Trying For A Baby

I've known all my girl friends (BFFs) since I was 3 years old (longer than my little sister). I also have a little brother. My husband was originally my best friend and we started hanging out at high school (class of 98). I've been with my man since February 2000. We got married in June 2011 and are finally now ready to start trying for a baby (hopefully babies). I'd really love to have twins but we'll see what fate has in store for me... Maybe my two cats are all the mothering I'll get to do.

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I finished #NaNoWriMo at 45,062 words.  You can read what I wrote (raw first draft) on Wattpad.  

Diamond in the Sky (on Wattpad) https://my.w.tt/tIGZwdpQ51 When your soul is torn from your body, a broken heart suddenly seems pretty insignificant. Kya got dumped for Christmas. Everyone says she can do better and it's his loss. But, if that's true, why has Jace moved on so easily. Kya's best friend encourages her to move on by doing things she'd usually shy away from - starting with a blindfold and a mystery kisser. As Kya embraces her new wild lifestyle, she finds herself in a dangerous situation... From breaking the rules to a werewolf attack to having your soul taken by the crows, Kya's battle to overcome her ex-boyfriend is about to get extreme.

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Noah swimming underwater - Nirvana style

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Noah looking confidently straight at the camera

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Me & Noah underwater swimming.

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Puddle Ducks

Puddle Ducks Noah was heavy when he was born and I had some problems lifting him - it's fine now I've healed from labour. It made me feel like a bad mum that I didn't want to pick him up. From day 1, Noah was trying to stand up. From day 1, Noah was trying to stand up & could lift his head on his own. He was incredibly strong. I decided to take him swimming. I hoped in the water he would feel lighter and we'd get a chance to bond without me suffering. I choose the Puddle Ducks swimming school due to them using warm private pools and that only parents & babies would be about so if Noah kicked off they'd understand. I'd heard the baby pool at my local lesiure centre is too cold as they don't heat it up sufficiently to save money. He had a trial lesson at 6 weeks. I was late as I got lost finding the pool. It was a private pool that belonged to a big farm house. As soon as I got in, Noah wanted to be fed. The close skin to skin contact made him hungry, although, Noah often doesn't need an excuse to be hungry. I got out and fed him in the changing room. I was told I can feed by the pool side. Although Noah didn't seem to enjoy his first try I could see the benefits of continuing from the other babies so I paid for his first term. In January, at 8 weeks, he joined Floaties. I arrived early to feed Noah but when I sat on the bench waiting to go in, Noah got hungry again. I fed him by the pool side as the lesson began. Finally we got in. Noah cried a bit at first but as he relaxed he began to enjoy it. However, he got tired very quickly and after 10 minutes we had to get out. The following week we made it into the pool for the start. We made about 15 mins through the 30 min lesson before hungry striked! After a month of weekly lessons, Noah was making it through the whole lesson. He'd fall asleep as soon as he was dressed from exhaustion. I'd have to wait until he woke up to feed him. I actually started to get a guaranteed lunch break! After Easter you could clearly see the confidence he had in the water. He smiled as it was poured over his head. He happily swan underwater and only cried if he forgot to take a breathe but he was starting to understand the signals. He'd bounce excitedly on my lap whilst we waited to go in. I felt we had a bond developed on trust. He'd lean back on me as we swam around and knew he was safe. I looked forward to our lessons every week and my problems lifting him was becoming less of a hinderance. At 6 months he had to move up into the Splashers class but during the half term there was an underwater photoshoot. The teacher agreed that Noah was ready & I was excited to get the pictures so I could remember about our special time together. The pictures were awesome! It was hard to pick just one so... I bought three. In Floaties the lessons focussed on the babies getting used to the feel and movement of the water and dealing with it over their head. They learnt the signal to take a breathe and swim underwater. In Spalsgers the classes are more active. The build on the original skills but the learn the signal to jump. Noah loves jumping off the big float. It's hard to keep him on. He is also kicking his legs and splashing his arm and almost swimming independently. He's learning to kick off the side, turn in the water and swim through a hoop. He loves it. He giggles as he jumps off or is thrown in the air. The babies splash each other. Now it's hard to keep him on my lap when we are waiting for his lesson to start. I've also noticed that Noah and other babies that swim are stronger. They are early to crawl. Noah started crawling at 5.5months. He's been pulling himself up to standing since about 6.5 months. At 7.5 months he has been coasting on anything he can get up on, rather than crawl. Everyone thinks he'll be walking any day and he's only just turned 8 months. I would definitely recommend taking your baby swimming as soon as you can. It is a great bonding experience and really aids in their development. It has made me such a proud mama. I' going to miss going during the summer Hols that I'm going to see of we can brave it at a public pool. I've signed up for some summer holiday lessons and for the autumn term. I've planned my work hours so I can continue taking him swimming. For swimming Noah wears a Happy Nappy from splash about. Under that he wears Huggies little swimming. To begin with I wore my old maternity swimming costume and had no trouble getting my boobs out for feeding. Since loosing weight I now wear a slimming swimming costume. It is very tight so probably wouldn't be suitable for breast feeding but Noah has formula now. He also doesn't need to feed as often so he's not hungry at the pool anymore. If you have any questions about swimming with your baby, ask away. The same goes regarding the underwater shoot. I'll post the pictures. www.puddleducks.com www.splashabout.cpm

