[transfembarbaragordon]

babs, 25, she/her. transtransfem bisexual icon. flag maker. i lobe controversial media. no dni but i wont follow back bc this is a side blog. i block people who post gore, no h8 it just makes me feel gross.

[yantisocial]

TransSMPCharacter

(Trans • SMP • Character)

◩ TransSMPCharacter is a TransReality/TransUniverse and TransCharacter ID wherein one is, wants, and/or is transitioning to be a charcter from a Minecraft SMP in any way, shape, or form. This could mean becoming one's own original character, another's character, or simply being oneself while also being a character in an SMP. ◪

CisSMPCharacter

(Cis • SMP • Character)

◩ CisSMPCharacter is an ID wherein one is cis for being a charcter from a Minecraft SMP in any way, shape, or form. This could mean one's own original character, another's character, or simply being oneself while also being a character in an SMP. ◪

taglist: @flagqueer @io-innerself @angelic-archival

(ask to be added if you'd like!)

[transfembarbaragordon]

‘enjoy your echo chamber’ i think it’s just called having friends you should try it

[malevolence-rising]

Hi. I’m Malevolent. You can call me Mal. I am not one, but I am many. I am the host of the system, we call it legion.

Darkness is my forte, pain is my muse.. trauma is my paint brush.

I fear becoming my abusers, sometimes I think I understand why they did what they did…

[transfembarbaragordon]

why are you coming onto a pro-radqueer post to shit on me and then also claiming to be a radqueer (among us suspicious sound)

[transfembarbaragordon]

anyway today im proud of me :) resisted the urge to fucking kill myself because of thoughts out of my control. man I wish there was a flag or something i could wave to celebrate the fact i continue to survive

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not the “king of recovery.” I’m someone pointing out that recovery from harm isn’t the same as branding it into a community identity — especially when that identity blurs lines with dangerous or predatory ideologies.

I’m genuinely glad you’re in a better place, and it’s valid to feel pride in your progress. But the issue isn’t about your personal healing — it’s about how these tags and flags invite others, especially vulnerable teens, into confusing and often unsafe ideological spaces under the guise of solidarity.

When your healing narrative leans on symbols associated with MAPs, or gets posted under radqueer tags that have historically hosted pro-paraphilia content, you’re not just expressing your story — you’re influencing a digital space that already struggles with boundaries.

You changed the flag, cool. But you’re still posting it in the same tag spaces that make survivors — and actual OCD/POCD patients trying to not spiral — feel unheard and unsafe. Awareness is powerful, yes. But it needs clarity. Not community cosplay.

This isn’t about “bitching.” It’s about calling out spaces that consistently blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse fantasies. That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.

[transfembarbaragordon]

oh and now you’re calling me a fucking groomer? genuinely i wonder how it is to live in your mind.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I didn’t call you a groomer. I said that some of these spaces, tags, and aesthetics blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse-related ideologies — and that does facilitate grooming behavior, whether intentional or not.

If you feel personally implicated, maybe ask why instead of deflecting into sarcasm and Harry Potter jabs. You’re reacting like I walked into your home and insulted your wallpaper. But I’m pointing out a structural issue — not launching a personal attack.

The people you’re posting around? The hashtags you’re using? They’re not neutral. They’ve been used by folks openly glorifying self-harm, abuse, and even CSA fantasies. That context matters, and if you truly care about recovery, then you should want distance from that.

This isn’t about whether you’re a good or bad person. It’s about responsibility and the public impact of what you post, especially when it’s tied to vulnerable identities. If that makes you uncomfortable, then good. That discomfort is a sign it’s time to reflect — not lash out.

