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@transgennder-blog
i truly feel for daughters of mothers who are narcissists, emotional abusers, and emotionally vacant or unpredictable. daughters who have inherited their mother’s pain and trauma, daughters who struggle to find and connect with the energy of womanhood because they’ve grown up without nurturing tenderness and safety. i say this to you and to myself: we will heal, and we will break the cycle. we can find strength in ourselves.
and it’s not just the penis lesbians are repulsed by, it’s the entire male!!!! we wouldn’t suddenly date u if u got rid of yr dick, because we r completely and utterly unattracted to males as a whole!!! Yr genitalia, yr male entitlement, yr male features, yr entire spirit repulses lesbians!
whenever a trans woman reblogs one of my posts and then adds a gendered slur to the tags it just works to solidify my point in all honesty
Trans women aren’t women, reblog if you disagree.
Amy says: Oysters are all technically DMAB, and their biological sex is defined as male. Most oysters will then transition to female within a year. They can then go on to change their sex again as required by their environment. This process is called protandry.
Reed frogs also adapt to their environments. When DFAB reed frogs are put in an all-female environment, they are capable of making dramatic physical transitions to become male. This process is called protogyny.
Oysters, frogs, and humans, all use different methods for sexual re-alignment, and all do so for different reasons. Whether environmental or existential, the result is the same - they are no longer what they were biologically assigned at birth.
this just in - oysters, frogs aren’t humans
THIS
the fact that “sub-drop” and “dom-drop” are real things is proof enough of how vile BDSM is. it’s not normal or healthy
like check it out on BDSM wiki they literally say some of the side effects of sub drop aka how subs may feel after a BDSM scene include
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness
Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism
Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex
Overeating or appetite loss
Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment
Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings
Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts
hmm sound familiar… almost like the results of sexual trauma…
LIKE IF THE KIND OF SEX YOU ARE HAVING CAN LEAD TO A SUICIDE ATTEMPT… IT’S PROBABLY RAPE
LOL eternally rolling my eyes at “dom drop” though
as a recovering sub, sorry, but feeling bad about disparaging, threatening, and physically harming your partner does NOT compare to being the partner who’s disparaged, threatened, and physically harmed. doms are garbage. you SHOULD experience “dom drop.” that’s called your fucking /conscience/. maybe try listening to it.
“sub drop” is a trauma response, and it is very, very real and very, very scary. if any subs are thinking of getting out, please message me. it can be done. i did it. i know how scary leaving sounds. i know the intensity of subbing is addictive. but real love from a partner who would never dream of causing you pain - love from a partner who would be DISGUSTED by the thought of getting off on your fear, discomfort, or imagined rape - is so much more complete and fulfilling.
i’m reading the page op linked to, and it’s making me ill.
- “Drop (sometimes called sub drop, dom drop and ‘The Mondays’)…” >consistently cried following scenes, feeling dirty and useless, wondering how someone who claimed to love me could be so happy calling me a dog, talking about raping me, and seeing me in pain. >consistently cried after bringing up to my “dom” (abuser), more than once, that i’ve had self-harm issues and only receiving hyper-intellectualized, self-indulgent bs about the overlap between pain, pleasure, and intimacy in response. >consistently cried after realizing the only surefire way to connect with my abuser was through hours and hours of gross, gratuitous sexting every night. >BUT, ya’know!! just a case of the Mondays, amirite?
and they speculate extensively on why doms experience “drop” less frequently??
“-tops do not often get as high as bottoms do during a scene, and thus are less likely to experience a crash -d-types are less likely to discuss vulnerability openly -d-types are less likely to be swayed by their hormones -d-types experience a more energy based adrenaline high than an emotional, endorphin high due to the nature of the difference in activities, and feeling tired after exertion is less likely to be detected than an emotional imbalance”
do i rly even need to dissect how disgusting and sexist this is…? (look, just replace “d-types” with men. the vast majority of doms are men. this is essentially saying that “subs” ((women)) are just less stable, more hormonal, and more “emotionally imbalanced” than “doms” ((men)) ). they don’t even… /address/ that subs are the ones being physically + mentally abused. they REALLY treat these two “roles” as equally impactful.