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Noah when I took him for his first official swimming lesson at 8 weeks. He had a trial lesson at 6 weeks.

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Yes, you read that right. I was looking for videos of exercises or fitness routines that can boost your fertility and instead I found sex positions that double up as exercise. Well, keeping fit and baby making sounds fantastic, so, here they are:

Missionary

Position? Man on top...

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Bad Night

We had the worst night in ages. Noah heard us sneaking to bed & woke for a bottle at 11:40 instead of 2am. I gave it to him and he quickly downed 5 ounces and fell to sleep. I put him in his crib but he soon woke crying. We waited to see if he settled himself and then he was sick. My husband blamed me and said I should have kept burping him. I felt it was more sick than normal. Luckily he'd somehow not been such on himself and we only had to change his bed. I kept trying to burp him whilst hubby did that but nothing more came up. I put him down in the fresh bed and he was fast asleep. We turned off the light. Moments later we woke to him being sick. This time he as covered. We changed his bed, changed him and by the time we finished he was wide awake and didn't want to sleep. We kept trying to burp him but nothing more came up. We decided he wasn't ill as he was so alert and happy. He watched his light display and was do talkative. Eventually, he gave in to sleep at 1am. He then woke up at the usual times for his feeds. Luckily he wasn't sick anymore as we'd run out of bedding - lots of washing today. This morning he seems fine but we are shattered. Zzz...

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This is a  real post that was on my facebook newsfeed today. I’m not gonna go into details regarding how much I do not agree with the people, but the basics of it is, be quiet it’s their body and they can do what they want with it.  It’s extremely natural, and since tampons actually dry your vagina out, this is more natural than anything. Do you think cavemen or egyptians or whatever had all these products? No, they free bled too. If your flow is light (or heavy u do what u want), go ahead free bleed its much more comfortable. I just think it’s so annoying that people think it’s disgusting, like it doesnt matter you’re not touching it or anything so why should you care. Also, out of 8 comments, 6 of them are from girls. This is a less significant example of how women themselves have been taught to think they’re disgusting and everything about femininity is horrible and you should be ashamed. I’m just apalled by the fact that these people are so grossed out. I appeal to them, because sure blood is gross sometimes and periods aren’t always great, but WOW none of ur business

Ugh ok rant over. Does somebody agree w me?????

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I disagree that people shoul,d be so disgusted by menstrual blood.. its not the end of the world if a girl has a period, lol. but blood is blood and you can pass diseases and stuff along. if she sits on a bench, and my kid touches that bench, cant my kid get really sick?

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I'm sorry but I don't agree with free bleeding. Keeping yourself clean is just sanitary courtesy to everyone around you. Nobody wants their sofa or carpet stained, so you won't be invited over. No-one wants to sit somewhere that's wet and stain their clothes and it just looks nasty.

