* Think of workouts as something you are happy to do for the benefit of your body, not something you have to do to punish it for not looking right.
* Focus on how you feel during and after movement, not just how you look.
* Treat exercise like a neutral form of daily care, the same way you would sleep, eat, or brush your teeth. It’s just a part of the obvious maintenance.
* Redefine your idea of a “successful workout” as simply showing up and doing what you could, not going all-out every time.
* I cannot stress to you enough that exercise is a reward and something to look forward to. If you don’t feel that way, try a different form of exercise. There’s more than just hitting the gym. Experiment with different types of movement until you find what actually feels enjoyable.
* Even if you only work out 10 minutes a day with a very basic beginner, low impact, no equipment routine, you would be so far ahead a year from now.
* Stop waiting for motivation and start building the identity of “I’m someone who moves my body for fun on the daily.”
Practice the sports that embody the energy you want to attract into your life. The sport you practice is a metaphor for how you move in life and what you want to embody in life
Want more flexibility in life?
Try aerial arts, stretching, gymnastics, barre.
Need inspiration or higher perspective?
Anything connected to air energy: aerial silks, aerial hoop, acroyoga.
Warrior mindset and winner mentality?
Boxing, kickboxing, etc
Expansion of your vision and increase your capacity to hold more?
Strength training, weightlifting, boxing
Want more fire, passion, and movement?
Latin dances (salsa, bachata, samba etc),
Structure, discipline and precise action?
Ballet, martial arts, fencing
Remember that if you want to do more of something, you have to do less of something else. It's that time of year where people set goals for the new year and they have plans and hopes and it's always focusing on what they want to do more of. More studying, more exercise, more crafting, more socialising, more making things from scratch. Okay, great. What are you going to do less of in order to have the time and energy to do more of those things you really want to do?
And if your answer to this is "less doomscrolling" or "less bedrotting" then great, but please think about why you're doing those things. No one's doomscrolling or bedrotting because they don't have things they'd rather be doing. Actually, I'm willing to bet you have a lot of things you'd rather be doing and you spend your life internally screaming at yourself to do literally any one of the many things you want to be doing instead, but you don't have the energy for them all and you can't work out how to prioritize them, so doomscrolling spares you from making that decision. Or perhaps you're burned out from taking on too many projects and you need to rest your brain, so you lie in bed because you don't even have the energy to get started anymore.
This is going to be a really hard pill to swallow, but the truth is you might not be able to balance all your hobbies and all your projects the way you'd like. If you want to finish writing that book, you might have to reduce your daily drawing habit to a couple of times a week. If you want to do yoga every morning, you might have to accept not cooking from scratch as often. If you want to spend more time with your family, you might have to cut down on your yearly reading goal. I'm not saying give up on your hobbies; I'm be realistic with your time and your energy and be kind to yourself. Stop expecting yourself to do more and do better every single year. You don't have to constantly be growing upwards and reaching for the stars; you can be content with where you are, or even cut parts of yourself back to make space for other things in your life to bloom.
Think about what your priorities are and make peace with doing less of other things. Less is okay. Less is not failing. Less is self care.
read slowly. page by page, paragraph by paragraph. don’t rush your books—let the content settle properly.
listen to lectures while doing other things—getting ready, cooking, on the subway. passive learning makes revision so much easier.
study in environments that feel comfortable—a quiet library, cosy at home, or a nice café with good coffee.
annotate with intention. a single well-placed note is more effective than cluttered, wordy sentences, especially in academic reading.
don’t stop a good study session. if it flows, lean into it. let yourself stay in the moment.
read outside of school. don’t limit yourself to your studies—if something interests you, explore it further.
constant revision. got a minute? glance at your notes. familiarity deepens understanding effortlessly.
candles for late-night study sessions. candlelight can be easier on the eyes than harsh artificial lighting, especially compared to screens or fluorescent lights.
spend time in museums. become familiar with artists and exhibitions, read the little signs, and write down interesting observations.
read philosophy, but don’t rush to have an opinion. let the questions linger, explore different perspectives, and give yourself time to see where you stand.
keep a brain dump notebook. always in your bag, ready for any passing thought. don’t worry about making it pretty—just write it down and return to it later.
find friends who care about academia. discussing what you’re learning makes it feel like conversation, not study.