and how they groom subs to accept abuse and trauma bond with their abuser with bullshit like:
“-reach out to the person you played with or the person who provided you aftercare if you experience drop, knowing they care enough to talk with you on the phone for a bit, meet for coffee or curl up and watch a movie with you can often eliminate or significantly reduce drop as much of drop is an emotional experience due to hormone imbalance.” and “-if all of the other techniques aren’t working, at least keep in mind the negative feelings will pass, usually within a few hours to a day. This will make it seem like a waiting game, but it’s better than focusing on and feeding the misery. If you are experiencing severe emotional issues consider if you aren’t experiencing paraphilic drop, or if you might otherwise benefit from counselling or having your hormone levels audited to ensure their normalcy.”
so, if engaging in dangerous intimate acts is causing you severe distress, you should have your /hormones audited/? it is ENTIRELY normal to be distressed by abuse!! i promise!!
and don’t get me started on how they coddle the feelings of abusers…
“-if you are not harming others (this does not include consensual hurting) then there is no good reason to be ashamed of who you are and what you like. -feeling bad afterword is likely to spoil the experience on the whole for you. -if you are having trouble reconciling ethics, morality, religion and other concerns with your kink practices consider seeking a professional that is kink friendly to help you work through your concerns. It is important to ensure they are kink friendly, if they are not, you may end up getting advice such as to ignore or bury the vary actions that you enjoy, rather than learning to adjust and enjoy the activities without guilt. Ignoring and burying your desires and feelings is likely to make the problem worse in the long run.”
so, in other words, “hurting people is nothing to be ashamed of for some reason!”, “feeling bad will make it less FUN for you! and your FUN is what’s most important here!”, and “if this challenges your suffocating sense of morality, enter an echo chamber! find someone to validate you! don’t critically examine your desires!”
and before anyone shoots back with “well, some people like it”: i was one of those people. subbing is intense, and it’s hard to quit. you don’t get hooked on subbing because it’s all misery from the start. (but that does not mean my enjoyment of subbing originated from a sane or healthy place. it’s not something that’s fine, as long as it’s well-monitored. it’s always dangerous. there are always better options.) i was destroying myself. and frankly? even at the height of my involvement in BDSM, a part of me desperately hoped my abuser would eventually step in and say, “this is absurd. i don’t like hurting you. i don’t like seeing you cry. where are these impulses coming from? how can i help you?”
this is one of the reasons i will always be distrustful of men. if someone i loved asked me to hit them? no amount of begging could make me comply. because it’s wrong. i would be taking advantage of a vulnerable, hurting human being in need of serious help. but men don’t actually care about what’s right or wrong; they about what they can get away with.
a lot of women really want it to be true, that men deep inside are caring and considerate, feel the same way about them, are loving and compassionate, but that they just can’t or don’t know how to show it. Pretty much every woman I’ve known who has been in an abusive relationship has gone out of their way to humanize men, has done extreme mental gymnastics to convince themselves that men are caring and loving. I’ve watched for years as my own mother convinced herself that her abusive and violent husband was a sweet caring loving and misunderstood man when he never once ever gave her a reason to think so. She saw humanity where there was none, she acknowledged a humanity he doesn’t have. This isn’t even just with abuse, women & girls are always telling ourselves men have a goodness inside, hidden, we’re always searching, convincing ourselves it’s there when it isn’t. We tell ourselves he hurts us because he cares, or because he was hurt, that he doesn’t mean the words he says, but he means the opposite, that hurting us is the only way they know to act when they like us, that they’re cold and cruel because they don’t know how to express how they feel, that they truly feel bad for the things they have done, their behavior was just a mistake, that they’re uncaring behavior towards us is just to hide how much they care, that their behavior and their thoughts are opposites, they think about us in a loving way, we’ve been trained to see, search or make up goodness whenever men treat women badly in any way, we’ve always been socialized to acknowledged men’s humanity no matter what.
