ATouchOfBronzeInTo

Spoiled SB looking for more!! Glow up!

[keptandkind]

Something important to consider in hypergamy circles is that the end goal isn't necessarily to marry a rich man, but a generous one. There are plenty of wealthy men who go on to use their finances as leverage and will give you the world but make you work for every single cent through emotional or domestic labor for the rest of your life. Some of these guys “provide” in a way that slowly just traps the woman — they encourage her to quit her job, isolate her from her own earning power, make her dependent on their lifestyle, and then act like she owes them gratitude for the privilege of being controlled. No savings, no career momentum, no safety net.

A generous man will strive to provide without weaponizing it. A generous man will want to see your needs taken care of without creating a power imbalance. A guy who enjoys giving, supporting, and making sure you’re good can create a safer, more stable life than a rich man.

[hauteavocation]

Let’s help each other out, so February is obviously peak winter saddies and with all the bad news that’s going around (!!) — how do you get yourself out of a funk and feeling more nourished and optimistic ? 🤍

I always find that having coffee with a friend who is good vibes helps but lets hear more ideas :) ⬇️

[theposhsworld]

[haruharuz]

I miss the SB and Stripper tumblr soooo bad sometimes. Truly had the best tips and loved seeing girlie's win.

[xo-indulgence]

If the vision was impossible, you would’ve never received it.

[seenthisepisode]

what doesn't kill you makes you stay on tumblr for 13 years and counting

[1gmoney]

It’s crazy how real this is

[dreamgirlvibes]

[lais-noire-deactivated20260601]

having this blog over the last few years has been such a blessing. finding a community of women who share their experiences in such a stigmatized field was a godsend. sharing triumphs and lessons--empowering one another and connecting from different parts of the world is so beautiful. I like to write about my successes and I enjoy writing about lessons I have learned.

being an escort wasn't on my childhood bingo card, not entirely (although during church I did love the lessons on Mary Magdalene and Rahab). I came into this profession out of sheer survival. I was a sugar baby at 18, had religious guilt & didn't get back into sex work until I was in my early 20s. this work has transformed my life because it has allowed me to reconcile deep pain and trauma from my upbringing and truly ask myself: am I worthy no matter what I do? am I worthy when others say I am not? am I worthy when a man doesn't see it? am I worthy when others tear me down or gossip? is worthiness a garment that I wear? is it something that can be stolen? I have answered these questions over the years tearfully, joyfully and hopefully. I now ask you to consider them for yourself.

I earn lots of money, that was my goal. if that is your goal, you can do it too. you don't need to compete with anyone; you don't need to slander anyone or tarnish someone else's reputation to do it; you don't need to use mental energy and act on people in your environment to do it. you need only act within yourself. this is a very simplistic explanation but I mention in other posts the books I have read, teachers who helped me & therapy modalities that have contributed to what I consider exponential growth.

if you receive anything from my time here my hope is that you receive power. the deep knowing that you can change any facet of your life; you can become rich; you can be successful; you can be at peace with yourself and others; you can exist in your own skin--not as a rebellion--but you can be accepted for who you truly are. you can attract friends who add to loveliness of your life. you can have peace of mind. you can have all the financial resources you desire. you don't need to choose between peace and wealth. all goodness is yours. every morsel of goodness belongs to you, full stop.

I realize now, my passion is empowering other women. my passion is giving resources & I have to admit fear sometimes prevents me from fully living out that passion. but I am taking this time to tell you, reader, that I am committed to sharing as much as I can about my journey. not only for the occasional dopamine hit from your appreciation post, but also because what I have now, I wish for everyone else. and what I wish for you, I am wishing for myself.

love you all <3

(also if you made it this far: google Marie Diamond, iykyk.)

[derangedrhythms]

Rebecca Perry, Beauty/Beauty; from 'Kintsugi 金継ぎ'

[jordynbreeloa777]

STOP, THE 3D IS NOT THE ENEMY.

