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OK SAFELINE for Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault & Stalking 1-800-522-7233 Clearinghouse ~ Training ~ Prevention ~ Technical Assistance ~ Advocacy

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https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/23832-saisnotok #SAisnotOK #SAAM2015 #SAAM #Safer

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Join our Thunderclap to get out the message that #SAinotOK for #SexualAssaultAwareness Month. Safer Campuses, Brighter Futures!

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all my babes of any gender ~ pls know that abusers almost never appear to be abusers at first.  They are charming and romantic in the beginning.  They will sweep you off your feet with their kindness and attention.  This initial impression of a partner can make it very hard to accept that this isn’t who they really on later down the road.  Look at how they act and how you feel on an average day now, not how things were in the beginning.  Reflect on any patterns that have developed.  Remember that abuse happens in cycles and black eyes/physical violence aren’t the only forms of abuse.   Relationships should be a place of retreat and comfort, not fear and dysfunction.  You deserve the best and you are not alone in this.  Know the signs and don’t be ashamed to reach out for support if you ever feel isolated, threatened, or overwhelmed.  

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Oklahoman's can also call 1-800-522-7233

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Hi Sam!

Thanks for taking the time to read this letter. As fellow YouTubers, we have much respect for others who put so much hard work into building their channel. It’s not easy, and you should be proud! That said, we’ve noticed that in your success, there has been a lack of respect in...

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Help put and end to sexual violence and rape culture.

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End Rape Culture, Let's live in a world free of shaming and blaming!

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I DON’T THINK YOU UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH I LOVE THIS

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no seriously this is one of the best things ever

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must reblawg every time its on the dash

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rape culture simplified by Lil B

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Check out one of our new posters from our bystander intervention campaign! Where Do You Stand? www.mencanstoprape.org

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I started up a relationship with an ex who has been sexually and emotionally abusive to me in the past. He convinced me that he's changed but the sexual violence is starting to show up again. I'm scared it's going to get worse, but I love him and didn't handle our last break up well. I don't know what to do.

Hi anon, thanks so much for reaching out. That sounds like a difficult and alarming situation. You are not alone; people often get back into relationships with abusive partners because their partner promises to have changed. However, change is not easy. Change takes more than apologizing. For an abusive partner to change, it is essential for them to take responsibility for their actions, understand how their actions affect their partner, and take concrete steps towards changing. Some examples of taking the necessary steps towards change include utilizing a control log or attending a Batterer’s Intervention Program. You could also check out this resources on our website called “Is My Abusive Partner Changing?”

It’s definitely not uncommon for people to still have feelings for someone that is abusive. It sounds like you cared about him and wanted to believe him. However, partners that are abusive often say they will change as a way to keep you in the relationship. It can be a technique to maintain power and control in the relationship.

From what you told me, it sounds like he is still choosing to hurt you and I’m very concerned about the signs of sexual violence you mentioned. You deserve to be in a safe relationship based on respect, and it’s never ok for someone to disrespect your boundaries or use violence against you. It’s common for abuse to escalate over time — especially if there is a previous history of abuse. Ultimately, your safety is a priority. If you don’t feel that leaving the relationship is an option right now, there may be ways to plan for your safety while together. If possible, trying to avoid being alone together could be one strategy for protecting your wellbeing as you decide what you’d like to do next. 

For more information about safety planning and dating abuse, check out our website, where you can read articles, take quizzes, and talk with one of our peer advocates. We are available 24/7 via phone, call, chat, and text and our services are anonymous and confidential.

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Loveisrespect is a great resource

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i have plans to make one for all the fandoms containing a cat but for now, here are some of my favorite kitties

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End Street Harrassment 

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Objectification is real and it is a part of rape culture. Do you self objectify? After reading this, did you change your mind on whether or not this is something you do. Every woman should feel safe and be able to live her life without being just an object for a man's sexual desires. 

Sexually Objectifying images in the media lead to rape culture. Rape Culture leads to a culture where rape is the norm. 

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Ilustrations by the incredible Carol Rossetti check her out and follow her here! http://carolrossettidesign.tumblr.com/

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This is importand.

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so so SO important

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Illustrations about women and being comfortable with yourself, regardless of societal views. 

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Jokes Are Meant to be Funny

and racism, sexism, rape, and all that kind of BS, all of it isn’t funny, so (as stated in the artwork), “it’s a joke” is no excuse.

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Rape is never a joke

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Decided to do this. Hope it’s all right! (doesn’t know what to tag it under)

It’s great!

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Join Us for The Role of Men in Sexual Violence Prevention Webinar

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If You're Dating Someone And You Get This Phone Call, Run — Don't Walk — Away

Things that matter. Pass 'em on.

The line between love and control

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She Was Sexually Assaulted. She Didn't Call It That, Though. Why Not?

A lesson in why we need more people to understand what rape is and what rape isn't.

Rape Culture is real, what can we do about it? How can we make girls/women understand what rape is and help them identify it. How can we get men to ask consent and only proceed when a enthusiastic consent is given?