[transfembarbaragordon]

“That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.” absolutely implies that I’m grooming.

if you want to apply your logic to yourself, the thing you support and the tags you involve yourself in just as easily hide or even celebrate transphobes and using your voice to platform a woman paying to put down trans people says an awful fucking lot.

i made a goddamn flag. for myself. i put it on the internet. if i took it out of the radqueer tag, i bet you wouldnt have even bothered me, because you clearly either track or go into the tag to harass people. you appear to be one of those people where nothing is ever virtuous enough. you are one of the people who would make me afraid to mention my pocd, who would push me further into isolation instead of therapy.

you did walk into my house and insult my wallpaper. i posted in two tags unrelated to you at all on my blog, and you came on and decided that it was your business what pwPOCD want. i corrected something when you corrected me, because i thought you were right. you continued to imply that i support grooming because i put some lines together.

people saying ‘so you support grooming’ in response to pwPOCD is exactly the kind of stigmatization i want to fight against and it’s exactly what we need the fucking flag for.

i’m delving into sarcasm and anger because you did come into my house and insult my wallpaper, and when i changed it, its not enough. the rqc are the only people who have ever accepted me. if they’ve also accepted bad people, thats not my fault.

you reject me just the same as anyone else because of my thoughts (something I don’t control), the people i associate with (none of whom you know, I created my main blog literally yesterday and have no mutuals), and the people who associate with that community.

you’re just another person prejudiced against pwPOCD for the express reason of the ‘P’. you haven’t done this to the creator of the ocd flag.

why go into radqueer tags if they bother you? just leave. i didnt @ you. nowhere did i ask for feedback.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re planning to take this to your therapist, I genuinely hope they help you unpack why public validation from a predator-coded tag matters more to you than actual healing. I never said you don’t deserve recovery — I said you don’t get to brand it in aesthetics rooted in harm and expect silence.

You posted it. You tagged it. You made it public.

Don’t confuse discomfort with persecution — and don’t confuse critique with cruelty just because it hit a nerve. Healing doesn’t require pastel flags. It requires accountability. Take that to therapy too.

[transfembarbaragordon]

you’re right! i did post and tag it. so i ask again, for the third time, why do you go into radqueer tags to harass people? and again, if i hadn’t put it in that tag, would you still be up in arms?

what did you expect from this? did you expect me to go ‘oh sorry, i guess i’ll shut the fuck up and keep my recovery to myself and delete this!’ did you think it would make all radqueers go away? it’s not going to. none of this is going to.

you’re also right! nothing needs a flag. but flags are fun. have you heard of fun? or is it not virtuous enough to do something for the hell of it?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

You’ve asked repeatedly why I went into radqueer tags — so let me answer you clearly: I was investigating the tag because of the disturbing, harmful content that’s been surfacing there. What I found confirmed exactly why that space needs more scrutiny, not less.

No, I didn’t expect you to delete your post or renounce your healing. But when that healing is displayed publicly using symbols and tags historically tied to paraphilic content and boundary violations — that’s not just “fun.” That’s a warning sign. Especially on a platform where minors and trauma survivors scroll the same tags looking for solidarity.

You say none of this will make radqueers go away. Maybe not. But the goal was never about silencing you. It was about calling attention to the fact that vulnerable people — including you — are being welcomed into a space that enables the very kind of harm you’re trying to heal from. That’s worth talking about. That’s why I spoke.

I’ve said what I needed to say. I’m done. If this conversation unsettled you, good — discomfort is where reflection starts. What you do with that now is up to you.

[transfembarbaragordon]

me and the homies are making fun of you in the discord group chat. ‘unsettled’ is not the word i would use lmaooooooo. have fun in your Harry Potter cesspool

[malevolence-rising]

Wow, imagine needing a whole group chat to feel confident in your comeback. Must be exhausting outsourcing your personality like that. 😂 Anyway, enjoy the echo chamber — I’ll leave you to it.

[transfembarbaragordon]

did you go on an entire second blog to have the last word since i blocked your main???

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not the “king of recovery.” I’m someone pointing out that recovery from harm isn’t the same as branding it into a community identity — especially when that identity blurs lines with dangerous or predatory ideologies.

I’m genuinely glad you’re in a better place, and it’s valid to feel pride in your progress. But the issue isn’t about your personal healing — it’s about how these tags and flags invite others, especially vulnerable teens, into confusing and often unsafe ideological spaces under the guise of solidarity.