The 3D isn’t the bad guy. You can change your assumption about it! The 3D is a friend because it is showing you what to work on, and to go within. If it is showing you bad scenarios then go in imagination and change the story. It’s trying to HELP you not make you spiral, upset, mad , and try to force action. You have to learn not to be afraid of the 3D. Be aware that the 3D does nothing but help you. Don’t overcomplicate it, it’s just a mirror reflecting your inner, hardcore, dominant beliefs. You have the power to change the 3D. You have power over it, not the other way around. If you really have an issue with the 3D illusion, I want you to affirm this to not get discouraged. “the 3D always conforms to my desires instantly!” “the 3D is literally my simp, it always shows me what I want.” “I have full results no matter what my 3D is showing me” “Imagination is the only real reality, I already have everything I want.” So please with this being said, please stop the avoiding mirrors since if you really had results already why would you care? If your holding your faith in imagination then do so. Happy Manifesting!💝💝

[diamondthedime-deactivated20250]

A FORMAL INTRODUCTION

“Every time I feel like I am at my final form, I realize that I am nothing but a rough draft,”

Greetings fellow feminine. My name is Diamond Chanel and for a long time I’ve been hesitant about using my real name on this blog. Idk why, but why not?

My mother named me after a gem (and a designer brand) not knowing its literal definition. Diamond means reflection. I feel like we clashed because I am a reflection of her. Her actions, attitude and spirit.

This is why I love (and giggle) when I am scolded for being mean. I am nothing but a reflection of you.

Proceed with caution.

Previously urtoospoiled, my life took a turn once I set the intention to teach my audience how to practice hypergamy and level up in order to practice strategically. The journey and it’s lessons learned were ass kicking gems.

Acres of Diamonds, a future book club feature. Anyways,

I introduce myself as a form of transparency first and foremost. My “level up” lacks a materialistic aspect. In fact, I love practicing being frugal. Falling off financially has taught me that I do not need as much as I once thought I did and to be more grateful for my “birth rights”.

I practice abundance without indulging in excess.

My self development is a spiritual and physical one. I needed to mature as an adult, specifically as a (black) woman in this world. From 2021-currently, I was guided to stop being in survival mode and learn how to become strategic with my femininity, intelligence and overall moves in this world.

They say I mean, and tbh it makes me feel a little anxious and avoidant of this blog. I do not intend to offend or “bully” anyone into becoming better. But, sometimes I do have to give it to you raw.

I’ll rather not waste your time with fluff. Tbh, I have to schedule in “Tumblr Time” so I can practice consistency. I won’t disrespect myself, wasting my own time with sugarcoating.

For 2024, the theme of my life is “serious”. I’m in a serious space in my life. I am asking for serious blessings which require serious preparation therefore I must put forth serious effort. Life is serious. Seriously expensive. Seriously dangerous. Seriously unpredictable, word to the pandemic.

To take it a step further, I’ve been through serious things.

I went no-contact w/ the woman who could’ve lost her life giving birth to me (my mom). Y’all she embarrassed me in front of neighbors, “it’s above me now”

I’ve literally broke bread with my pets because that’s all I could afford to feed us

My cousin’s latest baby father (she has a roster, cvm dump. Anyway) choked me and tried to break my jaw. This led me to getting a German Shepard, who later suddenly passed away. Her presence scared away my whole family and has granted me peace even in her absence.

I apologize in advance, but my tone is serious because I am. I was far from serious at the start of this blog, but life has taken me places. Life has taken me to some dark and beautiful places. This has made me eligible to give you game when it comes to dating and self development.

The best way for feminines to begin their B2B journey is by purchasing our super short book which provides masculine guidance for your manifestations, romantic life and beyond.

I Have > I Am: Masculine Guidance for Feminines

Thank you for allowing me to share my experience, advice and more on your screen.

FUN FACTS ABOUT ME

I was xes trafficked at 14. I feel like this was research for my current content since I took the opportunity to pick the brains of clients and other um, providers.

I have a face tattoo and a couple more. I also have a tattoo of my family that I am itching to cover up. I’m telling you teens, learn from me.

