[monthofloveart]

‘Starlight’

Erin Kelso

Digital

For the ‘light’ challenge for Month of Love 2017

[possumoftheday]

Today’s Possum of the Day has been brought to you by: Table manners!

[waitforhightide]

As far back as I can remember, I felt that loving one person romantically did not preclude the possibility of loving another at the same time. It seemed natural and intuitive to me. But I had no models for that way of living, so I assumed there was something wrong with me.

Angi Becker Stevens, "My Two Husbands" (via waitforhightide)

Yup

(via quinnjamin)

[sapphicscience-archive]

here’s to polyamorous bisexuals, to promiscuous bisexuals, to bisexuals who really are confused about their sexuality.

i’ve fit into all three of these categories at one point or another and we get thrown under the bus a lot. here’s to everyone who fits the stereotype.

[trip3tych]

Co-worker: Do you ever get sad because you want to have your cake and eat it too?

Me: I, uh. I eat a lot of cake.

[artsyunderstudy]

We’re alright.  For now, we’re all alright.

[yourbrobrooks]

Sam thirdwheeling so hard

[artsyunderstudy]

[ocadvsa]

Traits of a healthy relationship

[loveisrespect]

Great graphic about healthy relationships!

[natreidesgaia-deactivated201709]

Love breeds love. It isn’t a finite resource that we need to hide away in the attic.

ROSIE WILBY - Isn’t it time we admitted we’re all a bit polyamorous? (via stillgoingstrongwithbravery)

[eyelinerbabe-deactivated2014030]

[sourest]

[trip3tych]

The triptych was together in person for the first time this weekend!

There was much cooking and cuddling and laughing and drinking. We went grocery shopping and doing that and other grown-up stuff together felt really natural and awesome, which was super encouraging. Because of my history of suicide stuff, people making me food really means a lot to me because it says they want me to stay alive and are willing to work for my survival, so every time I eat the risotto N made me, I get all warm and fuzzy and close to tears. And when me or N said "I wanna get drunk" we had someone there to say "me too!" We ended up pouring cheap wine, three day old cider, and jaegermeister into a cup and drinking a surprising amount of it. True love, or something. :P

Some of the stuff that I expected to be weird because of bad past experiences weren't. Like I've been in threesomes and kind of casual triads before and been lied to, manipulated, and ignored, and aside from one freak-out that I handled pretty well, I felt secure with everything. Apparently trustworthy people exist. I will never claim that love can fix mental illness or a history of abuse, because real life ain't Disney, but the right person or people can really help you learn to cope and keep your shit together.

Apparently many of the problems we have are a result of distance rather than inherent problems in the relationship. I think my failure to communicate and express affection properly are at least partially a result of not being used to doing those things remotely, and I think seeing what that's like in person made N feel better about our relationship in general. Likewise, she and I are both kind of emotionally weird without lots of sex and cuddles in our lives (respectively), so we all felt way better this weekend than we have and that is awesome and obviously a really good sign. Though of course renewed NRE from being in person has a little bit to do with it, I feel super optimistic about the whole thing and I think it has a pretty rational basis.

I am so glad to have a relationship structure that feels like a family. I am so glad to have found people who want me to be genuine with them and want to dig their hands into life and who want to shove everything they can into their brains. I am so glad to have found people who feel words as deeply as I do. I'm not afraid anymore that happiness is what sane people call numbness. N and J make me a better person and somehow the reverse is true as well.

My sheets are a mess but I don't want to wash anything because my bed smells like J (N just smells like clean to me lol but maybe that will change with experience). Now that they're gone, I expected to drop really hard but I'm feeling okay. I tend to get the shakes when I don't have cuddles, but there's no urgency or need to my loneliness because I feel secure that everyone is still there for me and they are coming back and I am okay with that and with everything.

[wordsthat-speak]

There will be a few times in your life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. When that happens, you do it. Listen to your instincts and ignore everything else. Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it.

Remember When (Judith McNaught)

[etherealcrema-deactivated201603]

An Overly Simplified and Short Guide to Communication:

1. Feel something.

2. Figure out why you feel it.

3. Form a sentence that describes that feeling and the reason behind it.

4. Offer that sentiment to another person.

5. Receive their response.

RULES:

1. Be honest.

2. Be kind    a. first with your self

   b. with the other person

[myfoundpolyamory]

YES, YES, YES, YES!!!!!   So much THIS! 

[hereislight]

express your love. express your appreciation and gratitude. express your emotions. speak up about your feelings. it’s not weak. it’s not clingy. say, “I miss you I wish you weren’t so far.” say “I love you I’m sorry it took so long for me to say it.” tell them “I’m scared of growing up”. tell them “I’m so, so happy you still exist”.

[trip3tych]

Passion makes the world go round. Love just makes it a safer place.

Ice T

[trip3tych]

The hardest-learned lesson: that people have only their kind of love to give, not our kind.

Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

[trip3tych]

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars, 1939, translated from French by Lewis Galantière