applies to planes, btw. A helicopter is a beautiful metal horse that wants to break its legs and die so so so badly

[thelawfulchaotic]

This is such a good example of systemic solutions to problems!! Putting it in my pocket for explaining problem-solving vs. blame and punishment in the future.

[json-derulo]

having the Aviation Accident Investigations Autism™️ has actually done wonders for the way I process and respond to my own fuck-ups

[json-derulo]

And I don't just mean "oh, my little work mistake is actually nothing compared to a fiery crash that kills people," either. The reason commercial flight is so many orders of magnitude safer than any other form of transportation is because after every accident and incident, an independent regulatory body investigated it with the express goal of figuring out exactly what happened, why, and how to prevent the same thing from ever happening again—not to root out which person deserved the blame or the liability.

It's a simple, shockingly effective idea. It's also worlds away from how most people approach their own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

[json-derulo]

Because it’s never just one person’s fault. And even when it is, it still isn’t. 

The sharpest, best-trained pilots make worse decisions when they're tired or sick or stressed out, so there's two of them. The most dedicated and experienced air traffic controllers garble an instruction over the radio sometimes, so pilots are trained to always repeat clearances back to catch misunderstandings quickly. The best and brightest maintenance mechanic still overlooks a screw or misconnects a wire once or twice in her career, so aircraft systems are built with two or three or four layers of redundancy, and pilots are exhaustively trained to deal with failures safely. 

Everyone eventually has a bad day. Every component breaks down. Every computer gets a bad a Windows update and spirals into a reboot doom loop. If it’s possible for one person’s mistake to domino into a mushroom cloud of a fuckup, then that task is too critical to be one person's sole responsibility. The accident sequence starts with the design of the system—so how do you improve the system to keep it from happening again?

[json-derulo]

oh yeah. The “modern commercial aviation is the safest form of transport” thing only applies to planes, btw. A helicopter is a beautiful metal horse that wants to break its legs and die so so so badly

[thelawfulchaotic]

This is such a good example of systemic solutions to problems!! Putting it in my pocket for explaining problem-solving vs. blame and punishment in the future.

[tessarionbestgirl]

[tessarionbestgirl]

Isn't poetic that the the son Alicent loves the least and her favorite son are so similar?

[agentmilayawithshield]

in Westeros, you're not allowed to be the eldest son with a facecard they immediately end you

[alysmond]

HOUSE OF THE DRAGON | Season 3, Episode 5, "Unbowed and Unbent"

[poizedtostrike]

spoilery review of the odyssey

actually my biggest problem with the odyssey is that it takes away so much of odysseus's responsibility. he doesnt make a choice to sacrifice his men; it's literally given to him as the only choice. the choice of a plot line where he's basically forgotten everything (and being drugged) when he's with calypso instead of choosing to portray it as him cheating or being assaulted removes so much of the depth of his misery and background for his choices. he doesnt do the "nobody" bit with the cyclops, and he instead just has a little moment of foolish anger. the choices he does make (such as listen to the siren song) have no real consequences.

you could almost call him blameless, and it takes so much of the choice and responsibility and development away.

I feel no connection to his humanity, and I really hate that