[yandere-angela]

[tachypodion]

just when you think you know the person you've been in a relationship with for the better part of a decade, you learn that they have the thing where dark chocolate makes them sneeze

[vampirescience]

we have been married for three years

[vampirescience]

my spouse wants to make a tumblr post tomorrow about how Javert is autistic and this is their reminder to do that @tachypodion

[dsmsix]

[tachypodion]

is it gay to boop your spouse

[vampirescience]

yes

[vampirescience]

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[catasters]

[amirrorcalledthemoon]

[feral-t33th]

[leebrontide]

I think one thing we need to address in the US if we want to de-stigmatize multi-generational households that include ADULTS from multiple generations, is that parents need to learn how to have adult relationships with their offspring.

Should my daughter deign to live with me when she's an adult she will not be my some vassal that has to obey my household rules. She graduates into being a peer in setting and managing the boundaries, cleanliness and appearance of our home.

Too many parents want to have relationships with grown ass adults in which the parents maintain control and authority, and in which they leverage money and history to get their way from an adult who, very reasonably, wants to be able to make choices and have influence. And then those parents wonder why their kids keep their distance!

But then people act like I've lost it because I let my 5 year old pick the color of paint in her room- a room I seldom spend time in except to take care of her, and a room in which I want her to be comfortable and happy.

I'm not gonna let her choose a paint color for the kitchen right now, because she's capricious and bad at negotiating so we can pick a color we all like. But when she's an adult, if she's still living here? Why shouldn't she get to influence her environment?

People like to have agency. We limit the agency of children because they make choices without the full ability to understand the results (sorry baby, you are gonna get vaccinated for pollio even if you don't like it. You don't understand pollio).

But limiting an adults choices in their own home, just because you don't think that home should be a real home for them because it's just for you, is kind of an asshole move, to me.

No need to argue with me if you disagree. You can have your own opinion.

But I couldn't treat my kid that way, and I have seen enough to know that not every parent treats their adult children like permanently incompetent interlopers.

I didn't just buy this house for ME. I bought it for MY FAMILY. My baby is my family, and she will be no matter how old she gets.

[vampirescience]

I Hate that my attention span is nonexistent and that I essentially live inside my phone (I looked at my screen time app which I typically avoid doing and uhhh my average is 13 hours a day).

I'm thinking about how that habit started forming when I was 10 and given unrestricted access to a computer and how by 12 I was regularly staying up all night on the internet. Back then I Needed to disassociate from my home life & my health situation and I have so much empathy for tiny me who was just doing their best to cope but it's fucked adult me over so much. Behavioral addiction really sucks. I WANT to be present in my life I WANT to not instinctively refresh twitter ever 5 minutes for dopamine I WANT to think & create & use my brain but instead I spend hours unable to stop scrolling/playing mindless phone games.

Trying really hard to take small steps forward and give myself grace. I can't undo 15 years of internet dependence in a snap & I wanna guard myself against giving up the moment it starts feeling hopeless. Gonna start gradually cutting back on time I spend on my phone & build better habits & remember healing isn't linear

[sadhoc]

not cluttering up the reblogs on that one post but people on tumblr/twitter are so fucking weird about post covid syndrome.

namely there seems to be an assumption that if you get long covid, it's because you are an able bodied person who just "wasn't careful enough" and "went back to normal" and "hates disabled people." lots of posts celebrating that the assumed able bodied long covid patient "knows what it's. like now" and "woman who voted for the leopards eating people's faces party now has the leopards eating her face"

i shouldn't have to tell people that i was already immunocompromised or that i caught covid from a family member who went to a party. i shouldn't have to have my own behavior interrogated for like. times i took off my mask to take a sip of water, or times i hugged a friend. for people to determine whether i deserved multisystem inflammatory syndrome, to suffer lifelong multisystem organ and nerve damage, to lose the ability to walk unaided, to lose the career i'd spent years training for, to be 27 and have no idea what my future is going to look like or even how long of a future i have given everything. and you know what? even if a person who believed the CDC when they said that covid was over experienced this? they'd still deserve access to medical care and disability supports.

[sadhoc]

so many people are missing the point of this post it's unbelievable.

i don't want to hear "oh since you weren't the one who was irresponsible, you deserve support" or "if it wasn't your fault then you shouldn't be made fun of for having long covid"

the point is that even if it were my mom (who. believed the CDC when they said she didn't need to mask anymore) who got long covid instead of me, she would still deserve support. people who "did something wrong" and became disabled because of it are still disabled, with all the legal and social protections that entitles them to

[janedrewfinally]

Reblogging also for tags:

#THIS#my cousin has long covid. she got it from her brother who wasnt being as careful as he should have been#he died and shes disabled for the rest of her life. she didnt “desrve it less” because she was still masking#like yall have got to give up this virtue based activism. you dont deserve roghts they RIGHTS#everyone should get the automatically because they are a person#even the people you dislike and disagree with#to say otherwise is just repackaged christian fundamentalism

[bessies-girl]

Watching doctor who will give you first and second hand embarrassment but it will also cure your apathy and it will make you love the world and it will make you want to be a better person and it will inspire you to travel and be curious about the world around you which i think is a tradeoff that I can live with.

[bug-mp3]

they should make it easier

[mommy-mortis]

what?

[bug-mp3]

Everything. All of it

[skinwretch]

few terms have come to piss me off more than "traumadumping" does like having a sincere conversation with someone about personal issues in your life is not "traumadumping" shut the fuck up

[skinwretch]

obviously your twitter mutual arbitrarily dming you out of the blue to describe a detailed account of the abuse they experienced as a child is one thing but i often see the word "traumadumping" applied to things as mundane as a friend or relative telling you their girlfriend broke up with them or that they got in a bad fight with their dad and like that is not traumadumping that is simply seeking emotional consolation from a friend, which isn't exactly uncommon nor is it an unreasonable thing to desire. these people are not necessarily asking you to become their therapist or what the fuck ever, usually they are merely looking for reassurance and recognition as simple as "sorry to hear that i hope things start looking up for you soon." i understand that situations like this can still be hard and make you feel confused and helpless and unsure of exactly what you can do/say, but i just feel like it's downright cruel to act as though wanting comfort from a friend when you're going through a rough period is somehow a moral failing and the big boy thing to do in such a situation would just be to suck it up and repress lest you make your emotions someone else's problem

[eastgaysian]

the experience of animal in your house never gets old. fuck yes dude there's an animal in here. did you guys know about the animal

[beesmygod]

the thing about rhode island is that the locals are so absolutely out of their minds that these slogans from two well known and culturally significant restaurants dont register as something aliens would come up with

[tim-official]

got my new boyfriend from Ikea. Unfortunately he's made of particle board and with a single thrust of my hips I broke him into five pieces

[tim-official]

sure is yeah. keep me updated