When your healing narrative leans on symbols associated with MAPs, or gets posted under radqueer tags that have historically hosted pro-paraphilia content, you’re not just expressing your story — you’re influencing a digital space that already struggles with boundaries.

You changed the flag, cool. But you’re still posting it in the same tag spaces that make survivors — and actual OCD/POCD patients trying to not spiral — feel unheard and unsafe. Awareness is powerful, yes. But it needs clarity. Not community cosplay.

This isn’t about “bitching.” It’s about calling out spaces that consistently blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse fantasies. That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.

[transfembarbaragordon]

oh and now you’re calling me a fucking groomer? genuinely i wonder how it is to live in your mind.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I didn’t call you a groomer. I said that some of these spaces, tags, and aesthetics blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse-related ideologies — and that does facilitate grooming behavior, whether intentional or not.

If you feel personally implicated, maybe ask why instead of deflecting into sarcasm and Harry Potter jabs. You’re reacting like I walked into your home and insulted your wallpaper. But I’m pointing out a structural issue — not launching a personal attack.

The people you’re posting around? The hashtags you’re using? They’re not neutral. They’ve been used by folks openly glorifying self-harm, abuse, and even CSA fantasies. That context matters, and if you truly care about recovery, then you should want distance from that.

This isn’t about whether you’re a good or bad person. It’s about responsibility and the public impact of what you post, especially when it’s tied to vulnerable identities. If that makes you uncomfortable, then good. That discomfort is a sign it’s time to reflect — not lash out.

[transfembarbaragordon]

“That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.” absolutely implies that I’m grooming.

if you want to apply your logic to yourself, the thing you support and the tags you involve yourself in just as easily hide or even celebrate transphobes and using your voice to platform a woman paying to put down trans people says an awful fucking lot.

i made a goddamn flag. for myself. i put it on the internet. if i took it out of the radqueer tag, i bet you wouldnt have even bothered me, because you clearly either track or go into the tag to harass people. you appear to be one of those people where nothing is ever virtuous enough. you are one of the people who would make me afraid to mention my pocd, who would push me further into isolation instead of therapy.

you did walk into my house and insult my wallpaper. i posted in two tags unrelated to you at all on my blog, and you came on and decided that it was your business what pwPOCD want. i corrected something when you corrected me, because i thought you were right. you continued to imply that i support grooming because i put some lines together.

people saying ‘so you support grooming’ in response to pwPOCD is exactly the kind of stigmatization i want to fight against and it’s exactly what we need the fucking flag for.

i’m delving into sarcasm and anger because you did come into my house and insult my wallpaper, and when i changed it, its not enough. the rqc are the only people who have ever accepted me. if they’ve also accepted bad people, thats not my fault.

you reject me just the same as anyone else because of my thoughts (something I don’t control), the people i associate with (none of whom you know, I created my main blog literally yesterday and have no mutuals), and the people who associate with that community.

you’re just another person prejudiced against pwPOCD for the express reason of the ‘P’. you haven’t done this to the creator of the ocd flag.

why go into radqueer tags if they bother you? just leave. i didnt @ you. nowhere did i ask for feedback.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re planning to take this to your therapist, I genuinely hope they help you unpack why public validation from a predator-coded tag matters more to you than actual healing. I never said you don’t deserve recovery — I said you don’t get to brand it in aesthetics rooted in harm and expect silence.

You posted it. You tagged it. You made it public.

Don’t confuse discomfort with persecution — and don’t confuse critique with cruelty just because it hit a nerve. Healing doesn’t require pastel flags. It requires accountability. Take that to therapy too.

[transfembarbaragordon]

you’re right! i did post and tag it. so i ask again, for the third time, why do you go into radqueer tags to harass people? and again, if i hadn’t put it in that tag, would you still be up in arms?

what did you expect from this? did you expect me to go ‘oh sorry, i guess i’ll shut the fuck up and keep my recovery to myself and delete this!’ did you think it would make all radqueers go away? it’s not going to. none of this is going to.

you’re also right! nothing needs a flag. but flags are fun. have you heard of fun? or is it not virtuous enough to do something for the hell of it?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

You’ve asked repeatedly why I went into radqueer tags — so let me answer you clearly: I was investigating the tag because of the disturbing, harmful content that’s been surfacing there. What I found confirmed exactly why that space needs more scrutiny, not less.