adding on that i find that women are fundamentally looking for the good in men when it flat out isn’t there because women are taught from an extremely young age that men are to their cores have morality and are beings who are level headed and have a conscious. men are not all bad, we are taught. we are searching for this reality and believe on a subconcious layer it to be true because men are praised in every media outlet and by our families. men on the other hand will jump at even the slightest mistake a woman makes in her moral fabric to call her and out her as a terrible human being, men are out and out searching for reasons to label women as terrible, irredeemable, and primarily liars because they have been taught from birth that no matter how good a woman appears to be, she is bad, she will show it eventually, she will break your trust and hurt you and it will be intentional. women are all bad and nothing can redeem us, even after years of behaving according to their rules and being kind and moral we will be seen as temptresses and wantons. men are precieved as good and if they do bad it is not on purpose or it is for their own advancement so it is not totally bad. women are precieved as bad to the core.
women are always looking for the goodness in men even when it is plainly not there, men are always looking for the badness in women because they are convinced women are bad to the core.
males do this thing where they twist the truth and sensationalize women’s words to make themselves look and feel better and to make women look crazy and discredit them. this is how “male violence is real” turns into “you think all men/transwomen are rapists!”
when males can’t actually refute criticism, they make the criticism seem stupid and unreasonable. women are just hysterical. their experiences with male violence are irrelevant anecdotes. women are being mean and unfair by pointing out male violence.
this is petty honestly but one of the tboys i used to see used barrier prophylactics pretty much every time he touched me anywhere without ever applying that standard to himself & i feel like that’s pretty microcosmic
Most of the cafab trans partners I had were always using the most barriers w me that they possibly could while using literally none w other people they slept w so yeah
this just in: safe sex is transmisogynistic
OH MY GOD
this is so fucked up. questioning your partners’ right to use protection is never okay.
Unless they're female 🌸( u ωu)
Say what you will abt every chaser John who tried to pull a condom off while fucking me, but at least they weren’t afraid to touch me
But like isn’t that always the way for us? The only people who are willing to touch us are the ones who rape or try to rape us
YOU👏CANT👏GET👏PREGNANT👏TRANS👏MEN👏CAN👏👏👏
YOU KNOW WHAT? SOMETIMES “CIS” WOMEN HAVE DYSPHORIA AND WISH THEY COULD CUT THEIR BREASTS OFF OR WISH THEY COULD HAVE A VOLUNTARY HYSTERECTOMY
NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE SECRETLY OR “SELF-HATING” TRANS MEN!
BUT BECAUSE BEING FEMALE IS DIFFICULT AND OFTEN UNPLEASANT
AND SOME “CIS” WOMEN WISH THEY COULD WEAR “MEN’S” SHIRTS WITHOUT FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT THEIR BREASTS
AND SOME “CIS” WOMEN KNOW THAT THEY WILL NEVER REPRODUCE SO THEY DON’T NEED THEIR UTERUS/TUBES/OVARIES
AND NONE OF THESE FEELINGS/DESIRES/REALITIES MAKE THEM ANY “LESS” WOMEN
IT DOESN’T MAKE THEM “NON-BINARY” OR “GENDERQUEER” OR “AGENDER”
THEY ARE STILL WOMEN EXPERIENCING WOMANHOOD
Males will always hurt women, always. The new push of transgender ideology is a new way for them to hurt us, by not only putting us in the inferior role like good old fashioned misogyny, but by absorbing our very selves, claiming femalehood as their own and insisting they do it better than females ever could.
It’s the same misogynistic tropes repackaged for today.
“Cis” men don’t want to hear about our periods because they’re “dirty” and “gross”. Trans women don’t want to hear about our periods because it’s somehow hurtful and exclusionary.
“Cis” men hate feminism because it doesn’t cater to them, trans women hate it for the same reasons. Always the motif of women not being allowed anything for ourselves.