If you cut your finger you'd put a plaster on it so you don't bleed everywhere. In addition, we put nappies & bibs on babies so they won't make a mess everywhere.

Free bleeding is not going to make people respect them for being women. It just makes feminism dirty & ugly. I can't help but think that it's gross!

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Go Google! Today, Google reminds us of the Olympic Charter & everyone has the right to compete!

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Baby sign language

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Are they baby kisses?

Every morning (and quite frequently during the day) I shower my sons cheeks with kisses.

This morning as I smothered his cheek I felt a wet slobber on my cheek. I pulled away and my cheeky chappy had a big grin on his face. I kissed the other cheek and he did it again.

Later in the evening I was talking to him and getting lots of adorable smiles that I couldn’t resist kissing him. I got another Soggy mess on my cheek.

I think he’s trying to kiss me. Either that or he is weening into a cannibal and is just developing a taste for me.

He’s only 10 weeks old. Is it possible?

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Difficult choice

Noah will be 10 weeks on Thurs.

The first 6 weeks Noah pretty much exclusively breast fed. He had a bottle of instant once a each week. of about 3ounces. He gained 9 to 10 ounces each week.

Then at 7 weeks we introduced a bottle of formula before bed as people said it’d help him sleep &… It worked. I didn’t want it to because I love breast feeding. This was about 4ounces.

At 8 weeks we added an extra night bottle. Both bottles were about 5ounces. He got breast milk if he woke up between feeds.

At 9 weeks we added a third bottle & he now needs no breast at night. He’s also feeding less during the day.

I am aware of all the positives of breast feeding. When he was breast fed his poo smelt sweet but now it smells like vinegar & chemically. I’m planning on switching from SMA to HIPP Organic but not many stores stock it.

I also feel like he’s weening himself off me. He seems to prefer a bottle. I think the milk comes out faster & he’s a hungry baby. It takes him 10mins to down a 50ml bottle & be full but when I breast feed he can take from 30mins to an hour and then another day just 5mins & not want a feed for hours. There is no pattern to his breast feeding. If I bottle fed then I’d know how much he has.

On top of that I’ve been suffering since labour with Stress Inconstenience. I can’t go anywhere without a pad. Its really uncomfortable & makes me not want to go out. I’m getting physio to help & have an exercise plan. I discovered a dissertation by a doctor who found that breastfeeding increases the estrogen hormone. This hormone also makes SUI worse. I asked my Physio & she confirmed this is true but won’t encourage me to stop BF’ing as it must be my choice when I feel Noah is ready to naturally progress on to formula.

I also have progesterone only contraceptive pill which will help but I’ve not started it as I worry that it’ll go in my breast milk to Noah. I don’t want to feed him synthetic hormones!

My husband is from a formula family so has wanted to do bottles from the start. I am from a breast fed family so it’s natural to me.

Where I live is very BF friendly area. There is a lot of support her for BF’ing. However, mums who bottle feed get shunned. When I admitted I gave him a bottle at night I received some bitchy remarks. I am worried I will be socially outcast if I do change to bottle. Plus I don’t want the other mums to know about my problem as it is embarassing.

I’m going to carry on as I am for another 2 weeks & think about my decision. I would like to know when other mums stopped breast feeding?

I’ll speak to a HV today but I know they’ll just promote breast feeding. They let my friends baby that wouldn’t latch on starve & go on a drop before admitting he needed formula.

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How many of you have men in your life that are okay with baby wearing?

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Travis doesnt wear Lydia. I do, he doesnt care. He agrees its handy and more convienient than a...

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My hubby baby wears when we go out together. It gives me a break from carrying our son. Plus it's the gentleman thing to do, like carrying the heaviest grocery bags. He'd look a right wuss shying away from carrying our son. Only issue is the number of women that check him out when he's got our son in the caboo carrier. Thankfully he never notices as he's only checking me out :D

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if u sleep with a bra on first of all why second of all how

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I hate sleeping with a bra on but I'm breast feeding so if I don't it brings a whole new meaning to "sleeping in the wet patch"