hihi chat im danthi (he/she) i have diagnosed npd please be normal to me
this blog is about the amazing totally not ableist (/sarc) narcissistic abuse community
tags
#archive <- rbs from/showcasing ableism and generally offensive behavior from people in the narcissistic abuse community
#not archive <- anything that isnt that ^
#info <- informative posts about npd/the issues with narc abuse
#hatemail <- hatemail <3
i frequently forget to tone tag, feel free to ask for clarification
please dont call people "narcissistic abuse truthers" in my askbox
really glad i made this account because if i woke up and knew the comment section of healnpd is peak egotypical mainstream npd rep without the juxtaposition that it can always get worse i would hurt myself and others <- good and normal thought process
honorary header contender but this blog isnt geared enough towards ableism from other neurodivergent people however ☝️ i do hate the pixigags comment section
i get that people are worried about stigma but when youve been abused by someone with narcissistic traits, it leaves a mark thats hard to explain. its systematic harm. when survivors use terms like “narc,” its not about random pwNPD, its about the people who weaponized those traits to destroy us. pls don’t center the feelings of abusers over the voices of those still recovering from what they did.
the literal whole point of this blog is archiving posts that do in fact demonize random pwnpd (specifically!!! though nebulous subhuman "narcissist" posting isnt the bestest). im sorry and i appreciate that you worded this as patronizingly as possible so i dont freak out on you but you are looking in my face right now and telling me the constant ableism intertwined zeitgeistly with my (traumagenic) mental disorder just doesnt happen, despite being on the page dedicated to showing people it does!! the definitive point of npd is that it /is/ formed to cope with and recover from abuse and yet we are constantly talked over and about like nonpeople to the point where there are entire communities centered around our subhumanity
(dont harass anon (or me) in the comments/rbs i will block you)
There are 3 main things that will hurt the narcissist:
1. Being abandoned.
A major fear of the narcissist is abandonment. They hate being alone as they rely on others to validate them and provide them with attention, affection, admiration, and just general engagement.
Narcissists need people, but the increasing dilemma is that it is becoming near impossible for narcissists to be abandoned completely, as many have turned to online chats, social media, and they’ve created a virtual reality for themselves that feeds them with an unlimited supply.
So even though they lack physical interaction, which for most of us would be difficult, the narcissists on the other hand can happily settle for the narcissistic supply that they receive online. It provides them with enough fuel to feed their deluded fantasies and sick obsessions.
2. Being exposed
The second thing that hurts the narcissist real bad is being exposed. We all know how important the fake image is to them, and the many lies that they’ve told to maintain it.
Basically, the narcissist’s whole goal in life is to deceive people with their fake image. So if they are exposed for the liars, manipulators, and downright imposters that they are, that is their world shattered before their eyes, and it cuts them deeper than any words can express.
3. Being insulted
The third and final thing that will hurt the narcissist is being insulted. Narcissists know the power of words. After all, they use words to manipulate, deceive, and hurt people. The tricky thing is that to a narcissist, a critique is an insult, telling them the truth is an insult. So this is something that happens a lot, but anything that more or less attacks their false image will be seen as an insult.
wanting attention is not a bad thing. wanting people to care about you is not selfish. it’s okay to want people to listen to you. you don’t need to do anything to deserve love. love is not a finite resource; we hold enough of it in our hearts to love each other every single day of the year. you deserve to be loved every single day of the year. don’t forget that.
This is a blog made by and for people who have both NPD and BPD! This blog will feature cluster-b activism with a focus on people with NPD and BPD, along with confessions and more!
The flag we use is here (link).
The rules of this blog are as follows:
Bigotry of any form will not be tolerated, including but not limited to racism, queermisia, intersexism, ableism, sanism, etc. This blog especially does not tolerate ableism against other personality disorders. Any submissions putting down other disabled people will be deleted and blocked.
Do not engage in discourse of any kind on this blog. This includes but is not limited to intracommunity queer discourse, system discourse or fiction discourse.
Anyone is allowed to interact with this blog regardless of your identity or personal views, however do not bring in matters that are irrelevant to this blog. We are not going to disallow other pwNPD & BPD from interacting with this blog over discourse.
Obviously, you are not welcome on this blog if you believe in "narcissistic abuse" or "borderline abuse."
We are not medical professionals. We cannot and will not armchair diagnose you. You may ask about diagnostic criteria, but that is it.
Suggestive/Adult themed asks are permitted and will be tagged accordingly as 18+/minors dni.
These rules may be subject to change or be expanded on.
We will include the following on this blog:
Confessions and vents.
"NBPD culture is" phrased confessions.
Activism, cluster-b education and resources.
Song recommendations.
Your Fave has NBPD requests.
Fandom-related confessions.
Tags we will be using:
#confessions
#vents
#activism
#resources
#nbpd culture is
#song recs
#your fave is
#fandom
#media
#admin lore
About the Admin:
Hello! You may refer to me as 🌹 or Rua!
- I am a mixed race Native American, two-spirit and intersex!
- Adult. He/Him and Shy/Hyr pronouns.
- Polyamorous Myrrose Emobian Lesbian.
- AuDHD, cluster b & c, P-DID.
i do really think censoring n*rcissist just adds to the stigmaaa. narcissist is not a dirty word narcissism isnt a bad thing and more importantly it makes it harder for me to check if youve posted about narc abuse for my tumblr sideblog
Narcissistic people don’t have some special secret way of abusing people that no one else is capable of doing.
If a NPD haver happened to be abusive, they’d use the regular abuse tactics every other shitty person uses.
Autistic people can be abusive, but we don’t call it autistic abuse. People with cerebral palsy can be abusive, but we don’t call it cerebral palsy abuse.
Being abusive is a choice, having a personality disorder is not.