No, I didn’t expect you to delete your post or renounce your healing. But when that healing is displayed publicly using symbols and tags historically tied to paraphilic content and boundary violations — that’s not just “fun.” That’s a warning sign. Especially on a platform where minors and trauma survivors scroll the same tags looking for solidarity.

You say none of this will make radqueers go away. Maybe not. But the goal was never about silencing you. It was about calling attention to the fact that vulnerable people — including you — are being welcomed into a space that enables the very kind of harm you’re trying to heal from. That’s worth talking about. That’s why I spoke.

I’ve said what I needed to say. I’m done. If this conversation unsettled you, good — discomfort is where reflection starts. What you do with that now is up to you.

[transfembarbaragordon]

me and the homies are making fun of you in the discord group chat. ‘unsettled’ is not the word i would use lmaooooooo. have fun in your Harry Potter cesspool

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not the “king of recovery.” I’m someone pointing out that recovery from harm isn’t the same as branding it into a community identity — especially when that identity blurs lines with dangerous or predatory ideologies.

I’m genuinely glad you’re in a better place, and it’s valid to feel pride in your progress. But the issue isn’t about your personal healing — it’s about how these tags and flags invite others, especially vulnerable teens, into confusing and often unsafe ideological spaces under the guise of solidarity.

When your healing narrative leans on symbols associated with MAPs, or gets posted under radqueer tags that have historically hosted pro-paraphilia content, you’re not just expressing your story — you’re influencing a digital space that already struggles with boundaries.

You changed the flag, cool. But you’re still posting it in the same tag spaces that make survivors — and actual OCD/POCD patients trying to not spiral — feel unheard and unsafe. Awareness is powerful, yes. But it needs clarity. Not community cosplay.

This isn’t about “bitching.” It’s about calling out spaces that consistently blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse fantasies. That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.

[transfembarbaragordon]

oh and now you’re calling me a fucking groomer? genuinely i wonder how it is to live in your mind.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I didn’t call you a groomer. I said that some of these spaces, tags, and aesthetics blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse-related ideologies — and that does facilitate grooming behavior, whether intentional or not.

If you feel personally implicated, maybe ask why instead of deflecting into sarcasm and Harry Potter jabs. You’re reacting like I walked into your home and insulted your wallpaper. But I’m pointing out a structural issue — not launching a personal attack.

The people you’re posting around? The hashtags you’re using? They’re not neutral. They’ve been used by folks openly glorifying self-harm, abuse, and even CSA fantasies. That context matters, and if you truly care about recovery, then you should want distance from that.

This isn’t about whether you’re a good or bad person. It’s about responsibility and the public impact of what you post, especially when it’s tied to vulnerable identities. If that makes you uncomfortable, then good. That discomfort is a sign it’s time to reflect — not lash out.

[transfembarbaragordon]

“That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.” absolutely implies that I’m grooming.

if you want to apply your logic to yourself, the thing you support and the tags you involve yourself in just as easily hide or even celebrate transphobes and using your voice to platform a woman paying to put down trans people says an awful fucking lot.

i made a goddamn flag. for myself. i put it on the internet. if i took it out of the radqueer tag, i bet you wouldnt have even bothered me, because you clearly either track or go into the tag to harass people. you appear to be one of those people where nothing is ever virtuous enough. you are one of the people who would make me afraid to mention my pocd, who would push me further into isolation instead of therapy.

you did walk into my house and insult my wallpaper. i posted in two tags unrelated to you at all on my blog, and you came on and decided that it was your business what pwPOCD want. i corrected something when you corrected me, because i thought you were right. you continued to imply that i support grooming because i put some lines together.

people saying ‘so you support grooming’ in response to pwPOCD is exactly the kind of stigmatization i want to fight against and it’s exactly what we need the fucking flag for.