Conservatives and trans activists alike uphold rigid misogynistic gender norms and expectations. Where conservatives say something like “a girl can’t do [insert “masculine”-coded thing here],“ trans activists say “she can do ["masculine”-coded thing] but actually she must be trans!“ Both groups are extremely reliant on classic misogynistic gender stereotypes for their agendas and worldviews. "Cis” men expect lesbians to try penis and give men a chance. Trans women expect lesbians to try penis. Both actively manipulate women into considering it and actively push lesbians boundaries. Only trans women get to act like it’s oppression and bigotry and people sometimes take them seriously. “Cis” men like reducing women to femininity and things like makeup, dresses, the color pink, etc. Trans women do the same…and in fact most of their “coming out” narratives actively rely on these stereotypes. “I always knew I was really a girl because I liked [dolls/pink/dresses/heels].” Also listen to trans women talk about their experiences once they try hormones: suddenly they’re these over-the-top weepy messes who watch rom-coms and eat ice cream…because that’s what they think being a woman is. “Cis” men threaten to beat us if they don’t like our opinions or if we aren’t subservient to them. Trans women make TERF lists and talk about beating, raping, and killing “TERFs” because they don’t like our opinions and we aren’t subservient to them. Sadly they even get brainwashed libfem women to go along with this and call it progressive. “Cis” men think that they are better than women at everything. Trans women think that they’re even better women than real women are. Both groups carry the same male entitlement, socialization, and privilege. It’s sad and frustrating how more people don’t see this and/or aren’t willing to admit to this. It really is sad to see women defending trans women with all their might. Trans women so rarely reciprocate and trans women still carry all the same male bullshit as “cis” men do.
Yeah, No.
Just read that post that folks asked for my reaction on (re 16-year old at Michfest being yelled at for two hours). So much not true from tumblr user princessgender. I have really tried to stay out of this shit, but I just need to address this (once again) because, as per usual, this blog post is full of lies and misinterpretations and half-truths.
Assertion 1:
it’s estimated that terfs have caused the deaths of 50,000 trans people
hoo-kay. This is related to the later Janice Raymond thing, so I’m combining them. So one of the first things that one learns when doing research or asserting something sociologically, or historically is that one must use sources to back up one’s assertions. More specifically, one must use credible sources, why? Because “[i]t’s much easier to publish information on the Internet than to publish a book or periodical in print. Since it’s easier, Web posters are not always as careful to make sure that the information is accurate.”
So where does this 50,000 figure cited up there come from? The TransAdvocate. With no citation whatsoever. No facts, based on nothing. It is literally the unsupported assertion of Cristan Williams, who is obsessed with Michfest (seriously, Williams must be so hella bored right now). Williams asserts that an article Janice Raymond wrote in 1980 is responsible for all of these deaths (conservatively!) because Raymond single handedly made the government “effectively eliminate…federal and some states aid for indigent and imprisoned transsexuals. It had a further impact on private health insurance which followed the federal government’s lead in disallowing services to transsexual patients for any treatment remotely related to being transsexual, including breast cancer or genital cancer, as that was deemed to be a consequence of treatment for transsexuality.”
Yeah, no.
Here is the government in 2013 (after receiving a complaint from a trans woman that Medicare didn’t cover SRS as well as six trans advocacy organizations, the ACLU and amici curie) saying there is not enough information to make a national coverage determination having Medicare cover SRS.
The government then goes on to explicitly explain why SRS was denied in 1981 (the blame for which Williams lays on Raymond, again with no support of any kind):
The basis for the NCD in 1981, when the NCHCT issued its report containing what became the NCD language, was that transsexual surgery was not safe or effective, due to the high rate of complications and the lack of evidence that it was safe or effective in treating transsexualism. See NCD (transsexual surgery “considered experimental” due to “the lack of well controlled, long term studies of the safety and effectiveness of the surgical procedures and attendant therapies for transsexualism”); NCD Record at 18 (1981 NCHCT report stating that “[t]he procedures cannot be considered safe because of the high complication rates” and noting “the lack of long-term, properly designed studies of the outcome of these procedures demonstrating their efficacy”); Id. at 12 (NCTHC May 6, 1981 memorandum stating that “[t]he more controversy exists over the safety and effectiveness of a technology, the better the supporting evidence must be to justify coverage, particularly when there is a body of evidence that questions the effectiveness of the technology.”). The NCD record also raises doubts about the reliability and validity of diagnoses of transsexualism, with the NCHCT finding that “[t]he diagnosis of transsexualism is also problematic” and that “[t]he criteria for establishing the diagnosis vary from [university medical] center to center and have changed over time.” Id. at 14.
