[imthelesbian-deactivated2018061]

[kim-doki]

Films I watched in 2018 Ξ God’s Own Country (2017), dir. Francis Lee ↳  “It’s beautiful here, but lonely, no?”

[dailyraccoons]

[19863]

not to be negative but someone really spent all that time and energy cutting open a pomegranate and then gave it to a (cute) raccoon?

[pythiaproject]

It’s called Love .

[lesbianherstorian]

a t shirt from new york city pride, 1995

[heirloomparasite]

Rules: answer 30 questions and tag 20 blogs you would like to get to know better 

but i don’t wanna tag anyone i’m just bored

Tagged by: @lumaterian 

Nicknames: my name is kinda a nickname already

Sex: female

Zodiac: aquarius

Height: im five fuckin feet tall

Time: 4 pm

Fav band(s): the national

Fav solo artist(s): sufjan stevens

Song stuck in my head: "daughters of the soho riots” by the national

Last movie I saw: lord of the rings: the two towers

Last show I watched: probably drag race??

When did I create my blog: 2012 was my first. this was maybe. 2016?

What do I post: nothing anymore

Last thing I googled: skype online bc i’m not on my laptop

Do I have any other blogs: i have a dc sideblog and an old lesbian advice blog

Do I get asks: not anymore lol

Why did I choose my url: a heirloom parasite is an organism that has infected humans since our evolution. apply deep and or nerdy reasoning as u wish

Following: 556

Followed by: 1,104

Average hours of sleep: 8ish ideally

Lucky number: i like 7

Instruments: i have tried the violin and viola and piano and even drums and have Failed

What i’m wearing: harem pants and t-shirt

Dream job: i wanna fuck off to the woods forever. lowkey

Dream trip: i’d love to go to iceland :O i really just wanna travel anywhere w my future girlfriend or wife

Fav food: chili basil noodles or maybe cheesecake

Nationality: american. indian-american if we’re gonna get hyphenated

Fav song: “slow show” by the national

Last book I read: dune messiah by frank herbert and rn i’m reading asimov’s foundation

Top 3 fictional universes I wanna join: star trek post-klingon nonsense, hp post-voldemort, shire post-sauron

[seashellronan]

there's a gay bar in my city and they're trying to raise money to get a new roof. So their slogan for the donations is "Like all good bottoms, we've worn out our top" and i just felt that i needed to share that

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[heirloomparasite]

i may be a fake-ass feminist but at least i know how to read 

[heirloomparasite]

like if you’re gonna pick an internet fight maybe Read the Post

quoting from my original post: “in real life, teacher/student relationships are abusive and illegal.” “obviously an actual relationship would have been horrific”  “especially if those aren’t things you want to or should be acting out in real life” “there’s a power differential” “harmful age gaps, professional issues,”

your tag is fucking disgusting. i specifically talked about being attracted to teachers, not the other way around. and it is fiction. but oh for a minute there i forgot that radfems have as big a problem with female desire for women as just about everybody else.

[heirloomparasite]

i may be a fake-ass feminist but at least i know how to read 

[ignitionremix-blog]

why They call it house when it takes place in a hospital. thanks for following me

[dykemadej]

butches oppress me because i’m not seeing one on top of me

[neopetsuser-deactivated20210119]

lateral butch oppression is that none of them are rawing me into the ground

[dykesphoria]

i’m too ignorant and gay to define what my feelings represent but i wanna raw a butch into the ground 😭

[jennybystudiokillers-remade-dea]

you’re all so brave and so fucking valid

[saccharinescorpion]

[lesbian-ed]

On Wattpad, a book app, I found a f/f story that didn't have sex in it, but it was teacher/student. It was the only good quality story I could find. It was pretty good. But still it was bad, I'm pretty sure it was written by a straight girl.

Writing that normalizes a relationship between a teacher and a student is inherently bad, as it promotes relationship with a power imbalance. It doesn’t matter if there’s sex or not, it is still romanticizing this imbalance, and love is about mutual trust, respect, communication and balance.

I wouldn’t be surprised if it was indeed written by a straight women, as women under patriarchy are made to romanticize and accept such power imbalance.

Mod C.