i’m delving into sarcasm and anger because you did come into my house and insult my wallpaper, and when i changed it, its not enough. the rqc are the only people who have ever accepted me. if they’ve also accepted bad people, thats not my fault.

you reject me just the same as anyone else because of my thoughts (something I don’t control), the people i associate with (none of whom you know, I created my main blog literally yesterday and have no mutuals), and the people who associate with that community.

you’re just another person prejudiced against pwPOCD for the express reason of the ‘P’. you haven’t done this to the creator of the ocd flag.

why go into radqueer tags if they bother you? just leave. i didnt @ you. nowhere did i ask for feedback.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re planning to take this to your therapist, I genuinely hope they help you unpack why public validation from a predator-coded tag matters more to you than actual healing. I never said you don’t deserve recovery — I said you don’t get to brand it in aesthetics rooted in harm and expect silence.

You posted it. You tagged it. You made it public.

Don’t confuse discomfort with persecution — and don’t confuse critique with cruelty just because it hit a nerve. Healing doesn’t require pastel flags. It requires accountability. Take that to therapy too.

[transfembarbaragordon]

you’re right! i did post and tag it. so i ask again, for the third time, why do you go into radqueer tags to harass people? and again, if i hadn’t put it in that tag, would you still be up in arms?

what did you expect from this? did you expect me to go ‘oh sorry, i guess i’ll shut the fuck up and keep my recovery to myself and delete this!’ did you think it would make all radqueers go away? it’s not going to. none of this is going to.

you’re also right! nothing needs a flag. but flags are fun. have you heard of fun? or is it not virtuous enough to do something for the hell of it?

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not the “king of recovery.” I’m someone pointing out that recovery from harm isn’t the same as branding it into a community identity — especially when that identity blurs lines with dangerous or predatory ideologies.

I’m genuinely glad you’re in a better place, and it’s valid to feel pride in your progress. But the issue isn’t about your personal healing — it’s about how these tags and flags invite others, especially vulnerable teens, into confusing and often unsafe ideological spaces under the guise of solidarity.

When your healing narrative leans on symbols associated with MAPs, or gets posted under radqueer tags that have historically hosted pro-paraphilia content, you’re not just expressing your story — you’re influencing a digital space that already struggles with boundaries.

You changed the flag, cool. But you’re still posting it in the same tag spaces that make survivors — and actual OCD/POCD patients trying to not spiral — feel unheard and unsafe. Awareness is powerful, yes. But it needs clarity. Not community cosplay.

This isn’t about “bitching.” It’s about calling out spaces that consistently blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse fantasies. That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.

[transfembarbaragordon]

oh and now you’re calling me a fucking groomer? genuinely i wonder how it is to live in your mind.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I didn’t call you a groomer. I said that some of these spaces, tags, and aesthetics blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse-related ideologies — and that does facilitate grooming behavior, whether intentional or not.

If you feel personally implicated, maybe ask why instead of deflecting into sarcasm and Harry Potter jabs. You’re reacting like I walked into your home and insulted your wallpaper. But I’m pointing out a structural issue — not launching a personal attack.

The people you’re posting around? The hashtags you’re using? They’re not neutral. They’ve been used by folks openly glorifying self-harm, abuse, and even CSA fantasies. That context matters, and if you truly care about recovery, then you should want distance from that.

This isn’t about whether you’re a good or bad person. It’s about responsibility and the public impact of what you post, especially when it’s tied to vulnerable identities. If that makes you uncomfortable, then good. That discomfort is a sign it’s time to reflect — not lash out.