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sometimes, when life feels heavy, it’s hard to figure out what to do with yourself. here’s a little list of things that help me feel more grounded on days when everything seems off:
clear your schedule as much as you can. make time for yourself, to breathe, distract yourself, and focus on what brings you a little joy.
step outside for a bit. even if it’s just walking to the store to grab a snack. If going for a walk feels pointless, having a tiny mission (like buying chocolate or gum) can make it feel more doable.
call a friend. if calling feels like too much, text someone you trust. even a small connection can help break the mental loop.
stay warm. I swear, being cold makes everything worse.
try to pinpoint why you’re sad. if there’s no clear reason, that’s okay too, don’t overthink it. sometimes feelings just exist, and that’s okay.
move your body. you don’t have to hit the gym if that feels like too much. a YouTube workout, some yoga, or even just stretching can release some of the tension.
take a shower. clean hair = clean mind. I don’t know why, but when my hair feels dirty, I feel awful.
chill with the caffeine. too much coffee makes me more restless and anxious, so try to swap it for tea or water when you're already feeling down.
get off your phone. do something creative instead, make a collage, bake cookies, experiment with makeup. it’s a nice way to focus on something tactile and rewarding.
find cosy productivity. when I don’t feel like talking to people, I stay home and study or work on small projects. being cosy but productive is satisfying and keeps my mind busy.
keep track of your meals. I lose my appetite when I’m feeling down, so setting reminders to eat something makes a big difference.
sleep, sleep, sleep. honestly, sleep fixes more than you’d think. Give yourself permission to rest.
be gentle with yourself, and remember, it’s okay to take things one tiny step at a time. you’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough. <3
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 1) when someone compliments them, they say thank you.
WOAH mind-boggling right! they don't self depreciate themselves by going "no no im so ugly" or whatever, but they don't say something like "yeah i know." either. show your gratitude, but don't let it get to your brain.
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 2) take care of themselves.
they make sure to show themselves just as much love as they show everyone else because they know they deserve it just as much as anyone else.
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 3) they show up for themselves.
when they say something, they do it. when they want something, they work to get it. when you feel sad and hurt, you yourself should be the first person to come and support yourself.
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 4) they walk and sit with good posture
confident people know that they don't shouldn't have to make themselves invisible for anyone. it may be scary at first to be walking around looking straight instead of hunched over, but just btw u look rly lame being hunched over. stand up girl.
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 5) they take up space
because they know they are allowed to. they know they deserve it. why would they try to become smaller? for who are you doing that for? literally no one cares and it just looks pathetic. take up space honey, you're allowed to.
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𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 6) you like what you see in the mirror
when i look in the mirror, no matter how i look- whether im sweating and crusty musty dusty or even all glammed up- i always love myself. why? because i know that i am not what i look like. i know i am beautiful, but that is not the only admirable thing about me!
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 7) do what scares the crap out of u!!
or basically, step outside your comfort zone. do things that the previous you wouldn't even think of doing, and do it proudly, and do it alone! (me for example, recently i did the most scariest thing ever that i was dreading the entire day and when i did oh my god i was so proud of myself!! esp since i did it alone as well!)
𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 8) is not scared of being alone.
who cares? literally who cares? confident people know that no one cares. people look at you because they may be curious or just looking around, but then you don't stay in their mind all day, okay? other people couldn't care less and neither should u!
hello sweethearts, mindy here. i wanted explore how to leave lasting impressions without trying too hard. these are from things i personally observed and things i try to do in my everyday life. being memorable is important, especially for us coquette girliesss.
presence essentials:
master the delayed response
perfect your signature scent
develop a subtle catchphrase
create your color palette
curate your personal style
memorable habits:
social grace
remember small details
listen more than speak
arrive slightly late
leave slightly early
master the soft laugh
physical presence
gentle hand gestures
maintain eye contact
slight head tilt
measured walking pace
relaxed shoulders
conversation tips:
ask thoughtful questions
pause before responding
speak in low tones
use people's names
master the use of silence
remember: mystique is created in the spaces between words. be the girl they can't quite figure out. 🕊️
✧ the elle woods study method: mindset makeover & foundation building ✧
hey lovelies! 💗
omg, i'm literally bursting with excitement to start this transformative series with you all! we're going to dive deep into actually studying like elle woods, and all her study methods. it's going to change your academic life. (while keeping you fabulous, obviously!)