[heirloomparasite]

this is some purity police bullshit.

in real life, teacher/student relationships are abusive and illegal. this is not real life. this is fanfiction. sometimes in fic, we want to explore things that would not be a good idea to do in real life. i write a lot of fic abt ladies in spandex swinging swords at each other. i’ve never worn spandex or picked up a sword in my life and if i tried either, i’d probably hurt myself. 

i’m not disagreeing that it’s possible for that fic to have been written by a woman who has no real desire for and/or experience with women. a lot of f/f original and fan writing is like that. but the implication that lesbians can never have those kinds of fantasies is ridiculous.

you know how many young lesbians i’ve talked to who have had a thing for their teachers/professors? i’m one of them. i hardcore crushed on my art professor from sophomore year of college, def had a bit of a thing for my bio teacher from junior year of high school. obviously an actual relationship would have been horrific, but there is no need to shame women for having ‘forbidden’ fantasies. like…most people do? fantasizing and writing out those fantasies can help you understand and enjoy your own sexuality, even and especially if those aren’t things you want to or should be acting out in real life. i don’t understand why this is a hard concept. 

everything that turns me on doesn’t come out of a radfem-approved textbook of acceptable lesbian sexuality. i guarantee you that’s true for most lesbians (who are not political pretendbians) on this website.

sex in fiction and in real life doesn’t…always have to be about loving relationships. it’s okay to want to read about pure fucking. it’s okay to want casual sex. demonizing sexuality is a dark road to go down.

the last thing i wanna say–in response to the part of the post that really left me gobsmacked–what about a female student and a female teacher implies a heterosexual power imbalance? heterosexuality is indeed reflected in and exacerbated by many power dynamics, but just because there’s a power differential, that doesn’t make a situation straight. this falls into the ugly idea that all lesbian relationships must be perfect and healthy or they are not lesbian. guess what? lesbians get into abusive relationships. lesbians hurt each other. there can be really harmful age gaps, professional issues, etc in relationships between lesbians. a lesbian relationship does not mean glowing love and trust and happiness every time, and selling this narrative is selling polilez nonsense.

[watercolorchapel-deactivated201]

Wtf, how is understanding that fiction informs reality purity politics and polilez nonsense lmao. I can’t with these fake ass feminists

[heirloomparasite]

right, because everyone who writes or reads erotica definitely wants those exact scenarios to happen to them in real life. which is why stuff like ‘banged by bigfoot’ can be amazon erotica best-sellers. right? also, way to take the comment i made abt polilez completely out of its context.

[watercolorchapel-deactivated201]

Oh so you just wana play dumb, cool cool ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾

[heirloomparasite]

cute. so do you actually have an argument for why women can’t have fantasies?

[adelphahighbrow]

People who want Mila Kunis to play T’Pring really haven’t thought this through...

[annaknitsspock]

Pretty sure a lot of em have thought it through a whooooollllle lot

[heirloomparasite]

right, yes. mainstream published fiction deals with all this with varying degrees of sensitivity and with different purposes. i don’t see why fanfiction has to be different. criticizing specific works or trends is more useful to me.

[heirloomparasite]

@starryweever   Obv. pedophilia is wrong, but I've seen fandom cry about things like a 21 year old dating a 19 year old or the like. So half the time when I see the term 'abusive' in fandom spaces I suspect they are blowing it out of proportion again.

right, yeah. the word is thrown around a lot in fandom--it’s so disrespectful. mostly it’s about faux-concern, scoring points, and being holier-than-thou. and sometimes it’s about ship wars.

[heirloomparasite]

I am curious if you think that in that case writing fanfics about pedophilia, incest, rape, etc are okay aswell since they're fiction? I've also seen alot of people complain about anime and how some of them have "lolis" how do you feel about that?

i guess i’m not surprised someone wanted to open up this can of worms. fine. let’s go there.

for one, the current fandom definition of pedophilia is, what, a 17 and a 19 yr old? any fic that includes teenagers? so there’s that. but overall i would say…it’s more case-by-case. there are many different ways to write about themes like that, and i don’t think painting them all with the same brush makes sense. overall, i don’t believe in censorship or limiting written fiction, but that doesn’t mean i won’t criticize particular trends or writers. this is really not the hill i want to die on so don’t @ me.

as for anime and hentai wrt “loli:” and “shota,” i think that’s a different story. it hews much closer to child p*rn and probably even has a similar audience, i think. i’m not sure it’s even legal in the US. i can’t condone that. 

[heirloomparasite]

Ah, by that i don't mean that a teacher/student relationship is if the student is old enough are the sane of course. I just want to know what you think about those things.

i mean, teacher/student relationships in real life are bad news even if the student is of the age of consent bc of the power imbalance. again, fiction, not real life, two different stories.