[transfembarbaragordon]

“That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.” absolutely implies that I’m grooming.

if you want to apply your logic to yourself, the thing you support and the tags you involve yourself in just as easily hide or even celebrate transphobes and using your voice to platform a woman paying to put down trans people says an awful fucking lot.

i made a goddamn flag. for myself. i put it on the internet. if i took it out of the radqueer tag, i bet you wouldnt have even bothered me, because you clearly either track or go into the tag to harass people. you appear to be one of those people where nothing is ever virtuous enough. you are one of the people who would make me afraid to mention my pocd, who would push me further into isolation instead of therapy.

you did walk into my house and insult my wallpaper. i posted in two tags unrelated to you at all on my blog, and you came on and decided that it was your business what pwPOCD want. i corrected something when you corrected me, because i thought you were right. you continued to imply that i support grooming because i put some lines together.

people saying ‘so you support grooming’ in response to pwPOCD is exactly the kind of stigmatization i want to fight against and it’s exactly what we need the fucking flag for.

i’m delving into sarcasm and anger because you did come into my house and insult my wallpaper, and when i changed it, its not enough. the rqc are the only people who have ever accepted me. if they’ve also accepted bad people, thats not my fault.

you reject me just the same as anyone else because of my thoughts (something I don’t control), the people i associate with (none of whom you know, I created my main blog literally yesterday and have no mutuals), and the people who associate with that community.

you’re just another person prejudiced against pwPOCD for the express reason of the ‘P’. you haven’t done this to the creator of the ocd flag.

why go into radqueer tags if they bother you? just leave. i didnt @ you. nowhere did i ask for feedback.

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not the “king of recovery.” I’m someone pointing out that recovery from harm isn’t the same as branding it into a community identity — especially when that identity blurs lines with dangerous or predatory ideologies.

I’m genuinely glad you’re in a better place, and it’s valid to feel pride in your progress. But the issue isn’t about your personal healing — it’s about how these tags and flags invite others, especially vulnerable teens, into confusing and often unsafe ideological spaces under the guise of solidarity.

When your healing narrative leans on symbols associated with MAPs, or gets posted under radqueer tags that have historically hosted pro-paraphilia content, you’re not just expressing your story — you’re influencing a digital space that already struggles with boundaries.

You changed the flag, cool. But you’re still posting it in the same tag spaces that make survivors — and actual OCD/POCD patients trying to not spiral — feel unheard and unsafe. Awareness is powerful, yes. But it needs clarity. Not community cosplay.

This isn’t about “bitching.” It’s about calling out spaces that consistently blur the line between trauma expression and normalization of abuse fantasies. That’s not recovery. That’s grooming repackaged in lowercase aesthetics and pastel banners.

[transfembarbaragordon]

oh and now you’re calling me a fucking groomer? genuinely i wonder how it is to live in your mind.

[projecthailcasey]

POCD awareness flag, composed of the MAP flag and the OCD flag. This flag is not pro contact.

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I want to be extremely clear: POCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, not a queer identity.

People with POCD suffer from distressing, unwanted intrusive thoughts and seek treatment to manage them — not celebrate or align with MAP ideology.

By framing POCD as something that belongs under a flag or within RadQueer spaces, you’re doing immense harm to actual POCD sufferers and to survivors of abuse.

Intrusive thoughts are not the same as desires. And building identity around them only encourages obsession, not healing.

If someone truly has POCD, their goal is to get better — not to claim a flag, a label, or a community that romanticizes proximity to harm.

You may say it’s ‘not pro-contact,’ but embracing the thought is already a betrayal of the goal: recovery, not normalization.

[projecthailcasey]

‘actual pocd sufferers’ so me? me, the person who made the flag? me, someone in recovery, who is trying to be proud of that? me, who wakes up every day wanting death and wondering if i should be murdered over a paraphilia out of my control?

i am recovering, i am proud of it, and if i want a little flag to wave around while i do so, i will. <3

its really cute you think you can control what other people do and say online though! love that delusion for you!

there are only two tags on this post so it’s more than likely you just went into a radqueer tag to make yourself upset for no reason. gws

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

If you’re truly in recovery, then you should understand that recovery is about healing, not waving a flag for visibility. No one is denying that POCD exists as a distressing and painful condition—it does. But the very nature of POCD is about rejecting and being horrified by the thoughts, not designing flags or creating communities that associate those thoughts with identity and pride.

If waving a flag helps you feel less alone, ask yourself why that flag had to be based on MAP colors and tied to a movement that many survivors—especially CSA victims—rightfully fear. Why wasn’t it based on healing? Accountability? Professional treatment?