let's start with the most crucial element - the elle woods mindset. you know how elle went from being underestimated at harvard to graduating with honors? that transformation began in her mind, and that's exactly where we're starting too!
the core principles of the elle woods mindset (get ready to take notes!):
unwavering self-belief: elle's iconic "what, like it's hard?" attitude wasn't just cute - it was crucial
authenticity as your superpower: your unique perspective is your strength
resilience through positivity: turning every "you can't" into "watch me"
strategic determination: working smarter, not just harder
maintaining your essence: success shouldn't mean losing yourself
let me break down how to actually build this mindset (because theory without practice is like a perfect outfit without accessories - incomplete!):
mindset foundation building:
• start a daily confidence journal (pink, obviously!)
• write three daily affirmations
• document your wins, no matter how small
• reflect on challenges and how you overcame them
goal setting the elle way:
• dream big (harvard law big!)
• break down major goals into mini-milestones
• create realistic timelines
• identify potential obstacles and plan solutions
• celebrate every achievement (even the tiny ones!)
your personal success toolkit:
• a dedicated study planner (color-coded, elle would approve)
• positive affirmation cards
• vision board (mix academic and personal goals)
• progress tracking system
• reward system for reaching milestones
practical assignments for this week:
yes, i'm giving you all homework, because what's a lesson without doing homework? <3
mindset makeover tasks:
• create your confidence corner (a designated study space that makes you feel powerful)
• write your personal academic manifesto
• identify and challenge three limiting beliefs
• create a morning power routine
organization prep:
• get your study essentials (cute but functional!)
• set up your planning system
• create a semester overview
• design your ideal weekly schedule
community building:
• find your study buddies (your personal warner hunting club, but for academics!)
• join study groups
• set up accountability partnerships
• create a support system
elle's journey wasn't about memorizing legal terms - it was about believing she belonged in those hallowed halls while wearing her signature pink. you deserve to feel that same confidence in your academic journey. <3
advanced tips for the overachievers (because why not be extra?):
record yourself giving pep talks for tough days
create a study aesthetic that energizes you
develop personal success rituals
build a playlist that makes you feel powerful
photograph your progress for motivation
coming up in this series:
time management secrets
memory techniques that actually work
note-taking methods that slay
exam preparation strategies
self-care routines for academic success
group study dynamics
presentation skills
stress management
celebration strategies
and more of course <3
remember: elle woods didn't just survive harvard - she thrived while being unapologetically herself. that's our goal too! you're not just going to study better; you're going to build an academic approach that celebrates who you are.
homework time (but make it fun):
create your academic vision board
write your semester goals
design your ideal study schedule
set up your success tracking system
prepare your study space
xoxo,
mindy
p.s. don't forget to reblog and follow for the complete series! we're building our own little academic sorority here! <3
IDENTIFY YOUR STYLE. You don’t have to look through the list of different aesthetics, nor do you have to name it, but at least have a way in which you could explain it in a sentence.
If you’re someone who is a bit on the fence with their fashion identity, I would start with a ‘base’ aesthetic that you like then start building your own on top of it over time. Think boho, streetwear, y2k, classy etc.
CONSIDER YOUR LIFESTYLE. I don’t think its a great idea to go buy a fancy dress for a hypothetical event which may not ever happen. You have to think about what you’re doing on a daily basis, and which staples will be worn to their full extent.
If you’re a very active person, I would invest into activewear or clothes that resemble it. If you’re someone who’s attending university, I would invest into casual cute basics but also smart staples for networking events.
So in a way, don’t buy clothes for your fantasy self or events. I do understand that wearing clothes that our higher self would wear can close the gap between us and the, however material things don’t mean anything when it comes to that.
