one thing about me is that i am an absolute freak about collecting canon details, particularly when it comes to characterization. and I was thinking about how people portray bingqiu's sex life in a wide manner of ways, and on one hand I can't really blame people for it, since SQQ is notoriously unreliable as a narrator, especially when it comes to his own sex life. at the same time though, it got me curious: if you look past SQQ's biased perspective, what's actually going on in those sex scenes? what actions are they both taking, what do they seem to enjoy, who's initiating? so, I decided to do a close reading of their sex scenes + any extras alluding to their sex life! I'm putting Maigu Ridge aside because that's a whole other can of worms and I don't think it's fair to either of them to treat it as reflective of their normal sex life, plus Binghe doesn't consider it their first time anyway. but all scenes in the extras are free game!
being me, I of course made a spreadsheet, but it's hideous and only meant for note taking purposes, so I'm not going to share it. but I am going to write up my findings here! under the cut since it gets quite long, but here we go: bingqiu's canon sex life!
the first thing that stands out to me is that SQQ initiates more often than you'd think! even if he claims he's only having sex for Binghe's sake, he's often the one taking the first step. in the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra, he's the one who suggests "exploring together" after Bingge leaves, he's the one who take's Binghe's pants off, he's the one who initiates the first sexual act (attempting to jerk Binghe off). perhaps most famously, in the Deep Dream extra, he initiates pretty much every step of the process -- pulling Binghe down and kissing him, undressing Binghe and pulling his hand to his own chest, flipping Binghe over to straddle him. in the Honeymoon extra, he offers to grant Binghe one request (which leads to the binding cables suggestion)
perhaps connected to SQQ often being the one to initiate, Binghe is extremely cautious about pushing him past his boundaries, especially early on. he's very nervous during the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra because the memory of Maigu Ridge is still weighing on him heavily, and he watches SQQ's expressions very closely to make sure he's feeling good. the one time he's not watching his face in that extra is when he's pushing in, at which point he checks in verbally to make sure SQQ feels okay -- when he looks up and realizes SQQ was lying and is in pain, he's absolutely distraught and immediately tries to pull out. making sure SQQ feels good is extremely important to him, he doesn't want him to be in pain or doing something he doesn't want to do. in the Deep Dream extra, he's holding himself back and behaving cautiously because he doesn't want to push him too far, and it isn't until SQQ explicitly expresses his desire that he says he might not be able to control himself. in the RPF/ass wine chapter, he says he would never force SQQ to have sex, and when SQQ initially turns down his suggestion to try things out from the books, he's disappointed but doesn't push it. again, it says he's very cautious when they have sex. a quote from that extra that I think sums it up nicely is:
Luo Binghe had never made any requests of him when it came to these matters. Because of his lackluster skill, he was always cautious in the extreme, and he even somewhat capitulated to Shen Qingqiu. Now he had finally acquired some instructional materials and found a bit of self-confidence, hoping to try them out together, only for Shen Qingqiu to toss a basin of cold water over his head...
in general, he follows SQQ's instructions closely, and the only times he doesn't really listen to him are when it's the heat of the moment and SQQ is asking him to slow down. his number one rule for sex is that SQQ has to tell him if it hurts, no matter what, which shows how important it is to him that SQQ feels good. once their relationship progresses, it seems like he gets a little more confident about cajoling SQQ into sex -- he complains when SQQ turns him down about the binding cables, and he acts pitiful to convince him to let him lay down a white sheet on their wedding night -- but to me, that just seems like he's gotten better at knowing what SQQ likes. after all, SQQ straight up says in the questionnaire extra that what makes his heart race the most is when Binghe cries and begs for something!
