the one time the aeneid shows aeneas and ascanius talking together, aeneas kisses his son "through his helmet". the familial love is literally obstructed by the divinely ordained war aeneas never wanted to wage! and in book one we see aeneas pleading with aphrodite to just once come to him as a mother and hold him instead of a distant goddess in disguise telling him what to do. consider the loneliness of aeneas who is isolated both from his parent and as a parent himself.
like even hector was able to take off his helmet to hug his son, you know?

