SET A GOAL. Your goal can be anything when it comes to fashion. You could also have multiple goals. Here are some ideas for goals which may speak to you!
Investing into high quality pieces
Having less but wearing them more.
Increased confidence
Developing personal style
Having a versatile collection
Comfortable yet stylish.
There is a lot more goals that you may have came up with by yourself, but this is just to get you started. I recommend just having one goal and really honing down into it, is a lot better in this aspect.
II. INSPIRATION + PLANNING
CREATE YOUR DREAM WARDROBE, whether digitally or physically. Pinterest is a great place to start, and you can create collages now. Or, you may choose to create a beauty binder which consists of outfits that you like.
One thing I will add on to this, is to add in people who look like you or just don’t show their faces at all. Attractive and fit people can make most outfits look good, and you may be influenced by that, even if it's not going to be flattering on you (considering colours, shape, texture etc).
LOOK AT THE CONSISTENCY, which colours were you drawn to the most, did you favour any patterns, are there any pieces which showed up repeatedly? Look for any consistency throughout the outfits.
TAKE NOTES !
Colours: Did you lean towards lighter/darker colours, were there any colours that showed up repeatedly, patterns that you gravitated to?
Silhouettes: Were the clothes flowy and light, or fitted and shaped the body?
Minimalism: Were the clothes simple and straight to the point, or were they maximalist and boasting personality?
Alignment: Does the outfits match the lifestyle that you have and the one that you want?
Staples: What articles of clothing showed up repeatedly?
You don’t have to write it down, however I would make a mental note of all these details in your dream wardrobe.
III. DEALING WITH YOUR CURRENT WARDROBE
LIMIT AS MUCH WASTE AS YOU CAN. More of a disclaimer, than a tip, but you don’t have to throw away everything just to replace everything. A lot of clothes that are in good condition can either be upcycled or have another purpose.
SORT CLOTHES INTO THREE PILES. Keep, potential or donate. Keep are clothes that align with all of your goals, potential are clothes that are almost there and may need some tweaking and donating is for clothes that you feel misaligned with.
That being said, don’t keep clothes that you know will collect dust in your closet if you have no intention of repurposing them. You could give them away to your friends, a facebook buy nothing group, if it's really good quality and in good condition then consider reselling it on depop or vinted. It's still wasteful when you’re not using it.
Before deciding anything, actually wear them instead of evaluating them on a hanger. Hangers can make clothes look worse or better depending, but the only way to find out if you like it, is to try it on.
IDENTIFY WHAT'S MISSING. From the clothes that you have left, see if there’s anything in your dream wardrobe that you don’t have in your closet. I’m not a big fan of ‘filling gaps’ in closets, so I would avoid purchasing statement pieces to fill that gap, just focus on staples that, considering your lifestyle, will wear.
Make a list of all of these items, and try to eliminate any pieces of clothing which wouldn’t be staples in your life.
IV. BEING INTENTIONALLY FASHIONABLE
CREATE YOUR OWN COLOUR PALETTE, I dislike the colour theory for people or colour seasons, just because you may not feel confident in the colours that are ‘best suited’ for you. However, I do love the idea of having your own personal palette that you gravitate towards.
I would recommend having 1 dark colour, 1 neutral colour and 2-3 accent or statement colours (depending on your style). My current palette is navy, grey, pastel pink, pastel blue and pastel yellow.
This does not mean you only buy clothes in that colour, it just means that its easier to curate your wardrobe with pieces that you love and do wear. I do wear colours outside of my palette, but I do favour those colours when looking for new clothes.
AVOID ULTRA FAST FASHION. I’m talking about SHEIN, temu, alibaba or aliexpress. I know the cheap prices seem enticing, but their clothes will fall apart after some time and it's just not sustainable in the long term. Save your money and buy from places which you know will last.
Other fashion stores are fast fashion (just not to the extent of the ones listed above), so I would still be very intentional about what I’m buying from them. Reminder, expensive does not equate to being sustainable.
AVOID MICROTRENDS. If you do feel that a trend speaks to you, then go for it, but otherwise I would not give in. You’re buying clothes that are misaligned to you, so you waste money, and then when that trend inevitably dies out, you have a reason to throw it out. It's an endless cycle, don’t give in.