on that note, SQQ is very weak to Binghe's tears and is especially obsessed with how cute he finds him. when Binghe is all bashful while SQQ takes off his pants in the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra, SQQ scratches under his chin because he thinks he's adorable. his heart melts every time Binghe cries, especially when what Binghe is whining for is something romantic. when Binghe says he doesn't want to turn out like Bingge, he cradles Binghe's head to his chest and pets his hair while comforting him
I've joked that SQQ needs to embrace the dom/sub potential in their relationship, but after doing this close reading, it's clear to me that he's already gentle domming Binghe and doesn't realize it. he frequently points out Binghe's obedience as one of his good traits, he likes it when Binghe cries and begs, his idea of how to best please Binghe is to praise him for improving. Binghe, similarly, really enjoys being the sub to SQQ's dom. he follows SQQ's instructions closely when he's giving him directions, he says what makes his heart race the most is when SQQ pats his head/gives him instructions/scolds him/hits him, when he's told about S&M he bashfully says he'd enjoy anything SQQ did to him. clearly, this is a dynamic they both enjoy, they just haven't put words to it
I'd say they need to be taught about the idea of a service top/dom bottom, but even that doesn't capture the full picture because those top/bottom roles aren't set in stone! we all know about Binghe offering to bottom and SQQ turning him down, but on my close reread, it became more clear to me that SQQ is not entirely opposed to the idea -- he just didn't want their first real time to involve him topping. he's moved by the suggestion because he knows it's motivated by Binghe's desire to not hurt him, and he notes that there will be other opportunities in the future, meaning he's not completely ruling the idea out! in the Questionnaire extra, when SQH asks how they decided who tops, SQQ genuinely has to think about it for a second and then says it just kind of happened and it was because Binghe looked pitiful. so he could definitely be persuaded to top! Binghe probably just needs to exploit those tears, and SQQ will fold immediately lol
those are the broad themes in their sex scenes, but here's a few more assorted details about their habits in sex in case anyone wants to throw these in their fics for flavor:
Binghe loves having his mouth on SQQ <3 yes that means (bad) kissing, but also lots of licking and biting. he licks his throat, bites his nipples, kisses and bites his earlobes, bites his shoulder, kisses his eyelashes and cheeks. he wants his mouth on whatever inch of skin he can get to lol
SQQ also really likes kissing him! he complains that Binghe doesn't know how to kiss, but frequently he kisses all over Binghe's face -- he kisses away his tears on his eyes and cheeks, and he kisses all over Binghe's face when he's overwhelmed in the Wedding extra. actually, I want to include that quote because SQQ is never allowed to act like he doesn't enjoy sex with his husband ever again:
Their limbs were intertwined, both of them sticky with hot sweat. Luo Binghe's waist and back shone with moisture, and Shen Qingqiu nearly couldn't hold on with his legs alone, so he hooked his arms around Luo Binghe's neck to stop himself from sliding down. This drew them even closer, until the space between them was practically nonexistent, and he left a smattering of passionate kisses on Luo Binghe's face in encouragement.
as seen in this quote and other scenes, when SQQ is overwhelmed his impulse is to cling to Binghe, usually by clinging to him with all his limbs like a koala but sometimes by just grabbing his arm or grabbing his hair. he complains when Binghe says he wants to be deeper in the ass wine chapter, but clearly he also wants to be as close as possible!
despite SQQ's requests to do it from behind, they both prefer face to face (SQQ asks to turn around in the ass wine chapter) and their favorite position seems to be SQQ straddling Binghe's lap. in fact, that's often the position SQQ puts himself in when taking charge! when Binghe tries to pull out in the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra, SQQ flips them over and sits on him, which is also the position they end up in when he's taking the lead in the Deep Dream extra. they also end up like this in the Wedding extra!
this seems to be the position that's the most pleasurable for SQQ, since that's the point when he starts feeling really good in the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra and in the Wedding extra. their sex does frequently hurt at first due to Binghe's size, but in these two scenes he ends up described as "drunk on lust" and crying out in pleasure, so he's definitely enjoying himself more than he lets on! he's also feeling really good in the ass wine extra.
Binghe does, in fact, know what lube and prep is. he sticks his fingers in SQQ's mouth in the Wedding extra to lube them up, which isn't the most effective method, but in the Bingge vs. Bingmei extra, his fingers are mysteriously lubed up when he starts fingering SQQ. this wasn't something SQQ thought of! Binghe seems to know more about safe sex practices than SQQ lol
Binghe is not the only one crying during sex. while his tears are usually either crocodile tears or due to intense emotions, SQQ is also often crying due to pain or being overwhelmed
SQQ often tries to bite back any noises, and Binghe extremely pleased whenever he gets SQQ to the point of being actually vocal
those are all my relevant notes! do with this knowledge as you will. obviously people can do whatever the hell they like, but if you're like me and a freak about getting canon details as accurate as possible, this is the closest summary I could make of what bingqiu's sex life is like, separated from SQQ's biased narration!
basically, TLDR: Shen Qingqiu enjoys sex with Luo Binghe way more than he'd like to admit, they're already basically in a dom/sub relationship (with SQQ as the dom and Binghe as the sub) and they just don't realize it, and Luo Binghe's top priorities are SQQ's consent and SQQ's pleasure!
I’m not sure if this will be helpful to anyone, but you literally do not have to be a good writer to write and post fan fiction. Yes you will naturally get better at writing and finding your voice the more you do it but you do not have to be or become a professional level writer to enjoy writing and sharing fics. It’s common to hear people praise fic writers by saying their work is better than published books, and while I think this comes from a good place, that’s not the norm or expectation. There is also a sentiment that fic writing is “good practice” for becoming a better writer or doing something else later, but if fic is the only creative writing you ever do that is literally okay. Your technical skill does not mean you cannot have fun and build community with your writing, or that other people cannot love and find meaning in your work.