Raymond is neither a surgeon or a sociologist. Her political argument that gender is a fabrication has no sway with the government. Not even so much as mentioned. And here is what the insurance companies used to say about this surgery based on the infamous 1981 report. None of the assertions that Raymond makes in the piece are asserted for denying the surgery.
Interestingly, the trans woman who brought this complaint actually points out Raymond as one of two sources “ideologically biased against transpersons…” The government replies: “We need not and do not address these arguments since we need not decide here whether the NCD record was complete and adequate to support the NCD at the time the NCD record was developed… during the more than 30 years that have passed since the NCHCT issued its report containing the findings that HCFA adopted in issuing the NCD is, without more, a sufficient basis for our determination that the NCD record is not complete and adequate to support the validity of NCD”
Again, when addressed head-on, the government makes no mention of Raymond and, in fact, dismisses that attempt to blame her for their decision out of hand.
(by the way, the other “ideologically biased source” from 1981? Was Paul McHugh. But you probably have never heard of him. Why? Because the same people who make Janice Raymond a genocidal maniac on par with some of the worst murderers in human history–50,000 people is a lot–have bupkus to say about McHugh. Who, by the way, ACTUALLY, PHYSICALLY, shut down the only clinic that was providing trans folks with treatment pre-1980s. Who on the regular posts articles in the major newspapers, boasting about the shut down. WHO STILL WORKS AT JOHN HOPKINS, but guess who does NOT face the boycotts or the hate or the violence or receive a pithy acronym like “TERF” for his work. Why do you think that is? Maybe because he is a straight, white, male?)
This issue was only resolved LAST YEAR. Raymond had nothing to do with the delay. Laying the issue of medicare not covering SRS, much less the murders of 50,000 phantom trans souls (conservatively!) at the feet of Raymond is a full-on fabrication.
Assertion #2:
in 1973 terfs tried to violently attack trans women at the West Coast Lesbian Feminist Conference and when other feminists defended the trans women, terfs threatened the lives of everyone there
Once again, the source is the TransAdvocate. Also “tried to violently attack” (language is everything) as in “no violent attack actually happened? I see what you did there. But generally folks, if someone is being super hyperbolic about something? They are probably lying. So, TERFs “threatened the lives of everyone there”? Really, everyone there? See pp. 190-191.
Second, no, didn’t go down like that. Here are some facts, as related by an internationally respected news magazine with paid fact checkers on staff:
In one early skirmish, in 1973, the West Coast Lesbian Conference, in Los Angeles, furiously split over a scheduled performance by the folksinger Beth Elliott, who is what was then called a transsexual. Robin Morgan, the keynote speaker, said:
I will not call a male “she”; thirty-two years of suffering in this androcentric society, and of surviving, have earned me the title “woman”; one walk down the street by a male transvestite, five minutes of his being hassled (which he may enjoy [AHEM]), and then he dares, he dares to think he understands our pain? No, in our mothers’ names and in our own, we must not call him sister.
I guess this theory works if words are violence. Which is what we are taught by a certain faction of the community. That is so handy!
Assertion #3:
terf Jean O’ Leary instructed mc Vito Russo to attack Sylvia Rivera with the microphone instead of giving it to her for her scheduled speaking time before this famous video in 1973 at the Christopher Street Liberation Day Rally. She is also connected to Sylvia Rivera attempting suicide. (source 1) (source 2) (source 3)
So if one actually watches that video? They’ll see that Rivera calls O’Leary one of her dear friends. She also does in that written source. If you watch the actual video of Rivera giving her speech at the Liberation Day Rally, you’ll see how she is actually calling out white, heterosexual, male patriarchy as her oppressor. See the 1:56 mark. She calls them out EXPLICITLY as the perps of the violence she has experienced. But why actually listen to what Rivera is saying when it doesn’t support the TERFs are the reason why I don’t like myself theory of the world.
