Little Miss Gets What She Wants

See it, Like it, Want it, Got it.

[universalheiress]

Don't let your past define you.

You've been through hell, so have I. So has everybody. But you know what the difference is between you and others? They don't let it define their WHOLE lives.

Use your past experiences to guide you, but NOT define you. You can't let something that happened 5 years ago dictate what you do today. That's how you lose opportunities and get stuck in the same situation, but this time, you've created this horrible experience on your own. The people who did whatever to you, can't be blamed this time. You did it to yourself. And guess what? They are out there making bank and living their lives, completely uncaring about your existence, while you drown in your pathetic pity parties and do nothing with your life. DON'T LET THEM WIN AGAIN. Because that's what you're doing. They aren't even playing anymore but you're still letting their absences win in your own game EVERY TIME. That's insane.

Get the therapy, get the mentor, get whatever you need to, to work through the trauma, then get yourself back in gear.

Remember, your feelings are valid, but so is the fact that you mustn't let them control you.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[universalheiress]

21st Century Lord and Saviour. No, you did not 'lose' yourself.

You're not Jesus. Stop sacrificing your life for people.

Do you think they'll deify you? Sanctify you? Throw galas in your name?

No. But I'll tell you what they will throw. You. Away. The moment you have no more of yourself to cut out and give. I'd have considered it if you gave some parts of yourself away for a price (a hefty understandable one). BUT FOR FREE.99 IS BONKERS BABE!

YOU DID NOT LOSE YOURSELF YOU GAVE YOURSELF AWAY FOR FREE!!! And no offence but even highway night workers have a fee. Why don't you?👀

Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries. Don't just set them, LIVE them. If A happens, B follows. No excuses. No exceptions.

No one will build a statue in your honor for disrespecting yourself and letting people use you as a stepping stone. The moment you give out, NOBODY WILL HELP YOU! NOBODY WILL HAVE YOUR (broken) BACK BUT YOURSELF!

In a selfish world, the selfish succeed. I'm not saying you should be selfish...but I'm not saying you shouldn't be either.

Chuck Feeney and Elon Musk. One went and died broke giving to charity, the other does give to charity, but is still extremely successful and not going broke anytime soon.

Have you even ever heard of Chuck Feeney?

Exactly.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[blissfullyecho]

The version of myself I’m becoming for 2025 is going to leave people sick and I’m already living for it

[universalheiress]

Tell me about it🤭

[universalheiress]

Get over it.

We've all made mistakes, done things we aren't proud of. Hurt people. And maybe we didn't mean to, we feel remorseful, want to make amends.

If you can, do it. If you can't, boo hoo, get over it. Make peace with yourself and get on with life. Regrets do nothing but keep you in the past and baby you can't move forward if you keep looking back. In fact you could probably get stuck there, a pillar of salt, as your life crashes and burns around you. Give yourself some grace. You were young, you were stupid, but you've learnt. And that's the most important thing.

Either move up, or stay stuck.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[universalheiress]

Let people suffer.

I know, I know. But that's not what I mean.

We all have friends who could do better, be better. We give them advice as they cry on our shoulders wondering 'why', 'how', 'oh woe is me' and whatever. But then...do the same thing next week.

And maybe its because they have a low self concept of themselves or something, but they keep making the same mistakes they did regardless of what they went through, and your insights.

At the end of the day, people will only do and allow what they believe they deserve. So just let them suffer. Or you're gonna be suffering too. Stressing out over a grown person not wanting to do better or be better.

One of my close friends keeps getting into relationships with men that have no emotional intelligence, no loyalty, no class. She's obsessed with the idea that its her heavenly granted purpose to 'fix' people. Help 'rescue them from being astray'. But over and over (regardless of my best efforts to help her stop this nonsense) she keeps moving in this cycle of disappointment and loss. Now I just let her be. Infact, so many of my friends do this, that they've started not telling me, UNTIL IT BLOWS UP IN THEIR FACES because they know me, and they know I demand better from and FOR them. If only they demanded better for themselves.

And so my darlings, let them suffer, lest you suffer along side them.

You can't help people who don't want to help themselves.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[universalheiress]

Girl in the mirror.

No you aren't becoming a new person, No you aren't creating an 'alter ego' (I could talk about this forever), No you aren't 'finding' yourself.

That is who you are. Who you've always been. You just poisoned yourself with mob psychology, chemicals, and cheap 'fixes' for your life.

You want a change? Discipline will do that for you. It'll detox your mind, body, and soul. Because whether you know it or not, feel it or not, what you read, hear, say, think, do, even see passively, does affect you in some way.

Learn to filter. Learn to put up boundaries. Learn to protect yourself so you don't forget yourself (I don't like the term lose. You can never lose yourself, you just willingly give yourself away. Don't do that.)

And I'm preaching what I've experienced so yall can trust.

The girl in the mirror is always there when you look. She's never lost, never different, always you. And it's time you remembered that and treated her better.

Get up and give yourself better.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[universalheiress]

Pushing Through.

I've recently started exercising again (I feel off for a year) and IT HURTS LIKE A BRICK TO THE RIBS!! But its long-term benefits and my personal goals keep me going. And so I've set up a limit for myself. I will work out as much as I can for that allocated hour until I breakdown. Tears, snot, racking sobs, the whole thing, and only then will I rest. I don't deserve the pleasure of doing a 1 set, 3 minute, 20 ins-and-outs then calling it quits. I want this to be regular for me and consistency and discipline go hand in hand. So if you ever feel like you've reached you limit, push through crying if you need to. You'll thank yourself in a few.

Don't be a quiter. Quiters are losers.

And we are not losers.

Kisses my darlings💋💋

[theblackfemininesociety]

I am obsessed with the woman I envision myself to be when I close my eyes, I will do whatever it takes to become HER — she is the love of my life 💋