Can you talk in detail about LBH and what your favorite things are about him?
second go at this because tumblr nuked it the first time. lol. sorry this is so long and unorganized and only a little answers the question this is more of a stream of consciousness nico inner monologue sneak-peek that is binghe themed.
1) just the concept of binghe is very funny and appealing. 2014 edgy mary sue half-demon big dick op sex guy emperor of the whole world domesticated by loser 20-something with a 10k karma reddit account. really good no notes.
2) i think a lot of people (even binghe fans) tend to unintentionally flatten him because it's actually a little hard to write him. the fact that for most of the novel you have a misinformed opinion of him based off of sy's meta-contextual knowledge of events that have not happened and will not happen within the current timeline means that it's hard to actually know binghe's deal the first time around. even after that you have to grapple with the meta-meta-contextual facts of binghe being an alternative version of a character within a character within a novel within a novel that is being affected by a 'real person' within the first layer of meta, but of course svsss being very much a story that is often about being a writer/creative that second layer is played with often . . . to put it lightly i think it's probably a contributing factor to both the fact that he's really controversial and to the fact that a lot of svsss meta can get really, really existential LOL. this is before getting into the fact that you're at minimum actually talking about two characters anytime you're talking about him, so . . .
3) the thing is that i think binghe (both) fans are often incorrect about him because he (bing-mei) isn't actually a puppy crybaby, he's just acting like one. but haters are also incorrect, because similarly he (bing-ge) isn't really a domineering evil emperor. putting aside the very complicated ideas we could get into re: are fictional characters the executors of their own actions when viewed meta-contextually, the fact is that binghe spends most of the novel playing some sort of role. which makes sense! at the time of sy transmigrating, (nominally) 14 year-old binghe has already lost his birth mother, been found in a river, lost his adoptive mother, been ritually abused by his peers in all settings, lived on the streets, managed to get into cqms just to be a scapegoat, been ritually abused by his shizun, etc . . . when sy uses the term 'white lotus,' it's not actually a compliment. it should be noted sy also knows that ultimately binghe is acting nice because he wants adults to treat him nicely, and he does not (yet) have any kind of power or authority to do anything about being treated wrongly. i think probably the first hint of binghe's real personality is when he leads off lmy because he thinks sy is staring at her - i don't think binghe is mean, but he isn't nice either. he's very jealous, he gets upset easily, he doesn't take issue with manipulating others to get what he wants.
(aside: even as a child, he has already very much formed the worldview that existence is transactional, something that is informed even more by sj's treatment of him. even though sy challenges that worldview, he doesn't get rid of it. all of binghe's love language is based around the idea of doing something for him; cleaning his house, making him meals, keeping him safe. naturally i think that's informed by the only affection he's received being at the hands of a woman who couldn't do much for him other than acts of service in the first place, but i also think that usefulness is a core tenet of what binghe believes that he and other people need to be.
i don't think it's controversial to say that bing-ge does not actually love any of his wives. i'd go so far as to say i don't even think he actually enjoys having sex with them - he is purely doing so to fuel xin mo, and would otherwise either not bother with them at all or kill them. being the wife of the Emperor of Both Realms is the transactional reward for providing him with no-questions-asked xin mo-feeding sex, of which he textually will just rape them if they don't agree. because bing-mei actually does love sy, i think he has to consistently challenge the idea of 'usefulness as a core tenet of a relationship,' which is one of the bigger problems they have to navigate).
very much a core part of svsss is that both of these people (sy and binghe) are. hmm. not the best people. bugfuck crazy actually. binghe puts on the waterworks because sy likes fussing over him like an overbearing mother, and while the underlying thing that he's having crocodile tears over really is bothering him a lot of the time, he's playing it up for puppy baby points. but that isn't his actual personality. his actual personality is when sy starts soothing him automatically when binghe gets the idea that sy may have been sexing lqg up in those caves. lmfao
4) speaking of, he's very easy to read as having bpd. i think other people are fully entitled to have their opinions on the matter but binghe's quote-unquote bad personality is majorly explained if you simply operate under the assumption that he has a cluster-b personality disorder (which are caused by childhood trauma, dontcha know . . .). it's easy to view his xin mo-induced catastrophic meltdown in vol 3 as splitting, and his constant back-and-forth of "shizun is the best person ever, shizun is an angel, shizun is incapable of wrongdoing" to "shizun is the worst person ever, shizun is cruel and unrelented, shizun hurts me on purpose" is easy to see as the sort of black-and-white thinking that bpd is characterized by. of course you can just think whatever, but i like to see it that way, especially because binghe is still seen as desirable despite his flaws, while any character that has or is implied to have a cluster-b disorder is usually treated as some sort of inhuman monster.