I’m a bland btch lol. I am an old fashion donut, plain Lays, ginger ale type of girl. Idk! I love it, I love it *Fantasia’s voice*

I grew up on (DVD) rap music and my raggedy ass brother(s) really inspired my taste in music. Jeezy, Fabolous, Jadakiss, Meek, 50 Cent are all big inspirations for multiple projects in my life, specifically B2B. These men rap about how they discard, cherish and use women for their benefit and I enjoy dissecting their lyrics for discussion. Stay tuned!

What are some fun facts about you?

[thatbitchery]

I will mouth off about this excerpt quotes from [Bleed For This, 2016] for the rest of my life because if there's such a thing as gospel it's this.

I can not stress enough how much this holds true, that it really is that simple. I'll say this in any language you need me to say it in, love, I'll text it to you first thing every morning if I have to till you get it, IT IS THAT SIMPLE, and the lie that it's not is just that, a lie.

"ITS HOW THEY GET YOU TO GIVE UP. THEY TELL YOU ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE, VINNY"

I need this to be branded in a T-shirt. That is how they get you to give up. Why can't you invest in me as my partner? It's not that simple. How do I make more money? It's not that simple. How do i- its not that simple.

It is . Trust me on this. I'll shove my entire body into a truth detector and swear this under oath with God Himself as a judge, the lie that it's not that simple is level down indoctrination.

You're a survival species so you work to anticipate risk and prevent it and a way you do that is by catastrophizing and overeextending so something that's Hella simple is now an entire Charles Darwin theorem. It's that simple sis.

I know this is hard to understand, if it's that simple then why is it so hard for me?

Because in your formative years it was drilled to you that it's not that simple. That's it. I swear once you reprogram your brain and see stuff for what it is you'll feel so dumb. I'm telling you this as an autistic dyslexic black girl. It's that simple. The idea that it's not is the lie.

" That it is. That if you just do the thing that they tell you you can't, then it's done. And you realize it is that simple. It's always been"

Your honor, *drops mic*

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[kingess]

Inspired by the dozen of anons the spiritually psychotic lady sent,

I'd like to share another chef's kiss manipulation hack with you;

Keep track of the insults the desired target uses when they're triggered.

Towards you, or someone else. Even if he's not directly verbally abusive the things he looks down upon on you or others will slip through. That's his insecurity.

When we're flustered or triggered or even just stressed and the aggression leaks out, our brain's first motive is to attack emotionally, to keep us safe. Most people aren't quick or deranged enough to hurt others with what hurts the opponent specifically custom taylored routinely. The brain asks 'what's hurtful?' and picks what your unique experience has concluded most hurtful; Aka your insecurities.

This in mind you can bring him up, or tear him down effortlessly & innocently when suitable.

[glowdiamond]

men  love to brag about how much they spend on their woman 💅🏼

this is part 2 of my previous post: a man’s biggest flex is providing 

Girlies,

no sane man

masculine man,

is sitting around a table with his buddies flexing about how many hours his woman spends in the kitchen, or how fast she can clean the entire house, or how she can find the best deals and coupons

wealthy provider men brag about how much ease they add into their woman’s life

not how much they take from her and drain her 

they’re out here talking about how they sent their wife on a trip to dubai, 

or how they gave their wife their credit card to do some damage because she’s sad about her dog dying

they brag about how bratty and materialistic their wives are “she can never have too many shoes”

but they don’t say this in a malicious way, it’s actually an endearing compliment

this is a flex among men

this is saying “my wife has a taste for the finer things in life and i can always deliver for her”

no man aspires to having a well trained maid for a wife

those who do just can’t afford the woman they actually want

so the next time you’re on a date and someone asks if you’re good at cooking or cleaning

if they make remarks about how bougie your wardrobe is and how your instagram is filled with fine cuisine

that’s your cue to pack up and leave

men with money are actively looking for the woman who will have them spending 😉

[theeseductress]

if you're scared or hesitant to ask these men for money or gifts or whatever you want, you should:

get out the game

or

keep asking until you're no longer afraid.

