Hi, INTJ here. I have an ISFJ friend I am not sure if I am in love with or not, but I'm still very young, I surely will understand when my time comes. The thing is, I have very poor interpersonal skills and sometimes I have a strange impression that I am not enough for him. I don't know how to explain to him that he can do whatever he wants. He is very industrious but has no motivation. I think I should treat him in a more gentle way, not only with "I know what is best for you". Any advice?
You should just be yourself. Sounds cliche, but ISFJs can tell, most of the time, that you're trying to be nice. There's no point in forcing yourself to be gentle. If he is already your friend, he probably knows that you care and that you just don't express it well. As for the motivation part, the best motivation comes from the inside anyway, so he'll find it when the time comes, when he finds something he wants to do. ISFJs are not as competitive as INTJs, so don't try to push him too much and let him live life at his own pace. I'd say it's enough to be there for support when he needs it. Oh, and sometimes compliment him on his achievements (but don't force yourself to do so). And sorry for the late reply. I don't even know how late it is because we haven't checked the blog in a while. Hope we could help.-Admins Leym & Viv