Keeping Interest
This is something that comes up quite often. Specially, with long term lovers. Keeping interest. This is a never ending battle. One must always-always keep the interest of her lover. And no, not just with sex! A brain and intellectuality are key.
A lover must always remember that she is just the Mistress and easily replaceable. A special kind of mistress, yes! Yet, still not the wife, not the open friend that can aspire for super long term "friendship". She is The Mistress.
As a mistress, you must be aware that there are many other women vying for your spot. Specially, if said lover is a good looking, successful man. Remember the fact that he is married and has chosen you, makes other women salivate. So, how do you keep him away from those other women?
There are truly several ways to go about this and it's up to you to learn about what the man wants and if you're willing to provide.
First things first, you have to asses him. What does he need? What he wants or is looking for, you can motivate into an alternative, but I'll explain how to go about in another entry.
What does he need?
This my friends, is what matters! This is essential. Find out what his wife is not providing, and believe me, once you've pleased them in bed, most will be more than happy to tell you.
What to do with this information. Don't provide it right away. Give them a taste. Gradually. Gradually spoon-feed their desires so they keep coming back.
It's a game. It's all a silly game but a game a Mistress must play. Beware, however, you shouldn't show your cards. Keep your pokerface. There comes a time where this is a natural way of being that it no longer is a game but simply a way to enjoy and live life.
__ Keep in mind I am a different type of Mistress. I don't "charge" for my company. I am with my married boyfriends because I genuinely like them, and want to be with them and please them. I don't ever give way or excuse for them to say to me they paid me with presents or that they paid my way through. I prove to them they are in my life because I want them to be and money or presents has nothing to do with them.
This is another way of keeping their interest! Don't make them feel like they have to pay you!! You are not a gold digger! You want him, and only him, even though he is married. You're not with him for an ulterior motive. You like him, you want him. Biggest compliment right there. Eventually, they will shower you with presents and such. Though, of course, I never accept them unless they obviously have a type of sentimental value. (Again, presents are for another time, another entry)
There are may articles and blogs out there of women who do charge. Who see married men as lover as a good benefit. They do not understand me and judge women like me but I understand it myself. My benefit is of its sexual nature, a way of satisfying my own sexual desires and full-filing them. (As I previously explained in my first entry) However, these women do women like me a great favor. They further prove to the lover that he is special. He is lucky to have you. You are his lover and you don't even accept presents! You don't accept money! You don't demand he leaves his wife. You are the real deal! And he better hang on to you, because if he tries fishing for another mistress, chances are she may ask him for money. She may ask for divorce!! (Another time, another entry: Reverse Phycology my friends, if you know how to apply appropriately!) There are many women out there like me. Believe me, I've met them. Not all of us are in it for the money. We're not in it to keep the man. Some of us just really like married men, most loose their appeal if they get divorced. So I hate to tell you married ladies, but married men are very-very sexy to a lot of women out there.