[2productive]

I see that you like to maintain a roster of men when you are dating. I was wondering how you navigate having sex with them? Do you ever get burnt out from having to go on dates and sleep with them? Also how do you protect yourself from std and pregnancy? Hope this doesn’t come across as rude at all!

It’s easy, I simply do not have sex with them.

I make it very clear that anything they do for me, any place they take me, and anything they buy for me is 100% their choice. I am not obligated to give them my body in return. I also make it very clear that if they want to spend time with me, I will only allow it if they do things for me, take me nice places, or buy me things. Does that make sense? I set a standard for what it takes to have my company but they still have complete free will for if they choose to meet my standards. If they don’t want to meet my requests, that’s totally okay! But I will not be a companion to them. If they do, it was their own choice and they cannot expect my body in return for something they chose to do on their own free will.

I do tease though haha 😉

[swabian-princess]

The Cheatcode

Hello Ladies,

I’ve found the cheat code when it comes to hypergamy! You’ll only need a little start capital…not that much, only around 1-2k.

You need to rebuild your entire wardrobe. Yes. Throw out your crop tops and your leggings. No high value man wants a woman that is dressed like a yoga teacher all day. I don’t care if you’re only 21. Buy all those long skirts and button up tops and don’t even think about purchasing a bag cheaper than 500 dollars.

Think about what you can do in terms of your appearance. Maybe a nose job or a skinny BBL? If you’re lucky you can get away with only lip fillers.

Only speak about feminine stuff. Home decor. How you’re planning to homeschool your children. Let the man talk about masculine things like politics or finances.

Are you still reading? Well…I have a surprise for you…

…there is no such thing as a cheatcode.

Sorry, but I need to rant a little bit.

I’m so fucking annoyed at posts like this. There is currently and likely never will be a cheatcode for hypergamy.

Don’t believe those feminity influencers – most of them aren’t even married or have bagged a billionaire. Don’t buy books from these people and don’t give them money for strange online classes, that claim you’ll meet a billionaire within a five step program.

The truth is, wether you like it or not, that only very few woman will marry into high society and even fewer will stay in those circles.

I don’t know if you get it but those men are only human and want a honest connection with their partner. (Well, I’m sure there are men that really only care about looks but is this really a man you would like to marry? Even if he’s the richest man on the planet?)

Hypergamy is work. Hard fucking work.

Many of you seem to think that those men only fuck you and look at you. What do you do if you can’t fuck because you’re on a gala or his mothers birthday dinner? You’ll have to open your mouth and start talking.

I’m like 98% sure that you could be a grenade in bed and the most beautiful woman that ever walked on earth, if you can’t hold a conversation for longer than a minute, you won’t be succesful.

I am not that beautiful myself, I’m average with a few nice features but I can entertain my boyfriend for hours just talking about my day. I can discuss current politics with him and talk about his business without googling every second phrase.

He loves to spend time with me because he likes how I make him feel. I make him feel welcomed in his home, I make sure to listen to his problems and about what brings him joy. I am the first person he wants to call when he has a hard or a very succesful day because he know that my reactions are always honest and genuine. I won’t just tell him what he wants to hear – I tell him my opinion.  

Another thing that bugs me, is that those feminity influencers make relationships seem like the only things to do are shopping, taking vacations and going out to eat.

Honestly it’s fucking hard to be with a high value man.

High value man = very full schedule.

My boyfriend works from 5:30am to 7pm and sometimes even longer. When he comes home he wants to shower, eat something and talk to me.

I prepare his meals and clean the house while he’s at work. I do grocerie shopping and laundry, I iron his clothes and order his skin and haircare products.

He doesn’t expect me in a full face of makeup and a bodycon dress with heels when he gets home but he wants me to be clean and freshly showered. He want’s no drama and he expects that I know my place – beside him.

A relationship is work, especially if you’re in one with a man that works 80+ hours a week. Don’t expect endless shopping trips with him or a nice dinner every day. There is a reason why he has money – he works for it and his working hours are usually very long.

Okay, thats all I have for now.

Bye Bye

Selene