Assertion #4:
In 1999 a 16 year old trans girl was sold a ticket to Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival and was berated and attacked by terfs. The young trans girl was forced to stand in front of a crowd of terfs as they all chanted “rapist” at her for hours. Towards the end of the show, a terf threatened to kill the teenager and no one cared. (source)
This is just utter bullshit. By the way, the protesters were asked to leave, no one was forced to (hence they walked out on their own accord…and some of the upset was also due to the fact that they had used wristbands interchangeably so that folks who didn’t pay could get in). This is just one of the accounts that directly contradicts this and, as per usual, shows the real direction of the aggression and violence.
And, let’s not even forget about everything Cathy Brennan continues to do to this day.
Notice how there aren’t actually accounts of anything Cathy Brennan has actually done?
Terfs are violent, genocidal terrorists who are ok with murdering children or pushing children to suicide.
So if TERFs are responsible for “violent, genocidal terrorism,” clearly princessgender could name an actual example of a TERF murdering (the core of genocide, after all) or being physically violent (hell, I’ll take a simple assault) of a trans person.
Cause, yanno, I can do that pretty easy when it comes to finding murderous, child killing and raping trans women.
This Trans Woman.
This Trans Woman.
This Trans Woman. (I guess black lives matter unless a trans woman murders someone?)
This Trans Woman.
This Trans Woman.
That whole blog post? That is what we call a reversal, chirruns. Remember, if someone has to lean on hyperbole? It is because they have no facts.
Hi i'm the trans male anon. While I do understand that i was socialized as female making me completely different from other men in endless ways, I don't agree with being CALLED female. It's not that i have a deep aversion to aligning myself with women - not at all. I just don't consider myself female due to my own sex dysphoria that has been alleviated by hormones and surgery. I agree with ninety nine percent of what you say but I don't agree that trans men are the same as women/females.
I understand and I respect that. The thing is that sex cannot be changed by hormones and surgery so I called you a female, also bc you were born into and socialized and have probably lived most of your life as female so in many ways you have been part of that class of people and trans women know that. Think of it more in terms of a social category. The sex you are or were (although sex isn’t mutable in a biological sense, obv social perception is mutable and you may live your life as a male in a lot of ways due the way you are perceived due to the physical changes youve made) is a distinct category that needs to be addressed when talking about trans women’s misogyny, and misogyny in general. Your dysphoria and gender identity don’t change that what is happening to you is misogyny, personal identities and experiences don’t change social dynamics. I don’t think trans men are exactly the same as ‘cis’ (cis meaning not trans rather than identifying with gender we were assigned bc gender is bs/used to subjugate us) women in the sense that they have different experiences due to dysphoria, transitioning, etc, but we’ve both experienced the material circumstances of living in male supremacy as females, socialization, oppression, etc. Even after hormones and transitioning, passing/not passing aside, and biology being immutable aside, you may still be part of the female class in the sense that many people know you are a trans man, and so they don’t view you as male, and still treat you as part of the female class, if that makes sense. so you are still experiencing misogyny and it is still due to your sex, even if you no longer consider yourself female. of course this goes doubly for trans men who are still socially perceived as female.
laughing at all the liberals who can see the problem with trans race or trans ethnicism but not transgenderism. hint: race and gender are both socially constructed caste systems used to subjugate people with certain biological characteristics, whether a certain sex or a certain amount of melanin. there is no black soul or black brain just like there is no female soul or female brain.
PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY TRYING TO MAKE “TRANSRACIAL” A THING.
DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY FUCKING WEEABOOS ARE GOING TO JUMP ON THIS?
DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY DOUCHEBAG WHITE KIDS WHO CLAIM THEY’RE NATIVE ARE GOING TO USE THIS NOW?
DO YOU REALIZE YOU JUST OPENED UP THE ACTUAL GATES OF HELL?
um. we opened those gates a while ago when we let men in dresses “identify as women”.
so. yeah. let’s not get sanctimonious at this late hour.