One trend which I will never give into, has to be baggy jeans. Baggy jeans are really unflattering on my curves, no matter the waist. While they’ve definitely had a decline recently, when I was in year 7, it seemed that was all that everyone was wearing but I just couldn’t get into it.
LEARN HOW TO TAILOR CLOTHES. It is not a given that all clothes regardless of your size, will fit right. Just because something doesn’t fit you properly, doesn’t mean you have to throw it away or put it back on the rack.
Personally, I’ve lost a bit of weight over my high school years, so a lot of clothes that used to fit me, become a bit loose on my body. I found it unflattering, so I learnt how to do the basics of hand sewing to make clothes fit me the best.
Learning how to tailor could also help in upcycling clothes that have potential. There’s a lot of basic clothes out there, which just need subtle changes to elevate the whole article. Plus, you’re saving money!
HAVE A SIGNATURE ELEMENT. Something personal to you that expresses yourself without having to say anything. It could be a certain type of jewellery, a bag, a colour, pattern etc. Its just something nice, but not essential for those who are constantly experimenting.
V. SHOPPING MINDFULLY
KEEP IN MIND YOUR PALETTE. For me, being experimental with so many colours ends up with too many fashion failures. I do buy outside of that palette, but only if I know for a fact that I will wear it (not just once) and I do feel like it aligns with me regardless of the colour.
Even with that, I’m still very likely to put back anything which is not my palette. As much as I do like experimenting, I find security knowing that I do like my clothes and I will wear them.
PURCHASE INTENTIONALLY. Even if something fits your palette, it may not be something that you will wear or style. Always ask yourself questions when shopping, and if you’re not all in, I would put it back.
Does it tick all of your boxes according to your dream wardrobe? Do you see yourself wearing it next year? (trends, body changes, lifestyle changes), can you style it with the wardrobe you have now?
CREATE A WISHLIST. Create a list of all the clothes that you want, regardless of any questions or palette. However, these clothes will have to sit on that list for at least a month. If you still find yourself wanting it, then you can permit yourself to purchase it. If not, you’ve just avoided a regretful purchase.
If you would like to shop in person, I would still create a list when I go out then only purchase items that resemble what’s on my list.
VI. MAINTENANCE
REGULARLY CLEAN. If you have a shelving system, at least bi-monthly I would take out all of my clothes and wipe down all surfaces in my closet. If you have a hanging rack instead, I would still wipe it down because of dust accumulation.
ORGANISE. Whatever system works best for you, keeps your clothes easily identifiable at a glance and it's neat, I would use it. Utilise hangers and baskets to help your wardrobe if needed.
Learn how to fold your clothes nicely yet easy to pick out what you want. Its such a small thing, but I do believe it will improve the quality of daily life as you don’t have to scavenge for what you want.
DECLUTTER BIANNUALLY. Whatever time of the year works best for you, then do it. Turn your wardrobe upside down to see if there’s anything that misaligns with you. Overtime as you declutter, you should be donating less stuff if you’re practicing intentional shopping habits.
WASH YOUR CLOTHES AS INSTRUCTED. Washing your clothes properly will extend their lifespan, unfortunately, just throwing them all in the wash isn’t actually beneficial. Read the care labels on each of your clothes and use them.
♥ pairing: mafiaboss!carlos sainz x fem!wife!reader
♥ synopsis: things start to change for you and your marriage-of-convenience husband after you stitch up his wounds
♥ one-shot - as always none of the pictures are mine <3
♥ warnings: swearing and vague descriptions of smut - p in v (wrap it before you tap it) !!!
♥ a/n: i wrote on my vacation lol. i’m a little nervous to post this since it’s uncharted writing territory for me but i hope you enjoy reading it <3
You sat on the black satin sheets of your bed, waiting for your husband to come back from business. You knew you should probably be asleep; that he wouldn’t want you up worrying for him, but here you were wide awake.
It wasn’t like the two of you married for love, anyway. It was much more out of convenience. His job was… interesting, but you weren’t complaining about the luxury that you now lived in due to the arrangement.