5) of course, backing off that, did you know i actually rarely like romance? for years i made a habit to intentionally avoid all romance novels because i disliked the genre out of principle. despite being largely into the shipping scene of any given fandom i was in, i both generally did not interact with other fans and also generally avoided anything romance-centric. i avoided mxtx's works (tgcf specifically) for years because i was quite convinced all romance was the same as the very very boring sort of stuff i had unfortunately read, where both the main character and the male lead are completely and utterly perfect and the only conflict is the fact that they aren't currently together. the only reason i read svsss . . . was because someone on my twitter tl at the time was complaining about it, and their complaints sold me on it because they (bq) sounded so weird. i read the entirety of it extras and all in 3 days. it sent me cartwheeling down a rabbithole of a genre i had FOOLISHLY written off. thank you binghe's terrible personality for saving me.
6) i also . . . am eternally enchanted by binghe's borderline horrific body. the satire of 'what does a perfect harem lead power fantasy stallion actually look like' kills me. when sy feels his abs and they're uncomfortably hard all the time . . . his actual literal horsecock obliterating sy's stupid insides . . . i think binghe has body dysmorphia but the opposite way around people usually have it. he wants a smaller dick and a less sexy body. i think he is trapped in his perfect stupid sexy body and it really kills me.
7) this is getting too long i think i have to shut up. my FAVORITE THING ABOUT BINGHE?? his personality. if you put a gun to my head. but he is so cutiebaby anyways. i understand sy completely; i also want to coddle and baby binghe when he does awful things. binghe would have loved puppygirl posting online . . .
I love reading fanfics where one character is tagged as jealous, but their partner is unlovable to anyone but them. Like.. calm down, sweetheart, no one wants your man. We're still trying to figure out why you want your man.
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: 天官赐福 - 墨香铜臭 | Tian Guan Ci Fu | Heaven Official’s Blessing - Moxiang Tongxiu
Rating: Teen And Up Audiences
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Characters: Xie Lian (Tian Guan Ci Fu), Huā Chéng
Additional Tags: wulian, wulian week 2026, Angst, Calamity Xie Lian (Tian Guan Ci Fu), Hua Cheng as Wu Ming (Tian Guan Ci Fu)
Series: Part 6 of Wulian Week 2026 (Snow Tempest)
Summary:
“Do you have your ashes on you, or hidden somewhere safe?” He asked.
“Your highness wants my ashes?” Wu Ming sounded surprised and hesitant, though Xie Lian didn’t hear any sour notes of displeasure.
“I understand that its a—”
“Here.” Wu Ming held out his fist, turning it palm-up and unfurling his fingers to reveal a breathtaking, crystalline ring.
Type of Injury a Heavenly Demon Could Not Survive:
— Chemical changes
Burning, dissolving, cooking, etc. This fundamentally changes their cells to the point that they cannot be healed. Doing sufficient damage to the whole body in a short time period could kill them— for example being pushed into lava or an acid pit.
— Being Minced
Without the ability of blood to flow, the blood mites can’t repair tissue. If a Heavenly Demon is cut into a bunch of very tiny pieces, their blood cannot flow enough.
— Being Starved Physically/Spiritually
While demons can practice inedia to an extent, they cannot live off it forever. The body needs continuous energy to keep living, even Heavenly Demons.
— Death by Vampire
While they can produce more blood rapidly, if the blood is being sucked vigorously enough, the Heavenly Demon will eventually be drained dry and die. However this could take days and multiple dedicated vampires.
It could be cool to have a sort of like, danmei art therapy Discord group. A little collection of friends who put the same blorbos in blenders to work through trauma… I often feel like the messy realities of our brain don't belong anywhere.
Because it's like,
Therapy, IRL groups: no way am I telling someone to their face I write noncon
Posting on social media: way too public for anything more than the vaguest summary
Fandom Discord groups I'm already in: focused on fiction only
Sorry, I know our replies and messages are off to the maximum degree, I'd turn them on but ironically: trauma
I never did get around to writing much for wulian week, but I couldn't not post anything for the body swap day, so here's a quick drabble:
—-—-—
It was strange looking at himself from outside of himself. It was even stranger not being angry with what he saw. Because even if it was his stupid face and his ugly eye and his useless body that he was looking at, His Highness was in there and Wu Ming could never hate the body that housed His Highness.
Meanwhile His Highness was appreciating the body Wu Ming so despised, wielding the spiritual energy that his own body lacked. He looked at Wu Ming, at his original body, and wrinkled his nose. Did he hate the sight of himself too?
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