Its about where u're going nomatter where you been

Melvin - 21 - The Netherlands - transman

[transformingtomelvin]

It's been months since I last posted a picture of myself. So I figured you guys might be curious to how I look right now. (See the picture above, you're welcome). I've been 2 years and 9 months on testosterone

[transformingtomelvin]

Are you with the girl you like?

I am not..

[transformingtomelvin]

I´ve been following your blog for quite a while now, and I think that you are a great person, although I don`t know you. You´ve been through so mutch. And theres a plu, your like, realy cute. Are you seeing anyone? I'm from Austria.

First of all, I’m so sorry for my late response. I haven’t been on this tumblr for a while, cause I’m busy with school and stuff.

Second and most important: you are so sweet! Thank you so much. I’m not seeing someone right now. Why don’t you come off anon? I’m curious to who you are

[ftmtranstastic]

Transitions are almost always signs of growth, but they can bring a feeling of loss. To get somewhere new, we may also have to leave somewhere else behind.

Mr. Fred Rogers, from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood (via ftmtranstastic)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Make yourself a priority once in a while. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.

Karen A. Barquiran (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[wnq-writers]

I’m the type of person who can tell you that you’re worth it, yet I don’t believe that I am.

fadingoutfast (via wnq-writers)

[transfrantic]

guys i have top surgery in 20 days and im still £500 short please help me i dont know what else to do

gofundme.com/l0ef38

[abortabitch]

[writebastard]

USA! USA! USA! USA!

[albaeni]

Not a single muslim country on the list.

[shinewithshanice-deactivated201]

Also not a single African country besides South Africa which JUST so happens to be inhabited by tons of white people… This tea too hot to drink right now.

[phoukanamedpookie]

China only has 30, with a population of over 1 billion. Let that sink in.

#SomethingInWhiteFolksMineralWater

[holybolognajabronies]

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[uglyassprettyboy]

I wonder how many of those cases in the US were white perpetrators

[dark-will-graham]

Yesterday my mom, my 5 year old nephew and i were hanging out, and my mom kept constantly using female pronouns and calling me by my birth-name. 

finally my nephew interrupted her to say,  “He wants to be called Ben. He’s a boy now. You can’t call him a girl if he’s a boy.” 

and right after that, she started using my pronouns and name correctly. i guess it kind of hits you hard when a 5 year old child calls you out, cause anytime i’d try to correct her she’d keep making the excuse, “It’s hard, I’m trying.” 

i am so proud of my nephew, i shit you not.

[l8rg8rz]

YES! on the fourth of July, my 8 year old cousin followed me around and everytime someone called me by my birth name, she whispered “Ben” behind me.

When I went home for my birthday this past week, my parents were using the right name/calling me Ben but using the wrong pronouns. When I gently reminded them of my pronouns, my step dad was incredibly defensive and yelled at me and said not to bring it up. The next day, (my actual birthday), I was alone with my 14 year old brother. I told him I was bummed, told him the story and asked if he wouldn’t mind trying to use the correct pronouns around our family to lead by example/encourage them. He was like yeah no problem dude! Layer that night, my mom used the wrong pronouns and my brother responded with “yeah, I think he would like that.” And looked at me and smiled and my mom responded using the correct pronouns.

This trickle down education bullshit clearly does not work. Younger kids are so eager to understand and accept things, and it makes so much more sense for kids to be taught and go on to educate their parents.

[transformingtomelvin]

Feeling good cause my hair is good selfie

[latenightcornerstore]

To whoever loves me next,   I’m sorry if I’m afraid of you or if days of flirting turn to radio silence, without warning. I’m sorry if I make you say the words over and over and over until I believe them. (I’m sorry if I don’t believe them.) I will probably spend more time worrying about losing you than I spend trying to keep you. Trouble is, every single time I’ve ever thought something was too good to be true– I’ve been right. Understand, I will know how to be vulnerable with you, but I won’t know how not to regret it. And I have no idea how deep we’ll be into this relationship before I admit I’ve never done this before. Not really. Not in any way that counts. Before I admit that I know how to put my body inside someone else’s but not how to make it beautiful. I probably won’t be easy to love. Too many people loved me badly, I’m not sure I know how to do it right.

(via alesbianwholifts)

[leenanayleen-deactivated2014062]

Wow.

[stone-cold-is-the-ref]

This is so important yet it has so few notes

[nevermindthattt-deactivated2021]

Wow those men are disgusting a special spot in hell for them

[nightfloweringjasmine]

Fuck your troops

[arab-quotes]

Dead bodies in Islam are so respected -no matter what religion/race…etc they were-, it’s forbidden to torture the dead body nor insult it. A funeral passed by Prophet Mohammed and he stood up out of respect for it. people around him told him: “It is a Jew.” The Prophet said: “Was not he a soul?”

[softgrantaire-deactivated201806]

why is passing bullshit?

When someone says ‘passing’, they mean ‘look like a cis person, no one wants to know that you’re actually trans’.

‘Passing’ enforces the idea that there’s only one way to look to be a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’.

It reinforces the gender binary, which is acidic to people who are not in the gender binary. How can a nonbinary person ‘pass’? What do they have to ‘pass as’?

It also creates a huge added weight for trans people who don’t ‘pass’ the correct way.  A trans boy is forced into hypermasculinity, and a trans girl called a drag queen because she has more muscles than ‘socially acceptable’. Dysphoria is forced onto people that wouldn’t feel the need to pass without society forcing them to.

Because of ‘passing’, there’s a taboo on girls (even cis girls) with facial hair. Girls have to look a certain way, and there’s only one way to do it. Boys (again, even cis boys) can’t wear makeup or dresses. It’s mostly adverse for trans people, but it affects everyone. 

But think about it like this, because this is how it’s received: 

‘Sorry, you don’t look like a boy, you can’t actually be a boy.’

‘Oh, umm your arms are a little hairy to be a woman, are you sure you’re just not a gay man?’

‘Passing’ comes with the connotation that ‘cis’ is the best way to do gender. You can’t be a gender if you aren’t doing it the cis way.

It makes cis seem like the superior. Passing is bullshit.

[tequilakisses-and-bigfootcuddles]

[heartyglobe-deactivated20160503]

nobody says it but we all know what this is about

[smolderingtroyler]

This picture is weirdly genius

[uhohmarty]

[transformingtomelvin]

Tree that was shaped by strong winds.

This is like super symbolic in the sense that the world and everything we experience really shape the people we grow to be

[writingsforwinter]

REPEAT AFTER ME

ADDICTS ARE NOT BAD PEOPLE 

ADDICTS ARE HUMAN LIKE EVERYONE ELSE 

ADDICTS DESERVE LOVE NOT HATE 

ADDICTS NEED OUR HELP

ADDICTS ARE NOT TO BE JOKED ABOUT

ADDICTS ARE MORE THAN THEIR ADDICTION

[transformingtomelvin]

I have to apologize to you guys for not answering your questions soon enough and not posting much lately. I'm just really busy with actually living and loving my life right now. I will still post things every now and then, don't worry