Romanticizing intrusive thoughts is not recovery. Recovery is not making yourself feel more comfortable with the thoughts, it’s learning how to separate yourself from them. It’s seeking boundaries, not validation. It’s saying, “this is not me”—not “this is my flag.”

You say people are “trying to control” what others say online. No one’s trying to silence your pain. What people are trying to stop is the normalization of thought patterns that have harmed countless others.

Because here’s the truth: When you build a movement that visually, linguistically, and symbolically aligns itself with abusers, you’re not creating a space for recovery—you’re creating a haven for people who never want to recover.

It’s not about you being in pain. It’s about what you choose to do with that pain.

[projecthailcasey]

recovery is about healing, yes, but you’re allowed to be proud of it. or has the great lunadeus timewanderer decided I can’t be happy about that either?

so, sure. maybe the map community ‘aligns itself with abusers’ — every community contains abusers, but fine. if those specific colours are upsetting to you, then here. I made a fun new one, special.

but i’m sure you as the ceo of pocd (do you even have it?) will have a problem with this as well. i’ll just have to keep all my getting better to myself and make sure i never, ever mention what i deal with. it’s not like lack of awareness is what kept me from getting diagnosed. i kept all of my thoughts to myself because people on the internet said ‘if you have pedophilic thoughts you should die’, and didn’t get diagnosed until 22 instead of at 16 like i could have been. knowing there was a word for my thoughts, knowing I couldn’t control them, and knowing I could get better made me feel infinitely healthier. i’m proud.

what I choose to do with my pain is draw some pretty fucking lines, man. if that upsets you, just block me! you’re clearly not engaging in good faith. you hate radqueer, why interact with one? why go onto a post that had no notes just to say Um Actually about a disorder you seemingly have no claim to?

[lunadeus-timewanderer]

I’m not invalidating your suffering or your recovery. I’m criticizing how your presentation of it — particularly through a flag that borrows colors from MAP symbolism — can confuse and harm vulnerable people looking for recovery, not community normalization of trauma-fueled intrusive thoughts.

Recovery is about private healing, not branding. Awareness should lead to treatment, not online allegiance. You deserve care — but making symbols that resemble harmful groups’ branding isn’t awareness. It’s ambiguity, and ambiguity is where groomers thrive.

I don’t have to have POCD to see when a community is sending mixed, dangerous signals. Not every diagnosis needs a flag. Some need boundaries, and safe treatment spaces — not Tumblr communities defending paraphilic ideologies under the banner of trauma.

[transfembarbaragordon]

who died and made you the king of recovery? i absolutely do not want to trauma dump on you but i will use an anecdote here

when i was getting better from self harming, i worked with a friend. we kept each other accountable and checked in on each other. i would not have recovered without her

if i had isolated myself and tried to quit totally on my own, i dont think i would have managed

i am absolutely proud to say i have not cut in years. i have no problem sharing that. talking about it is cathartic and a great way of expressing that you can get better. if i didn’t know that other people had stopped it would feel so much more inescapable

you’re clearly someone who goes into radqueer tags to bitch and complain about things that have nothing to do with you

i changed the flag. i’m still proud. go kick rocks, of harass the creator of the original flag, since you seem to enjoy dedicating your time to bothering other people online.

[nyaandoll]

rnd i drew in my notes app !

[highwatermark]

Tomfoolery actually transitioned and only does she-nanigans now

[heartsia]

𝐁𝐚𝐭𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝟏𝟐𝟎𝐱𝟏𝟐𝟎

[syphasfire]

[barbara gordon/batgirl/oracle icons!] ↪ like or reblog if you use

[autistichalsin]

Actually no one should be having sex. All of us are aged-up minors and the passage of time is inherently problematic

[tracial-skunk-deactivated202508]

Hello? Hello hello?

TransMaDD - identifying as having, wanting to have, or feeling like you do/should have Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder

TransMaDDgenic - identifying as being, wanting to be, or feeling like you are/should be MaDDgenic

simpler and detailed flag versions! if these have already been coined please consider them alt flags <3