Miranda found London, where Laxmi's cousin's husband was, with the woman he'd met on the plane. She wondered which of the cities in India Dev's wife was in. The farthest Miranda had ever been was to the
Bahamas once when she was a child. She searched but couldn't find it on the glass panels. When the tourists left and she and Dev were alone again, he told her to stand at one end of the bridge. Even though they were thirty feet apart, Dev said, they'd be able to hear each other whisper.
"I don't believe you," Miranda said. It was the first time she'd spoken since they'd entered. She felt as if speakers were embedded in her ears.
"Go ahead," he urged, walking backward to his end of the bridge. His voice dropped to a whisper. "Say something." She watched his lips forming the words; at the same time she heard them so clearly that she felt them under her skin, under her winter coat, so near and full of warmth that she felt herself go hot.
"Hi," she whispered, unsure of what else to say.
"You're sexy," he whispered back.
Jhumpa Lahiri’s short story Sexy focuses on a woman that’s having an affair with a married man. The main character, Miranda, feels valued and confident when her lover, Dev, calls her “Sexy”. She tries to play into that by buying sexy clothes, like a slinky silver dress. She eventually realizes that he doesn’t care for her, and his compliments are shallow (He doesn’t even remember them).
The story is a depiction of how women sometimes draw their value from the way they’re seen by men, but the value that men place in women is often only surface level.
When I read “Sexy”, I thought that the main character was shallow and silly for putting so much stock into a compliment about her appearance. Shouldn’t people value compliments about their personality and achievements more than ones about their appearance?
I tried to think back on the compliments that I remember the most from my life, and all that I could think of was the time that one of my guy friends in my high school orchestra said “You look stunning” before a concert. This compliment, while nothing like the one in Lahiri’s story, is just as surface level as the one that Miranda received.
Why is it that women, and people in general, put so much stock into their appearance, and how the people around them see them? It could have something to do with the types of relationships that girls are exposed to in children’s and teen media.
A lot of the popular movies from when I was a kid, like “Another Cinderella Story” and “Two Weeks Notice”, centered around a girl who was considered unpopular and dorky who likes this super cool guy. The guy only starts to notice the girl when he realizes how beautiful she is. For example, in “Another Cinderella Story”, Selena Gomez’s character is only noticed by the guy she likes when she shows up to the school dance in a fancy red dress.
Even in movies that don’t follow this pattern, there’s usually a moment when you can tell that the characters have fallen in love, and the girl is usually made up to look her best. Like the ball scene in “Enchanted” where Giselle is in that maroon dress (Which is completely different from everything she’s worn for the rest of the film).
These types of films, books, and other forms of media help spread the idea that if you want to be happy, have friends, and fall in love, then you have to show everyone how beautiful you are. This could be why a lot of women, like the character in “Sexy”, value compliments about their appearance so much.