Ok tumblr, I have questions.
*Quick pre story context and why it’s important to me: this woman came into my life while I was at my lowest point and she was at hers. and together we’ve pulled each other out of some serious stuff. So she is VERY special to me and don’t want to jeopardize our friendship.
My best friend, let’s call her Kitty, has this boyfriend. (Now side info this couple is 43F and 58M years old for some more context.) he thinks of himself as this super manly biker guy. But he is insecure about anything that isn’t “manly” or anything that makes him “Gay” or “Feminine” that kind of thing. And most of his “manly” pursuits put my friend in very real danger. He lost his license because he crashed his vehicle drunk and ended up in the hospital. He has a warrant out for his arrest. and still proceeds to drive. (Badly I might add. I was in a vehicle with both of them before I found out about the No license and was terrified that I was going to die) He has recently purchased a motorcycle that he convinced kitty to put under her name and insurance. I feel like if she keeps dating this man she’s going to get hurt. Like I’m an adult too. 28 years old. And I know I shouldn’t be meddling in the affairs of my friends relationships but I’m very very concerned about her. She doesn’t have the best mental health, and I think she’s attached to him more than the average person would be like I don’t quite understand how that relationship works, I know in a normal relationship there should be trust and communication and understanding but every time she brings up something that she’s concerned about he gives her the silent treatment and I know that’s a sign of narcissism and anytime he gets mad or offended for something stupid and small he blames her And gives her the silent treatment for days and then I have to listen to her talk about how It’s all her fault she should know better she should know this and she should know not to talk about that and I am literally just sitting there going, “but it’s not your fault you were honest. you’re just telling him about things that make you uncomfortable he should listen and understand that” and I want to just step back and just let her do what she does. she’s going to do what she does anyway because she’s stubborn, but at the same time I’m scared he’s going to put her in the situation where she can’t say no without offending him and she could get very very seriously hurt. so my question Tumblr‘s what do I do?  I don’t want her to think that all I want is for her to break up with her boyfriend. i just really want her safe.