Your breath hitched as you heard the door unlock, assuming it was Carlos. He made his way towards the bedroom and immediately locked eyes with you. His hair was slicked to the side and he had a couple of cuts on his face. He was wearing a red shirt, the sleeves rolled to his elbows, black dress pants, some black shoes, and an expensive watch.
“Go to bed,” he demanded, removing the ticking object from his wrist and laying it down in a drawer with the rest of his collection.
“I couldn’t sleep,” you admitted, rustling in the bed sheets.
“I’m alright if that’s what you’re wondering,” he swiped his thumb over the blood on his bottom lip. “Get some rest.”
You slowly stood up and strolled over to him. Your gaze dropped down to the ripped fabric on his side, presumably from a fight.
“Were you stabbed?” you asked in a whisper.
“Lightly.”
“Lightly? What does lightly mean?”
He began unbuttoning his shirt, though it didn’t take long before it was off of him. The moonlight from a small open window illuminated his body, his muscles were strained, covered in sweat, and there was a wound flooded with blood on his abdomen.
“It’s not that deep,” he murmured.
“Literally or figuratively? Because it looks like the knife went in pretty far.” You softly grazed his skin with the light touch of your fingertips.
You walked over to your nightstand and pulled out a small stitch kit.
“Sit down,” you commanded him, nodding towards the edge of the bed.
“I’m fine. I can do this on my own.”
“I said sit. down.”
He took a deep, agitated sigh and did as you told him. You dampened a rag in the bathroom and returned to clean the blood off his wound.
You threaded the needle and pierced it through his skin, beginning the first stitch.
“Are you sure you’re qualified for this?” he asked.
You nodded, “I wouldn’t have married you without knowing how to do this.”
He hummed and your left hand went to his waist to hold him still. He could feel the coldness of the silver wedding ring he gave you only a few months ago.
You finished pulling the last part of the thread and cut the excess off.
“There,” you said, pressing your palm gently against his abs.
He pulled you onto his lap and his hands firmly gripped your thighs. You made a soft sound and ground down onto his belt.
“Tomorrow, amor.” he stopped you and whispered. “Let’s go to bed.”
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You woke up first at 7. You had rolled over to find your husband awake, messaging someone on his phone.
“Go back to sleep cariño,” he mumbled, running one of his hands over your hair.
You grabbed his hand and kissed his palm, slowly making your way up his arm.
“Amor,” he warned.
“What? You said tomorrow… it’s tomorrow.”
The next thing you knew he had you pinned down by your neck. His phone rang on the nightstand and he used his free hand to pick it up, still thrusting into you as he did so.
“Leave us alone,” he said and hung up instantly.
Leave. Us. Alone.
You woke up again at 9, this time alone in your bed. You wandered into the kitchen to see your husband making breakfast.
“Carlitos?” you ask, a faint smile teasing your lips. “Where’s the chef?”
“I sent him home.”
“You’ve never cooked for me before,” you took a seat on the barstool at the counter.
“I’ve never cooked for anyone before,” he admitted.
He set some pancakes on a plate and handed it to you.
You hummed, “No syrup?”
He shrugged “I don’t think we have any. I usually eat mine just the dough.”
It was odd having a conversation like this with Carlos. The two of you weren’t used to making small talk.
“Uhm, how do you feel? Are any of your cuts infected?” you asked.
“No, I feel fine,” he said putting cooking supplies away as you ate. “The stitching you did is good but i’ll probably still get my doctor to look at it.”
“Yeah that’s a good idea,” you replied, picking at your food as his phone rang.
He flipped it open to answer a call from an unknown number. From the muffled spanish voice on the other end you assumed it was from Fernando.
“Sí, I’ll be there soon.” Carlos said and hung up the phone.
“I’ll be back,” he told you, walking out the front door without a goodbye.
Your eyes caught the abundance of bodyguards that entered the room to block the exits and entrances. You sighed and slouched, tapping your nails on the marble counter. Great. Just when things were starting to get good.
No-Cost Ways to Channel your Inner-Billionaire Heiress
• Transform your social media feed by unfollowing anyone or anything that doesn’t inspire you. Replace them with luxury fashion, travel accounts, and motivational content that exudes main character energy.
•Perfect a signature look that feels expensive, like a glowing, clean girl aesthetic or sleek, polished hair. Consistency is key to looking effortlessly put-together.
• Declutter and organize your space to create a minimalist, chic vibe. Rearrange your wardrobe, color-code your books, and elevate your environment using what you already have.
• Elevate your language by speaking with clarity and confidence. Replace slang with sophisticated phrases, expand your vocabulary, and project poise with your words.
• Dedicate time to mastering a high-end skill, such as learning basic French, practicing calligraphy, or perfecting your posture. These refined touches will elevate your allure.
• Walk with purpose, keeping your head high and shoulders back. A confident, poised stride radiates wealth and sophistication without costing a dime.
• Refine your conversation skills by asking thoughtful questions and listening attentively. Being the woman who can command attention at a dinner party is an undeniable luxury.
• Add personalized touches to everything in your life. Monogram your notebooks with a pen or stencil, or name your playlists something luxe, like Champagne Mornings or Velvet Evenings.
• Indulge in sensory experiences that feel lavish. Brew tea and sip it slowly from a fancy cup, listen to classical music, or moisturize as though you’re at a five-star spa.
• Master “quiet luxury” poses for your photos. Subtle, minimalist poses like soft smiles, graceful hand placements, and flattering angles will make every picture feel effortlessly elegant.
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Celebrate yourself. Every accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged, no matter how big or small. Stop putting yourself down by thinking that you don't deserve to celebrate your achievements just because others have accomplished "greater things." Also, there is so much fun in hyping small wins; call your girlfriend, bake a cake, and enjoy yourself!!
Invest time in things that you love. Doing what makes you happy is essential for your mental health. It's so important to pursue one's small and simple pleasures without the intention of turning them into profit!!
Boundaries and relationships. Learn to say no, define and set boundaries, question your current relationships and friendships, and distance yourself from people who make you feel unloved or worthless.
Allow yourself to grow. Let go of the notion that you are undeserving of growth. Acknowledge the past for what it is, learn from it, and grow from it.
Refelct. Getting to know yourself deeply is key to self-love; journaling is a great way to reflect. Ask yourself questions, question your habits, observe how you respond in certain situations, etc...
Trust yourself and your intuition. Listen to yourself, and don't dismiss the small cues that your inner voice gives you!!
Care for yourself. It is not selfish to look after yourself. Start exercising, eat balanced and healthy, stay hydrated, educate yourself, read complex literature, consume media mindfully, prioritise your sleep and routines, care for your skin and hair...
Be patient. Self-love takes time; you must slowly unpack and unlearn past habits, confront uncomfortable thoughts and memories, and gain a deep understanding of yourself. Give yourself time and approach this as a journey to enjoy. <3
"I don’t compete, I complete—myself." That’s the mindset I live by. I’m not here to measure my worth against anyone else because my journey is mine alone. I focus on growth, not comparison, and every step I take is about becoming the best version of me. Validation? I don’t need it from anyone else—I validate myself by showing up, leveling up, and embracing everything that makes me unique. Competing with others is a waste of time when I can use that energy to build the life I deserve. Self-love, confidence, and knowing my worth? That’s my recipe for thriving. I’m not in anyone’s race because I’ve already won by owning who I am. That’s the power of completing, not competing honey !
Tips for my baebaddies 💅🏻 :
1. Set your own standards – Don’t let anyone else define what success or happiness means for you. Create your own rules.
2. Prioritize self-care – You can’t pour from an empty cup, so make yourself a priority every day.
3. Avoid the comparison trap – Remember, what you see online is just a highlight reel. Focus on your reality and your progress.
4. Build your confidence daily – Wear what makes you feel comfortable, speak your mind, and stand tall—confidence grows with action.
5. Surround yourself with good energy – Keep people around you who inspire and uplift you, not those who drain or bring negativity.
6. Celebrate every win – Whether it’s big or small, acknowledge your achievements because you worked for them.
7. Stay soft but strong – Being kind and compassionate doesn’t mean you let people walk over you. Set boundaries and stick to them.
